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Could you doktor John Bologna? I gotta call. I got a question on social media from Cathy and Cathy Brooks asked me there. She said: how do I get my spouse on board? Now we get this question about business like this quest, a lot through business boutique women that are starting side, businesses, home based businesses, small beer This is how do I get my spouse on board with my dream, get this call all the time in the aims you show? How do I get? a spouse on board of the plan- must have some boarded the baby steps, whatever we do a call in the last hour. How do I get less mouse on board with career they're, not supportive my career and that example? I want you're from you, but I know this for general question, but you have certain either questions or conversation starters or like here's where to start from here at a star and not make a man out of the gate. Here's how to start on like a really good footing for

hard conversation? When you want something- and they don't want that thing, no it's a big question, but but had I in my head in council. But the presenting issue, some Becomes the therapy. Somebody comes to see a councillor in some sort of crisis and says I've got anxiety, Ike get my heart rate under control. I can't get myself a bed I'll fix that and normally you back up for you begin to unravel out, pull those threats and you realize, oh you talk yourself in us. The way in who told you that this was your vote writers, bigger things here when often see in this situation? Is somebody looks at a thing my don't get on board. With my what I want to do my job or my this show, especially I want to be get free. My husband says that's stupid, I'm not doing that.

They want to solve that issue, and that's not the issue right, so any I am got a cordon core issue in my house. I always wanted go to what's the layer neath the layer, Guy Phil issue below the issue, so it's, for instance, in my house my wife is clear. You sent me for a second clearly she's, the one who is smarter and organised, and on time when I look over human hurricane, but let's pretend that she's the one so coming in saying hey. Why won't you on the day, Ramsay Place ridiculous, our get of debt. I would sit down in and not on the backing of a fight we're everybody's amp nobody's listening nowadays trend IRAN or try to fight, and I would say I'm terrified. We are one flat tire way from not being able to feed one fight away. It worked from get laid off and we get nothing

and I dont know how to say these words, but I'm scared- and this feels like a way that we can. Provide some margin or life that I could breathe. That I want to show here be present and I haven't they yet would be present, because I can't breathe because we owe seventy five thousand dollars to loans and we just keep buying buying a bank. When I come to the table, Volmer but first you gotta, remember that word The literally means for an animal, like I think, of a porcupine to roll over and expose its bell. You can be hurt and heard. Husbands get there, urgency towards I'm scared and their wives. You, like I'm gonna, went right, so it happens in vice versa, but That is the way it's. That is the issue of issues I'm terrified the issue is, I don't want my kid to grow up in the institution. I grew up in whatever that becomes the thing, and then we can talk about the vehicle but which we get out of this thing, which, for instance, the different for its it. It works every time, yeah right, so that becomes

I can imagine your world and I'm gonna have never talked about this, but if somebody just my wife came to me said: I'm doing this side business and I want to do this and you got to figure out of its own. An attack verses. I want I've got this passion only explore this value. There's a part of me that has never been explored. Professionally and create creatively. How could we make this work together? My gosh, I wanna, be all linen right right and I think that's probably what happens in the the relationships within the conversations more more often than not, where one person is scared to approach Maybe you have a more dominant personality or or whatever, and so they actually don't come in with guns poison of I want to start this business. Usually it's like scared to bring it up at all, and I think that you know putting some language that I love. You talked about fears, because if I can look back on any of the matter discussions about things that we didn't agree on initial

or are we had to work through it and it was not an easy decision or whatever thing was where I thought it would be this haste, but it should be. This know that those like every you know, marriage does when we start to say: what are you afraid of? What is this represent? Two, you did it actually not about the decision at all. What do we do this or that spend this money, or that will you whatever it is? It's like this represents this to me. This makes me scared. This is going to happen and if you can begin to address, will here's how we could do this and that wouldn't happen? Here's how we could do this, and this is not what that is. Then its soul like you said at the deeper issue, and it's amazing how many of our complex have been resolved by asking those questions around with this was what this the present smear. This is what my fears are run this another thing I would say just to give some language to the people? Listen, right now that may feel like they dont have as much of a voice in the marriage or that they are the ones that they feel like. I'm scared to bring this up. Sometimes your spouse. It isn't supportive, not because I don't want to be, but because you have not made it clear that this

important to you, and so just those words. This is important to me whether this business, this money plan, whatever it's not too said, that's gonna be. I was not just an ace unite us just a trump cards also there can be on board, but it should if they are good spouse They are either love. You know you they should linen if if, if Matt comes means This is important me, I'm all ears. I am I'm a different level of engaged in paying attention and trying to fool and how we can solution this thing. That is important to the person. I love my own, that line at the end of an hour and a half discussion after an hour after hour, but I used to go to bed and somebody's crying somebody's yelling that yelled. This is important to me is not helpful. Now that is a I wanna go out to break. Stone a goodly unheard, I talk about some actual important me right and here's the hard truth of these conversations you

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Twenty four hours in you're weak. Right. We're going to go to some Linda Duluth Minnesota hastily into how are you fine, how are you, God? How can John and I helped to die- just wondering how do you know it is a good time to spell of business. Well, tell me what's going on and tell me what you're businesses and why you want to sell boy commerce less and I've heard two former said he commerce, business Is there something for a higher price right now because of the bull and and also with the new regulation and stuff. I'm afraid that may be the business will start going down value, spool kind of wondering, is

That's a good reason to consider selling or not a crime. For how long have you had this business for three years I'll come watcher net profit, the Earl, an angel. About two hundred and fifty thousand ok, do you like this job. That depends on the day created as business with the intention of selling it. Yes, that that is the intention to help help fund retirement some day when you sell it. Gotcha dear offers on the table. I know We have listed, or anything just were my husband liar considering Rather, we should or not yeah. How old are you and thirty nine years it appears? interesting about selling your business cylinder, and this is something that you can think about where yourself certainly can't tell you, but there's two major.

Actors in selling. Your best, the timing is, is not one of them. In my opinion, I mean it is a factor, but it's not a major factor. The major factor would be the financial right like what are you going to make, of the sale, the mother but I would consider a major factor when your business owner this is your baby. You built this thing up, is the emotional aspect of it. How will feel when it's gone, how or feel when someone else's running, you may feel incredible relief like yes, oh my gosh, I can wait you maybe like kind of sad. I wasn't quite ready yet I jumped gone because I thought the timing was good whatever there's there's an aspect of looking at timing? That is wise, but I'd never want people but make a major decision like that and that's a major decision. With the scarcity mindset like you, can't sell it at three years. Are you can't sought in five years high pathetic If you do it right, the value should only go up You can sell it for more later, so

not opposed to you selling it now. I just don't think you have to sell it now, I want you to make decision to sell it now out of fear, because you think that you're not going to get as much or more later, because I don't think that's true- does not make sense. Yes, it does and I think a lot of what sparked it was the markets good. Now it might not be later down I dont you enjoy it in and is giving us a very good income the young. This I'm a great and come here's the thing someone if you, if you're, not if there is not time sensitive reason to sell it now in you personal life or your business life, I would not at a scarcity mindset about the market. I urge you to make a major decision like that, because you can sell it later, you're only going to grow it e commerce is not going anywhere hits humbly growing as well, and so I think it's

those things that it's not never. It's just not right. Now, If you came to me- and you said, hey, here's all the reasons for I'm ready to retire, I'm tired of the business I don't enjoy it. I went out and the markets good cool, that's a totally different question, but if you're having fun its bringing in a good income and the only reason you're thinking about it is because of the market, I would say, hold I'd say: stay in a key Awesome income keep growing it and then, when you are ready personally as a family, Asia retire you're ready to let go of it fully. Then you thank you, selling it and you're still going to make a great great income on this. All of that business, I hope that that helps but you're in a great position and wait to go for growing. Very often the task to do a net profit of tuna fishing. To any. That's incredible, that's incredible! Well, then, our right, we ve got Emily and Grand Rapids, hey Emily. How are you how are you, God? How can John and I hope to die sure sure virgins

and then another two or nervously good, ok, you mean you down a new tool, for this is even weirder. An embryo he's only waiting is weird. You never go out of it, and I are in daily such or insect you dont have his. We'd better in the inner career path for more than ten years, and we both heated and wanted something out an opportunity has come for us to move across the country to take a completely different job, and I'm wondering if this is the opportunity an adventure, but we should jump on or if its foolish impulsive, then we should be more about all about picking up a meeting. What's the opportunity to my brother, about the much Virginia and keywords or a natural gas company on the pipeline, and he can get my brother job done there. Oh, my

there's been monuments to move to Virginia third, the last year in our job came often like when you movie. Are you gonna fight when you really when you gonna do so now? Thank you. Jack shit should should we do. It bears witness to a powerful, too I've only been quick, our jobs than I've never left more than an hour in my hometown, em all nervous. Often this sounds like a good push to do something else. If we hate it, we can always moved back You hate it during the jobs are in right. Now you hey. What are you doing here I am a clinical microbiology. Oh, I grow fungus, tuberculosis and her queries and anything else, but comes out of inward off of your that's crazy from earlier alert merits. By israeli call, so I hear here's the right now, my wife and I just used. We lived in taxes, everyday life and

there. We got this up to you to come work at an extraordinary world class University here Nashville and we the exact same thing that you just what's it. If we come out here and it's a Boston, it's a disaster, we can move back and we Both have something else you would both of skills, and we were fortunate that we didn't hate where we were. You got that added pressure. You ve got The right spirit behind this, which is, if we go to West Virginia and it's a disaster. You can grow Herpes. I don't know tat means you can write. Surely you can there's other places? You can grow that you ve got out of transferable skills, you ve got a million things you can do in increased. He's right You hate where you are now. And so you ve got a great job. You ve got family connections when you get there. If it's not gonna be a toxic, nonsensical environment ears. I think I am A fourth answered, Do the wild thing, the sensible, crazy thing that makes sense and

love your heart behind it. This isn't a forever thing. Give yourself to two three or four years go for, and then, if it's a disaster move here thing about you, it won't be a disaster. It'll be great. And the reports about that are hard and the reports about that. You never experience. He loved and you'll. Be lonely and you'll find new friends and all that will be challenging exciting just going to be. Is that what you want to do that? put so much existential pressure on these things that this doesn't need. To be their right well and it seems like all the variables you should consider line up to move you dont have gets you're not worried about schools change your life. You hate your job, that's what we're not leaving something we love living close or to family, and you ve got a job waiting. Even if that job was a stepping stone job like able Do it we may not love at either, but it's gonna get us closer to family.

Be a new adventure than we find something new. We grow fungus. The new place, like that's, that's, cool. That's exciting! Yeah, your baby steps for insects like yeah, I think, do I don't think, there's a lot more like what you are you're leaving a zombie hate. Do it do it do it? This is the rams you so

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I will be our personal trainer and nutrition coach, which is finally what I want to do all well, congratulations that is super, exciting, Inkyo bobbio. We guide p or when it comes to money on the baby steps, and so you are you familiar with a baby steps? Yes, actually we are deaf free accept. The house or look you in vast any kind of moved down that route and also there's things, but now we have the opportunity to stay for A bigger car and move on our house, then Sir, the practical thing one hears it so great. So now, when you do your monthly budget you're going to incorporate this income into it, and so what that means your defiling to have some more money to play on interest enjoy, as you should for your work and the work from Saint home in the work that you now have out in this new job, also you're just going to be get a little bit more aggressive with your goal.

At baby steps for five and six. So when you're investing, if you're not already investing fifteen percent, you invest. Fifteen percent total of your of you our folding come you're, take on and then you're all so going to want to put that money into a college fund. If you haven't already started that, have you started that yet we have yeah, ok, cool You continue to contribute to that and then the rest is just put it towards your house, and so you can pay off your home early. You can put extra mortgage payments, you can you know if you got big lump sum. You wanna put. Aren't you can't? If not you can pay more each month On your mortgage, and so really what this is China is it's just get it giving you a bigger shovel the goals, so your gun the same you're on baby steps for five and six, your deafening it have but more freedom in Europe, but, as you incorporate that in, I think you'll find that you're making more traction on those baby steps even faster and having fun and processes that makes sense. Yeah also go have,

Adriana. Can I throw some unsolicited advice? Your way? Yes, so One of the things I see couples who one of them's returning to the workforce. Everybody's excited because they do the math what they are. Often gets lost, is the rhythm of household, the rhythm of their relationship so I want you to build in, on your calendar at least a weekly check. In no case It's no calendar no budgets, just ace talking and with each other for an hour one of those Vigilante are we doing Harvey how's work, and I want you to be able to say who I'm excited. We like the workforce is way, retiring than I thought or I'm through weeks in and you are not helping like you suck, you said you were going to and he's allowed to say he had been. The business got is about to get busy. We may need to make some other, but I want you out

you create a rhythm where you are checking in with each other, because this is going to affect more than your money and I seek up at all times. Look at the bottom line: they high five, each other will get new cars, the new rule for Gonna pay our house after two years and then, Their marriage is on life support eighteen months later, because they did not anticipate the extra shit in the relationships of accidents absolutely and we ve already kind of had the conversation. You know, then, to add a little as far as them. You're gonna have to be doing a little bit. More is totally on board, so that can be a great primer, but you're gonna have to this specific area things are being done. Then you have to be vulnerable, say it and he's gonna have to say the words I'm sorry and and all so beast was like that to pick up some slack. I got it man that's a recipe for flying by each other in the night right so set ups very direct. Here's rate You do here some help. I need your support. I need Edward

work on this together. Let let's talk about this John MC, as this is a really interesting point- and you have always refer to this, because it was so helpful for me. You talk about you're communicating with your spouse or anyone, but specifically marriage visualize. Something looks like I use this all the time like hey. What are you gonna do on Saturday? Let's have fun yeah we agree and then in an already a fund is not the same, so you say visualize Likud pictures. I think This could be even really helpful for this because GINO your example. When you say you're, gonna have to pick up a little more It would be a good exercise for you to define what that means are their specific things you expect her husband do in need him to do you want him to do certain things you want to do. And then get on the same when you'll have these conversations and chickens have him? Speak That is why, like what is this look like because I think that he could he may hear that, and he may do couple things and he's a quite. I did that's why I did a little bit more yeah like one time remember that was so great that one time I did that one thing and he felt like he's hit the mark. I mean it, I'm not trying to be funny, he filled with water and Europe

Zat full because you're doing all the same stuff you did before, because your were used to a rhythm and roles that you had another you're going back to work. There has to be there Three clear like here's, what I would like see happen. These are the things I want to do these things. I would like for you to do here's the things we did so like I travel Gina an end so wanted things at man. I've talked about for some time at like I'm, so grateful that you able to hold out for in all things wrong on one of the things that is like. Really cut a frustrating to me. If I come home and there's a house the total rack. Yes, because I think I've harming our talk at my house, coming home to it, I know it there have to be spotless like Redonda grocery stopped but like if you could just not have it be Iraq that will be off and then he'll say to me like hate. These are the things so I really hate doing can make are things like courtyard. They can and you just both speakers to expectations. With unbelievable specificity, begin to now be very clear and then I think what you ll find you know is the conflicts that result

The disagreements are much much less. Because you had those. Conversely, but congratulations. Congratulations on your new job! Congratulations! On being just a champion! The last five years home with your kids. That is the I can't imagine how or that season was that, as they think, job of the diverse and she's in it? Just all happens the next day, and so you have done that successfully and now you're in this new season and we're just we're super excited free. So have those conversations do the budget and I think of it. Here's how here's two examples from my house, one if in past feels at eight. I need you to help with this, and I'll say, got him, sir. One day goes by I'm thinking but the dishes, Thursday, listen, there's still full of cops. There's nobody cups, this house, the right there and for her she

cannot close our eyes at nightfall if they're still cups out. This is our first silver dishes in the same, I'm so urgent. If I asked you to do something, I'm I don't understand why hasn't happened, it actually seconds you like she'll how gimme a minute, I'm sorry, I'm it right now If I can't see them over the sink, we plenty of space, I open the drawer, there's still spoons there. There is no need for dishes, and if there is spoons in writing. So it's it's about that specificity, so clear and then here's the other thing. So this comes a lot with intimacy like when your first dating your first married, you just saturated with each other. If you ve got your all over each other and then I emu, two five ten years in, and it feels less romantic to have to schedule, intimacy counter

early, yet very different thou and my wife is coming home from being at a town. She will taxed and say for our warning. Then she will tax to our warning I'll be home in one hour, then that is the displaced. Clean no use turn this into a better prepared for hours, but it has helped me it would be great if you to shut up- and I was clean- it's not gonna happen. She helps me help me help. You may help either repetition

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I have to be highly intentional way way upstream, so you say eventually inherit. These questions always hard, because I want to know. Look at more information. More I want to know. Is your personal inheriting this from able to sit down and dictate what's going to happen now? Are they incapacitated and suddenly are having to come to terms with the fact that were about to inherit the stuff understood? You can do here, number one! You can go with your sister me. My brother did this You went out one night and we say Oh ah night, together just saying was leaving Texas, I looked at him, he looked at the same time. My parents and said the elder brother here. When a picture on the same page and he was so thoughtful and had so much thought that I didn't plan for an army with just such a gift to hear what amazing mammal brother was here, brother he's in its like he's old now but we sat down and had a heart to heart, about it and So our,

common PAM. Just so, you can sleep at night to go out and say we're going heritage. We know that we do money differently, Howard, approaches outta! This gonna look like a suit. That doesn't work than you can do to get a third party were that's an attorney. You're gonna need to sit down to sigh Hake. We look at this will so we know who's gonna be the the the person whose the executor not doing- much that upstream, you can't. You are right, what somebody dies and there are checks and zeros and real estate is a free for all its emotional. It's a disaster. So the more so you can handle upstream the better. The solution to so many of the things we have been talking about today and questions that we ve gotten on the show is to talk about it intentionally talk about it. So many people, just avoid talking about things and if you would talk about integrating new, took my the right way with the right heart and ask the right questions and and and find it

common ground, but man avoiding avoiding. Combination, avoiding high emotions, avoiding conflict, avoiding communication. Is not the way to do it, and if you have this conversation- and it is a train wreck, That's information that data right now. You know this is not gonna be. This is not going to be amicable. This is not be a simple solution or we're not Millicent each year now we're. Gonna go! Invest in a lawyer now gonna go, invest and filled the black right. You I gotta go do some other things, but until it is just as cloud of anxiety and anxious, distant frustration and anger and then just a mess. Yeah yeah, that's a good point. You know how to proceed without, even because Magna opposite aright go to Melanie in San Francisco, hey Melanie, how are you he's doing great. How are you guys got how come John and, I hope to die well. I've been debating

for a long time? I just got on you Dave Ramsay, probably two months ago from one of my age and thin, my brokerage. What I work for an eye I'm twenty eight years old? I have two kids under two and I ve been married for five years- have been together. Four a m. I just time ahead, were, I found no motivation. I don't feel like. I'm mournful are like I'm just a mom, and I know that though loaded I started, regarding a lot and I've been struggling. Lately will stop the r and D. A new reality with nothing under my doubt? It hard you get out there to get you I was doing. I get your first fire in lately. I've been doing this for I got my license in October and I have my son a week later, so I've been really doing less, for maybe, seven months, like all the time errand you don't know is this: is it right for me

I dont know. I go back few business. What I worked so hard for I went to school. I e this office of rabies, but I just its self doubt package My husband is, I want you to death and often the rest of my life to sending him, but he just has now gone All she has no aspiration, he's happy in return and mom and he's daddy goes to work. He comes home and you are you everything and I hate to say that, but I don't know how do I go about getting my husband page about getting that pre coup I guess I'm just looking for insight, Melanie. First of all, I do is funny or even on the brake, John and I were talking. I will talk about just in Math s journey. We had two kids a year and a half apart. And I remember that year on our

somebody here aren't like eight about thing: I've ever gone. Yes, yes, it is, it is it about broke us and and I hear your voice has been. I are right now and I love you and the other day I broke the night. Not be done things because something I'm not happy, and I I I just touch of, but I'm going home so butterfly talk to anybody now, I'm just Who'd you stay home. No with my kids in two thousand I don't know your life or calling I dont know now you're, not at all, I'm so glad you called I want. I want you to take this. This is especially, but I just want to encourage you one thing, because I was literally just in your shoes. A few years and I know everybody says it millennium. True this, is a season. This is where you are, this is who you are. Your season does not define you You are in a season of little kids that are absolutely consuming.

You're exhausted in that where you are, that is who you are, and I promise you, I promise you. It will get easier. John, can can take this growing dieting, the self doubt an angle, but obviously with a little kids like I hear it in your voice. I was you and I swear- I sit here today. It does get easier. You are still that fund girl and you will go out and be fun again. You are just in a season that is exhausting? promise you. It will be easier. I can Oh, I, the clinical expertise on planet earth in none of that matters like hearing from a mom whose just been there I've been- and I also view I dont like talking about. If I don't want anybody to feel pity for me, because I don't want any pity, we long starts done forty one week during delivery four years ago and the state that moment: half buried! We we just trying to coexist

what it feels like me. I wasn't a death use, my husband yes, but we just causes is at this point. I just need to. I want to pay my marriage and I wanna get that free and buy a house. Do all these things, but it is very difficult so, you are taking on the world right now and it's. Like your boat is sinking, and your also thinking about a mortgage and you thinking about with your kids- are gonna go to college and right now you ve gotta get ashore K. You are exhausted. And that's focused number one. So I but you to get some time with your husband get away and find some way to come sit with. You use your little kids, you can get forty eight hours and I want you just to be with each other. This

crises right this conversation who we're gonna, become what we're gonna beat up. Your body is gonna, become yours again, your heart, you become your skin, your mind because he was again and then you will have a season. We have solid run through upon your marriage. That's not today today is about survival. You got this and will be primary mounting stand alone. Can I give you take? It might have been one of you at night or any time later distant, encourage you gimme that kick start. Have a conversation wanted think pretty Sir James Child Kelly, Daniel, hey, it's Kelly, says you pretty certain funds arranged for the Rams issue. You would like to do your generous, relying on the show. Mr you visit, the Ramsay showed dot com and register with love for you to cut the ash really tell day your story

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