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1404: Confirmation Bias: Why You Make Terrible Life Choices by Nir Eyal of Nir And Far on How to Live with Curiosity

2019-10-15 | 🔗

Nir Eyal shares why you make terrible life choices.

Episode 1404: Confirmation Bias: Why You Make Terrible Life Choices by Nir Eyal of Nir And Far on How to Live with Curiosity

Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. The M.I.T. Technology Review dubbed Nir, “The Prophet of Habit-Forming Technology.” Nir founded two tech companies since 2003 and has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. He is the author of the bestselling book, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products. In addition to blogging at NirAndFar.com, Nir’s writing has been featured in The Harvard Business Review, TechCrunch, and Psychology Today. Nir is also an active investor in habit-forming technologies. Some of his past investments include: Eventbrite, Product Hunt, Pantry, Marco Polo, Presence Learning, 7 Cups, Pana, Symphony Commerce, Worklife (acquired by Cisco) and Refresh.io (acquired by LinkedIn). Nir attended The Stanford Graduate School of Business and Emory University.

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this is optimal living daily episode fourteen oh for compromise in bias why you make terrible life choice i near a all of near and far dot com and marine areas just a moloch reading you blogs or articles every single day of the year to deliver more meaningful life covering personal growth self help minimalism productivity happiness and more before we get to it if you have a big this or you know someone who does you probably know that small business owners where a lot of hats i definitely do some of us are totally great but some like filing taxes and running payroll for example not so great ass were gusto comes in gusto makes payroll taxes in hr actually easy for small businesses fast simple payroll processing benefits and simple benjamin tools all in one place gusto automatically pays an files your federal state a local taxes so you have to worry about it pleased him
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your little insecure about your weight and how your yoga clothes cling to your body revealing every flaw you're nervous about making a fool of yourself your eyes instantly zoom onto the fit model ask people shouting in the corner ass he walked past them your ears pick up the tinkle of laughter my god or they laughing at me pick a spot on the back of the classroom where no one can see you the teacher ask everyone to get into a crouching fish pose to people know dispose you flail around on your man fall over was a big thump you look up to make sure no one saw you the guy next to you is hiding a smirk i knew it everyone is laughing at me you were gaze after class renate there and vowed to never do yoga again confirmation bias strikes again in the yoga class he looked for instance is that confirmed your insecurities the models were laughing at you the guy who smirched when you fell you ignored other instances that didn't prove
insecurities basically everyone else in the class who barely took notice of you confirmation bias is the human tendency to seek interpret and remember information that confirms pre existing beliefs it is insidious it affects every choice you make every single day the things you choose to buy your health who issues to marry your career your emotions you're finances it all happens in the background without you noticing how does confirmation by his work confirmation bias affects you in three ways number one how you seek information confirmation buys affects how you look at the world around you when you're alone at home feeling lousy you immediately jump on facebook or instagram cigarette he'll get pictures of people travelling partying getting married and think everyone no as living a great life he say to yourself i'm such a lonely loser
you sit at home and field all because you chose to seek information that too firms your crummy feelings you knew looking at those four so make you feel worse but you saw them anyway number two how you interpret information in front of you confirmation by us also affects how you process what is otherwise neutral information it tends to favour your beliefs we are falling in love all you senior partner is a beautiful perfect adonis you don't notice a single flaw when that relationships hours all of a sudden all you see our flaws his coffee breath his pension for joining endlessly about a topic you don't care about the hairs he leaves i think you are dating the exact same person but you perceive the things here she as differently based on how you feel number three how you remember things even your memories are affected by confirmation bias you interpret and possibly
even change memories and facts in your head based on your beliefs classic experiment since an enormous students were shown a game between the two schools at the end princeton students room more fowls committed by dartmouth enormous students were more follows committed by princeton both groups as students fundamentally leave their school was better so they too remember and recall more instances they showed their school in a good light in the opposing school in a bad light why am i like this you seek evidence echo firms or police because being wrong feels crummy being wrong means are not as smart as you thought so yeah seeking information that confirms what you already know in a famous expire interment when participants were presented with evidence counter to their political beliefs areas of their brain socio with physical pain became more active if being wrong physically hurts is easy to accept it opposing views when it concerns things you don't care about but you also have d
see the believes that form a core part of your identity like that you're a kind person that your political views are correct evidence it runs counter to these believes often causes cognitive dissonance a feeling of immense stress and anxiety corrective dissonance triggers a fight or flight response you either digging your heels and double down in your existing beliefs fight or get away from the opposing fact flight your brains primary goal is self protection your brains primary goal is self protection and this applies both physically and psychologically when opposing facts challenge identity your brain perceives the psychological threat and protects you as if it was an actual physical threat there is just too much information to process it is tremendous effort to hold opposing hypotheses and try to evaluate evidence for and against each one c o brien optimism for the fastest shortcut to a solution
it's too much work to evaluate contradictory information if a euro what's right it's easier to look for two or three things to support your current viewpoint so what can i do about it number one approach life with curiosity not conviction we walk into every interaction trying to prove yourself right you're going to succumb to confirmation bias researcher study to groups of children in school the first group of oil challenging problems because it came with a high risk of being wrong the other actively sought them out for the learning opportunity even though oh they might be wrong the second group consistently outperformed first focus less on being right in more on expire rinsing life with curiosity and wonder when you're willing be wrong you open yourself up to new insights number to seek and understand disagreement understand various viewpoints cannot be refined year perspective according researchers you can actually change deep seated believes the trick surrounded
so with a variety of opposing viewpoints sayer by your house and you love one in particular asker friendly devils advocate and propose reasons for not buying so that we can make sure your seem more than just your viewpoint and make a rational decision number three think about thinking to fight back against cognitive biases you unita value your instinctive reactions the next time you run across facts that completely confirm your worldview stop think about the assumptions you're making it look for ways to prove yourself wrong say your coffee lover you need your morning cover to properly function when browsing your facebook feed articles tearing the benefits of coffee will ensue grab your attention is easy to read these articles ngo aha that confirms all my life choices the next amy catches of doing that try to actively search for information that contradicts what you believe in conclusion confirmation bias is an unavoidable part of how you make this
visions is an evolutionary trade that colors how you view the world is not something you can always overcome but when you're making big decisions decisions about your health finances love life you want to mitigate its effects the best you can learning understanding how confirmation by his works gives me the opportunity to compensate force downsides and make more rational decisions next time you are going from crowding fish both to flying u allah don't worry no once looking at you you just listen to the both title confirmation bias why you make terrible life choices near a all of near and far come and don't forget gusto offers more burn easy payroll and benefits to small businesses across the country there
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