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1454: Guilt AND Black Coffee by Becca Shern of Minimal Wellness on How To Align Values and Expectations

2019-12-04 | 🔗

2 short posts from Becca Shern of Minimal Wellness where she shares her thoughts on built and black coffee.

Episode 1454: Guilt AND Black Coffee by Becca Shern of Minimal Wellness on How To Align Values and Expectations

Becca Shern is the founder of MinimalWellness.com and is a Registered Dietitian, foodie, wellness nerd, recreational athlete, and mom. She started Minimal Wellness to help people find, navigate, and enjoy the simple path to optimal health. Eliminating the “junk” (foods, advice, stuff, excuses, distractions) helps us focus on the critical components of wellness, enabling us to be healthier, happier, and more fulfilled. Find more information about her at MinimalWellness.com.

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the old a of minimal wellness star come guilt is a powerful emotion guilt can creep into our lives stealthily permeating every interaction we have the guilt we continually carry can trigger stress overwhelm anxiety men depression run culture need to feel guilty about everything were not doing right about everything we should be doing our society uses gill to render us into a complacent complying consumers food and beverage companies use it to keep us hooked on their products guilty pleasure anyone finish and weight loss gurus use it as far motivation religions use it to keep their devote he's on the proper path parents easy to get children to behave in a desirable way excessive guild morphs into shame something you feel guilty about comes a value statement about yourself i think of guilt and shame as points on a continuum temporary gills can be helpful and even motivating
we can point out that we acted in a way that doesn't align with whom we want to be making q us to act differently however if we don't take action to adjust our behaviour or if i expectations are unreasonable our guilt confessor amateurs eyes and a shame which lowers our self esteem self worth and self image guilt and shame make us feel inferior and inadequate the first way they incur justice saddle most of us push our limits embracing the fear resistance and discomfort required for growth when we feel less than when our self image and worse our questions when we so guilty about something we did or didn't do and when we dwell on i guilt and feel shame is far more play that will repeat that exact behavior think about all the times you felt guilty in the last day in the last week did you feel it when he blew off a workout now about when you lost your cool with your kid or your partner you're free
coworker do you feel it when scrolling through hundreds of posts in your social media feeds or perhaps you feel it most acutely when eating a particular food experience all of those scenarios and many more if we let it guilt and his ugly alter egos can surround and paralyze us feeling guilt is a response which responds to a mismatch between our actions and our values does ores as to the dissonance created when our values don't match where our culture says they should be our cultural values shiny new things our cultural values appearance over ability or cultural values words over actions or culture values the quick fix pill over the slow process a knee jerk reaction over thoughtful deliberation the black or white right or wrong over nuance in subtlety our culture values convention and conformity or culture values college marriage parenthood the thirty year morgan
the picket fence in the manager lawn or mercosur values pacification and comfort is as we should add up the drive through a bowl of ice cream or poor glass of wine it's been a long day we deserve it when we stray from the values or society from that's when we realise those values don't bring us meaning purpose or joy we feel dissonance humans hate dissidents were hardwired resolved as quickly as possible when we feel it is this created from a mismatch between societies values and our own some of us fall back in line with society while others get stuck in a space of constant they rumination unable to reckon el the distances between our daily actions or expectations and our values if we want to reduce a nigger impact guilt has in our lives step one is to get crystal clear on what our values are step two is to critically examine our expectations often our expectations are too high while our standards are too low
coming our values helps us begin acting in an authentic manner checking or expect patients while elevating our standards helps us share that guilty feeling we get to determine our values every day we get to choose our actions and priorities we can let go of guilt we and change and another person just a sec but first check out com they see a l em a top rated at that helps you relax meditate and get a good night's sleep sleep is so him weren't every day of the year but around the holidays in get even harder to find time for those precious hours parties with friends and family members shopping lists long flights when he finally get into bed you want to fall asleep easily and stay asleep i drove into coms library of sounds caves and sleeves stories which are specifically designed to help you get a good night's rest comes leave stories are my
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i bought organic fair trade fresh dark roasted beans from local purveyors now he's a french press for barely a drink my coffee with milk lots of milk if i d joke that i took some coffee with my milk without i do like the flavour of the coffee i chose was too deeply roasted to better to say saddle my tongue like a dirty saw but it is a good with milk so that's how i drank it i tried alternative rose from time to time but with the milk i preferred it dark and viscous a year and a half ago has introduced a new coffee roast bridles and really methods and i discovered some coffee is much better without milk moving the mask of milk i could teach flavour nuances and bearing assiduities legacy the spectrum of colours and appreciate the intoxicating aromas having a cup of coffee turn into an enjoyable exe areas not just our warm creamy liquid vector for caffeine the things in hurley wrongly drinking milk coffee i just found that i it far more with the excess removed
metaphor about life removing the superfluous enhances our ability to taste man to live a few years ago i existed by diluting uncomfortable experiences and pacify myself to sufficiently tolerate my reality i avoided some things are required difficult work settling for good enough i shied away from the signals telling me things were right thinking it's ok nothing's perfect my logic was flawed and pernicious eat away at my life one choice at a time when i began to stealing my choices experiences down to their essence by removing the delusions distractions and passive ayers us better able to see the underlying problems and to formulate solutions i was drinking the wrong coffee with a right coffee night need milk you just listen to the post titled killed and black coffee both by back assured of minimal wellness dot com and it gives us any less ashore
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