This is optimal, living daily episode, one thousand one hundred and sixty one why we feel stuck in life and a secret to dealing with it by Henry you. With tiny Buddha dot com and I'm just a molecule personal narrator. Be Valentine's day. Welcome to the show where I read blogs to you, mostly, but sometimes books, with permission from the websites, of course to his post being from a guest author on tiny Buddha before we get to it. Thank you to use your continuing education programmes. They have a wide range of programmes from business. Two, I health care, finance law and more spring quarter. Is me up and registration is open, visit c e dot. You see, They don t you slash, podcast and enter the promo code podcast for fifteen percent off one course

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every year, I've periods whereby feel stuck. Yet when I look closer, I see that being stock is a label I give to a natural part of life is a time when not much happens things I d come. I think it should be otherwise. I sort of force myself to work to come up with ideas to make things happen and when I dont get anywhere my call it being stock. So what is being stuck except the way I perceive life as a right. This I've been stuck period for the last few months, the differences that my struggle less bees I'm beginning to, let it be why we gets you get stock. When you think you should be something you're, not when you think life should be different than it is. I know I'm trying to

force myself to do something when words like should have to and must enter my mind, my relax and surrender to this quiet period. In my life, things seem okay. I see that I can't control life. I can only notice what life brings to me, the secret to being stuck complete. Being stuck his eye quicksand, the more we try to get out the deeper you sink. My mind wants to push, control and manipulate. It stems from insecurity. I want to be secure, be loved and be remarkable. I think that if I could just control life, all would be well so until I face reality that things begin to left here, three things I do number one give up when you're stuck surrender to being stock. I noticed the thoughts and feelings within me that say that I'm stuck and that something is wrong. If I stay completely in this

moment. There is no being stock, there's only the label of a situation, a label. Invented based on what I think my life should look like notice all this going on. I breathe a deep sigh of relief, but that mean that the feelings go away. I might still feel the anxiety, but it doesn't have a death grip on me anymore. I could see the play thoughts. I can surrender to what comes, and I still fall into resisting getting better letting it be what it is getting better Brad enjoying being start. The funny thing is that when we enjoy being stuck we're not stuck anymore because being stuck was more in our head number to enjoy yourself, there's always something you feel drawn to do during these periods. You're not come Billy Stock, not in every area of your life. Right now, I'm reading books on playing with my son, I'm watching movies and tv, shows the british version of Sherlock. Is

raising and on occasion, I'm writing articles like this expressing what I feel I do the work I need to do, but then my let myself have fun it's easy for me to feel guilty this period. These, I feel like I'm not doing enough, prove, learn, see that doing the best? I can another example getting stuck in the story that I tell myself I am who I am I'm doing what can do that's enough in right now That means doing less the title shift soon enough. The same is true for you do what you can. But go easy on yourself number three right at times. When I feel truly stuck my right, I don't have a system restructure. I get a piece of paper and I write. I drive by him. The old fashioned way seems to clear my head more than re on my computer. What I do is right down everything going on my head No censoring! No! Looking back, I let everything come out, especially the nasty bets

the more I do this, the more I noticed repeating patterns as he I wanted to what is and how futile it is The more aware I become the more these things fall away. We truly aware of what goes on inside your head. You start to let go busy, see how you create your own suffering, my biggest mistake, when we resist what is we suffer? That's true for anything in life. When I try to change what is poison myself from the inside out, but with time see my resistance as a sign to relax to see that I can only you my best was what I have done out of my hands theirs oh pushing needed life lives itself through me, because I am life, I'm not four from anything or any one, I am this planet, I am the star. Hours. I am you.

I wonder why we think we are not supported in life. We come into this world. The room where were supported. The trees in the forests are supported yet we believe were the exception. Are we might think we are? We just think that life should look different than it does, but the fact that life is in ways It is shows that you're wrong. Let things be whether you feel stock for a week Or for a year doesn't really matter, you do the best you can with what you have something of What is true that the longer I'm stuck in the more I surrender to it More learn when I come out of it is the darkest periods of my life that have taught me the most that I myself have learned that life is an all about. Accomplishing things sometimes is about resting, letting things be. These periods are no different than the seasons, their son there's snow, there's light and there's darkness. Once you let it be what it is things change, because your perception changes.

Beware of making this another thing. You have to do be kind to yourself. Let yourself be completely stock and let yourself fight it because you will it's all good. You just listen to the post titled why we feel stuck in life and the secret to deal with it by Henry until her with tiny Buddha, dot com and a big. Thank you to you see I for sponsoring this episode, specifically the mercy of California, Irvine continuing education programmes. You see I'm ranked among the top fifty universities nationally and tenth among all public universities. According to U S news, a world report, that's why I went there along with my sister and brother and their continuing, educate, The programmes are impressive. You can advance your career in as little as six months taught by expert instructors with industry experience. They have over sixty convenience certificates and specialised

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