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abbots, a site that time magazine named as one of the best blogs in the world millions of readers rightfully, so he would. Let's hear today's post as we optimize your life, the face everything technique: viable in difficulties doesn't work by LEO about half of them. How done that? We are all of us using at avoiding things. Our minds are less thinking machines than they are avoiding machines and the incredible thing is, we aren't even usually aware that were avoiding thinking about something I'll give you a few examples. I now you're hearing this article, but probably avoiding the difficult thing you don't want to think about. We are constantly checking messages. News feeds, notifications to have we're doing something we don't want to face when we're facing because he's in life, we try to tell ourselves that it's ok because shown the blank or

it busy with some activity or numbing agent like alcohol. So you don't have to face the difficulties. One up, I'm comes up. Our reaction is to want to go. Do something else put it off. We put up paying bills doing taxes, dealing with long emails dealing with clutter beauty, dont want to face these difficulties. We put off exercise because its uncomfortable In fact, there are thousands more examples every day that come up and that we don't even notice, because our minds switch to thinking about something else. Try this right now pause for a minute and think about what typical the euro voiding thinking about right now. You'll either notice a difficulty you dont like or Europe. I will quickly turn doing something else before the minute is up. What you ve done is part of what I call the face: everything technique, which all explained in a minute after you talk about why avoiding everything is an ineffective strategy. Avoidance doesn't work our minds want to run from whatever discomfort, pain or difficulty were facing, and this is a good strategy

her temporarily, not having to deal with difficulty and pain. So the present moment we might feel some temporary relief, but what it does is relegated to a life of running a life of distress, action and never facing whales? Us we keep our cells busy, but never learned deal with. What's inside us what's in front of us, this means We are at the mercy of our fears of our discomfort. We are like Children who don't wanna do any hard work, but want the late, Shiny Fund day. This result, not working on the important work or at least putting it up until a star scare painful. The same is true, exercise, healthy eating finances, clutter relationships and more in the end. We usually have to deal with these things, but they just got worse. There would have been better to. Some early on when they were such a big deal. The face everything technique does that because, based on the idea, that is better to be aware of things and to deal with them like an adult instead of running and if we do none of its that big of a deal, here's our works number one,

create awareness by asking. What am I doing right now throughout A cent reminders or pollution knows there are mighty to ask what By doing right now the answer may be checking Facebook or switching to a new browser tab or eating so chips. Something simple, a mundane like that, but just ask yourself what you're doing to start to bring awareness number two next ask yourself: what am I avoiding when things get it? or uncomfortable we automatically switched to something else. We run. We avoid like crazy, You're doing all day long, but not realizing it, ask what your avoiding some fear some difficult task, some difficult emotion, some discussion or just staying present in the current moment. Name. What your avoiding number three now face. It just stay with this fear, discomfort or difficulty

in the present moment now your story about it. They you're telling yourself in your head, but the actual physical feeling in your body in the present moment. How bad is it you find that it's no big deal stay with it for a little longer and a little longer after that challenge yourself number four take appropriate action. Now, though, you faced it and have seen that is not such a big deal you can act like an adult rather than a little child. You can decide what the best action is right now, if you're afraid of doing some task you faced in and seeing that the fears not such a big deal he can remind yourself that the task will benefit you and others and is much more important then your little fear. If your voting a conversation with someone because you're angry, you can see that the anger, and is not such a big deal, and he had talked to the person calmly and appropriately with empathy and compassion and figure out a solution.

Of course, not all problems will just evaporate using this method, but I can tell you that you'll be able to face many more things as you practice, this method you'll get better at dealing with his comfort instead of running from it. As most people. Do you get better at procrastinating, undoing, uncomfortable tasks, you'll be more press what's a more willing to say in the moment, rather than eating distractions, all the time not overnight, but with practice. You might have to dismisses article to avoid practising this technique. That, too, is avoidance, and I urge you to face it this moment You just listen to the post office everything technique, while avoiding difficulties, doesn't work by law. About us and has done that. But give us any really sure for you for all things to support this podcast or contact me or enjoy my free book raffles and next ones, just in a couple of days actually come by old podcast. I come in. You so much for being here have a great Saturday, and only by tomorrow, with the post from corn,

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