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248: 7 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People - Part 2 by Marc Chernoff of MarcAndAngel.com

2016-08-15 | 🔗

Marc and Angel Chernoff are professional coaches, full-time students of life, admirers of the human spirit, and have been recognized by Forbes as having “one of the most popular personal development blogs.” Through their blog, book, course and coaching, they’ve spent the past decade writing about and teaching proven strategies for finding lasting happiness, success, love and peace. The site has attracted over 100 million page views and 100 thousand subscribers since its inception in 2006. Their first book, “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently“ is a focused collection of short, concise tips and reflections on the little things that make a huge difference in our daily lives. It’s available online at: marcandangel.com/book and on Amazon.

Episode 248: 7 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People - Part 2 by Marc Chernoff of MarcAndAngel.com (Finding Better Relationships).

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get ready to maximize your potential with optimal living daily supply gas that brings you the best in personal development and productivity every day of the week your optimal life awaits now here's your host justin moloch live off the miser look at two optimal living daily gas blog hast audio blog occasional audio book who i read the best content i can find out we optimize your life with author permission today's outcome can posts from yesterday nor edu minimal monday's but ever great article four mark an angel that's a little alongside server the first part yesterday and am wrapping up today is about dealing with negative or toxic people which is a common struggle i hear from you saw one to share with you and on that note let's finish up this post and continue optimizing your life
seven smart ways to deal with toxic people apart to buy marcia off a marketing goal dot com number four put your foot down your dignity may be attacked ravaged and disgracefully marked but never be taken away unless he willingly surrender it it's all about find the strength then you're boundaries demonstrate it won't be insulted or belittled to be honest i've never had much luck china call truly toxic people the worst of the worst out when they ve continuously insulted me the best response i received is a snark iii i'm sorry you took what i says personally much more effective has been any conversations with sickening sweetness or just plain abruptness the message is clear there is no rule four subtle day eggs and no games we played a your and truly toxic people will loot everyone around them including you if you allow them if you try me with them and they aren't bulging don't hesitate to vague
their space and ignore them until they do number five don't take the taxi behaviour personally its them not you know this toxic people were tried imply that somehow you ve done something wrong and because the feeling guilty but it is quite large on many of us even the temple asian that we might have done something wrong can hurt our confidence and unsettle our resolve dont let this happen to you remember there a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally most hawksley people before negatively not just to you but everyone they interact with either situations he is personal even if you feel directly insulted easy has nothing to do with you what they say and do in the opinions they have are based entirely on their own self reflection angel and discuss this in more detail in the relationships chapter of one thousand little things happy successful people do differently number six practice practical
compassion sometimes it makes sense to be sympathetic would talk to people whom you know are going through a difficult time or those were suffering from an illness there's no question about it some toxic people are generally distressed depressed or even mentally or physically ill but still need a separate their legitimate issues from how they behave towards you if you let people get away with anything because as they are distressed facing a medical condition or depressed even then you are making a two tempting them to start unconsciously using their unfortunate circumstances as a means to an end several years ago i volunteered at a psychiatric hospital for children i meant a boy there name dennis diagnose bipolar disorder patient dennis was a handful some times and what off and shout obscenities at others when he experienced one of his episodes but no one ever challenge his outbursts and neither had i up to this point after all he's clinically quote unquote crazy and can't the right one day i took dennis to a local part to play catch an hour into our little fields
dennis aired war episodes of being calling me profane names bonuses ignoring his remarks i said stop going in calling me names i know you're nice sin and much better than that his jaw literally dropped dennis looks done and then in a matter of seconds he collected himself replied i'm sorry i was mean mister mark the lesson here you can't help someone by making unwarranted pardons for everything they do simply because they have problems there are plenty people who are going through extreme hardships who are not toxic everyone around them we can only act with james compassion when we set boundaries making too many gardens and allowances is not healthy or practical for anyone in the long term number seven take time for yourself if you are forced to live or work with it toxic person then make sure you enough alone time to relax rest and recuperate having to play the role of a focused rational adult in the face of toxic moodiness can be exhausting if you're not careful the toxicity can in fact you
again understand that even people with legitimate problems and clinical illnesses can still copper and that you have needs as well which means you can politely excuse yourself when you need to you deserve this time away you deserve to think peacefully free from external pressure and toxic behaviour no problems to solve of boundaries up holes or personalities to please sometimes you need to make i am for yourself away from the busy well do you live in that doesn't make time for you he just as in part two of them titled seven smart ways to deal with toxic people by mark share an offer an angel dark harm he measured go to the post so if you like mark and angels content you'll probably enjoy their book to is called one thousand little things happy successful people do differently and can find it at mark and angel dot com here we if you want to help keep his podcast alive and well is losing money every single month so i put up a page of old podcast outcome with many different
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