From the head waters of language alone, should gradually them at all environmental studios. That's that Gabriel, Tunisia, where that is dog tags, has also taken the place of the Bmw status, symbol of choice, but go home today on the day room she show Ramsay personality. Doktor John Bologna will be answered the questions about your life and your money after lonely, doktor dilemma specializes in helping you with your relational, I q,

the relation with the person in the mirror, your spouse, you're, crazy parents, or whatever else is going on or whoever Elsa, whoever else's Aguano whatever's happening. So we're talking, your life and your money. It's that what we do around here always have done in our go do together. Today, follows a triple eight, eight to five five, two to five: that's triple eight, eight to five five, two to five patched arduous, often Colorado, Pat, what's up how we go in German. Thank you so much for have me. I will show our you better than I deserve. How can we help so? I have a question. I hope I can explain it well I'm currently nineteen years old and I'm a long time with her. So I ve been able to incorporate a lot of good financial practices in my life. So I want to thank you for that, but the problem I am having is with the foundation of everything that specifically, I seem a struggle understanding and appreciating the value of money and overall, my goal is to become a much more frugal person solves wondering if you have any advice on how I can return.

Go well versed in the curse measure for nineteen years old nurse, like washing your struggle and much now, I'm not Yet what is struggling mean would help me with that I don't understand the question struggling with us, She ate money or the value of money. I mean you, you got your! You got your crap together and your asking that question but you ahead of fifty nine year old, much less nineteen year old, or I like that. I just done like, for example, on a big purchases without thinking. Much of it, and one thing I've been doing more is trying to use cash. No, I feel the pain when I'm paying something, but overall it my dad that criticizes me for this a lot, but I just don't seem to really understand just the value of money cells wondering how I can become much more frugal person and not

and as much on, not a fool! You sit items puzzled on air, you spending my money and my parents money. Sometimes so it's really mind. What's a big dumb purchase or like, for example, I might go, buy at eight hundred dollar motorcycle helmet overnight. Don't really need that. I might go by three hundred dollars where's. I love. I don't need that just big purchases at I dont need I'm making. I got it everyday. Two dollars, though, over time we know that adds up, and I just don't want to be like that anymore. You won't cover things come to mind. Why not because our in our struggle with the exact same thing, that's why God makes me teach us every day My name is David. I like stuff, I Dave the answer and mellow group here so in one thing is: is that if I have a goal.

There are aiming at a really care about that goal. And it has a dollar mal attached to it then, say well. Those gloves were keeping me from that goal that how much keeping me from their goal so we're short circuit. My brain and tell my brain now I like the goal better than I like the gloves, so you need to have the target the Jurymen for that matter. You a lot. The second thing is: you need a written game plan called a budget and then avenging, in the budget that also activate your brain is there's no way. I am. We're not back when I was saying three hour ago, when I rode all this down before I lost my mind, I said: myself self. I don't want to do this, and so I'm gonna stick to my sane selves suggestion that I wrote down in the budget right. When will you before you crazy, Lamb and archive its or you're, you put it in the budget. It is consistent with the goal and then you buy it with

regret or there's nothing inherently wrong with departures. You made the biggest problem, is you felt how to control when you get it right in in in impact I put breaks in my life, I'm not where Dave's, so I hook. Things like I may go through a season. Were I take my debit card off of Amazon or I may I've had a season in the past, or I gave my debit card to my wife and I just get cash in my wallet and when I cash was gone, that cash was gone in that help me learn to grow breaks of my own, and now I dont struggle with as much anymore right. Dear cousin, I dislike up Sabbath a dry Yonah troika arrest break and then, when you come back your recharged to be able to have that the self control right, which is what we're looking for here, and I guess the last thing that I have done that help me with it. Probably more than the budget or having a gull was as a personal faith, is a christian

I had a real, deep experience with understanding. There's not my money, a managing gods, money, and so then I can ask myself Would the owner of the money be ok with the manager doing this with it, and that changes my bank which bind that still includes motorcycle helmets. There's nothing wrong with that, because God he's crazy about us and if we being evil know how to give our kids could give so much more our father and have an abundant living in all of that stuff, and it's not prosperity, gospel. But it is this idea that Christians have to live in a cave, collect LAMP Molly come out on triple coop on Thursday or you ve lost your Innovation is absolute bs. Ok, that's just ridiculous and so in our God wants you to have some things, but also what you say, money what should be outrageously, generous. Those are all scripture, his instruction book to you and so the manager. Me is

Managing for the owner. Owing to the manual structure which, I will take our mon, how shall enjoy some things I'm gonna save and also the wise stores of towards food, nor will be outraged. With generous. God, loves an hour rage discover that that's a big he loves. A hilarious giver, and on this also scripture. So if you're doing all of those things and you ve got some rhythm but you're doing them through the lens of my money and it on a different tenor. Then, if you say ok, it's not mine. If I was just managing money for John Bologna right and you Ok, there's other rules, They enjoy some of it. You need to save some of it and you need to give some of it, and then I can put that in struck. And I have them the paradigm of I got to report back to the owner right. Accountable to the owner for my behave, with his stuff there. You

fiduciary responsibility, it's a trust relationship. So that changes the way I think about it, and so then the an air goes out of the house. Is it ok with God? the heating and air or my house yeah, because he should take her your household kids live in their mob Granby eleven there much shit. She lives on their has really concerned about our canoe and so like I said, like the foundation of that is intentionally and Pat mention something that is making these big purchases It was like they're, not international, in red bulls, and then this and in this, and I wonder if you dare to speak it into him, saying exactly like a child, a teenager child so much It's a maturity, surety issue in a chair, and you know- and it doesn't have to do with being nineteen- I may drumming fifty nine year old that are more to control them here. That's exactly what I said: The questions he's asking the questions in that's good burst. First thing not absorbent Brom realise there is one beating your lady intentional

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So what are we doing? A millionaire theme our soon? If you are a net worth millionaire, which is the only kind of millionaire there? Is your network, your sets minus your liabilities. What you minus, what you owe equals a million greater than you are, by definition a millionaire? I don't care how you feel Oh, it's a math. If you would tell us your story of how you got that you hit the lottery, you inherited a law or you. Ve worked like a dog for thirty years. Whatever your story is. We wanna hear it email Kelly at Dave on air. One word notion, no dangerous Dave on air at Dave Rooms, dot, com and put millionaire theme hour in the subject. Lantos a little bit about your story. She'll get you shut up to be one of our colleagues. We talked a real millionaires on a millionaire theme, our which was the genesis for the whole research project that resulted in the largest resought research project or millionaires,

were done in North America resulted in a number one by showing book with Chris Shoguns called every day. Millionaires shut up next is gonna, be Christopher, intensely, hey Christopher. How are you had to go and appreciates technological criminal? What's up. What is your opinion on? What is a better retirement? I'm I'm I'm twenty three remembers that six and my house, we often next you gonna, have two years. Why, and I was wondering what will be the better class. Would it be too to continue to invest its eight percent, whoever my house is paid for pay care for hours, and eventually attended only Randal houses and rely on cash flow arm, a bridge or by Mr Ford, somewhat Gozo or his accelerated or expanded when you get to babies have seven so we're at seven, which is your house has paid off than its build wealth and be are registered generous baby steps. Have it so

mangy would max out whatever retirement plenty you want to do or investing you wanted to do. I would continue to put at least fifteen percent into your mutual funds into your Roth Irae or your company retirement land, but above that if you didn't want to do any more there and you want to start saving to pay cash for real estate that certainly ok. Ok, depends on what you want. Were. I will. I would love to do real estate. My parents did roasted Autonomous grown up and I loved the dollar club to get bored with real estate, but if it wiser to distant future Maxwell our target going on now for what he had said, like their actual, do a lot. Written mutual funds, pay a smaller rate of return and good investment. Real estate does They have no hash compared, maybe like. I had wanted to turn this week that the Arab, through that mutual funds

Ok, so I mean you know how to deal with the crazy right. So you just look at the mailbox or look at their email coming in and tell you which balances, but you make lens so well purchased. Well managed investment property will make you a greater rate of return, but it has more actual, but you Europe and Roasted family, like I did you like real estate, my poor Only o is Way more real estate than it is mutual funds. I've got a lot in both by my standards from growing up in any are totally but way. Alot unrealistic. Let me when you consider the building were sitting in his seventy million dollars so but a lot rushed so there's an old unavoidable wives, tail and old line David I've heard. That is, if you have to pick me up

investing in the markets, retirement programmes or real estate. The line is investing dirt cause they stop making that a long time ago, that a truthful statement or is it a value statement? Now it just up. There's a lot of dark: go to North Dakota. Ok, there's a lot of darkness! Ok show that yeah they stop making it, but there's a point, plentiful supply and besides at dawn self doesn't give you a right of return there. You there's very few pieces of farm land that unless you are a farmer in farming it that actually gave you the kind of right of return of an office building will an apartment. I rennell real estate whale. So what you're? Looking for income producing the alleged not just sitting on it now s day. That's how they vote.

I've got a nice farm that I bought, but just to hold the earth Gathercole thing that I had no expectation that it was going to give me a huge rate of return. I got a great by on the acreage and it has gone up considerably in value, but I didn't really have a lot of hope when I bought it that that was gonna. But when I buy an office building or we buy or even a rent or a single family, real property, we expect we're we're running the numbers expecting that thing to give us a cash on cash rate of return and then, of course, of shelter and, of course, increase value. We're gonna get three rates of return on it and we expect that so, but the concept of they keep making houses and they keep there's a lot. So it's not like short supply real estate right, so it's gonna shoot up. But if but real estate is it's an imperfect,

market, meaning that in mutual funds, brazilians people have the same pieces of information to make the exact same vision and a limited number of people comparatively have information gathered, pace realistic, so you can slip. A deal on a piece of real estate way more often than again on a mutual there? You you're pretty much just gonna pay for the mutual funds. Goggle out you don't do that Eurostat, your Barroso below market pay, cash fort, so he's doing good stuff thereof. It good stuff Bethany is with us. Bethany is in Tennessee. I am from key whom a little nervous choking with never lost a patient, help. While we are on baby step three and we are renting cheaply from my husband's mom and we are kind of a rocky relationship with them because of boundary issues We are currently going through

in Europe about two and a half years, when my husband Ghost college. So I was wondering how it deal with my anger and resentment now so that later In the later years, I dont and of exploding and hurting my marriage You angry and resentful towards. Little bit of everyone that I'm stuck in this place MA am. That's what I'm not like the aim it well the physical places, fine, but the mental place it's kind of risk because I'm far away from my family, it's their old family home. So when they come over to work on it, they feel very, very opinionated. About it, they own it. Yes, they do. Why are they not be opinionated about it?.

I don't know if it is not with our opinion about your housekeeping, your cooking skills, you relation, your husband or the fact pay the walls and the house that you don't own. Mouth cooking, clings! Girls! Ok! So why do what he had to leave here. I don't know you get a good deal on something. I often ask people as what's the total cost her well. Ok, then my husband wants to go into being a police officer, and so he was work is currently working as a security guard at the temporary job because he had to drop out of the academy were personal reason. Fellow bet there was pregnant at the time We currently dont really make enough to be saving money towards our emergency phone, I'm paying a normal rent, so we had agreed that we would

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property living in their rental house, neural family home and they come over and fill out a book about clean like that she's getting angry about it and her husband taken a job security guards, disease no longer in the police academy and show their stuck there for two of yours in her mind than those that refer summary. What you told us, yeah. Ok, how old are you I'm twenty two on my husband, twenty? How long you been married? where's your family, my only a thirty minute wanted country. I'd show there not that far No, not really. If that's, ok, I'm about removed from mental showed urgent lawyer talk now. Do you have little ones in the house? I had a sixteen year old daughter, so here's couple thoughts I had during the brake, and let me know if this resonate with your first and foremost your,

twenty two year relatively new to marriage and he got a little one. Nothing in your life is gonna, feel stable, nothin's gonna feel, like you, think it's supposed to, or the picture you had your head of when you get married and you ve got a new baby at all. Feels messier and conquer and won't here than it is. The stage is a pain in the, but it just gets off and it's beautiful and it's wonderful and its. Possibly in the bud and you are living in somebody this house who, how you living in somebody else's house by default. They get a vote into how their house looks and, and then they're gonna, take advantage of that of the vote and they're gonna. Don't let him do you how you are raising their grand kid and what, through your decor, looks like an higher cooking all things they shouldn't into, but because you live in their house, they're gonna feel entitled to do that. And then you mentioned

earlier about your husband, Heaven a part time job there's a lot. I come from the home of of we offer there's a lot of ways into the economy. A lotta across the country are starving for good applicants. And so it may be that working part time as a security guard is not, though the best thing for you guys right now, because there's gonna be a cost more than the dollar mouth go ahead. Yeah he's he's after working for the pound, My point is, he may need, go, make more money and he may need to do something that in his head is gonna, be different, but still gonna get him the police Academy and the thing that The most concerning thing is you already feeling this baggage of anger resentment, and so you ve probably heard this. I'm gonna all repeat this a hundred times over, but all That man is is like poisoning yourself and hoping somebody else is gonna die

You are carrying around bricks all day that do nothing but way you down, and so what I M going to suggest to you is to number one get with somebody with a friend someone, who's, older and wiser, and who's been married and got kids and has been through this road. Before ahead of you down with him and talk to him in Can you be some wisdom on how to put some of these breaks down and, if its heavier than that, then get with a professional, find somebody sit down and talk, values and talk long term and short term with your husband and I know sometimes guys get a play their head and the waste is gonna, be the Swiss gonna be, but if you're hurting to the point that you sound like you're hurting each have a values conversation with your husband, because I know that sheet the rent is cheap. I've had great opportunities. Weren't is cheap. That cost me part of my soul on the back in this just now worth it. So here's the deal. This isn't all got. Talkin Doctor Jones, professional, ok, move

you need a move in the region in a move. Is your husband needs to make a choice at the stage of his marriage between his mommy and his wife? You need a move and right now he's mommy is way too much in this picture, and so you need a move and that you're hot that's a good thing. Her husband to do in his character in his manhood to make a choice. Stolen. My mommy shall always be my mommy and chocolate chip. These may always be better than yours, but she's, not my wife and she's, not between us and that's exactly what's. Goin on here is is, allowing this because it doesn't feel weird to him that she's bossy, cautious, mommy and you need to move. That's all got Talkin a mess up up, no less That's a similar direct line in my psycho babble. So well

I like to make Lupi loops in people feel good together, Quick Olga science. I mean there's sometimes clubs where than a hug. So yet the deal is. If there is one issue I started, we can't live here because I mean I value. My relationship with my wife show much right that we can't live here at a man who had statement right and it's not going to get better it's worse. You cannot teach this woman boundaries you're going to have to give some distance. That's right, because this chick is used to Boston or by rail package. I know her. Because a low but Ahern sodomy aren't I got grown kitchen and thank goodness, we fairly healthy boundaries in the Rams family. So it's

unusual for one of my kids spouses to say we're not come the like ashes wicked. We need some space we all have to be on top each other. We can at the like us, that's this coming weekend by that and that's cool and I gotta get coup that since I would just parliament. RO comfortable for my kids and me too Albion there together, but it's the outlaws its harder for them to be all piled on top each other relations and go beyond our kids. Behaving in that was doing that and some didn't clean the sinking in all. I cried that goes on you give some other side. I write, and that happens in any we're shut of relationships, and it takes a lot of work to keep those healthy boundaries inside of every player and mama when any work in a store. That's right, no work that I have to work out. That's right! That's why I know her ok, so so we have the chance to change America right now. Dave

we spoke at length on the young couple and pretend I'm them that they ve got to stop up. Look each other. I make some hard decisions, makes him hard bound recalls right now, then they're gonna have to get on. The phone and they're. Gonna have to say we're not come that like us this weekend, they're not gonna phones, they were moving so as the recipient of their call. What's the first thing that goes to your heart, Did you tell the millions of parents who are? still living vicariously through their twenty five or thirty five year old kids across the country, when they say I can come to like us, we can or worse or known Burnham. Room about your own. More honestly were not coming because we don't want to What are you tell that that group of adults in your age bracket? Well, I mean- is far as that: individual reaction, ok, the first thing happens inside of using her travailing and you need to think that what is there I would like to have my catches wicked and shows a little baby, but then you have to go out. What am I

I'm not a freaking for Europe I have to. Actually I don't. I don't get to react to every little feeling that I have I actually have a longer term goal with, equality relationship which invites letting them have their dignity to make their own decisions, and you trained him for years to do. Operational and are now shocked that they're doing there. You know so, but that's exactly what happens. Think about when you're fringes says when you France's we're, not going to be ok, and you know what happens you go well, why not right? That's what I'm saying since a little time Peter rejection and if you, if you get all for your oldish about it every time you do that, then you hurt the dignity of the long term relationship because you're not respecting that other to be an entity. That's right! There's somebody that that is an extension of, My self esteem or someone is extension of my well being right, Daniel out

Lemme two years ashes. Parents are in Kansas City, their wonderful people, she's a more for their incredible incredible battalion young couples from ear to ear, caught to love them enough to give them a little room, a train. Their newly, which do I gotta have a little room and they are. I would just keep em right. We ve got to figure out how to together have joint courage to say when I come to things giving as you wouldn't do Christmas like this and that we're going. Let's get you next year this year and then have to go, but my little quivering lip in opiate grown up, because that I don't wanna be that parent. There was always a jerk about thanksgiving, you know, and so get right a baby just for averages. I get there can re debate and I got no. No, no, that's not it

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I would be there as well. The Ramsay network up three annual struggle to find one of us. You can do click on your energy network up and it's all right there and you can control it. You re we ve completely updated. Thing it's a new adoration and the reviews have been re. Va shall check it out. Ryan's in Massachusetts. High Ryan how're, you, afternoon. German. Thank you, ve, taken, like all appreciate it sure. What's on my question is: why is too much of my research I don't know I am too focused on feeding and should I be focused on other areas. I am more than six months of expenses. I do actually

Why is the reason why I have their because I'm a consultant? I do. I t recruiting for cars a consultant, so my job is not as steady as a full time job. It's one day here. Next there could be like girl Ellie, I my mind, was what does a chance you're gonna make on six months without an income, zero, the great passion and finally, very soon enough. So six months is fine, They mean a thing above that I would put towards mother roles in I was wondering in a sense were my other goals right now we do with me and my wife. We put every cent of our paychecks into our or one case and then We also have. Eighty, we ve got our I raise and other various too.

That we are putting our money towards as why you debt free other than your own. Yes, we're gonna call that boat. We call by pushed up to babies, to have three of the six months, maybe step forest. Fifteen percent of your household in going into retirement of yet others I raise the ten percent you don't over. The other does not equal fifteen percent. The does you hit by business, wouldn't do more than that. Babyship five, as you say, forget college. If that's applicable, if you don't have kids, you move on the six and pay off the house, and so I would limit mine. I would take anything above six months, throw it at the house for the kids college or some boats which are when you want to. I would limit my investing to fifteen percent of my house. Then come until I got my house paid off now, throw everything else at the house and a rocket that way. Lorry is in Kentucky Lorry. Welcome that I've ram show. How can doktor john- and I held my guys. How are you going to be talking here? You too, what I'm thinking

So I'm looking Shiva religiously for several months now. My question today is about justifying the cost of going to spare a p. While wanting to put all extra money at towards debt in baby step to suggest the little background, he's gonna therapy after my divorce and twenty fifteen, but I haven't been in about three years and I think it be beneficial to our going again. But you know my insurance has a thirty dollar co paper visit. If I see a psychologist still like an extra you two hundred twenty bucks a month, probably that Spending on that, instead of paying off my dad. What's your house by an I make about seventy two thousand ear, and what do you see? What do you want? the work on in therapy ballooning, accounting for sure, haven't lingering issued from the divorce still that I see play out in my life still today and in an relationships and that in any idea the main soothing. What would our trust in you the fear of being left.

In our relationship, like that, because I didn't think it might be worth it- was my exit dead. So those are the two, main things up mad, so in somebody can again articulate here's my challenges. That's it! That's one of the cornerstones of accounting does force that helps us make the yard and helps us move all the soil and the message of the ways we can actually get a get up a snapshot of picture of? What's going on our heart head? we will just articulated for me. So what would a cow? Where do and by the way, on a huge proponent of gonna therapy, What would it counselor do that? A close friend that you cultivate release chip with that your vulnerable with or a mentor from your local church your community, what what would they do for you that they wouldn't you ve, identified the core issues, somebody somebody left, you and dry totally hosed you and now no to trust them, but more portly, not to trust yourself. You articulated that that sets off all of your entire,

fear alarms, which is real disconnection alarms, which is what we ve? We ve decided to turn to a diagnosis and make a medical issue calling society. And then you just get anxious for, while that makes you depressive is laid all that out for me, What is it, what is accounts are going give you that a closed vulnerable friend want. I think, I'm probably looking for like coping mechanisms, So in a win win these issues pop up in my daily life, like things that I can do to you re, going to retrain my brain, and things like that. So I dont think the way that I think the negativity that I think the things more Bennett help me from a medical professional then just mean a bad chatting with a friend about it. I'm getting in a kind of basic advice from a friend like that. I think that really like the core of what I'm looking for, what is your academic turning a degree of have a bachelor fighting communication should completely I'm thinking unity,

therapy yeah, you got the so wrapping up. I made it out. You sound, like somebody does, is for living right. Thank you to be fair. What a good friend of my life you have given a lot of good advice is not getting me what I need out of it. You know That's why I'm in here you really are unable to articulate amazing level right. I'm annotate you hard things and you disagree with me and you can see the lonely, I think you're an idiot and I'll say hey. You got what you paid for, sir, the first thing is this you're gonna have to decide to can the mere put both hands on your bathroom counter and you have to look in the mirror. And you're going to say lorry are moving on

I'm going to not make anxiety. I'm not gonna, make trust issues. My identity, I'm not gonna, make that who I am. I am going to become x and then you're gonna have to get somebody you'll have to walk alongside you and you can pay for that. There's a million people out there they'll take your money. As Dave pointed out, your ticket, you are smart, you're gonna have to do so, this is an identity, because this isn't a task think this isn't a series of skills things. You know those skills you know how to breathe through You get anxious, you know how to call somebody has close to you and the alarms again if you know those things and so you want to pay some way to go. Do that! That's gonna, be part to this question. You make semi two thousand bucks a year if you need to best in your mental health. Its foolish actually not to absolute here charm, ask about this and show more out under plan learning here.

In. I worry about not lorries much but just in general, and sometimes people like they just want to hang out with a counselor and they just go year after year after year after year and ocean getting better and so, if I were Laurie I would say: ok, I'm on a budget ten sessions, and I will be done right, but the goal being that I've got the rest of the tools are about to be done right in your I'm on a budget. Whatever number such, but it's not it's like this- it's not you don't want do this year after year after year, You know it didn't ray. Is so galore you're gonna go to a counselor and you're gonna, say you're, going to go to a psychologist. You're gonna find emerge, family therapist, rigorously. Here's the deal. I know exactly what it is. Here's the challenges you got two sessions for what may That's exactly right what I want you myself, summaries of tasks and skills that you're gonna teach me when I wouldn't do this together and then about and if they say- Oh you know, then you go the next counselor and there's a there.

Gonna. Be somebody who have to go back to the car and every month for the rest of my life, you know, thank you. You don't you're supposed to freaking. He'll me, that's right healing is both crack in my back and teaching me the stretches and the strength, building tools that off to see you again to the greater Doubts or ever went to set down her first to me as my goal with you to work myself out of a job, I sat such that I'm I wanna see that's right, I'm after and in the other, because the thing is there's all he's going to be paying associated with its past event. The diminishing, and it should be that you have the tools to work it Your community should be for the actual mercury repugnant look at church as well and maybe get a lady, this ten years older you twenty years older than you that such as article in broad as you are to talk this through with as well. But I think I will go ouch put eliminating aside. This has really done after this

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