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into yesterday's up so first and a happy volley. The festival of lights celebrating lightness over darkness and knowledge over ignorance pace became knowledge. My friend Gregg is a life coach in his answering your life questions for free. As part of a network of podcast and I'm gonna use audio for podcast cast, be amazing. If you could send in your life questions relating to any of the continued here on this show, it would mean so much he's in a question at old, podcast dot com site. Questions or email, one in through old podcast dot com. Thank you for doing that for now get right. A part two of marks Post, history. Optimizing your life That is, is of more part two by Mark Manson of more Man's and done that some psychologists call this constant chasing of pleasure that you dont treadmill, because people who are constantly striving for a better life and of extending a ton of effort only to end up

in the same place, but wait a minute. What you're saying Tubby F mark doesn't There's no point in doing anything no, it means that we need to be motivated and life by something more than our own happiness. It means it will be driven by something greater than ourselves, otherwise, you're simply write and ran toward some vision of your own glory and improvement. Twas, your perfect ten, all the while feeling as though you were in the same place or worse, like Riley's championship teams, slowly undermining what got you there to begin with self improvement as a glorified hobby back in my early twenties, when I was what I would characterizes a self help, ok, we're my favorite rituals every year was to sit down around New year's and spend hours. Mapping out my life goals, my vision for myself and all of the amazing those going to do to get myself my analyze my desires and values and end up with a sexy in him pressing sounding list of largely arbitrary goals filled with stuff like taking a bongo glasser making a certain amount of money

or finally, nailing that ever elusive six back but eventually learned that the funny thing about self improvement for the sake of self improvement is that it doesn't it apparently mean anything. It's just a glorified hobby. Something to keep you occupied into enthusiastically discuss with other people who have the same hobby took me a long time to accept the fact that, just because something can be improved in my life, does not mean that it should be improved in my life. The improvement is not the problem. It's the! Why that's a motivating the improvement that matters When one compulsively looks to improve oneself without many greater cause or reason driving it other than self, a grand is meant, it leads to a life of immense self preoccupation. Alight, beneficence form of narcissism, where ones constant attention and focus is on oneself. And, ironically, his Polly make your life worse off, years ago, a friend of mine once told me quote. The best decision I ever made in my life was to join the support group,

Three years later. The best decision I ever made in my life was to stop attending my support group. End quote, I think the same principles, true with all forms of self improvement, self improvement tools should be used like bandit, is only to be opened in apply when something is hurt or seriously wrong and what the goal always being to eventually remove them. Life is not a game of improvement, but rather a game of trade off. I think many people see life in terms of linear growth and improvement. This is probably true when you're young as a kid. Your knowledge and understanding of the world grow massively each year as a young adult your opportunities and skills. Oh rapidly as well, but once you hit alter once you establish, have developed expertise in certain areas, because you ve already vessels so much I'm a mental energy into your skills and assets. Life is longer simply a question of improvement, but rather of trade off I've spent. Here's developing my ability, as a writer of managed to conjure a successful writing career for myself.

If I turn around and wanted to become a dj. On the one hand, you could argue I'm improving myself by expanding my talents, skill set, but to put the hundreds of hours to become competent at an entirely new artistic endeavour, would force me to give up some priorities: Mazur Writer, that five hundred hours or whatever is necessary to dj competently. I spent writing another book starting a column at a procedures magazine or simply thing out a bunch more of these blog posts The same was true with the NBA players who one championships and their eyes. They were just giving up in the world. Yesterday they won their first championship, getting more commercials a better logger a bit. Brand new house. But I didn't realize is what they were trading off their time and energy now occupied by all sorts of new luxuries longer, able to focus on the nitty gritty of basketball and as a team they suffered, which brings me back to the guy in search of a coach met a couple weeks ago,

Ultimately, my advice to him was simply to be careful, be careful with the drive to improve for the sake of improvement. The desire for more for no other reason than its more be careful adopting new dreams, and bullseye, could harm the success and happiness you've already built for yourself today or as a cliche goes be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it. Life is not a checklist. It's not. A mountain to scale is not a golf game or a beer, commercial or whatever other cheesy. Now do you want to answer here? Life is an economy where everything must be traded, something else and the value of all things rise and fall with the amount of attention and effort he put into them in that economy. We each must eventually choose what you're willing to trade based on what you value and, if you're, not careful with your values, if you're willing to trade things away

the sake of another head of dopamine and other temporary trip to your own personal, psychological. Ten. Then chances are you're going to things up You don't want a part two of the post titled the disease of more by Manson of Mark Man's and on that a real, quick thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast anger is the easiest way to make a pie cast they'll distributor podcast for you, so it can be heard everywhere: Spotify, Apple, podcast, Google, podcast and many more. You can easily make money from your podcast too, with no minimum listener. Ship anger gives you everything you need in one place for free, which you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools like recording ETA. Your podcast, so it sounds great download the anchor up or go to anchor dot fm to get started and I'll do for today and this weekend have a happy volley alley back tomorrow. So I'll see you there, where optimal life awaits.