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678: One Hard Thing You Must Start Doing (To Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy) - Part 1 by Marc Chernoff of Marc and Angel

2017-10-19 | 🔗

Marc Chernoff of Marc and Angel Hack Life shares the one thing you must start doing to stop being your own worst enemy. This is Part 1 of 2.

Episode 678: One Hard Thing You Must Start Doing (To Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy) - Part 1 by Marc Chernoff of Marc and Angel.

Marc and Angel Chernoff are professional coaches, full-time students of life, admirers of the human spirit, and have been recognized by Forbes as having “one of the most popular personal development blogs.” Through their blog, book, course and coaching, they’ve spent the past decade writing about and teaching proven strategies for finding lasting happiness, success, love and peace. The site has attracted over 100 million page views and 100 thousand subscribers since its inception in 2006. Their first book, “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently“ is a focused collection of short, concise tips and reflections on the little things that make a huge difference in our daily lives. It’s available online at: marcandangel.com/book and on Amazon.

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this poses a bit long sorry the first have today and then the rest tomorrow so if you're right to it as we optimize your life one more thing you must be doing to stop being your own worst enemy part one by march or not mark an angel dar come a petty light again jamaican woman sits with her husband in a crowded beef site ice cream shop in miami although she doesn't speak loud play or occupy much space in the room people notice her her hair is long flowing in black like a windy night her lips are soft and read like rose petals her curves or subtle yet they dip in banned in all the right places her skin a smooth brown maple cream and her clothes are modest accentuating everything while exposing nothing at all knows whether looking at her it's because of no wife she says he's because we're interracial cup
and i dont understand why you're with me her husband grounds and closed his eyes there's nothing you can say they already had this conversation a hundred times before he thrust his fingers through his hair and frustration and watches as chocolate ice cream beans to melt three tables over to latino college college kids either ice cream johnson check out the scene as usual they're not impressed the women around here are two old too young to overweight well look at her the pebble faced one says as he nodded his head towards jamaican woman the prematurely ball one turns around to look oh yes must be a model he replies way out of our league but i don't think i should have to explain why this is painful for me the jamaican woman continues the media for trays white blonde females as the essence of beauty and perfection my color is the genetic defect a chubby
asian girl about twelve years old naively stairs as jamaican woman while sitting arup your float small tears trimmed down her face daddy why can i be ass pretty ass her she asked her father it doesn't matter if your physical faithful to me did you make an woman says to her husband because with all these issues whence his surrounding you you're probably internalizing your deep desires for genetically endowed female companion and kills me don't you understand please the honey are you ready to go home whereas the reply softly she hasn't taken a single i'd ever brownie sunday and all the ice cream has already melted she size and stands up weekly through he well dressed white women in their early thirties talk cheerfully and sipped diet coke at a table near the door there all childhood friends at a local orphanage when there eventually placed indifferent foster homes they lost contact with each other this special reunion is your first time together in
whilst twenty years did you see those three women by the door the jamaican woman asks her husband ass they walked to their car while they like don't even appreciate easy their life has been widespread feelings of inadequacy they might seem a bit ironic or perhaps even downright bold that a white man what right a story about a beautiful jamaican woman who was heartbroken and tormented inside by herself image was really that ironic or bold at all that you make an woman is a dear friend of mine and she asked me to share a piece of her story with you today last she called me in tears and open up about how she desperately struggles with her enter demons she told me she was unfairly judged and disrespected in the distance ass though she is now allowing those past experiences two hundred daily i've lost my inner compass she said
i hold on tightly to the shallow opinions of time or characters in my pass that don't deserve any piece of me and i'll let their judgments become my own more often than not i'm the one judging myself these days this is how i think this is how i live in a constant mental state of inadequacy i am now my own worst enemy and it's driving me and my husband crazy and then for the course of nearly two hours through interment moments of silence and sobbing she described that heartbreaking scene in the ice cream shop now there are admittedly many ways to dissect my friend story but i want you to think for a moment about our feelings of inadequacy relate to you in your life truth be told all of us to greater or lesser extent suffer in precisely the way my friend does there isn't a person among us who doesn't have insecurities some of us are just better at coping with them or perhaps hiding them we worry about what other people think of us we were
about our appearance we worry if she'll like us we worry he likes that other woman we were if that were not accomplishing all that we should be we worry that will fall flat on our faces we worry that were not enough just the way we are and of course we worry our all those foolish thoughtless someone once said about us and social media with its culture of getting us to see costs and approval with virtual likes and hearts with his endless highlight real perfect bodies and epic travels it only intensifies the problem think about it how often has a lack of self confidence or a feeling of inadequacy stopped eu or someone you love out yes tat for many feelings of inadequacy have stopped us from stepping into new social situations where we might make new friends new professional connections or proxy meet the love of our lives being confident more communicating with people changing job starting a business writing a book purchasing our art or put
a good ideas out into the world sticking to help the daily rituals like eating well exercising because we failed in the past proof that it can't be done right learning something new and amazing like a new hobby your skill because of learning then we might humiliate ourselves have experienced all of that and then some in fact at an early age when i was just a freshman in high school and struggling to find my way someone anonymously certain no into my locker one afternoon it said quote don't let them get inside your head you not boring pretty or weird your complex creative and far too short for their small words and for the record you are also infinitely more attractive than you give yourself credit for on poor although in every scabbard who wrote the note i still sitting in my desk shore to this day and i read it sometimes when i need a reminder last night i did my best to convey similar reminder to my friend
you wanted to know more how do i actually overcome my insecurities she asked how do i finally begin okay with myself again the answer i gave was somewhat simple but far from easy here that in tomorrow's episode some of our one of the post titled one hard thing you must her doing too being your own worst enemy by mark sure enough mark an angel dot com elfish for for you tomorrow have been lucky enough to have some sponsors lately will spare you from any promotional content of a grey restaurateurs if you listening a real time i'll see you in the friday show tomorrow we will finish up there
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