Using the comedy central. Please welcome. We'll brown hair out your first of all. I love you pronouncement, it's so why? Because you don't it's like because in South Africa we have got a novel and then in Africa, which you have cut, I'm going to change, but like and then people like Paramo, but then I dare say it the way that you actually talk about this in the book, yes, which, by the way, is truly truly fascinating. As far as someone's life story goes. Thank you. We could. We will even start with that. You knew you, you get this name, you you you given this name by your parents and for them the most of your life. You grew up in Texas, you, you hated the name that you had. Why completely I mean you

I'm drawing up and predominant white neighbourhood with immigrant parents and was going to schools where my name was not special. It was perceived different people made front of it and as a child you just want to fit in. You don't want to be seen as drives you just want to, and so on the cover to my home, I love my name. My father said it like you right now.

Love there, but then the men I got the school and teacher who say combo or common move or whatever right of veto. It kills their self esteem, and so I had to learn and grow to love all parts of myself and my naming the first challenge. That really is for me the theme of this book. You know the title says it all my story of embracing purpose, healing and hope, but rarely has a story about embracing yourself as a person. That's what that's what I connected to in the book, because you tell this tale of how you grew up in a world where you felt like yours on outside. You then go to a predominantly black university and and all of a sudden you feel, like you, have a connection and a feeling, but as a young, gay men, you also have a journey that you have gone completely. I mean

My life was riddled with challenge at the challenge, a challenge because of my identities, from having immigrant parents to being a black man to being a gay man to having so many different issues, and it was made costly trying to figure out how to navigate the love that I have for myself right anything. I do the heroes on queer eye of helping them to dig deep and find the love in themselves, and that's why you, with his book it's about being open and transparent about, though I'm here this space? I had to work through that to get to this point where I am now and if I can do it any one out of there can do any of you. Friends can do trust them,

It really is a book that is transparent. You know I didn't know what to expect when I picked it up, but what you speak in depth about growing up in a home with domestic abuse, and while you yourself once abused personally useful experience, this abuse in the household and what really struck me, as is a part in the book. When you talk about something that I could really relate, you, where you talk about how you didn't realize that you were becoming like the abuse of father, that you were so,

afraid of and and and despised. So much you explain what that actually mean slow. You know my father was abusive to my mother and though he never hit me. I grew up in a household where new abusers prevalent, but as I was growing up, I was always taught men don't hit women right, but the conversation. How do you have that when the little boy is not going to engage with women, he's gonna gate with other men right and so, as I got older, Ain T out, have anger issues or feel betrayed or hurt? I told my entire life. It's ok to have another boy: that's what men do: men fight and so now I'm in these relationships where I then would get upset and I was hitting my partners and was becoming my father in essence and

I realize is through research, that domestic violence and the elderly to community is higher than it is in strict communities. Yet it's never talked about, because police aren't train social workers, aren't trained enough nurses, Darren, train enough, and so people an elderly t couples are experienced domestic violence and are not getting any support or help. You actually talk about one of your relationships where you were abusive to one of your partners and the police got cold in here and they basically just dismissed it completely. I sat arrogantly at the door thinking looking at my partner, who is hurting and saying: oh yeah call the police they're not gonna. Do anything, and just like I thought, the police came to the door and they saw two men and they said.

You ought to work it out. You guys, you two friends, work it out. They didn't you had the language or the ability to say you are in a cup relationship, yes, and you know obviously outgrown pass it. I've asked for forgiveness from all my partners. I've worked on my anger issues and, as you know, these are things I'm expressing their because I want people at home to see if I can really looked transparently at myself and say this is who I was, but I want to be better. I want to go through this than any one else can do, and I think there s a key message that people need to hear, Understand it really is a beautiful message that that that you're delivering in the book and in your life- and you know, I think it's only fitting- that you became a father and honestly by one of the most recent our circumstances this you, you discovered that you had a son from a girlfriend from really a previous life that you had yeah,

This is a ten year old child that comes into your life. You have the first and last year I dated we lost energy together and we were done. I was like never go out again. And then she the way it was like you know this is before they had been in the internet as we know it today. So if you didn't have a house phone or and I'm not that old or you know and address it was like they were gone, and so Ten years later, I was coming home from this event in this drugged stupor, and there was a stack of papers on my doorstep and now I was on MTV's real world before, and I thought they were doing some punk version for her although not all like all their programme, a gay guy, Megan Piggy as a kid, so I thought ass and could it was miles an hour? I went downstairs change cause. I was excited to meet. Ashton in asking: wasn't in there just a bill

or a child, I dont even know about and had to go on this journey to Perceval figure out. Why was because I was still a trial trying to raise myself right realize now to raise this child, but it also figuring out how to navigate with his mother so that we could communicate and co parent for how to have the best life possible. Equally, it worked out. Machinery and great space is amazing woman. I got for custody of my son. I then adopted his younger brother, so I became a full I have two and now my boys are twelve and eighteen, but I gotta meet tenants, seven, and so you know it has been quite a giant father. It really has been quite a journey, we're a breakthrough success. I mean I remember when it started on Netflix and instantly animals just like what is this. All of you will like it's back. Everyone loves it across the board. What do you think the success of queer I owes its?

No, what do you think it was a success too is? Is there something about how you all act authentically on the show is about the fact that you all different? What do you think it is their connection, people? I think it's all those things I think, first of all, its very diverse cast. The first case was now diverse and first, while the first, it was amazing right. I love those guys they pay. Pathos, but we're very diverse and our age is in our races and our cultural backgrounds and our gender expressions of the world. Also, you know I applaud myself as well, because I sort of lead the charge as bringing more emotion like you know. What might the other four guys do are exceptional? I could never design a house. I could never cut someone's heroin. Want me to give you an me: I'm not gonna, let you know try by God queer. I rack not are you load, but one of the things that I say you can change the exterior, but unless you figure out why you have cut your hair twenty years, why you haven't fix your home until ride like Ryan,

the problem is just going to reoccur and I think people are really latching onto the emotional attachment. You know like one of our things is you know people are crying a lot and I am proud to say that part of the interaction I have with our heroes is bringing out those emotional moments in allowing people to see that they can grow through there. While, honestly, if people don't love, you already thing, I love you even more from reading this book excited for quick it's always on Netflix and I'm excited first, listen to your new podcast was coming up. Thinking going on here, daily shall determine our ears at it. Wants the daily show recognised that eleven, ten central on Tommy, central and calmly, simple watch episodes videos at the daily show that follow us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and subscribe to the daily show on Youtube or exclusive caused in him,

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