Cait Flanders shares an excerpt from her book entitled "Opting Out"
Episode 1788: An Excerpt from the book Adventures in Opting Out by Cait Flanders on A Field Guide to Leading an Intentional Life
Cait Flanders started Blonde on a Budget to document her debt repayment journey. After paying it off, she adopted a minimalist lifestyle, tossed 75% of her stuff, and is currently doing a two-year shopping ban. She shares stories and lessons learned every week.
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It's a minimalist Monday edition of optimal living daily episode. Seventeen eighty eight, an exit from the book adventures in opting out by K, Flanders, now just to Molly,
Welcome the optimal living daily or the O elder podcast, where I read to you from some of them,
US articles, I can find with permission from the authors covering personal development or self help minimalism. Anything.
it will help you lead a more meaningful life and add some good thoughts for you every day.
Occasionally I read book excerpts and that's the case today. Key Flanders,
is a friend of the show. I've been lucky enough to meet her and of an Ex
her from her new book adventures and opting out. So let's get right to it.
Sir optimizing your life
an exit from the book adventures in opting out like a Flanders. So what happens if you
don't opt out if you ignore the signs in whispers and continue to believe the stories, I tell you to live a certain way. If you lay your fear,
her outweigh your excitement forever. If you decide not to fall
oh, your curiosity. What happens if you choose to stay on your turn path as I from
living with the pain of ignoring the whispers, which will probably become internal screams. The first and most obvious answer I can give you here
Is that the way you move through this world will essential
stay. The same you will continue to make decision,
in the same way, you have up to this point. You'll do
the way you ve always done them, and I know I said this
earlier, but maybe that's fine, maybe you
could have a fine life. You might even have a good life for
yet a great life, I'm not here to say that opting out is the best way to live. I am saying that it is one way to live. One path.
Choose bacon, absolutely choose to say on the one you're on. If I
on some of my old pass.
Here is where I might be today-
have married one of my ex boyfriends. We might
add two kids together and bought a house in Victoria in state in that city forever. I probably would have kept
Looking for the government, men stayed working there for thirty five years. I could collect my full pension one day, then we would
retired and may be travelled a little bit. We would have gone on tropical,
locations not because we necessarily wanted to, but because that's what our friends did,
when we were home. We could have picked up. Our rank is from school and watch them for our kids. I might have been ok
in another life, I might have bought the condos looking when I was twenty two years old of backing out of it.
Deal at the last minute and might have bought it and lived in it for five or ten years
I probably would have sold it when the real estate market was up made. It he's in profits and use that
put a down payment on my next home or use it to buy an investment property,
maybe real estate would have become my side hustle. Maybe I could have bought one property
He then another than another.
Rented them all out or turn them into urban bees. The thing is safe,
for me to assume that I would have kept my stable government job to be safe, but maybe I
become a real estate investor on the side, rather than a writer. Financially it probably
would have paid off. I'm sharing these hypothetical scenario,
missions with you, because these are too
who scenarios that were painted for me through stories and suggests
from family and friends, men society their great pass for some people, but they were not. For me, one of the most basic principles of personal finance is that everything
is a trade off ass. You have an endless supply of money. You have to choose how you want to spend, save and invest and for every financial choice you
make your also choosing not to spend, save or invest. In other things we can have it all were do it all. We have to make choices.
The same goes for how we live our lives. You can't have it all
or do it all in one lifetime, there is cause to staying on one path, especially if it doesn't feel
like the one you should be on theirs,
the cost to walking
the unknown. The real question is: what price are you willing to pay? If I stated my current,
here is what I could miss out on Miss likely there
I won't settle down somewhere or won't use.
ways to settle in until I'm entering my more senior years. If I'm lucky enough to see them for that,
reason alone, I mean it.
her own home now, probably
get married or have kids, which means I may never get to experience what it means to be a wife or mom
These outcomes were once decisions. I was scared to make. So
I didn't even know I was allowed to make, but I was
MR assumed I would get married and have kids.
then one day I realized, I had a choice. I could
used to get married or not get married like a choose,
kids or not have kids I can choose which pass I went out as of right now.
I don't wanna go down those two pats and those decisions or intentional there is a purpose, bind each one.
Absolutely open to the idea of having a partner for life, but I am not at all
sitting getting legally married. Unless we are from different countries, I would help us be together. As for kids, not rather Bianti, Kate
for there are trade offs and I'm willing to pay the price, so it could be said
I'm going to miss out, or I can be grateful for the life I will get to live now choose to be grateful. A big fan of shells trades work
particularly her old, dear sugar column and later podcast of the same name. My favorite was hers
bonds to a man who called himself on
decided rode into explained that he wasn't sure. If he wanted to have kids or not, we could see himself
Happy me their way. He sure that his
the ideas of what both paths might look like in yeah sure
how one might decide on how to not make
decision. You will regret the entire column called a ghost ship that incurious, which is brilliant
can be summed up in her clothing, paragraph club,
I'll never know, and neither will you of the life you don't choose
will only know that, whatever that sister life was, it was important and beautiful and not ours. It was to go ship that in carry us,
There- is nothing to do but salute it from the shore.
you just listen to an excerpt from the book. Adventures
opting out by Gay Flanders, a real, quick thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast anchor is the easiest way to make a pie. They'll distribute your your podcast for you, so it can be heard everywhere. Spotify Apple, podcast, Google, podcast and many more. You can easily make money from your broadcast to with no minimum listener. Ship anger gives you everything you need in one place for free, which it can use right from your phone or computer creation tools, lighter, recording, Eddie, you're podcast, so it sounds great download the anchor
or go to anchor dot fm to get started. Thinking to Kate, the book came out only around six weeks ago, in the U S also available in the UK and coming to Australia December first, we could find it at Kate, Flanders, dot com, also at Barnes and noble and Amazon, of course, its highly rated there a great expert because She'S- not here,
Bush anything onto you, and I hope that when I read minimalism content for you most often on Mondays that its also not feeling pushed on you or any of these posts for that matter is I'll, basically defeat. The whole purpose of this pod gas, which is a curator of so many different voices where you can hear different sides, personal stories and anecdotes, some of which may seem strange bizarre, but others might
like home. It's up to you to decide and choose which ultimately, better your life and end up being the shit that you want to be on such issues as ship wisely. With the information you take in
and I'm sure you'll be on the right. One and I'll see you on that ship tomorrow, where optimal life awaits
Transcript generated on 2020-11-02.