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1729: It's Okay To Admit You're Not Okay by Melani Schweder of A Brighter Wild on Self-Acceptance

2020-09-04 | 🔗

Melani Schweder of A Brighter Wild reminds us that it's okay to admit when we're not okay.

Episode 1729: It's Okay To Admit You're Not Okay by Melani Schweder of A Brighter Wild on Self-Acceptance

Melani Schweder is a Certified Health Coach, Reiki Master/Teacher, and guide for those who want to live life in full color, even through hardships like chronic illness, divorce, or other struggle. Her own health issues led her to dig deep into alternative/natural health and take sustainable, self-guided steps towards recovery. She is passionate about holistic methods, and her unique coaching process combines the best of her knowledge in whole-foods nutrition, Reiki, mindfulness, herbal medicine, and positive psychology.

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This is optimal. Living daily episode, seventeen, twenty nine, it's ok to admit you're, not ok by me, nay sweeter, of a brighter while dot com and I'm just a molecule. it has been reading articles book excerpts essays, sometimes stories every day, including holidays for over four years. Define value in it. I'd greatly appreciate it if you can share it with friends, family coworkers. Anyone really give his intro nice ensure for the Friday episode. So let's get right to and start optimizing your life, It's ok to admit: you're, not ok. Melanie sweeter of a brighter wild stock. Come! Oh, dear friends, if you anything like me, you probably quite a a study to putting on a smile and acting fine even when you're, not sometimes we can't avoid work school or
social situations, no matter how we're feeling- and we don't always feel comfortable driving around or demons with us. So we lift up the corners of our mouths, cover up the pain and spat out empty catch phrases. In the guise of staying positive, We even do this to ourselves. Sitting at home alone were staring into the mere we tackle little inspirational sayings and force or nagging little mental demons back into their dark corners. This is probably something that everyone can at least partially relate to what is practically a cornerstone of the chronically ill community. We are afraid of being a Debbie, downer, afraid of being vulnerable afraid of being set apart from the rest, our friends in coworkers and so the masks go on. We say: everything's, ok, even if were exhausted or depressed or in a painful flare up Even I find myself repeating the same phrase when asked the obligatory non question question: how are you I'm doing well, you it's almost like someone has pulled in
visible string in my back prompting the exact responds were girls of home actually feeling that day. Maybe you find yourself doing the same in just over a clear on that. For spilling your guts out. Whenever someone simply tries to make small talk, there is a time and place for sharing your truth and struggles plus honest It just as bad to respond as someone asking how you are with I'm, so stress retired, the press or angry each and every time. That's not before we interact with the world either. Perhaps you know someone who takes these opportunities to launch into a pity seeking diatribe about their latest symptoms or doctors, appointments or career failures and perhaps reaction to this person only reinforces your smile and fake it till you make it approach, just somebody and ponder, but this blog
is really about allowing yourself to be exactly where you are right now, instead of pretending or putting on a show, does a pervasive oppression in the positivity and spiritual communities that tend to make us feel ostracised for experiencing a depth of painful and sometimes uncomfortable emotions, we experienced pain or fear or despair, and we are told to simply get rid of those feelings and replace them with something shine year in prettier and happier. But the problem is emotions just don't work that way when we stuff down our darkness, we only invite in more anxiety and shame, I bring our already blue moods and blankets of self loathing and embarrassment for those of us on it. Killing adventure, it's hard not to get sucked into the cult of positive thinking, our brains absorb all the equipping facebook posts and motivational quotes, and soon we began to think tat? Our ability to feel a wide range of emotions, both good and bad, might be an unhealthy thing, maybe
should only be feeling warm fuzzy, positive things, then maybe we will finally he'll ourselves know: let's just stop right there, yes, being optimistic in choosing to focus on the lessons and opportunities in all of life. Challenges is good, yeah. I can help you feel better, but you know what place real healing comes from self acceptance when you allow yourself to feel everything fully to sit with each thought and emotion. until you ve seen there every angle, that's when you start to heal when, except yourself as a beautifully flawed human being with both shadow, an light aspects. That's what start to heal. When you allow yourself to be afraid and vulnerable and let love and support into your life. That's when you start to heal you dont he'll. By denying your pain you only he'll when you walk through it. When something is kept invisible. That thing tends to grow stronger right, so stop fighting with you. own truth and allow yourself to admit you're, not
Ok, sometimes you can screaming and your car during rush hour traffic, you can softly site. Get into your tea or sulky yoga Matt, you can say it in therapy or over coffee with your best friend it doesnt matter so much the method. Just like you, allow yourself to be where you are, without judgment, dark thing, live within all of us, not just you all of us can experience, fear pain, desperation loneliness malaise, lots more things that maybe we think we shouldn't be feeling but by denying them or sugar voting them we're only letting them grow and faster until we're sick with self negation. So ask yourself how my really feeling they. What is going well in my life and what are the things that I want to change, whereas making me anxious or depressed or angry, and how can I allow those feelings to just be I've been do some very dark places in my own life, with six years of illness, already passed a recent painful divorcing.
Unexpected move out of my beloved home anchoring career financial pressures. Yes, I think of taste The unique flavour of every emotion on spectrum at this point, a Gus, a tory journey of doubt and fear, freedom and heartbreak pain, an awakening lucky to have a beautiful few people who didn't run away upon seeing my suffering, they simply health, base for me to feel what our feeling in the moment, no judgment. No shame! No frenzied attempts at fixing me I felt safe in that space. To admit I wasn't. Ok. Are you ready to hold that kind of space for yourself, I hope you are, or at least in the time being. I hope you have a beautiful few people of your own who can hold it for you. Just remember everything you're feeling and experiencing is just perfect. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Let yourself exe Or the shadows, as well as planned, the light
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and they get a Melanie. This is important, especially if you listen to this show. Every single day, which is awesome, if you do, I really appreciate it. The blogs I narrate sometimes like she said negative emotions are sort of cast aside in your encouraged to see the good in everything enlighten your mood, potentially I'll. Think the authors I nereids hey that MRS airily, but the world of personal development in general can definitely give their vibe and what Melanie is proposing is important. I really like tat quote you dont he'll. By denying your pain, you only he'll when you walk through it, that's great I consider today thank you for being here listening every day in considering these articles. In my commentary and I'll see you tomorrow over the weekend where optimal life awaits
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