This is optimal, living daily episode, four hundred and seventeen how to find him. I should in your most difficult moments, while on him or with go live is com and I'm just a moloch, welcome back or a welcome for the first time. If you knew here is where region Every single day to help you live a more meaningful life covering personal developments. Product free and minimalism, mostly from some of the best blog as he can find and without permission. Otherwise, I would be. Copyright infringement and thank you so much a fresh books for helping out and keeping this pike S run if you're, a small business owner or freelancer. You got a trail fresh books there in voicing time tracking expense tracking. All of that fresh with It's it really easy to do all of those things you try it out for free for a month Credit card require just come by fresh bookstore com, slash living and let them know that I sent you, but for now get right to the post and start optimizing. Your life how to find compassion in your most people.

A moment's by Lonnie Miller with go live, Zander COM. Six years ago I was a story. I medical student, just starting along power to becoming a doctor and psychiatrist focused On the basics of biology and anatomy, learning their compassion, beside a medicine was limited to seminars on topics like how to communicate effectively and connect with patience and all it's so nice and easy well said he in a classroom talking about theory dynamic thirty or else thrust into the rule reality of the hospital? I worked long hours up to thirty plus our shifts had few days off and was always exhausted, and sleep deprived, the environment was about. As far as you can get from a compassion, cold have any experience. I will burned out, instead of feeling kind, since empathy toward my patience, I often felt frustrated, irritable and even angry Why were they saw needy in demanding by really coming to hospital again and again with the same problems and not taking care of themselves. Why really?

having my energy and taking up all my time, starting psychotic. Residency, two years later felt like more of the same more long hours, more exertion, more frustration, in toward my most difficult Asians over the following year. So I realize experience gave me an important opportunity. The chance to practise compassion through difficulty is is it to be empathetic when you're happy well rested and when the person you're interacting with, is just like you, but the deepest and most meaningful progress comes from practising compassion when things aren't easy and when the people around, you are equally exhausted, afraid, unsure and clothes off, even small acts of I must go a long way. So how each inside and pull out compassion, when is the farthest thing from your mind, number one treat yourself compassionately. Too often think compassion means how you are towards others, but the truth is that compassion starts with yourself

only when you treat yourself Kiley. Can you gather the strength to be kind to others? In retrospect, his surprise they had trouble being compassionate or my patience. When I was so rigid and inflexible with myself, EL, the weight of numerous responsibilities on my shoulders and put fulfilling all my obligations above treating myself and others. Kindly my wish come I myself sly again and been more forgiving. When I can fulfil all my responsibilities perfectly imagine that passion you want two fields where others and first to write those same feelings toward yourself. Compassion towards your own struggles will open your heart to others. Number two remember your interconnectedness with all beings when you're having difficulty, in patient or a kind towards someone on some. Well. You may feel that each of your goals are in conflict. There need for attention complex with your need for space, their desire to vent or complain, conflicts with your values of self sufficiency or putting yourself up by the booze traps.

Need, firstly, to three a m conflict with their need to see us I address emergency room in my case, the thing is we not all as conflicted as it may seem in those moments, the fear uncertainties and frustrations, we feel are universal. You are not alone in whatever difficulty you're goin through imaginable. You are dealing with as a scared and frying child. How you feeling They concern and empathy for them. How you'd be compare to reach out and help. We should connect with this basic nature whenever possible, number three develop an unconditional positive regard for

others. A few years ago a therapist told me her shadow. She she cultivated and unconditional positive regard for clients, the matter how many negative or damaging qualities a person had she told herself to focus on their good qualities. My dad, who has a psychiatrist, put a similarly everyone has something good about them. If we focus on other people's negative or frustrating quality, is the old, DR yourself crazy and have a very difficult time connecting with them said, teachers have to keep an overall positive impression of others and keep their negative qualities in a larger context of their complex good. Their nature, with his prospects, if you'll be in a much better position to feel compassion for them and therefore help them in a meaningful way and before Amber the harmony in compassion, compassion, sometimes misunderstood as sacrificing yourself in giving everyone else what they want all the time. But it is not compassion means

acting from a balanced perspective in his book. The wise hearts Buddhist psychologist, shy, cornfield rise, quote: compassion is not foolish. It doesn't just go along with what others want, so they don't feel that there is a yes in common and there is also no said with the same courage of heart: no to abuse, But to racism note of violence, both personal and worldwide, said not out of hates, but out of an unwavering care. On quote, we are struggling with being too, passionate and a difficult moment it may be. Does he want to say yes to someone when you really should be say no, not just for yourself, but for what is best for the other person, some times? It is ok to say no and in fact the truly compassionate thing to do. Number five take a break if you need one with a represent give compassion can be limitless. You don't run out of it or use it up but when you are in the midst of a difficult moment, whether it is mental, emotional or physical exertion,

You may not have the resources to give yourself to others is ok to take. I want to be alone or focus on yourself and will prevent you from out of anger or frustration. When you're feeling drained has progressed, my psychiatry, residency I'll, be into internal as these lessons more and more his creating rigid expectations for how I should perform an act. I let there be a lioness inflexibility to my work, My search understand my difficulties in the context of the extremely rigorous and exhausting schedule of being a resident and realize I needed to take care of myself before I could take care of others instead of focusing. Doing something in particular. I focus on seeing the connected. The people around me compassion, sorry to flow naturally without effort, I saw that I was a small part of a greater interconnected context of all people and understood that compassion has to apply equally to all of us

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