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1753: [Part 1] Why the Best Things in Life Are All Backwards by Mark Manson on Emotional Self-Control

2020-09-28 | 🔗

Mark Manson shares his why the best things in life are all backwards. This is part 1 of 2.

Episode 1753: [Part 1] Why the Best Things in Life Are All Backwards by Mark Manson on Emotional Self-Control

Mark Manson was a full-time professional dating coach for men from 2008 until 2011. Sick of the industry, he wrote his first book, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and changed the name and focus of his business to address broader self-development topics for men. The book took off, selling tens of thousands of copies. As he branched out into deeper issues of masculinity, self-worth, and the changing cultural landscape, the site grew. By 2013, he had begun writing about larger cultural issues — gender relations, happiness, ambition, life purpose, and cultural perspectives he had gathered while living in various countries around the world. Despite the fact that the business was still directed at men, thousands of women began reading and asking for advice as well. That same year, he made the leap to his own site and domain, broadening the demographics of his audience. The site exploded, garnering millions of views each month. Check out his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F--- on his site or Amazon.

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This is optimal living daily episodes. Seventeen fifty three, why the best thing them I've are all backwards, hard won by Mark Manson of our minds and our net and I'm just a moloch, happy Monday, geometry! or have a good, wholly Dave here, observing and welcome to one of the only podcast in the world where blogs are narrated to you for free with permission from the authors Lord winning podcast things to you and a bit of a longer pose sorry. The first have today an unfinished arrest for you to Morrow Dallas get right to it hands optimizing your life, The best things in life are all backwards, part one Mark Manson of Mark Man send on that. There is a part of navies. He'll. Training called drown proving where they bind your hands behind your back tie your fee together, in DUMBO into nine foot de pool. Your job is to survive for five minutes like most
seal training, the vast majority of cadets, who attend drown, proving fail of ambient into the water. Many of them pannikins, rain to be lifted back out some struggling to list upon her water where they proceed to lose consciousness and have to be fished out and resuscitated of the years, a number Trainees have even died during the exercise, but somebody will make it and they do so because they understand to counter intuitive lessens the first lesson of drowned. Proving is paradoxical. The more you struggle to keep your head above, water, the more likely your to sink with your arms and legs bound is impossible to maintain yourself at the surface for the full five minutes Even worse, your limited attempts to keep your body afloat will only come. you don't think faster. The trick to drown proving is to actually lead yourselves sink to the bottom of the pool from there you lightly push yourself off the pool floor and let your momentum carry you back to the surface once there
in grab a quick breath of air and start the whole process over again. Strangely, driving drowned proving requires no superhuman right or insurance. It doesn't require that you know how to swim. On the contrary, it requires the ability to not swim instead of resist, the physics. Tat would normally kill you. You must survive. or to them and use to save your own life, The second lesson of drowned proofing is a bit more obvious, but also paradoxical the more you panic, the more ox then you will burn and the more likely you are to fall on conscious and drown in a sick. twisted way. The exercise turns your survival instinct against you the more intense desire to breathe? The less he'll be well to breathe the moral and your will to live the greater the chance you will die more than a test of physical will drown, proving is a test of each cadets emotional self control in situations of extreme danger, gaining control
zone impulses. Can you relax in the face of potential death. Came willingly risk his life in the service of some a higher value or goal. These skills are far more important than any cadets ability to swim, the more important than his resilience. His physical toughness bores ambition, the more important then how smart he is, what school you went to or how good he looks and Chris Battalion suit the skill the ability to let go of control when one wants it most, is one of the most important skills anyone can develop and not just for seal training for life. most people assume the relationship between effort and reward is want and what we think that were paying twice as long will produce twice results caring about a relationship twice as much will make everyone feel twice as loved tat, young your point twice as loud will make you twice as right. The assumption here is our most of if exists on a linear curve that there's a
one to one ratio between effort and reward with everything. Allow me to inform you as someone who, just try drinking twice the normal amount of red ball. So he could finish editing this thing this, almost never true most of the world does not exist. On a linear curve linearly, Ships only exist for mindless wrote, repetitive Tass, driving a car, filling reams of paperwork, cleaning, the bathroom, etc, and all these case is doing something for two hours will double the output of doing it. For one hour, there, assembly They require no thought or ingenuity activities in life do not right along the linear effort and reward curve, because Mozart, it is in life are not basic, nor mindless, most activities are complex, mentally and were emotionally taxing and require adaptation. Therefore, most however, producer diminishing returns, curve diminishing
Turns means that the more you experience something the less rewarding it becomes. The classic example is money that prince between earning twenty thousand dollars, and forty thousand dollars is huge and life. Changing the difference between a hundred twenty thousand dollars and a hundred forty thousand dollars car has slightly nicer seat heaters. The difference between earning Twenty seven million twenty thousand dollars a hundred only seven million forty thousand dollars Sigelei a rounding air on your tax return. The concept of diminishing returns applies Both experiences are complex and novel. The number of showers you taken a day. The number of wings, you inhales or happy hour. The number of trips, the to visit your mother in a year. These are all experiences that start out highly valuable. At First but then diminish and value the more frequently you do them. Sorry mom. Another example: studies on
productivity show that were really only productive for the first four to five hours of each day. Everything after that suffer severe diminished returns to the point where the debt between working for twelve hours and sixteen hours is basically nothing, not counting sleep deprivation, friendships. our brain on diminishing returns curve. Having friend is vital. Having two's, Billy better than one, but having too Instead of nine changes. Little in your life having twenty one is that of twenty June, Remembering people's names are much more difficult as diminishing returns, as does being sleeping drinking alcohol, working out of the gym, reading books taking vacation hiring employees consuming caffeine, saving for retirement scheme business meetings studying for an exam thing stay a delay to play video games. The examples are endless all give back last, the more you do them.
you try or the more you have all operate. On a diminishing returns curve. But there's another curve, one that you ve probably never seen or heard of before, and this largely because I make a lot of this up here about that into I was episode. So, in part one of the posts titled why the best things in life are all backwards by Mark Man's in mark man send on that. A real, quick thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast anger anchor is the easiest way to make a cast. They'll distribute your podcast for you, so it can be heard everywhere. Spot
by apple, podcast, Google, podcast and many more you can easily make money from your bike ass to with no minimum listener ship aggregates you everything you need in one place for free, which it can use right from your phone or computer creation tools like to record and edit your podcast. So it sounds great download the anchor up or go to anchor dot fm to get started and taking a mark hello that he brought up. Classic, diminishing returns. Example. I think it's taught in economics, but the first time it really sank in for me was when I was getting my mba a random class. How does read the book? Your money or your life, which is a massive favorite amongst personal finance, at the zoo,
the biggest mission, pretty often on our part as optimal finding his daily. But anyway, when I read the book, it may more says to me at that time that the more money we have now is a point where it's a gain in happiness or satisfaction, but to date to the extreme, if you're, a multi billion air, another million really didn't do anything, and possibly has adverse effects, may not seem like it's us, but the different problems arise at a certain level of wealth can have a massive impact, our well being the spy. Why something like half of lottery winners Loser money scheme of things, the more things we have yet as happiness in the beginning, but you reach a certain point where more things just add, chaos and clutter. It's not funny anymore. did mark mention. This is the case for many many things in life, so we'll see what he has to say tomorrow about this other curve that I should do for today. Thank you for being here listening every day and I'll, be back tomorrow to finish up this post or you're off to my life away
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