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1435: The Miracle of the Self-Compassion Habit by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits on How To Practice Daily Self-Care

2019-11-15 | 🔗

Leo Babauta of Zen Habits shares the miracle of the self-compassion habit.

Episode 1435: The Miracle of the Self-Compassion Habit by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits on How To Practice Daily Self-Care

Leo Babauta created Zen Habits, which is about finding simplicity and mindfulness in the daily chaos of our lives. It’s about clearing the clutter so we can focus on what’s important, create something amazing, find happiness.

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the miracle of the self compassionate by liam about of zen habits done that lets hypothesize that there's a substance has been irritating you and causing problems in all areas of your life it causes you to be unhappy to be stressed to procrastinate to be distracted to be angry with people to be decided i was your life to be overweight and unhealthy to not exercise or eat healthy and much more horrible substance right now imagine there were solved saw that could ease the bad effects of the substance and make all other areas better the substance is real it's your suffering we all suffer in small and large ways every day and it causes all the other problems i mentioned the salvage also real itself compassion which sounds too fluffy for most people but it's a concrete practice that will have concrete
it's in all areas of your life let's take a minute to explore suffering and what would happen if you applied to solve of self compassion the all pervasive effects of suffering we always think of ourselves ass suffering if her leading normal lives but in fact suffering more often than we usually realise just not necessarily suffering greatly we suffer in small ways and that affects our happiness the happiness of those around us and our actions and habits throughout the day some examples stress throughout the day things come up distress you out from a new thing to add your work load to someone criticising you to the housework not being done this is suffering in his usually a low level though sometimes you can get a high levels the salva self compassion would use the suffering and all you to deal with these events and situations more calmly increasing your
in his levels throughout the day frustrations little frustrations happen all the time from people not doing things right to traffic being congested do not being able to figure out why softwares and working right this is also suffering self compassion can help you calm down from the frustrations and handle the situations appropriately you'd be less angry when you responded which is likely to resign in all outcomes her with others some one has you off your kid just won't listen your spouse said something critical your boss as being a total deal we'd yourself obviously this can result not only in unhappiness but inaction so i can hurt your relationship with others your career your marriage instead apply self compassion and you can calm down respond appropriately even with compassion for the other person who is also suffering
feeling bad about yourself there are a million reasons we feel bad about ourselves from failure to body fat to hopelessness and dad situations this too is suffering many causes us to take harmful actions are confronting ourselves with food and shopping alcohol not taking action not believing selves self compassion eases this pain in leads not only to more helpful actions but happiness feeling rushed there's often a feeling throughout our days that we need to rush to the next thing walking we go quickly working we switch constantly to the next communicate
next tab next super urging can't wait to do it now task this feeling of constant urgency is itself a source of stress self compassion can easily as well and allow us to slow down enjoy the moment and be happier men each moment distraction we live super distracted lives wasting huge parts of our day destruction is a symptom of suffering we go to distraction because of fear were afraid of harder tasks of missing out of failing and we think distraction is comforting in turn distraction tends to increase suffering we feel bad about ourselves we progressing on important things and make our jobs and lies worse etc self compassion helps us see the suffering ease it and reduce the tendency to distraction procrastination we all procrastinate on work on writing our gray novel on learning a musical instruments on exercise procrastination like distraction is a symptom of suffering
of fear and thinking we can't do something self compassion can help without suffering and reduce procrastination increasing our creative output helping us to take care of finances and worked ass and cluttering and all the things we know we really want to do but our doing not exercising this is a specific form across the nation man so is a symptom of suffering it also those how procrastination can cause more suffering as a lack of exercise leads to worse health which leads to the stress on pain of disease self compassion can also start exercising mindfully men joyfully on healthy eating we didn't eat healthy things because we are afraid of vegetables and not eating junk and because we need a comfort ourselves from other suffering and because we think we need the crush of temporary pleasures we don't self compassion ease the suffering
helps us to be ok with not eating pringles and doughnuts was making our bodies feel better lack of gratitude much of our lives are spent in silent complaint or sometimes not the silent we are so unhappy with little things in our lives which is a form of suffering these complaints me we're missing out on what great about our lives self compassion helps us to deal with the pain of these complaints and instead turned to the amazing things we can be grateful for increases our happiness with life all around us lack of mindfulness most of our lives are spent in distraction unmindful of the present moment this is a form of suffering because if we weren't suffering we stay in the press and much of the time and fully appreciate the moment as it happens instead were thinking about the future because we're worried about it were obsessed with the past mistakes we ve made self compassion can eat
these worries and obsessions and instead practice mindfulness with each moment more often i could go on forever biggest suffering takes many forms beacon see the powder self compassion eases the pain of the suffering reducing the bad effects and allowing us to choose more helpful ways of living was turned to a method of self compassion compassion method does the method in practice through a daily habit to help a suffering in all forms number one notice your suffering in one of its many forms number two turned towards the suffering see it as is feel it fully experience it mindfully and in the moment number three except to suffer
instead of trying to ignore it avoided push it away and kill it except that is part of life part of you but temporary number for wish yourself happiness wish for an end to your suffering give yourself a mental hug and comfort yourself for five let go of what's causing the suffering just release it or put it aside the cause is likely something you wish were different instead appreciate things as they are be present with reality and number six be grateful for the reality that's happening right now this is always easy to practice since i recommended daily session return in word for a couple minutes and practice without the distractions of daily life will get better at the self compassion have it with practice but it's worth the practice the salve of self compassion can change your entire life you just listen
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house with steps like this i always recommend visiting the site may be printed out or write down the steps or put it in your phone so you can have it handy whenever you need it leave it there for today hope you're having a great friday and i'll see you over the weekend where your optimal life awaits
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