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welcome to supersede conversations the podcast I've leave that one of the most valuable gives you can give yourself is time taking time to be more fully present. Your journey to become more inspired and connected to the deep. World around us start right now. The New York Times, calls Gabrielle Bernstein a role model for a new generation of spiritual seekers she wants. Told me she believes her purpose- is to help others tune in to their own inner voice and honour blog Gabby tackles everything from spiritual tips on how to quit sugar to handling negative comments to meditations for profit. Being a freak out moment. Gabrielle session is called the universe. Has Europe back Gabrielle

Albert Einstein New Year's day, two thousand and fifteen. I had a plan. My plan was to get pregnant. I had it down, it was perfect. I've gotta get pregnant right away in February. I was going to take

entire nine months to write my book. The universe has your back and I was gonna, give birth in the fall and then have the baby give birth submit the book then take three months off with my baby and gonna booked or perfect when right, perfect plan, the only problem was, I wasn't getting pregnant month after month, I wouldn't get pregnant and I'd start counting nine months ahead. I'd start looking at what I had heard of me. I'd start thinking. Ok, I've got this speaking engagement. I've got this contract, I've got to deal with and they started cancelling those contracts and cancelling those speaking engagements eyes are driving by publishers crazy, because those trying to change the publication data. The book I was driving my husband, crazy, because there's absolutely nothing sexy about trying

make a baby happen on your timeline and I'm driving myself crazy, because I'm trying to control something that I absolutely cannot control, but all the while I'm telling my friends and family members that I am consciously conceiving consciously controlling every detail and six months go by and I'm still not pregnant. At this point, I start to worry: I'm getting older, my body. Is it working, there's something wrong with me. I start to feel this. Sense of shame, but I'm not going to talk about it. I'm not telling anybody how I'm feeling every time I go on Instagram facebook, I see more bomb, send more babies and I feel separate and alone, and I begin to compare mice of two everyone around me. To make matters worse. I had prematurely announced my pregnancy to my friends and family members are even one spot

you get on my stages publicly and tell my students that I was planning to conceive, really bad. I got so bad that I was in a book signing in this young woman gods, my hands she walks up to me and she asked me to sign her book and she says you know Gabby. I've been channeling years Spirit baby and she has a message for you. This really push me over the edge six more months go by its New Year's eve, I'm at a dinner with all of my college friends, and they all have at least one child, maybe a second on the way. Another couple had adopted a choice: and I'm sitting around this dinner table and I'm looking at everybody prepare their kids for dinner and get them ready for bed

I'm feeling like I'm behind I'm missing out on this stage of life. I'm not I'm not feeling good enough. I wake up the next day new year's day a full year later, and I got me a period I spent a year trying to make this thing happen. I spinning you're trying to make my body do something that is not going to do. I'm feeling that shame and feeling that inadequacy that separation and not good enough. I can't make this happen. Thankfully I had a friend staying with me, my friend, Jordan, very great spiritual, running buddy. And Jordan looked him in here. He noticed my depression in my sadness in and he looked at me honey. What is wrong with you

We know Jordan, I couldn't make it happen, my body is it working? I can't make it happen and my time mine, I tried to change everything around. It wasn't working honey, stop. This is not how we do things ass. The universe for help was worth divine spiritual encounter, is when I was ready to listen and I said thank you. Thank you, Jordan. I'm ready to hear that I'm ready to receive that and I excused myself and I walked upstairs to my meditation hello and I sat down and myself then, and I got really grounded and I asked the universe for help. I went to my meditation, I began to feel my extremities tingle and my arms go nominate, started to connect to the presence of a higher power of my own understanding that reliable presence that is so familiar the presence of love and magnitude that is within me and I started to connect

and get grounded and aligned and in that alignment I heard this voice come forward this voice of my intuition. This voice of my inner wisdom in that voice said to me Your plans are in the way of God's plans, is time to surrender a witch I feel this energy begin to move me and lift me And bring me to my desk and they sit dynamite. Scan involuntarily. I place my hands on the keyboard of my computer and my fingers just start typing, and they're moving in their moving and all of a sudden at the top of the page. The words that, not mine, came onto the page. These are the steps for spiritual surrender. Ok, more. Is this episode after short break today,.

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tat comes last. Super saw then simply fill out a questionnaire to help them assess your needs and get matched with a councillor. You'll love, that's better help dot com slashed super saw. So I just let my fingertips continued to go for thirty minutes. My fingers just glided across that computer screen and edges, let the words com onto the page and words that we're not mine ideas that we're not mine, belief systems, guidance, wisdom that was not mine came on to this page and within that half hour period of time, I channels the five steps for spiritual surrender, the exact steps that I needed, the exact messages that I was looking for, the guidance, the wisdom, the connection I channel the steps, but now I had to become brave enough to wonder what would happen if I stepped back and let the universe take the lead, we all have to become

if enough to wonder every single one of us in this room today is trying to control something in our own. Talking about you all know what it is. Maybe you're trying to control that ring that trying to get on your finger, maybe you're trying to control when you're gonna get that cash in the bank or maybe you're, trying to control the outcome of a physical diagnosis, but all control and all that manipulation. All that trying to make something happen is creating resistance. Resistance from the alignment resistance from that intuitive voice. That is beckoning. You all the time: resistance from your connection to a power farm

greater than yourself a magnitude that is within you that you have forgot to listen to because you ve been too busy focused on what you need to get, but it's in the absence of that resistance that we re align its in the absence of that resistance that we remember the truth of who we are it's. In the absence of that resistance that we get connected to the universe and the universe is an ever present energy of love. It is within us and around as an always guiding us and its through these steps of spiritual surrender that we realise that we reconnect with that magnitude and that presents

we lack of what we think we need, and we remember that the truth of who we are so I have a question for you all. Are you ready to surrender great? I am here today to give you these five steps that I have been using over the past year. These steps have grounded me they ve realigned me thank you for getting your notebooks out. People get ready. I have been using these steps to get reconnected, realigned and and and rebooted innocent And these are the steps to spiritual surrender so that you can know that the universe has your back, even when things are not working out. The way that you expected, you ready step one step, one, take your hands off the wheel through prayer, Many of you are praying for that cash. Praying for that relationship are praying for the outcome to be exactly as you want to be in the time that you wanted to happen, but the secret to prayer is to forget what you think you need,

when we begin to stop praying for what we think we need, but instead begin to pray for what is of the highest good for all. That's when we get lit up, that's an invisible doors, begin to open for us. That's when we aligned with the truth in the magnitude of the presence of our authentic power, so take that in doesn't that just feel awesome just to say that I want to pray for what is of the highest good for all this. Isn't that feel awesome to even think about that thing that you ve been controlling and holding onto and simply say to yourself right now. You know what I'm just going to pray for one of the highest good for all. Take the pressure off right. The second step is just starting focus on. What's thriving, we focused so much on. What's not working, we so focused on the absence of something why don't we focus on was already thriving in our lives when I started to take the focus of this,

baby that I thought I needed to manifest in this exact amount of time and started, focusing on the beauty in my marriage, focusing on my physical wellbeing, focusing on the spiritual journey that I needed to go on again to uncover things about myself. I didn't even know- and I started to let myself off the hook, and realized and get connected, and I started to feel that pressure of needing that thing just dissipate. So when you Into take your focus offer that thing you need and start to focus on what is already thriving. Let me just say something to you all. You are thriving cause you weren't superbowl sessions. Today, ok,

You are thriving right now you were playing the drugs this morning with Oprah. Ok, you are good, but focus on that. The third step obstacles are detours in the right direction. So what I realized was that this obstacle of not getting pregnant right away was actually a deterrent right direction was a detour towards my spiritual connection. It was a detour towards hitting another bottom in my life so that I can have another awakening. Roomy says that the wound is the place where the light enters. You.

In that wounds. I was awakened and I was given these steps that I was blessed with, and this journey of developing my spiritual condition in a way that I needed to really badly and that obstacle of not getting pregnant was exactly as it needed to be. My baby up they're gone. Not now are we had a plan and I needed to go through this journey, so maybe you can begin to look at your obstacles of maybe that divorce is a opportunity, a detour in the right direction and opportunity to start. Love yourself, some more maybe that loss of that job is an opportunity to begin to. Do that thing you ve been dreaming of. Maybe that diagnosis is an opportunity to get closer to God. Take that in let's reorganise your obstacles right now, what are the opportunities? What is the detour in the right direction? In what way can you begin to turn it upside down and see it as

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sixty five dollar application fee waved a w g. You don T, you slash super soul, w G you don T do you slash super saw the fourth step at first time. We are always in communication with the universe. The universe is always giving us messages is just that: we're not listen, But when we ask we will always receive it's the law we will receive, so king for a sign that we are in the right direction that you're on the right path. Just last month, I had to ask for a sign. I took two thousand sixteen off from trying to make a baby I was just needing outbreak. I want to get back into my alignment with my truth and then last month I decided it's time. Very soon get into it does get ready, and I saw myself like clockwork, go right back to that old story right back into my next book.

Now this time and what's going on with my calendar and can my team handle theirs and has everybody on board with my idea my vision, but thankfully I've been spent the year in my five steps of spiritual surrender, so I had a little bit more information and I was able to stop myself in my tracks. So I stopped myself and I just I just said thank you universe for showing me a sign that I'm in the right to Later that day, I'm looking at the window of my office- and I see these five fat wild Turkey's. Hang it outside my office there, just children as my office- and I was in of these wild Turkey's are so beautiful. I sat there for like a half an hour, just staring at them two hours Later I've been my meditation and I'm just doing my thing about it,

and I hear my intuition say: Google, the spiritual meaning of Turkey's. So I come out of my meditation. I go to my computer and I type in what is the spiritual meaning of Turkey's the spiritual meaning of Turkey's is fertility. Now is the exact message that I needed to hear. I will we allow ourselves to get into the wonder. Magnificence of the guidance that is around us and within us that's when we truly start living the universe once again was guiding me

So I ask for a sign and you will receive, and it is your job to listen. People cause you all, maybe asking for your signs and you may be getting your messages but you're, not listening. So ask and listen, give yourself a chance to truly listen and take that spiritually, aligned action from that place of that wisdom and the final step. Fifth step is when you think you ve surrendered surrender more. My favorite line from a course in miracles is those who are certain of the outcome can afford.

To wait and wait without anxiety that presents a certainty is available to all of us when we get aligned when we truly surrender when we ask and listen and let the universe show us where to go and what to do, let's say prayer, let's offered up with surrender some or are you willing to pray with me? Ok, so, let's on cross our legs place, your palms facing upward close your eyes, take a deep breath in and release. We call on the guy Of the highest truth and compassion to enter into this space today, thank you universe for taking from us, but we are now willing to give away. Think of that thing that you ve been holding onto that

situation that area of your life that you are willing to offer up and we pray? Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say and to whom thank you universe for taking this reorganising this and showing us where to go, take a deep breath in and release and when you're ready open your eyes. This is my daily prayer. Where would you have me, go well

Would you have me do what would you have me say and to whom this beautiful message from a course in miracles, take that home with you use that prayer offered up surrender fully and completely? Has it turns out the universe? Had a plan far greater than I did The plan wasn't that I was going to get pregnant in the exact moment in time that I expected the plan was that I was going to learn how to mother myself before I could be a mother.

We are living in times where it is required of us to have a spiritual foundation and anchor a sense of alignment. If we don't have that foundation, we will be flailing. We need that connection now and it is through the sepsis spiritual surrender that you realign with that connection, to the universe, to a higher power of your own understanding. We needed to survive and to thrive, and these are the messages that I will leave my child when my child is ready to come. I will bestow upon her that her true power lies in her connection too. Universe, and in that connection, when she surrenders so that connection, she can know that she will be certain no matter what they in the midst of uncertainty, she can find safety and then

in that connection it in that alignment. She could always know that the universe has her back. Thank you. I'm ok, free and you ve been listening to supersede conversations the you can hello, supersonic on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook if you haven't yet go to apple podcast, unsubscribe rate and review this pledge gas join me next week for another supersede conversation. Thank you for listening.