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1165: Why I'm Wrong About Everything (And So Are You) by Mark Manson on Personal Growth & Self Help

2019-02-18 | 🔗

Mark Manson shares why he's wrong about everything and so are you.

Episode 1165: Why I'm Wrong About Everything (And So Are You) by Mark Manson on Personal Growth & Self Help

Mark Manson was a full-time professional dating coach for men from 2008 until 2011. Sick of the industry, he wrote his first book, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and changed the name and focus of his business to address broader self-development topics for men. The book took off, selling tens of thousands of copies. As he branched out into deeper issues of masculinity, self-worth, and the changing cultural landscape, the site grew. By 2013, he had begun writing about larger cultural issues — gender relations, happiness, ambition, life purpose, and cultural perspectives he had gathered while living in various countries around the world. Despite the fact that the business was still directed at men, thousands of women began reading and asking for advice as well. That same year, he made the leap to his own site and domain, broadening the demographics of his audience. The site exploded, garnering millions of views each month. Check out his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F--- on his site or Amazon.

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this is optimal living daily episode eleven sixty five why i'm wrong about everything and so are you by mark manson mark manson dot net and i'm just a moloch happy monday happy presidents day already here in the u s and welcome back too often living daily or the oil de podcast where i read to you from some of the best blogs and find an get permission from today's pose comes from mark manson other of the very popular and highly rated the subtle art of not giving a half he thought on his side and on amazon but for now let's get right to his post or optimizing your life why i'm wrong about everything and so are you by mark manson of arguments and on net five hundred years ago cartographer is believed california was in ireland doctors believed
closing your arm open and bleeding everywhere could cure disease scientists believe fire was made out of something called phlogiston women believed rubbing dagger and on their face head anti aging benefits and a strong probably believe the sun revolved around the earth ross little boy i used to think mediocre was a kind of vegetable that i didn't want to eat it at my brother i found a secret passageway my grandma house because he yet outside without having to leave the bathroom spoil it there was a window i also thought that when my friend in his family visited washington dc they had somehow travelled back in time to when the dinosaurs lived because after all bc who was a long time ago as a teenager is to try and not care about anything when the truth was actually care
the way too much i thought happiness was a destiny and not a choice of our love was something that just happened not something that was worked for i thought i being cool had to be practice and learn from others rather than invented for oneself rouses my first girlfriend i thought she would never leave me and then when she left me i thought i never feel the same way about a woman again and then one felt the same way about a woman again i thought that love sometimes just wasn't enough and i realise that you get to decide what is enough and love can be wherever you let it be for you if you search every step of the way i was wrong about everything all draw my life i was flat out wrong about myself others society sure the world the universe and everything mandate i hope that will continue to be the case for the rest of my life just as present mark can look back on past marks every fly mistake one
a future mark will look back on present marks assumptions man noticed similar flaws and i'll be a good thing gazelle mean i have grown there's a famous michael jordan what about feeling over and over and over again and that's why he succeeds i am always wrong about everything and that's why my life improves knowledge is an eternal iterative process we don't go from wrong to write once we discover the capital t truth rather we go from partially wrong to say the less wrong too slowly was wrong and that to even less wrong than that and so on we approached the capital to truth but never reach it therefore from our perspective of happiness or purpose we should not seek to find the ultimate right answer for ourselves but rather see to chip away at the ways which were wrong today so that
or a little less wrong tomorrow when looked at from this perspective personal development can actually be quite scientific the hypotheses are our beliefs are actions and behaviors are the expiring hence the resulting internal emotions and thought patterns are our data we can then take those in where then to our original believes in and integrate them into our overall understanding of our needs and emotional make up for the future does approach to personal development is superior visa relies on experience first and foremost and then proper interpretation of experience through various belief systems second for example let's say you aspire to be a professional writer you have assumptions you made about yourself you're a creative you love to express yourself people enjoy your writing happy writing every day and so on and now you want to pursue an end goal of turning that into a profession i got tons of emu from people in their situation they asked the same question what should i do
the answer is easy you write a lot you tested police out in the real world and get real world feedback motions data from them you may find that you in fact don't enjoy writing every day as much as he saw you would you may discover that you actually have a lot of trouble expressing some of your more exquisite thoughts then you first assumed you eliza that a lot of failure and rejection involved in writing in that kind of takes the fun out of it you i find that you spend more time on your site design and presentation do on writing itself that that is what you actually seem to be enjoying and so you integrate that new information and adjust your goals and behaviors accordingly this in a nutshell is called or at least what life should be but somewhere along the way we all become so obsessed with being right about our lives though he never no living it we often say that it will not take action because they're afraid of failure you sing lonely and want a boyfriend but you know
get out of the house and do anything or you worker often believe you deserve a promotion being overcome front your boss about it the conventional wisdom about these issues patients is that you're simply afraid of failure of rejection of someone say no but it goes beyond that sure rejection hurts failures but there are certainties we hold onto which we are free to question or let go of certainties which meet our needs and eliza meaning that woman doesn't get out there and date be issued before confront her certainty of her own desirability and self esteem a man doesn't ass for the promotion because he would have to confront his certainty about the value of his work and weather is actually productive or not discern certainties are designed to give us moderate comfort now by mortgaging greater happiness later their terrible loss term strategies these are the and i keep us in place and not of touch these are the certainties a dry people despair prejudice or radicalism
getting somewhere great and life has less to do with the ability to be right all the time and more to do with the ability to be wrong all the time what are you wrong about today that can lead to improvement so try it assume that you're wrong about everything see where that takes you whatever your strongly with right now practice some uncertainty ask yourself what if i was wrong about this because i can tell you that are you are wrong about that and everything else too just like me and just like everybody else and that's good news because being wrong means change being wrong means improvement it means cutting your arm open to cure a cold or splashing dog on your face to look young again he's not thinking mediocre is a vegetable or being afraid of care five hundred years people will point and laugh how we let our money and our jobs to fire lives they will laugh at how we were afraid to show appreciation for does it matter to us most they will laugh at
rituals and superstitions our worries and are wars still got our cruelty they'll study are art and argue over history they will understand it is about us of which none of us are not even aware of yet i've been wrong about pretty much everything just as they will be wrong but everything to albeit a little less wrong and maybe possibly finally they will look back on our world and think while how did they live like that you just listen to the post adult why i'm wrong about everything men so are you by mark man's mark manson done that and take you to joy bird this is a rare case where i actually love furniture i found out this company a while ago before they were going to be a sponsor joy but believes that you should never settle when it comes to your home furnishings in that you should we have the freedom to be boldly original which aubert yet one of a kind furniture
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