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1653: Uncertainty Can Be Our Best Friend by Allison Carmen on A Secret To Happiness & Peaceful with the Unknown

2020-06-20 | 🔗

Allison Carmen shares how uncertainty can be our best friend.

Episode 1653: Uncertainty Can Be Our Best Friend by Allison Carmen on A Secret To Happiness & Peaceful with the Unknown

Allison Carmen holds a B.A. in accounting, a J.D. of Law, and a Master’s of Law in taxation. After working for a large law firm in Manhattan, Allison founded her own law firm and built a successful practice focusing on real estate, corporate, mergers and acquisitions, and taxation. After 15 years of practicing law, Allison transitioned her practice into business consulting, business coaching and life coaching. Today, Allison’s clients range from owners of multi-million dollar companies to artists, actors, writers, and parents. She's also the host of the podcast: 10 Minutes to Less Suffering.

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however right to it s our optimizing your life uncertainty can be our best friend by us and carmen of alison carmen darksome when sharing his secret happiness the great philosopher jude duke reached a murky said quote do you want to know what my secret is i dont mind what happens end quote i think many of us hearing this quote can understand why this state of mind leads to freedom and happiness if we mind what will happen next in our lives we would have no reason to be stressed and worried today although this sounds like a ticket emotional freedom most of us help i care what happens next in our lives we care about keeping our jobs having enough money are children being healthy we have other crucial aspects of our lives we want to make sure that the things we want to happen actually do happen and that is exactly where our need for certainty begin
we want to know what will happen next so that we can rest in this moment knowing everything we'll be ok as this pandemic is teaching us every day we can control everything in life is filled with twists and turns many of us are starting to see how our need to know is treating him you'll have it but the truth is that our avoidance of uncertainty has always control much of our lives in fact our need to know is how foundation or priority for most choices that we make our search for certainty affects how we face life approach work maintain relationships and even how we parent at work we may lean towards a particular job with a critical certain feature or pay great or we may analyzer problem with a limited view of all possibilities which is relationships that feel secure and these activities we know and with which we are comfortable we make choices for our children to seem like the most prudent passed a success sometimes these decisions work
a great but often we are ignoring new opportunities stifling creativity and true desires for the sake of certainty and as we are being reminded right now in a very jarring way nothing is certain and even choices that seem prudent other time can change wendy unexpected wind blows our way however if we can find the courage to face the unknown we can mind or futures more gently we can examine new ideas start new businesses go places we never expected to go at some point or of a relationship with someone that is different from us mindfully releasing our need for certainty also creates more tolerance and patience we give up our view or our path as the only way this in turn can open us up the blossoming of a life filled with wonder and maybe even happiness raising that very thing we avoid can be the catalan for creating the life that we really want so how can we start to roll
he's our need for certainty specially during he's times for me and most my clients we practise the mindset of maybe you can use the mindset of maybe to put a stop to native projection the pandemic laws of opportunities or money and come back to a moment if you'll hopeful is such a simple practice with such a profound result here's what you can do right your biggest fears down like the world is going down the tubes to a pandemic will not end for years and we will all be in financial ruin then ask yourself are you slowly son these statements are true there's the great thing about projections into the future you can't know something will absolutely happen and this is when uncertainty worst or advance this when we realise that uncertainty is our best friend if we want our lives to change it has to happen the unknown now since we are not
absolutely certain that our scary and negative thoughts our true we can ask ourselves what are the other possibilities than take five to ten minutes and maybe statements on a piece of paper these are state such as maybe things will be ok maybe things will be awful and then get better give your actions can make a difference or there is still hope for something we cannot even imagine then we can get very specific with action steps to see my good ideas examples of these are maybe there will be new job opportunities and new business sectors that arise from the pandemic and adjust our thinking about new skills maybe i should start reconnect and with old friends and colleagues don't know i'm looking for work or maybe i'll figure on my situation over time
and right now i shall focus on the day in front of me if you do this for five to ten minutes a day you start to feel more hopeful and present the future contains infinite possibilities both good and bad sure bad things can happen but good things can happen to deposit part of uncertainty is apart many of us forget it's ok if after doing the exercise you still have fears because you will so be making some room in your mind for other outcomes the truth is that we cannot see how entire pandemic or our lives will play out in this moment if we saw projecting only bad things i may happen will have more strength and vision to act you know some bad things do happen daddy of maybe we'll give us trying to figure out what we need to do next there is none pollyanna about finding comfort in the unknown instead
so allows us to harness our strength and be completely honest in a moment so stop looking for certainty and safety when there is none take a deep breath realize life has maybe just give it a try really works and take action when the time is right if something doesn't go the way you plan embrace maybe in keep try you got what the journey ahead of you will bring in that's a good thing right now it's all about the maybe
you just listen to the post titled uncertainty can be your best friend by alison carmen of ours and carmen dark home a real quick thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast anger is the easiest way to make a pie cast they'll distribute your podcast for you so it can be heard everywhere spotify apple podcast google podcast and many more you can easily make money from your bike ass to with no minimum listener ship aggregates you everything you need in one place for free which you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools light record and edit your podcast so it sounds great download the anchor up or go to anchor dot fm to get started they get alison each eye out her podcast ten minutes to less suffering the gray one she's all sharing this project with her audience so giving back to her
and checking out her work would be greatly appreciated personally i do like a good amount of uncertainty keeps things interesting but in either case hopefully this one was helpful for you that should do it for today thank you for listening and sticking around until the end have a great weekend if you're listening in real time and i'll see you tomorrow as usual where optimal life awaits
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