Paula Pant of Afford Anything shares why sheer willpower won't work if you want to change your habits.
Episode 1561: Sheer Willpower Won't Work. If You Want to Change Your Habits, Try This Instead. by Paula Pant of Afford Anything
Paula Pant is the founder of the award-winning website AffordAnything.com and a writer and speaker specializing in money, business, and real estate investing. She is a real estate investor, as the owner of seven rental property units in metropolitan Atlanta. She holds a real estate license in Georgia. She's also the host of the Afford Anything podcast.
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here, willpower won't work. If you want change your habits. Try this instead
Nepal, a pan of afford anything darksome people eat restaurants. For many reasons, it's convenient. The food is delicious. We crave social interaction. We want a new environment, we like novelty. We can re nutritional labels
Right out of mind, I used to Dinah frequently a few years ago. I resolved to cut back, but I can't stop my fingers in force myself to quit. Willpower is weak to create sustainable change. I need to discover the root cause. Why am I dining out? There are plenty of potential reasons: taste socialization, atmosphere, convenience. What's motivating me, this isn't a theoretical question is mandatory.
If I want to change the power of habit a few years ago, I read the book. The power of habit by Charles do where we stand.
And I immediately flipped back to the beginning and started rereading stat good Charles, had a habit of buying a chocolate chip cookie every afternoon he gained eight pounds. His wife made point comments about his growing belly. He put a poster note on his computer. They said no more.
Word cookies, epic fail the next afternoon. He was gnawing on a cookie, it feels good and then it feels bad. He wrote quote tomorrow. You promise yourself: you'll must have the willpower to resist tomorrow will be different, but tomorrow that have it takes hold again and quote he turned a psychology for the answers. Experiments show that there are five categories that served as habitual Q's, location, time, emotional state, other people and immediately preceding action. This makes sense location when we're at our desks. We work or school facebook
in the driver's seat we drive members sitting on its while it off me get the idea time. We dont think about changing our socks in the middle of the day, but in the morning and at night, midst automatic emotional state
Do you know anyone who scarfs shortly when their upset and have said other people? You act differently around specific people? You discussed some
checks. We develop a slang or vernacular you order certain types of food or drinks. You feel relax a tight board happy immediately preceding action by to the toilet example. At a certain moment you reach for the toilet paper. You dont deliberate this decision. You don't way the pros and cons. It's a reflex Charles wanted to apply this.
Ecology, lesson to his own life. So every time you felt the urge to buy a cookie, he jotted down some notes, location sitting at desk time. Three hundred and thirty, six p dot, M emotion, board, other people, none and proceeding action, sending meme
He continued taking notes daily until he saw a patter four out of five of these factors flux,
waited only one state, constant the time of day quote
The roar of seeking was a temporary distraction and the habit triggered between three o clock and four o clock. End quote so
I'm a different way to grant himself the same distraction rather than buying a daily cookie. He start taking a ten minute break to chat with a friend every day between three p dot m
Four p dot m even set an alarm on his watch for three hundred and thirty to remind himself to do this. It worked how to stop eating at restaurants back to the
dilemma. There are plenty of reasons I might eat at restaurants: taste socialization convenience if I'm dining out for convenience. My alternative must also be convenient if I'm dining out of socialized. My alternative must also be social. If I'm dining out for taste, I replace it must be tasty. It's not enough to simply pledge to eat out less. I had to decipher the root cause I needed to identify the trigger. Like Charles I began observing patterns every time I felt tempted to suggest a restaurant a jot down notes.
The trigger I discovered is that I want a new environment. I work from home. If I haven't left the house by evening, I feel stir crazies, I text a friend to say: let's try their new mexican place once I identified this root cause. I looked for all time.
It is featuring the same reward. I started working from coffee shops
running midday Aaron's, I gotTa Jim membership
I get the same reward, a new environment with,
Spending hundreds at restaurants, habits are hard break. It could have been a simple blog post us as top ten ways
money number one stop dining out, but I'll, be it
actually lazy and ineffective. I could have written a blog post that says top ten waste
save money number to drop your Jim membership number three avoid coffee shops, but those tips would be counter productive in situ,
caution when it comes to saving money and behavior change. We don't have a knowledge problem. We know what we should do.
but we struggled to integrate these tactics into our lives. Behavior change requires more than a top ten list post. It requires a deeper look at our motivations and triggers. We can't change our behaviour with post, denotes notes, pep talks and top ten list. We can only change our habits by
understanding what drives us. We change our habits when we learn how to manage our urges and needs rather than fight them more deny them. If you like to break a bad habit, number one jot notes on the location, time, emotion, people and immediately preceding action, then look for patterns in order to ask yourself what benefit he received from the habit. Then look for alternatives. Finally, start small. He can't tackle ten habit changes
at the same time, focus on what you just listen to the both title that
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started and take you Paula. These are solid tips based on research. A lot of research, Charles do egg is consider an expert on the topic. If you forgot to spy variables watch out for when trying to break a
I shall repeat those for you now: they are location, time, emotion, people and immediately preceding action.
And this is also used to build new habits, not just stop existing ones by the way. That's why it's recommended to work your habit into your routine dusty immediately preceding action, part
for example, if you wanna go to the gym, or you can make sure you pack your Jim stuff right before going to bed and leave it by the front door. So you take it with you when you leave or
your Jim clothes right when you wake up sound simple, but it actually works so Dudley. Think about those very
today, man. Try writing it down to get the end up. Changing your life and I'll. Do it for today have a great start to your weekend.
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