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yeah, who do you think you are? Why do you even bother to try if this is how your constant going through life, believing you're, not important to yourself? It has a harmful effect on your well being, and how you show up how you show but work, how you show your relationships, how you Chopin your friendships, how you shop everywhere, you play it. Small you'd always played save and cautiously live your life, which is what you have hey welcome to on purpose, the place where we listen, learn and grow and detect themes from multiple anger Look at things from different perspectives. Have our minds boon to really get to grow together, I have lobbying with everything we got to be honest with you and say that this community is so special to me, and I am so grateful that we get to tackle some of them.

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so so much so today why something that I think is really really powerful and it's about this feeling of being inferior to others and how to really understand and how to see ourselves as someone that matters and can make a difference. Lit every single week I am pained when I see negative self talk and messages across social media. I read comments like I could never do that I read comments like oh yeah, but that only happens to special people I read, messages like I wish that happened to me or that no going to happen for people like me,

and the reason why it pains me so margin even more. I guess is that I can empathize and relate to die, because I felt exactly the same way and I may have told you somewhere else before, but I remember. When I really wanted to make continent videos and I've kind of got your point when I didn't think anything was going to work. I've been procrastinating thinking for a long time- and I members, someone saying to me: why don't you start a Youtube channel and remember my response- I don't think I said out loud but in my head, my response was what that works for like one in a million people. Well that works if you'll, just in Bieber without works. If you are you not me that doesn't happen to me. I'm twenty eight is! Oh, that's not gonna happen to me.

and I didn't realize me repeating that things were not going to happen to me- What the reason why things were not happening for me and its spreadable- how we create a reality for ourselves based on repeated patterns of words and thoughts. No, I'm sure plenty of you have gone into countless situations where you ve felt inferior or as if you didn't belong. Maybe you remember going into a job in two you were you looked around and fell, others were probably more qualified. How many times have we felt that you're waiting- and I remember thing in so many interview, room, You know the old put you in the same room and its awkward Evans. I, what college did you go to where you study Evans said

each other's suits includes up and seeing who looks right? I remember when I went for my interview at a big Corpora company. and we were waiting in the waiting room each waiting for our turn. I remember someone whom I like how they had amassed is and how they are studying this really difficult thing and it made me feel so long gone. The boiling in varying the moment in someone else's tell him about all the experience they had and the amazing companies their work for and it was. It was really annoying like how many of you how many of you have been in that situation. Really nervous, or maybe you remember going into dining at a strong. Where you fell, you didn't belong right. It was. she had been you used to it was what then, maybe your parents could have afforded in the past. You is surrounded by people who and more than you, and that made you

inferior right. these terms. Have you been in that situation or maybe you're walking into a shopping outlet, though? You believed out of your sphere rice and that you were going to store. I remember this a few years ago when I visited I lay before I lived here mean my wife, working on radio drive. We went as tourists, we don't just go walkin video drive and we will humor, day or drive, and I remember the Ralph Lauren Store- and I to go inside. So I went inside the rough Lauren store we walked inside. I went into the what section and admiring this watch there and the person credit them was very respectful, I definitely didn't you I wasn't dressed in a way that look like I could I there and I couldn't afford anything in the store that I was looking out for sure member really admiring a watch and remember asking them how much it was, and they told me that this watch was fifty in town.

in dollars- I just did I like- I- was just so shocked that that was actually fifty thousand dollars I walked out of their quicker than I've worked out anywhere before but again, like you know, maybe spell inferior in that way, and maybe you know maybe four inferior when you're visiting a friend's neighbourhood and just feeling our place, how many of you have any anytime. Explain some sort of inferiority complex in Mary, the life, and you know what sometimes it's not even a situation, you Yet it just simply looking in the mirror that you feel you in that Well when it comes to your height when it comes to your weight when it comes to you, a shallow bodily features when it comes to your skin, whether that's the tone of the color of their skin? Quite whatever it is rather, like you know you, you feel in fear of your hair, and the truth is the list goes on. And on no. What is inferior really mean the Wayne fears

wine is a lower in rank status or quality. It's a universal human feeling, which can also be compared to a feeling of incompleteness, smallness weakness, ignorance and you, overall not being able to fully rely on yourself to complete your task or your needs. A small, consistent cry that speech to you all day: you're, not good enough. You don't belong here. Who do you think You are why even bother or try you look different from everyone else. You are not enough how many of you ve heard this you not enough! You don't belong here, you're, not good enough. Who do you think you are? Why do you even bother to try- I know I'm going on at length about this, because I really want you to follow me on this episode. I seriously

think there's nothing more important than this. If this is how your constant going to live believing you're not an equally as important as those around you in an even more not as a comparison but just important yourself as a harmful effect on well being and how you show up how you shop at work, how you shot your relationships, how you shall burn your friendships, how shop everywhere, you'll always played small you'll, always played save and cautiously live your life, which is in what you here for, beautiful court that I remember and it's gonna find is. I can share with you. Let me bring it up. Unjust literally said here right now, who's it by, let's have a look obligatory, William shed. This quote

and it's a beautiful quote. I sort of John Augustus shed, but the courts is something like this. A ship is safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships our for right, a ship to save and harbour, but that's not what ships are? Four ships are meant to cross. ocean ships are meant to deal with two more these waves there meant to help you cross over to another place. That's what our lives are about. Thereabout crossing over another side, those about improving about growing, about moving about travelling, and so why play small? Why place leave cautiously live your life when that's normal you here for now, the ideal person grows up in a society, would they feel they belong? They matter, and this encourages a healthy outlook and, unfortunately, is not the case for all of us right,

I have friends, you a bad, have funny accents. Weird is too short to tool responses immediately to ask them who taught you this, and why do you believe this to be true? How does this feeling of inferiority develop. That's my biggest question. What I find fascinating, because we all in some areas of our lives and sometimes retorted overcompensate, when you think back to the example, I gave you a. The people in the interview room, I accede, never sought. So I urge you to getting that job and don't remember seeing some of the people there ever get the job there and you wonder how many people are over? Compensating for the feeling of inferiority and how that gets in the way of them performing at their best right, and I we all feel inferiority in different ways, but how does this of inferiority develop. Famous psychologist

Socio Sigmund Freud, Alfred Adler believed that only human experiences feelings of inferiority as children and spend the rest of their lives, trying to compensate for those feelings right all humans, exuberance feelings of inferiority as children and spend the rest of their lives tonic. Humble save. For those same feelings. He also noted that it can was to be used as a healthy motivation. Those feelings inferiority activate a person to strive up word so that normal feelings of inferiority impelled, a human being to solve his or her job, problems successfully now. This is what I like about it right, because sometimes we think that the inferiority is our weakness, but actually their inferiority ends up being a strand when we see it from

perspective- and so often we just don't recognizes- we don't give it the opportunity to do that, but it is so true. So from this we can conclude that there are benefits to feeling inferior. They cause us to jump to action in pursuit of a greater feeling of security, but too much of it can lead to shame and guilt of one's existence, and that's what I want to focus on today. I want you to leave this episode of feeling that you're here a purpose tat you matter they. You belong and no longer wish to be, anyone different from who you truly truly are.

So here are the reasons why you fill in fear to others, and when we unpack these, we stop breaking them right. When you unpack something, when you unpack a box, you break down the box right, you rip opened the box, you open it up. You take what's out of a: u unpack Eu Flat back about she drove in the trash when you unpack something you break it down, when we unpack the reasons for why we feel inferior, we break them down, whereas if you just leave them as they are just stay as they are. Those boxes keep building right. Those boxes is, keep developing this box. You just keep piling on top of each other again and again and again and again, and they get to that point. where they just really end up their right. That's what happens to each and every single one of us So here are the reasons why you feel inferior to others. Number one is the man

Three reasons I want to give you give you today now alighting great acquired from Malcolm X, who said that the media is the most powerful entity on the earth. They had the power to make the innocent guilty and to make the guilt the innocent, and we see this all around us with the media. The media shifts our attention from subject to subject seemed a theme and whatever the media, programmes where we talk about right, Americans for good things too, It is true that a song or a movie widowed mother, Sohmer Movie, is immediately population and news. We took mother issue in the news. Huh terms of using footage of protests where people are looting, riding and hurting others right. I'm sure you're nodding at an in agreement on this, because we ve heard if it bleeds it leads. You do not. You don't often see peaceful, Otis where people are holding hands, singing and embracing IRAN with love. No, I was sharing that on my social media play

recently and people I. Why do we not seeing this right? We're not seeing this on the news, so I share the above because its crucial to realise the media is a tool hopefully take with the media, says about you about your position. In about who you are too high, because its being created by certain people, usually the people that create it, a creating it for themselves Movie show certain people have wealth or education or status, and beauty and other groups are represented not in that way, and I urge you to view entertainment, social media magazines and everything you consume as a tool, not reality, it is you showing you what the specific people that created that really think, I'm what they're trying to highlight, how you see yourself, rapid,

and in the media takes a tall and how you shop in the world to be a personal job like you have for a long time, a lot of people in America saw any people, as approving the Simpsons highlighted. How is the correct? or Howard and to make the munchies worthy the South Asia. the asian appearance, and I remember late when First move to America a moment to get a haircut, and this is only four years ago around me, someone saying to me like, oh, I thought you were from India, because I've never really seen an indian person. This was in New York by the way where there are plenty of indian people and and the feeling that you know, like probably that I I worked in a store or something so just completely, not understanding Renault realising it is about how media introduces ass to belief, systems about a whole group of people, types of people, communities and everything else around

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so nice out there so less guy expedient made to travel. times apply, see details now. Second, one is past experiences. Ownership quote by Doktor Jody spend the he said. If you want to create a new life, a new personal reality. You have to change your personality, which means you bet Stop thinking about what you ve been thinking about and changing. You know I love this so much because it gets the route. of why you are the way you all today. In other words, you not just going to wake up feeling a sense of security in which your without you know doing anything about past, which could

the current you in order to become some one else, you need to start from the beginning. I want you to please do an exercise with me. Remember this isn't a homo garage! You are this. Is your life we're talking about here, so I want you to take out a sheet of paper and simply write. I felt small when I felt attacked when when people do this to me, I feel unheard, The person who makes me feel bad is the situation that I felt motion humiliated in was please take time to write bees and fill them out with your past memories get this out of your head and spirit and onto paper where its tangible, Not only will they give you insight into why you approach certain situations, people and places with inferiority, but the awareness you need to

moving forward. You can break this cycle now, once you ve done with the above. Let's flip these questions and do the opposite. I fell powerful when I felt a plea created when I felt extremely valuable when I felt proud, when, after you do this, you will find that you have had plenty of moments. We exceeded your own expectations. election abilities and limitations. You ve sat on yourself the reality of our means embodies is that we often hold to the negative, because it's a stronger emotion which cause you to focus on that specific memory and burned into your site, He now when the negative paused expenses come up, you have a tool kit of positive evidence. You can quickly focus on as doktor dispenses says. Where you place, your attention is where you place your energy, let's focused on a healing our past and not nurturing our wounds.

after this. You slowly start to demonstrate new habits in how you show up which will damage the opportunity. Four feelings of inferiority, because now you ve done the work on this. and why they arise in the first place. Your identity is linked to all the past. Events in your life, but owning analyzing and were framing you learn the lessons from them and start to create the new you. You will no longer be wrapped up in your reality of believing the lies of someone else's judgment, because that's all it is someone's perception of you, not your true The third reason why we feel inferior to others is from our current reality. This is one of my favorite topics, the present, if, for any reason, throughout your day, your wishing you could look act or talk differently than who you currently are. Remember that your play,

into the victim role today, if you're going off to the opportunities that excite you. If Europe pursuing partners who you're attracted to In your hand, when you want to voice something important, when closed, you really want say no, when you feel it necessary, you are twenty nine you inferiority complex with everything that you do you're either practising something beneficial or detrimental to yourself. image please decide wisely, I understand them can these choices to shore up confidently is one that induces fear and causes us to shrink back into our old ways. So he's a fix, that's helped a lot of people. It consists of two parts number one. Use death as a reminder to operate with urgency, something holiday, speaks of frequently and stoic teachings it's about understood

that this day, maybe your lost. So why not go for it? The second one is critical, so many of us don't do things because of the fear of what others might think or say They react learn to care more about what you think of you, rather than what a strange things of you remember that, where social care judges whenever someone says stop carrying what others think of you. That biologically will never work, but you can care more about what you think of you, rather than what some. else thinks, if you think about a different that is mine blow you to think about that for a moment. Right. Think about that for a moment. If somebody I don't care what other people think. That's actually biologically, I'm not to say impossible, because in nothing's impossible, but its biologically very difficult to do. But recognising that our view of you is more important than someone else's view of. You is something very, very, very possible I really believe you matter. I believe that you can make a difference. I believe that no one should

feeling like they don't matter now, look in the mirror and judge yourself based off of someone else. Only the person you are yesterday This is something that you truly need to absorb. If you keep allowing itself to dwell on your imperfections and wishing you add with someone else, did you be a dash for the rest of your life? I think this is often so overlooked when it comes to success. I believe that you first have to like yourself. In order to achieve great success in a healthy manner. What a shame It is to live this one life in your own skin, but constantly wish it were a different shape, different height, different shape, different mind. From my understanding, you only have this one temple, the House's your consciousness and energy, take care of it. It's so nice out there out there in them, Supermarkets vercelli stretching the sun high in and

tonight between that country skis and kids do in the first snowplow or next pull off to a long day of forgetting what day it is with us here to get out of there. come home, more asked and asked that went away and when you Evelyn travellers Inexpedient member? He can travel even more so nice out there, so less guy expedient made to travel time supplying see some fifty times what's better than our backs. Limited time features enjoying and would you might obviously is Bloomin Freud trip for Jessica that it's like crispy espresso buttered, a spice up Henry's for life, so bold, juicy and assessment cinnamon pay? Can old fashioned that'll make picky paix, taste buds tingle I'd order another round at out back, we ve got something for everyone, so come in relax and enjoy, because good food is best with good might come grab it. Today at our backs thy gas, and this leads me to the next pillar

I'm highlighting Jordan Peterson's book here. Does it chapter from his book twelve rules for life? The chapter that best describes this teaching is rule to treat yourself like someone. You are responsible for helping. He goes into detail about why people tend to take care of others, and their pets more than themselves people a better of feeling and probably administering prescription medication to their pets than to themselves when now. This is a health issue in your family friend group. You become a doctor, but would you if you just let it go. When I read this, I was shocked, but also made sense for my past experiences. When myself and people I have read, we'll leave a business function because they have to run home and feed, they can take their dog for a walk and so on people do not know.

Like these things because they see as their responsibility. They see their path as deserving of these basic non negotiable. So why is it possible that sometimes we sleep only a few hours? We don t enough? We don't take on medication on time We don't drink that green juice or we consume junk media and junk food or cheat on our spouses. We don't work out here is a quote from the same chapter. The problem is, we know so much more about ourselves than any one else we know the full range of our secret transgressions are insufficient seas and inadequacies. No one is more familiar than you with oil, raise your minds embody afford no One has more reason to hold you in contempt to see you as pathetic and by withholding something that might do you good. You can punish yourself for all your failings, and we often do that with

I was so I can recommend you go and get the book, but you'll consistently taking score every day of all the things you do. When you tell yourself I'm going to start reading everyday for ten minutes, but then after that, you don't. How do you think that affects the way you look at yourself whenever you don't keep an agreement with yourself, your self respect diminishes declines next time around subconsciously your mind already knows: you're not going to follow through with whatever you tell yourself, and actually this becomes a destructive habit. That's hard to break when you Don't take care of yourself because you believe you do not matter. You end up becoming vengeful, take get on people around you and overall, not a positive energy to be around. You end up treating all this poorly too, because you're in a well run always reflect in reality. When you treat people wrongly, how does that make you feel? I'm sure it lowers your sense of self worth, which only amplifies the cycle

you got undefeated as a victim. It's easy to invite situations of inferiority to knock on your door. Now. This is a topic we can go on for ages. The key here is to keep your agreements to yourself be hard on yourself when it comes to keeping agreements, but find and nurturing when you believe, you're not measuring up the more you keep your word and followed through your confidence in judgment of yourself will increase drastically. This is the goal You notice that this didn't involve any one, but yourself, you know what it feels like given to your vices, whether its overeating drugs porn on alcohol go to the other side, where you treat yourself like someone, your wrist possible for helping in tough situations where you need to make a decision. Ask yourself

Would I tell my mother to doing this situation substitute, whoever you love with your mother, but this will open your hot compassion and empathy and that's what you need to give us. Thank you. So much for listening to this episode of on purpose, make sure you take a screen shot of your favorite part. Put your current on a aunt Jane said he. I love seeing I'm always sharing what your gaining from the podcast means the world to me. Have you as part of this community, thanks for listening and I'll be back next week, it's so nice out, they're out there in them. Sycamore kids were stretching the sun high in and internet between that country skis and kids do in the first snowplow or next pull off to a long day of forgetting what day it is with us to get out of there,

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