You guys! This is the 100th episode of the Rise Podcast! In order to celebrate 100 episodes, we thought it would be fun to revisit some of my favorite moments from the podcast’s history. I hope that if you’re new to the program you get a taste of what’s available in our archives and I hope that if you’ve been with us, that you get to hear some of your favorites from the last several years.
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John Maxwell - EP. 82
Kelly LaVeque - EP.
Joe Biden - EP. 83
Jenna Bush Hager & Barbara Pierce Bush - EP. 71
Girl, Wash Your Face Excerpt - EP. 56
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I just kept thinking of that quo, be the change that you want to see in the world. I think so.
through our lives and we're like I wish like white. Isn't this success or why doesn't someone
with the homeless in my community or white? Isn't someone do that thing or and always
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therefore reason. I think, honestly, that that is your creator, that is, God nudging you in the direction that you're supposed to head. So
for me? That was the rise podcast and I had
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never dream interview.
For me, I had written this down in my journal unhoped for this for years, and that was the opportunity to interview John Maxwell. He has
and a long time now
tor and hero of mine, and the fact that I-
to know him in real life and get to bring this conversation to. You was one
My proudest moments in my career.
in this episode, we talked about how important it is to reach for growth.
The only guarantee
that you and I are any of the listeners we have today. Rachel doing here,
that we have that tomorrow's gonna get better. If it were growing today-
They soon a guarantee, in other words,
today preparing my future
by what I'm doing it, and I tell people every day every day, you're either preparing or repairing you you're here either
either Rachel you're trying to fix yesterday go back so crap. I wish I would have done that I've gotta go fix that you don't say were were either were eight were either living today.
Perry said that we did yesterday or because
following learning and growing preparing improving our preparing for are set,
for tomorrow, is being that right now.
is being down right now. That's why my mentor John, would
which say make every day your masterpiece and it was a part
full statement, and it taught me that you ve got to make them
very best use of today. So when I think of
fifteen laws or growth. It allows people to
have a game plan to understand what those laws are begin to practice those laws within within their life and my
I was changed
tremendously at twenty five, when her cat, my breakfast
the holiday in Lancashire. Highest asked me what my plan for growth was, and I didn't have a plan for
In fact, I Rachel, I don't even know it,
we have a plan for I am I don't know I in fact, when
asked with that question. I, of course I I told my didn't, have one at that truly married.
to my mind and end products
six months. I ask all my friends give a plan, a plan for growth, a plan for growth, demographic growth,
I never had one friend said they have won and,
and it began to hit me.
That the reason that we are not getting better is because,
you have to be intentional in your growth. Growth is not automatic, it doesn't come getting
order. That's automatic die. That's automatically to read a book on death. You know just one day you stop breathing it's over. So there's a lot of stuff, thraldom attic, but everything that is
automatic. Rachel is downhill. You can post on automatic, but
Everything worthwhile is uphill
to be uphill. You have to be intentional.
And so therefore it just it was like
life changing me when I realized I
to help people become intentional in the area of personal growth, because
their assuming that, because they go to work because they get back up because they are
Everyday living with their family are living community life and whatever their assuming that they're, just getting by
or because they live and you dont get better because you live. I know a lot of people they're getting older, but they're not getting better yeah. Why
last start on that I had so I
started growing. I got a plan for intentional growth at twenty six, ok,
every day. I work this plan and I develop in my life
and four years, I'm teaching leadership, Amnon for leadership, etc.
But what's really happening is all
books. I'm writing are a result, not
teaching leadership, the result of a growing and learning and improving and changing, and so thirty years later thirty
later, all of a sudden I wake up
Fifteen in the morning
and I just say, I've got to run
on the laws of growth.
I've been doing this and I'm not teaching people how to do it, and there are basic laws that, if you just
Are you start growing, and I put my
robot, and I went down to my
home office- and I start
writing down what I thought would be, these laws of growth
by new my gosh. What eight nine
Hours later by noon, I had the law
your growth outline already dead,
And then I wrote a book and now
how about a million people later, they read that book or whenever now, maybe more, but but but with date.
he'll come back and say John. That book changed my life,
because now I know how to personally develop myself any one more thought when without delay,
you develop growth capacity is by growing.
It's just like going to the gym with muscles and and and physical fitness.
and so I am seventy one today, Rachel and my capacity
grow is ridiculously off the charger
use your phrase: it stinkin great it really it's it's up the charts, I'm seventy one, I'm thinking I should not
as exciting as I am at this age. I I oughta be somehow located on the down turner or or kind of you know, tat. You
they can't nobody and I'm not I'm just
excited and in that my companies are grown veteran and I'm just I've
getting more ideas and it's all because it's all because I devote too
and is growth capacity, and so every
I am able to apply when I'm learning and
and pass on to others and be a benefit, hopefully a blessing, invite other people and soap growth. Purse
growth and development has
intentional, but I
it is the greatest pay off. You will have tomorrow
pay off you will have tomorrow is a Jew, intensely grow today.
This episode, I got to interview one of my dear friends, Chris Chandler. We talk
about the importance of connecting with yourself and also connecting with your body through physical movement. Chris
believes, like I do that, if you can
change your body. If you can change your physical state, you can change your emotional state and we talk.
How important that is in this episode of
I've been teaching so cycle for almost four years now and
like there is definitely been trial periods of like what works and what does it but
common denominator. Like I said before is like. Are you
acting with the person in front of you and you
Zack matters and like is your class challenging enough is logged. You create a space where people feel welcome, but the connection
is what matters and p
I want to see,
They want to see something to look up to, but at the same time they want to see humanity so
in terms of like people that have their own business. I think of this is like the
between online and retail,
the reason why I would go to a retail store is because I would want
that human interaction experience where someone's there to help me right then and there and if they are not connected or in tune with the mission, are goal. The business
I will leave a store because, unlike
to go online and return it to do that and so like,
but could write a bike at home people could
bike outside, but what would
Make them wants
experience. Something is the connect.
they have with either themselves or the people around them or with me. I guess: how do you, sons, where none o none of that rail? How do you get
because I assume that you are better too.
should anywhere a year ago or two hours, so one of the things that you are doing. I'm sure, though, the company work for has some tree
but are there things that you do to make sure that you're
proving and not staying stagnant as a teacher ya,
you could easily phone it in and like do.
the same flow of playlist, meaning like
People will know how your class is structured. I try to keep
that said that every single time they show up
still the soul cycle experience, but the way they feel will be different or
what we do in class is expert
mental in terms of the
the quality of the work out,
I try to make sure that, like I am personally
learning and growing myself and adding more education into my life, which is another,
part of what I want to do and to us? I think we would be surprised to understand like the thing
that happened upon the bike, meaning I've done classes for I've just like broken
Bali, like the hat, you know
when a great time dancing like people really work through work through, and why is that? As the physicality of having the possibility is the bridge and the noise axiomatic? That's a key to a good instructor. If they don't
I could music or if they don't like the kind of music you like, when you got a viable, got a vibe Phillip, half your playlists. Unlike are you really my diary,
but when I believe kind of that orientations that happened in establishing, like I am now in practice,
before I go into class sang
What I know about myself is true, and I think this summer
that, like you, do in your journals of like guess I am this year. I am this. This is what I want fanatic and running into the present tenants, yeah and so right now. The four things that I have been writing is I'm joyful.
I'm inspiring, I'm
Bridge builder, and I me, and
that unopposed now and then I was
but a blank posted now to the other side of it
bored it's on my computer and I haven't blanks because I can take them
and then be open to what is going to happen in the room yeah and whenever I look over. Even if I can't
because it's dark, I know
asking the other days like what is your main goal,
In what you do, and
we're like building my website and stuff like that, and I like I want people to
and neck with themselves. So much so.
They feel like they can see themselves another person and then connect with them say that said unpack that like owing to understand that boy,
I think in this day and age, wherever things go, go go more!
from the world like grip at your attention, where there's
all different things vying for a little,
if we you are that we are so desperate to connect
only when we have that depletion of not connecting with ourselves, we dont connect with other people do that makes
yeah a dead. How one of the things that you do I
f, I eminent cheese boxes were drunken about it, but I think I get that initial cycle class run like that is. This sounds I'm so cheesy and people are one hundred percent like this one noisome people,
and I dont citizen and disrespectful way. But it is. It is a spiritual experience. It is it. Is it it's? What
We want it to be really it's gonna take over its fun or at a party, but for me I always feel like its forty five at forty five minutes of prayer were said to be answered,
on track, of course, which you, who is really what I love you. I love. You, too, is permission, that's incredible and
I mean when you think about it, it's in a dark room.
is moving your body in a way that your uncomfortable with on a bike and like yours
mobile and expose, and there is no other option but to connect with yourself and then,
it's my job to
security, and an energy in a room where people not necessarily feel comfortable
connecting people. Because connections are comfortable but feel like they have the ability to comment.
I mean there's people on every different spectrum of it, that our alike have been body, builders or women, body, builders or
people that come into the room, super shy and have specific weight loss calls, and
thing about. It is, is
as they keep coming back as they keep
trusting themselves all a bit more. It become
less about the way and more about
like we said, the how they want to feel and how they feel afterwards, and they know that when they commit to themselves when they care about the space for them to move their bodies, that they find more clarity in their life. That
away from an obsession of this, is
what size I need to be. This is what I need to this
the number any decision scale and.
it's pretty magnificent. What happens when people cross the bridge between this is why
I think should happen, and then this is where I am, and this is how I want to feel yeah, because if you like, this is where I am, and this is a number that I wanna hit your
he's gonna, ask for more.
might lead you down a path that, like the airlock
people would find trouble with absolutely. But if how I want to feel
is a sensation that you're, after all,
a mentality that you're going for
You know what it's gonna take to get there get there and you can get there any day that we are beautiful and it becomes more of a practice
tat of a.
even when I caught a goal, laugh because I can't remember the last time that I weighed myself and I used to struggle a lot that, with
my own body image and wait and stuff like that, and especially in the gay community like nowadays, it's hard yeah, look, meaning like having the perfect body having the hermit hardy yeah. All that and so
I think, when we move away from an ideal that we think is what we're supposed to be into how we want to feel doubts when, like the magic, yes yeah of like you, it's like getting wet
a toxic relationship with someone. You recognise that you should have been out of our relationship with yes, like
weeks months years. Yes,
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is from one of the most popular interviews I have ever done it
still a strong container for best of all time, and that was a talk I had with mine
trickiness Kelly Lubeck. We discussed all
things about body and food and indeed
particular conversation I asked her
should. I ask everybody at the time the
eyes: podcast was actually called Deus in the old days. Days was a platform
that people would stand on to speak, and so my question
for her was a good one and her answer was
and better I always get up and go to like brew the coffee and when I'm
waiting for the coffee to brew airport, they glass of water- and I take my supplements-
drinking water kind of like real
I'll- bring my coffee have a moment with my husband. That's like a really special time: brass where're, we I have a cup of coffee is almost like
Well, verbal eyes, my goals year,
to do less or my goals are what's going on and it
probably a little bit of a bad habit. But I will make sure that I don't have any fire jewels and my computer on my phone and then I'll go live. So I like
work out first thing in the morning I used to like it
working out at night, but now I keep me up here.
And I also know the research. There is a fast and work out. So
you know I don't have my smoothie until after my work out, but a fast and work out of either coffee or allow PETE my clients to use that, because that doesn't ever break
the blood sugar, it doesnt release, insulin, there's knowst, you know,
doesn't shut down fat burning. It can act
may be a source of energy if your using cocoanut oil, those entities become fast fuel in your body. My coffee is like a cup of hot coffee
whenever the tablespoon of cocoanut oil. It's a weekend. I might doable
appear for the little king, but most their time, it's just the cocoanut oil are empty tee. Well,
and when I go to work out, so I love yoga, I'm getting
the body by Sloan right now, it's like a little dance work out, but my play soccer. So I'm
However, it would be totally out of here, like I it's I'm ridiculous, a horrible at it, but it's really find that kind. Arrest me like fifth grade when I would like to dance performs is my little sister, Nagoya and our garage. That's funny. You're, just look for the staff, the tapie setting
classes, but I take urban Jaska flow, my pretty hard, I,
really open when I do that, it makes me really happy if I don't have time or under assault cycle passenger forty five minutes, then the always guarantee
to get that in and done
I have is me: Thou depends on it
but I feel up after I work out just because they get a surge of you.
growth hormone into the helps to burn away fat you're, not
you know you're not burning the fuel that you just eight you're, really burning into your body, which I think is a
think I know- is a cleaner form of fuel and Israel
a grave Rio metabolic way. You know you watch
so many clients that are the same? You walk through the airplane. You like going on adults and really I'm not like, and everything that they have is like a casket size bag of nuts.
And so you're, like all just being to help rejoicing at the almonds. But, like you said down till I fourteen servings in
yup, you land in New York and you're, like I feel sick
Hurricane servings of almonds- and I watched you movies like no one was productive. Yes,
I would say that that really helps to kind of like call my hunger, and so I would say, food
Well, I'm travelling like I pack, my own food, whether that's a bullet proof,
bar, which they have these little protein bar. Is that our actual proof?
Mars, not carbohydrate buyers, prime,
kitchen does as well, which is more like a nutty bar like a kind bar Bush
Also like good protein goods, arson ads
Am I pack a bag of nuts,
think about going on an airplane. I pack always pack dropped. Veggie is like.
Do that on my way home, but job cucumber, salary, carrots, red pepper, like all just do a big bag of it. Because the thing
with travel, is this really stressful and stress is gonna? Make you crave, carbohydrates can make crape sugar is gonna. Make me want to sack, and so on.
On the flight days, the goal, as always to have a real meal before you go or if you can bring real meal likes hit. The salad bar hope is
where you go or make an accelerator Tunis alligator
salmon salad at home, like you can bring
with you. Obviously they would take it if it was your smoothly, eggins liquid fuel at before,
You go and then realize that ok, I've I've got a little bag nights. I pack of my little bag of edges and I need a bridge not because I have a five hour flight and it's just really stressful and I don't want to end up saying yes to the.
walking down the aisle with whatever she has a Pringles,
because I think about it. Like I mean, I get a lot of really good work done on an airplane, fifty five percent of it
I'm an those work days like when I'm fine opposed to Kurdistan?
when I'm on it's amazing. But when I'm not it's like all the wheel,
the fallen, so I think being prepared for the wheels falling off and how
a parachute or whatever is really important time, we ve been doing practising yoga when a young terminology practising younger. So I went to a play.
studio called my high yoga in two thousand and two when
I was a sophomore.
let's see we were from downtown to Brentwood,
and go because it was real
Fine and really, for there were great flow, is Twitter name Steve.
He wrote a book called happy yoga. You would play.
September leg in beyond, say in at the time like Britney spears or whatever, and everyone
singing and everyone was flowing and I'd never gone so sweaty, but I didn't feel like it.
was a miserable thing I felt like you know. I could do it
We think that wasn't like fast pace, dance. Its yoga
and so yeah I mean now I like it. I guess I've been practicing
was sixteen years. That's awesome yeah! So it's it's!
everything is like I wanted to studios before that. With my friend carry from college, who was trying to convince me to be a unique ass. She was a ballerina and
had played soccer and I was like now. I want to run. I want to make
heart rate and that's not gonna work for me.
she's like give me, and I had better- and she took me
Do I like this is boring and weird. I grew up
In view of that, I don't want to chant, and since then I like, open my I'm so open to all of that, but looking back, it's like I had come from
so open to all of that. But looking back, it's like I had come from ache.
Private catholic high school and gone to you. I see and got, and literally she took me to it
the class where I was sitting on a bolster. Unlike
chanting on the matter at its funding up. Are you come and I now get totally being completely silent class or the teacher always speak sanskrit and not be weirded outer annoyed, I'd feel better
common relax, but I do really like I just what fun yeah. I love that yeah. So the last question is something ask every single person, and that is if you could tell the women listening to this podcast one thing: one piece of advice:
from your knowledge and your wisdom that they would actually implement that they would hold onto that. They would store inside themselves and except as truth, if you could only tell them one thing, while
be never live your life toward the destination like it's gone,
maybe about the journey- you don't love the journey. You
star loving the journey. Like you, gotta start loving the work out. You gotta start loving your data day. You have to
build a life that you love the journey of, because that's when you have the synergy and
were always thinking while August Guinea, for this wedding
no like the vibrations to actually change the world. I think when
always thinking well I'll, get skinny for this wedding or I'll get skinny for this date, all change jobs after
at my bonus. The past
in the past. The future gives you.
playing society, but the present as a gift, and you just have to be so grateful girl that has such good wisdom.
This year I had the honour of sitting down with former vice President Joe Biden.
and we had an honest and beautiful
Frustration about life after grief, it you're not
with his story. He lost both his wife and baby daughter.
And later his adult son get
pass something like that is almost impossible
no matter who you are or how famous or what work
you ve done in the world and
conversation with how you manage grief.
How you move on and build a life after loss was
one of the most powerful we ve ever had on the show
My son bow was all about duty to him. It was duty
use a bright kid lawyer. He volunteered
The prosecutor to go the middle worry
Bosnia and go to Kosovo and help them set up their criminal justice system,
I'm gonna Scissahs bragging, but its amendment to brag, as the only foreigner has a significant,
the only four lane highway in Kosovo named after him in highway because of what he did because of what he brought. He she brought there, and so he was always was, and so when, when he got sick,
We all made a deal. His brothers is closest friend in his life and his sister, and we all made a deal that we would never talk about the percentages
He was diagnosed with stage for global Ass Tom.
It's not there's hope, but nobody is just
the amount of time
but the point I wanted to make in the book was.
I had an unusual relationship with Barrack what the present
what it was an empty Anderson, the diagnosis,
We all know what meant
call the room after the final diagnosis and said that hot mom, let's make a deal,
talk of percentages no talking percentage.
the doctors came in wonderful, wonderful, doktor, one of the greatest surgeon in the world. Not just the country doktor soya came many, did everything he could
and I can men and just embrace, bow and said we're going to fight, but we can still hope
neurosurgeon and the head of the Department of Neurosurgery, a wonderful man came in and said, remember pull them aside sand. What should we do it? What was he going to do?
you're gonna run for governor and he had no opposition. He was sitting attorney general
and you shall go run forgot don't ever give-
Pope just go oh and try to live your life. Do what you can do.
and that's a low did and he wanted. He worked every single day to finish his term. He went to work every day, go to Philadelphia from much about twenty three miles, to go to physical therapy and image. He had what they call, a failure which is losing the ability to recall proper nouns,
and you go to speech therapy at six in the morning and each open his office attorney general's office until from ten, until six o clock at night and come home, any insisted he have test done once a month to see. If is his cognitive capabilities, words spoken region, want anybody to think that he was incapable of making these decisions because he was losing control over like he'd say dad. Can you make sure my boy, you know my girl on every his daughter. He couldn't remember the name lovely with. Can you make sure my girl in and so, but he made his promise that he desperately didn't want anybody to feel sorry for,
And so he said anybody asked what we're doing daddy's look and be dead.
just look at them and say I'm doing great. He still grey
The reason for the name of the book is that
is about turns out and end up in six months ago
I went home my wife and I would commute home from vice presidents residence on Friday
To see if we lived or where the crow flies less than a mile from us, a mile and a half and drive,
and we go over the house and dinner with them and then take the kitchen things like,
so. I went over this particular nine November and we
dinner, Bow asked his wife. How wonderful person to take the kids
stairs come back if she could put him to bed
and my wife and gone home to change
across the table at me and he said dad
I know. No one loves me. A whole world wasn't much as you do that
dad. He said I'm going all right, no matter what happens.
Me, like a ton of bricks, if he had come to peace, was
And he said Shepherd Dad promised me.
Now to promise me dad
you're going to be all right.
so I'll be all right. He leaned across the table and read my army should dead. Look at me dad.
Give me your words abiden, dad you're gonna be ok. I knew what he meant
he knew what I was likely to do.
Was drop out. He knew I take your family
How about that, but he's worried animated. My whole life, I would stop
step off the stage turn inward.
and I should all be price it dad.
Give me your word supplied.
Stay engaged, TAT promised me there and I did
but it was a solemn obligation in this
station I got to chat with the Bush sisters.
that's Jenna, Bush, Hager and Barbara Pierce Bush
and we talked about what it was like to grow up as little girls in the White House, definite,
a conversation. I have not been able to have with another guest and supreme
the interesting for us
standing. What it's like to manage their lives now as adults.
I haven't actually really thought of it in that way, we
China was saying we were so lucky that when our parents rent-
you see and when our doubtless president, we were eighteen to twenty
x and so at that time that really, when you're, trying to figure out how you
fit into the world, and so for me, I got two. I went to six continents with my parents and I really got to travel all over the world and
open my life up in a way that type of exposure open my life up in a way that I could never have guests and couldn't be more grateful for, and so it also lead me to figure out.
I wanted to do with my career, which has been working.
Global health and has been, as I said,
focused on. I got stuck
about what the world could look like and then we're
every single day to try to achieve that, and then it's been that's
incredibly fine and also incredibly difficult, because health systems are complicated for sure, and I think I want that to
exposure was almost second couldn't look away. I never felt this fear of other people watching me. That was not ever what,
I guess, I didn't have a fear to act, because that was what made me fearful. It was
or like am I making the right choices and ultimately
is no right, and I think for me realising that global health was what I wanted to work on at a young age was so well incredible. Get because I didn't have to
a long time to figure out my purpose in the world's. I got to figure that out when I was young
made plenty of mistakes and continue to in my career, but for
it was more motivating to think you know.
want to do this. I don't want this to be an might to do less forever. At that motivated me more than any fear of failure.
I think my fear of sitting on a good idea and not acting on it was actually bigger than a fear of failure. That's so good
agenda of the same question: you're pretty public life.
No, I mean, I think, I think
of the gifts that our parents gave us which, which also help shape who we are. Is that one they allowed us to see the world and really see the world as barbarous at such an influential time in our life, so that
it be hard to just sit back and
take action in some way. So I was a teacher after I graduated from college
and then eventually and now working an embassy on the today show which
a giant leap and a strange one, because
for many years you know it we ran
quite literally in some cases from the media we want in privacy and we wanted to be normal
and so to take that leap and believe me, people ask all the time like that, such a strange. How ironic announced range
at the same time, I've always loved to tell stories. I was on my
score newspaper, I
to tell stories the little kid I loved creative writing. I loved still to write, and I also think because I've
Seeing the world and seen different
situations that it's it's a privilege to be able to tell people stories. I find it that way. I feel like it's an honor and
I do not want that.
The best gift that our parents gave us. That was that we didn't need to live up to some sort of perfection.
We didn't need to be. You know perfect. First,
daughters we weren't at all and and they work they didn't. You know
ass ties us. For that I mean I think mistakes have to be made in life,
and so I we didn't, we don't fear perfection, you know we don't be
that they need to be perfect. Neither barb barber nor I do I mean I think we both
that we're going to stumble. We both know we're going to and work were because we
have each other and began
we apparent that allowed us to kind of find our way without making
this view too bad
for mistakes or bad really at all for making mistakes cause. I think that's part of human nature. I'm happy
to be able to shine a light on people stories. I feel like it, the privilege and knowing
mistakes are gonna, be made that if they are
I have a
a source of support and in my family and and
friends and that our pig myself back up again- and I think that's good advice for anybody out there,
in perfection is really boring
None of us. You know I don't
I'm so glad our parents didn't expect us to be perfect, because I'm not sure how I could be apparent
would be either guilt, ridden constantly about my own parenting
or I would raise my girls to feel like that. They needed to be some sort of version. That's not really themselves, because I think
Action is also something we cannot live up to
when I wrote car Wash
I had no idea how much it would resonate with readers and with listeners and audio book form, and this was the
after I couldn't have seen coming
it was the one that so many people sent me emails and letters and wrote me notes and still stop me in the airport to talk about this idea.
If you ve never had garage or face the idea is that each chap
it is a lie that I.
To believe in a lie that held me back from becoming the woman I was
To be one of them,
was powerful lies for you
As readers was aisles,
the idea that tomorrow or on Monday or at the new year, your dinner
each for a better version of yourself when the.
who says you ve got to find it
within you today, so I thought it would be
awful to share an excerpt from that chapter
if you want to listen to the entire chapter, its episode, fifty six and
for any of the other interviews that you heard and wanted digging deeper. They are all
listed out in the show notes
I'll start tomorrow.
I can't count the number of diet. I've tried
can't tell you the number of times I've made plans to go to the gym and then blew them off,
number of half marathons. I signed up for paid the entry before and then quietly
pretended not to remember when it was time to actually train to.
Number of times have declared from here on out I'm going to walk a mile. Every morning before work
and then never made it passed the third day infinity.
I had this habit for years as many women do we talk.
But the things we'd like to do be try and accomplish, but once we
yet to the moment of actually doing it. We fall
faster than a card table after bunco night
we ve created this habit because we were brought up observing this pattern.
Magazines and tv show spend a lot of time focusing on what to do when we fall off the wagon rather than teaching us how to stay on it. In the first place like
plans we make fall through, but why
become such a regular occurrence that the promises we make hold very little actual power and our lives we needed
A few months ago is out to dinner, with my closest girlfriends. It was an end,
home too happy hour that turned into an impromptu dinner and ended up going later than any of us anticipated
I got home after the kids were in bed and day was already deep into a game of major league ball or hard hitting league or whatever. The name is of the baseball game. He's played nightly for the last two years of our marriage without
making any real progress that I'm aware of Saigon.
Have a and chatted with him about his day.
Then. I went downstairs to the basement where old treadmill is headed and around
a few miles.
put the evidence of that work out on Snapchat and later my girlfriend saw it and sent me attacks. You worked
after dinner. What in the world? I wrote back yes
because I planned on doing it and I didn't want to cancel. Couldn't you just postman,
It until tomorrow
genuinely perplexed no
cause I made a promise to myself and I dont break those not ever she typed back, I'm the four
a person. I break a promise to show
not the only one.
Used to do that. All the time
until I realized how hard I was fighting to keep my word to other people while quickly cancelling
on myself, our
gout tomorrow became I'm not working out any time soon. Because, honestly,
If you really cared about that commitment, you do
when you said you would what, if you had a friend who come
gently flaked on you
If every other time you made plans, she decided not to show up
what does she gave lame excuses like I really
want to see you, but this
tv show. I'm watching is just so good. What if a friend
work, was constantly starting something new.
ray three Monday. She announced a new diet or goal, and then two weeks later,
you called her on it, like hey PM,
thought you were doing whole thirty, meanwhile
PAM and sitting in the break room, eating a meat lovers, pizza and telling you that she was doing whole thirty, and even though it made her feel great two weeks into the programme, her son had a birthday party, and
couldn't resist the cake,
fear there is no point,
now she's gain back the pound she lost, plus a few extra ya'll? Would you were spectre
this woman who starts and stops over and over again, would you care
on PAM or the friend who keeps blowing you offer stupid reasons? Would you
ask them when they committed to something
Would you believe them when they committed to you know no way
and that level of distrust and apprehension applies to you to yours
conscious knows that you yourself can not be
said after breaking so many plans and giving
up on so many goals on the flip side,
have you ever known someone who always kept their word
They tell you they're coming, you can expect them to
minutes early if they commit.
To a project. You can bet your but thou finish it.
they tell you they ve signed up for their first marathon, and you
already in awe, because you know for a fact that Finnish, when this type of
and commits to something how soon
Firstly, do you take their commitment? I hope you see my point here guys
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