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One of the cruellest things that I get to see as part of my job is the manifestation of the product or products that I dreamed up and created and figured out how to do like. So many of you as a business owner, you get these ideas in your head and it is incredible to get to watch them come to fruition and I sort of dreaming about one of our most popular products thus start today journal. I served dreaming about this a couple of years ago. I had been doing this daily practice based on several different people. I had heard about several different things and I'm gonna put them together into one daily practice, which was every single day. I wrote down the dreams I had for my life, but I wrote them as if they had already happened there. Some

really powerful about claiming a goal as if it's already done- and I I rode down every day- and it was how I set my intentions and then I would post about it on social, and so many people are like what are you doing? What is that? Where do I get that journal? And I was like eyes: it's not a journal. It's just a note book, I'm just riding down the same thing every single day, but what I think is interesting, as business owners or creators is often times. In fact, most of the time your audience will tell you what it wants from you and I kept pushing it off because I was like you guys. This is not a big deal, but it was, and people kept asking for, and I finally just thought what if I turn this into a product and I started to dream and plan, and I literally taped pictures to the wall of my office, of what I dreamed that my journal would look like in the intention behind it, and I wanted the covers to be really pretty, and I wanted it to be something

you could do once a quarter and then, as you completed, each journal you'd have a stack of this evidence of how intentional you were about your life and we figured it out, and I mean you know some times we messed up on the shipping and sometimes we rest on the interior, but we failed. A way to where we are today, which is the start today journal in the hands of hundreds of thousands of people. So incredible such a blessing for me to be able to go on Instagram and see hashtag start today journal and see people all over the world. Using this practice as away to aim in the direction of their dreams. So if you are not familiar- and you want to check it out, you can go over to the Hollis code. Dot com forward, slash shop And find out all about my favorite practice turned my favorite product and, if you're not anymore,.

To buy? Remember that episode. Seventy two of this podcast gives you the exact step by step so that you can do it in whatever note book you have laying around for free, you dont have to buy a product, but you should be doing this daily practice. It will literally literally change your life. For me, I've I've been a big document or a big share, but I also just really love the fact that we can can with somebody on the opposite side of the world and you know they don't you have to be a mother or at it at this age in their life, but we all share such commonalities, and you know, you're not alone, or to know that there are other ways to do something and to be able to hopefully hope somebody see that in their own life you know it's from

I've never wanted it to be. Since I and II documents are a lot of my life and never want to be like hey, look at me, look what I'm doing I've wanted to be like. No, you know this is my little adventure. This is me trying to get out of my two bedroom apartment in New York City with five little ones and going

four, and and this is my message to you to go- do that to you know like make an adventure of going to the post office or whatever it is. I Rachel Hollis and I've built a multi million dollar media company with a high school diploma and the free information I found on the internet in the fifteen years that I've been building and scaling my company, I have become deeply passionate about helping other entrepreneurs to do the same so each week, I'll be sharing tangible and tactical advice and inspiring interviews with the same intention. Bees are the tools to change your life and your business. This is the rice podcast funny thing, but I feel like we have to start with is that I thought your name was task.

For a very long time. You get out a lot. I yeah I do it's actually really funding because, Tat is not even so. This is a nickname for my husband. Ok started way back when you're a dating okay and its top, the worst I say as a citizen- I don't even but I botched there, a dangerous Bela change the transition. It was italian fur teacup, and I just you know so I I mean I answer to anything honestly. Only like my kids may, you know every bye, I do get a lights honey, because once somebody who is so sweet she was foreign and she's in the city and she catch me and she was like to die and I just was having a really slow day. Like I'm. Sorry, no like thought she really help like finding today and I just didn't even hit too late. I ought to whom I offer my gosh. You think she was asking. If I was taught, I feel really bad, whose look I'm sorry? No, I don't. I don't know if I'm not me you getting bigger above their ideals.

And how did? How did this come about, so I have been twelve years ago, like away back in the olden days like a fair and we're all. I started a blog. I wasn't between my eye junior in senior year of college. I was here in a city of setting at the Juilliard School is getting might be a feigned dance and I was newly married and so I think it was. I was just trying to find a domain that I could host big large files. My my wedding photos and things like that and so blog spies way found, could work, and so that was told ago urine oh gee, I you have long spot by my abode. I got yeah. I ask that those are the old days is clearly now need to think about how far has progressed and how its changing evolved. Like long before social media Instagram, I feel like Facebook was soup,

Sclusively, remember not absolutely. I remember we were going around happened like sign a petition at my school through recognising as a university that could sleep. You hide, I might add, that I only found out about Facebook for the first time, because one or in turns, was looking at it, and I was like what is this thing, so This is where all the kids who we all agree- and I felt other than ever- animals like twenty five at the time, which is wholly really that so funny it's it's evolved is changed so much by it. I I was twelve years ago and I would I really for me. I was, I was a dancer. I loved dancing and drink experience in Juilliard, like a kind of felt this shift. I've always been a creative I've, always loved to creative loved anything in that field, but it was always dance was like EAST. Brave dancing on the big the quotes a stamp interesting things in it there. Just a shift where I felt burn out, and I felt like I needed to see if there were other things that I could find that could

And of ignite that creativity again inside me and I think, we're living in a different time than we did back then, because I feel like it was really hard. I feel you you you're told like this. What you're gonna do stay in your lane and do that, and it was really I felt like I didn't really know or have the tools are skill set to think like Well what about this, or how can I bring that into it to and can I go into this lane a little bed I mean I just felt like you know you, you get a job, corporate office in you stay there. Your whole life for you in a degree in that that's what you do if you like the whole roses opened for me, as I graduated, and I really started to try to figure out what it was that made happy as a creative person and try to explore that, and I feel very fortunate that my blog in those early years before it became what it is now in terms of the blogging Roger that just the online world,

I was able to really find my voice and kind of gain an audience of following almost like a happy accident. Wasn't what I was was starting out to deal was never my intent you know it was several years before I realize like how does a lot of people reading that you know it was a couple years and I think we were getting couple million. Unique visitors each month and that was kind of wild because back then it wasn't you weren't, promoting. Your cell fine instagram referred earlier. It was really more word of mouth. I guess right I mean you probably can relate. I felt it was, was just kind of a different ballgame why. I don't even think that we knew we didn't understand what analytics were version, at least for me, come until later, when you were trying to monitor yet his analytic. So I remember similar experience. This podcast is, is my version of that

I never paid attention to analytics ever which sometimes I feel like is good in my heart and I personally Maria you know everyone's like what what are you know, what a? What are the numbers and sometimes off for me, I'm like I don't like to look at that. Allow don't wanna get caught up in that, because I think it can really that your head and Julia for me is like put your head down into the world and then ass. I dislike creating creating creating creating and then what a beautiful that it ends up. Oh gosh are actually doing really well yeah, so I mean two million unique some month is by Nan YA back then I think the blog space was a little bit more, ah the main yes, that was high honour, and I know that it's a really diversified as of late now with our social media is does. This seems to be everyone's guy a little bit more of a machine attention span I in the same way, so I think sometimes, if you can give those those nuggets and things on different channels,

but I still I'm I'm a girl that loves the blog. I love the longer term, that you know long writing, format said and loss of pictures. I never know how to edit down like two or three, unlike no, I want to give them thirty. You do this, so by I think, one of the biggest things in terms of how everything came out to be when it is now was just really focused on something that I really loved and finding my voice and releasing true that in the first few years, like you were saying, though, I had no idea that I mean I didn't monetize, they try to make money for several several years in. I wasn't it just wasn't What even my end goal was. I wasn't like over some damn going into. It was just I really enjoyed sharing and I loved the online community. I think it is full of some of the best people and for me it's I've. I've been a big document or a big share, but I also just really love the fact that we can can- with somebody on the opposite side of the world and data, we have to be.

The same sort of you know they don't you have to be a mother or at it at this age in their life, but we all share such commonalities and no know you're not alone or to know that there are other ways to do something and to be able to hopefully help them we see that in their own life. You know it's from I've never wanted it to be. Since I, in our document a lot of my life, I'm never want to be. Like hey look at me, I'm doing I've wanted to be like no. You know this is my little adventure. This is me trying to get out of my two apartment apartment in York. City with me. Five little wines and going four and- and this is my message to you to go- do that to you know: I'd make an adventure of going to the post office or whatever it is. Been for me the most rewarding part, and it's why I've kept going in and like I've been able to really.

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How has the work shifted as platforms have changed? So do you find yourself dividing top energy. You know between the block and social and, like our, are you creating in a different way or you're, really true to what you were doing and using that social to kind of drive traffic in? I think I'm creating slightly differently only because I mean so many of the tools were around that we have now. I love in the story. Is I love being able to just video and in put up and in kind of share as the day goes on and on so I think that that's kind of shifted a little bit by bit. I still I still have to blog. I know that people, sometimes there are a lot of the oh geez, especially like our let's drop that it's not it's not getting. It's that it was or not. But for me there's something to you about social media is really wonderful bite. You own yard, you, site, your own, your domain, you own that content there and we not necessarily ever really know. What's going to happen,

with a lot of the social channels, I mean Amsterdam changed of Alaska players. They an algorithm now and irritated of arousing mine, the iron such a drop off, and I think for anyone who has been on social long enough? This is exactly what Facebook dead. Seven years ago, our six years ago, where you we all built these huge Reno but finds were so proud of ourselves and they were like an now. You have to pass to act like any of them. Yet, while an end, people get so fresher, and it's like they're, a business now did, you think was the whole is true. Also think you do you're the best you can with what you have, but it the inner. The website is something you own. I would also say email. I was letter yard she, our business owners, like you own, your email, ass. You do not on your social follower, ya, how kazoo everyone's gonna ask and I'm sure it's crush all the time from Non bloggers, how

do you have a business today like how have you monetize what you have created so several years ends. I started no seven with the blog several years, and I I you know my husband here. Was an economy. Jerry was working, fine ass. He was always a creative to always kind of It's funny when we met he was actually I'm here. Like enrolled in Martha Grandiose class at Columbia when more dating, because you'd like Ireland were that mothers to law- and I was always like where you and econ major you feel like yours, like I- do- understand- you're very creative you're, very which yes and now makes this a very creative thinking. I mean I don't understand anything about it by its I'm sorry, it attracts them first in many ways so few years- and you know he was always so great at helping me with the content side, helping me figure out of domain and how to later all of that stuff, but a couple years an he really was the one that was like. I think we were one of our biggest our first.

Ran partnerships with sweet, green, I'm we're living in DC for years years and they were a very small. They had like three stores back then and every one of the founders had reached out and was like? Let's get launch realistically something out, and My husband was just right eye at the time when I was not a business person. I don't know how to approach that much. I don't know what to tell someone a rate is or deliverables or how do I go about this? I really don't know when he was just so great. Be my guest I'll help you live with this together. You know what you're you're spending how much time, putting so much effort and work into what you're producing every day like let's see, if there's a way to organically bring in a brand or a company and kind of find a way to collaborate in a really authentic way, and so

we sat down for lunch and it was he was like. Have you ve done this before and now have you done this before? Is I know? Is I go like what it is doing? This is fair lecture, so we learned a lot there. It was really great with what we have done a lot with them since with sweet green, but that shit I'd credit a lot to my husband. She was still working and financial MRS, even several years after we started Montez in the blog and working with a lot of brands and lot of collaborations, he resigned, and I think it was years ago to really come on full time and and handle all of that see you guys just do this. We do this. Crap. I didn't know you have to get out of my love that you in days Seattle is so great right, yeah, it's great and also its not great. Sometime guy, like you know, I feel like for me, is really great for him. Sometimes he's like me. We can have some space, but

I know it can't be for everyone. I get that, like everybody works differently in. Oh, you ve got to find somebody that you mess with well when it comes to your work, but for us it has just we have, of day. I feel really fortunate, because it is so close to home with what we do. What I share and it allows us to really be flexible with our family. I've schedule- and I love that, like at the end of the day, my biggest ma the biggest thing, my family, I've, just I've always want to be a mother. I love being a mom. I have five little ones at home and I just I'm so grateful that I have this sort of career path it kind of unconventional, it's kind of hard to explain. Sometimes a lotta people don't necessarily get it, which is fine, but I just really say that it allows me Been Josh and me to really tat team. It were able to spend a lot with the kids and and and switch off back and forth and really kind of.

Live a life where we're in charge of how data to day looks at how our are our time, which, for me it's it's really trying to the way to how do you say to find a way to get worse time into family time. Heart makes absolutely yeah, so do. You have a team, or is it just good as yet the two of you that we have a brand manage our own allay, which has been really helpful for so long Josh was during the entire business Ivan. It's been helpful to kind of bring somebody on to do more. Their contracts and negotiating. When and any big brandiles call longer things like that. Now we ve really just enjoyed bringing in keeping it really close to home. It's just we work best in that way. I know that there is opportunities and there's sorts of endeavour, that have come our way. That kind of had to say you know this isn't gonna work right now, because we don't have the manpower we don't have the time to dedicate to that, and sometimes that's difficult, because I liked it

everything I have like. I don't want this opportunity to pass me up, but for me it's just I've had to say you know it's ok, something else can come along when when it feels right of redress right now, it's been really important to kind of just make sure when it is I'm doing, and prioritizing each day is, is what I am come. True, What like handling, if I may say, yeah absolutely ass is goal to scale beyond where you guys are. As you look towards a future for me I mean I have a very hard time looking It too much from a business perspective, especially because a space were in changes, so asked in legally five it. When I started, I had no idea what I'm doing. Five years ago, not even and even looking five years down the road. It's hard to know what this landscape will look like for me, I have always just really loved sharing and I've loved connecting and I'm really excited to try to find different avenues. To do that.

Working really hard, I'm a book, and I spent the majority of this last year, just working chipping away at a proposal we just submitted it. How feel it feel finally feels very real yes, which is kind of scary Blair, also exciting, very excited. You know for me, you can play relate to this ice there's no good time to do it. There is no good, and for years I was like I you know I am. I really want to get to that. That's my dream. I love to do that, but this is a bad time and even last summer, when I met with my ok agent, who I have now who I love. When I had just my twin girls, my my fourth and fifth were born in May, and we met, I think in July and hiding shoot. You know

it was like. I would not like this is great yes ever then I was just started to leak yeah everywhere and I want- and I was like what am I going, but I can't do this and It took me good six more months I was January. I just realized Macneil me, there's actually never a good time to do this now, really as an end. So as like, I know them not mills from the south and in three months I know that it's gonna take, like you, know, couple hours each day when I have that time without destruction is just really work at it. So it took me a failure to get this proposal together and it feels great regard by it and so yeah. I just tryin to kind of look at the bar. List of what my dreams are in and and what I really want to do, and and realising there is not a good time to do it, I any to go after it now, even even if it's, even if its mad careless, it's just

it's how it's, how you do it, as I do in the year, excited your nerve ass. Like talk to me about this yeah I mean I don't know much about this world and that's a little bit intimidating. I think you know for me. I didn't know a lot about the blogging world when I got into it, but I feel like a kind of grew in that space and figured out my voice in what I was comparable with and if he was there much like new territory, because it's not have done things before figuring out an hour in an essay was lay Ivan just do not like low right. This is not like my blog posts. Yes, I have to capitalize things and use proper punctuation together to there's people I humbly with. I don't you know what I mean guides its. You have to strangle, I guess, with some really some great people that can kind of show. The ropes, I guess and trusting in. In in that I'm feeling good guys so proposal went out there, because I went out thinking big,

I was absolutely clear. Give interests. There's no way you, while you have to beg of an audience not to all that has even for me, has been important. That. I don't ever want to like have a cop out words just like oh well, I have a blog. So can I have this? I really wanted to challenge myself this year with doing the work and making sure I put together for a proposal that I put in six. Full essays, as you know, the full extent Cable contents: I really wanted to make sure I gave the the proper Structure of this is what I envision it to me just because was important to me, as I really wanted to make sure I did this. Right, I mean, I guess, there's no right way to do it. For me. I wanted to make. I was doing it yeah. everyone at Hollis each Q is so excited, because this week is our holiday party sound an alarm boom boom a holiday alarm

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There is a way to do it intentionally. Yet there are plenty of people who don't ya and I think there is there is a way to do it intentionally and there are plenty of people who don't ya and I think there is such a gift and you being a writer I mean that's that maybe everybody does acai, don't know, but I love books and I was writing every day for the blog, and that was really where at the idea was like wool. If I could write this, these blog post everyday could night. I don't know right. Thing like, I and I didn't know what I was doing, but I just tried again and the reality is, I think, any time you step into a new space if, if you wrote six books this will be, this won't even touch the hem of the garment of the sixth book that you create in the same way that your first blog post, anything like your thirtieth or your three hundredth, because you

prove as an artist a long way just like you didn't dancing here so with this one. It's like you, do the very best creation that you can and you put it out into the world knowing that like. I've got there's more n me there's warming to create. This is the first because I think a lot of people because I'm assuming nonfiction. So this is not yet so having a lot of people tend to think. Like I've got one fund, fiction book in me like that's what it is, and I remember they started. Fiction and then moved to cook and then eventually ended up a non fiction. I remember my agent telling me oh You only do one book people. People only do one nonfiction bucks, that's really all that does only story they have to tell- and I was ok, crazy awry, but the reality is that you continue to grow and changes a woman and a mom and a wife and a sister friend and all these things and as you evolve so too

do the lessons that Europe to share with other women, so I think in a first thing- is just being graceful with yourself about what this is. This is who I am today, and that is the message I want to put out there and not so much pressure on having to be this amazing over the top. Like thing It needs to be intentional, which sounds like you ve already come from that place, who I really love hearing that, especially with what you ve done and why, unlike where you are now to hear that the growth is such an important part of the journey, and I mean I think about that- even with one was twenty one and I sent her body into where, where I am now with the sense of even with my mothering, like sure I thought I was a good mom when I was twenty four new mom, but is nowhere near even in the last year, the growth that I have had with my kids in and really finding

confidence in in the kind of man, but I am, but I think it so important for people to realise too. All of this that have to get out and try, like I remember, even with photography, I acquaintance, who was a big photographers? That argue? Will you can never tires of a photographer because you have a degree in photography. So remember really taking that hurt me like? Oh, yes, I always was almost apologetic. Whenever I brand, went in and in their putting a dollar amount behind the content that they're asking you to produce in. I was always really hesitant or almost kind of like its point, not very good luck. I hope that I can be shoot it if you now Finally, just realized, like I would never one diminish anybody's Degree or their experience of what they have worked for in that field when they really have worked so hard to be a photographer, but I have worked hard to and in a sense of being so

taught- I guess you know, and I end and I've, Google things and Youtube and din tutorials on my card or what is this button meme and how do I do this thing in light ruin and I'm just the camera out and played with it in overtime. Like you, you, you do learn and you grow, and I I stood really say like I'm a photographer, but I am very proud of their content that I, out and the photos that I take in being able to document my family in such a beautiful way, but also I it means a lot to me. I really am a visual person. I really love that and so on an I just I put that together when you said that it really made me happy to hear, and thank you for saying that yesterday I do think part of me because its something that I want to do for so long, I've kind of always just kept on the back printing like oh, I don't know like when I'm maybe when I'm ready. I don't know that's not now I think it was last year, and I just really like I ain't, no one will ever be ready in your apsley Right lake and vat. Proud of what I have here when I'm about to put out by

We only hope that five six, this financing is now it'll, be and better plan and that the important thing that people mess and my story is that girl wash your face was my sixth but yeah. I love and whenever they went like we like everyone so funny, so we do conferences and I speak? Alot now asked the audience. I raise your hand if you mean it you're fat, like you, knew me before. You saw me on the stage right now, so you have people raise your hand and then I might keep your hands up. If you ve known me for it two years key. Brand of you know me far year, six months, the last three, the majority of the room has come across me in the last nine months and unlike I have been doing this for sick senior so tell me why has kept. Going when in the beginning

it was slower or not, necessarily the momentum that you picked up now like what is that like for you in terms of I M going to go yeah I mean Yet I couldn't tell you, I couldn't have told you that I was coming here. Do you know what I mean like? I knew there was something I knew that I knew how to communicate with women. That is my. Here till gifting. That was what I know written word on a stage in a blog on social media. I know how to communicate with women, and I did I have no idea how to turn it into a business and then, even when I figured it out through affiliate, marketing or doing partnerships are sponsorships or whatever. Even then it was in the car. If business like this big thing that I had in my head and said- I didn't know I was coming here. I just knew I was onto something and the the story I always tell is in our started as a food. Blogger,

the tagline when I was a food blogger. Twelve years ago is the same as the tagline is today for the House company, which is give people the trolls, change their life. I love that the irony is back, then the only tool I had was a pot ponderous recipe Which can change people's lives? Are you get your kids to eat broccoli that you like snuck into the thing like yeah, that it that feels life changing when you're stressed out Mama and you feel like you're failing but like you got dinner on the table and people ate it. You feel like a champion and so back, then that was the only tool I had and is. I grew and changes a woman. So to then did my tool kit offer the audience different things I would say I kept going because I have always been really passionate about being an entrepreneur. I love businesslike. Truly as why so enjoyed Marcin

before she so excited about running a company and die how I feel I bust out of bed in the morning, I'm like, let's go because it feels like this equation if you pull this lever in the press, that button- and you do this thing- you get these results and you just keep tweaking and tweaking you can see. It is, Still I com and you figure it out and once you figure out, I really passionately believe this one you figure out business. You can run what kind of business you can successfully produce any because now you know how to do this thing, so I guess what keeps going as I'm really excited about the work that we do yeah. I love the audience. I think it's funny. I think when you start as a blogger, this is gift of having started as a blogger. You are deep,

the customer centric. You care deeply about them. You are creating for her and you know your girls, like you, know the girls who have been with you for the last. However, many like you have I'm sure followers were like. I remember I went fire, I re, and then you know I remember when he was born and I and the twins and light These women have supported us even if they weren't necessarily doing it with money they ve. Port, Ed us just as other sisters what you're so beautiful and there is the excitement and this bordering on obsession of like how do I serve you well and had I create something that lets you up and how do we get so It's it's a combination of those two things. I love that. That's a lot of it for me to add that the emperor they were talking about, it's just that sense of thing to know that community all around the world, because it's just such a beautiful thing to know

to actually when you meet somebody- and they say you know, like I never thigh you could get married young and still have alive here. Oh my gosh, you have kids, but a family is a happy thing or a positive thing, and it does it mean so much to me, because My family is my life. I absolutely just I adore being another. Eight doors thanked him with my kids and I think that there is so much to celebrate in and being a woman and in being confident in in that role. And any other role that you take on. I know, and I just it's it's. It's funny how even some of those women can become real. I friends. I everytime you go to sleep. Had he get better sleep if you are wondering the same, everybody wants to know. How do you sleep alone time? You go to sleep, how to get better sleep if you

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we produce big events. There, big now but they get our he's like Jane, key hotel room like oh so bad and I remember I walked out. We had one of her conferences, a similar spot, thirty five hundred women and I walked before it started. I'm I'm walking the lobbyist, unlike the I'd like have chills like this is crazy. We can from Nestlike disgusting- hotel ballroom. One hundred and eighty five women wear. I lost all this money, so I didn't know how to throw an event, just everything to go wrong right and now I'm sending in the Sabe and let God is amazing and like look at where we are and I remember one of them- one of the women China to genuine who was at the first conference and now is volunteering at at this one She's in the lobby- and she comes over to me and she's com

and she's rates pupil weep. This can you believe, does she remembers sharing their hearing odd, but also there they are part of a new and they like they were the ones who told their friends, and they were the ones who called their sister, and they were the ones who, like our volunteering, all these years later, because they believe so much and what you're doing such a beautiful in a way. I feel like it. Think of my online community, so much as family and in a strange way, because we really are really connect. We ve been. We ve been in each other's lives in big milestones, even in moments where I've really felt downer or open up about things that I was struggling with and these people I feel like they ve, always just really had my back or I've been there too. I want to be there for you or you help me with this like here for this, and I just it's I'm so appreciative that we have these tools that we can you

to just really left one another up and and and be there be there for each other. It's an amazing time. Did you lose the flip of that makes. You wonder, do you any is anyone mean to unlock? Is anyone means me I'd like so below her so hurry? Now you know that when you show your heart and area, and I hope I n and there's people level of my heart from two thousand seven that are still not living my heart in its way, and I can t I just there still there there's their higher or their hearts. You know, I think, that's one of the biggest things in this day and age with the online community. It's so so great that you have to just remember that. All of it is not a white noise, the good and the bad that you really can't get so consumed in the past. Of comments, just as much as as the negativity- that's there too, because

your opinion yourself is valued solely on on you and who you are and who you look in the mirror and and knowing that it doesn't matter what anybody else says. Yak has all the fluff. I feel it is just as detrimental as The troll come out in the liver and press, yes, is there is that from the U developed over time, or they took a lot of time at the idea? I agree I mean I yeah and actively? I think for me actively pursuing like being able to read it and see sea and not allow it to yeah like have almost like having to desensitize myself to that and for the most I don't know. I don't. Consume a lot of what's coming, me good or bad. Bad for sure, because I'm afraid I don't have time for the good goodly have. I also think it's exactly what you're saying it sort of like I,

now I think, to be careful. I really can't law makes you think something that is accurate and also it makes me feel slightly uncomfortable. I am I mean, we're all humans. I feel like I've really grown in being able to learn how to tune in to now when it comes to that sort of stuff, but also have days when, like you get I'm thinking and on the right mindset shoe. That's really like. Why can't I shake that? Why is that? Staying with me but yeah you were saying you got it. You just have to set aside like it's just an it's, not just for people who share publicly either. I mean, I think, they're. Anybody has a lot of that in their lives. Even if you here you hold your guard, hiding it on a silly, have a major public platform by yeah comes with time. Becomes growth comes with figuring it out, and it's ok sometimes to get to let it affected about you just have to offer me. I've just really had to learn,

Like at the end of the day, I don't care like it's really like. I know who I am. I know that I'm I'm giving to my people. I love my family. I love I I know who I am as a woman and his other opinions aren't. I can't give Cancun while the weeks that, although the crazy thing to me is that none of these People actually know you, like. You and I think fit. I think this for myself. I am if You see me online. If you meet me in real life, there is no difference like I am who I am the same person there's you're, just like oh yeah, that's she's, awkward and weird and horrified totally. Are she writes, but the reality is that even then you only seeing this thing, but I chose to put out on a certain day and therefore it's not really me you the only people who truly no me are my friends or my family, the people within my community and so if you could just.

Think in terms of that, like you for listening to this, for you just think in terms of like these people- No you they don't know your heart, small sliver. I mean you can't you can't share every thought going through your head, every everything you're doing I mean it is it's a very small part, and even when you're you know from me is always I've just always really want to be me and Cher. However, that looks you now with the botched up beings, too vague, platinum, blonde hair to just really like They have gone through so many hair phases and is always so vocal about I'd bilateral higher. I do I can now or whatever it is, but I got bangs like last year and the internet show how did a gruesome vi really? What are you yeah, I'd hearing aid layer, Multi invited me I'm not only little now I started I just these again myself. I was trying to grow mice, as you know,

got your maybe six months, as is like a cat, is funny. I'm gonna have a really. I really haven't thought about this until this moment, crazy, it is that millions. People all over the world. Care so deeply about The hair of someone they dont know or eyebrows or make my or skin care routine or cause it's its wondering, assumes a where'd. You get your lipstick yeah, but it's another when their alike.

I mean do you know how badger realisation is Rachel, you know, is their Sarah Mew using all. I think I think about it. Like the internet, there's like this divide, I think a lot of people don't come to you in person on the street like and where they weren t in target and say: hey you're, lipstick shade is funny yeah yeah, it's no! We would never do you realize that France, it gives them the anonymity of being able to give out it is. Why does the internet? I am now we're just like tiny internet as a whole. It's like you you actually don't have to tell people your opinion You really don't stroke and they think that that's like that's what this moment is for like I'll be like. Oh, I am so grateful for. You now be a picture of me and my daughter whenever lecture so grateful for her whatever and though we like yours you're fits you we're like were not at all or the vessels when they say. I know this isn't what you're talking about, but you

its are showing okay. Well, thanks, Becky Weed out. I know I think sometimes it's hard to look at things on the internet and I think most people are really happy for other people and it's really fun to be able to celebrate these good. Things are happening, but sometimes it's just like I don't know maybe it isn't it, I can't imagine it building somebody out, but sometimes like to speak a point out. The flaw that they see? Maybe gives them that little mouse or booster Van whatever I'll be there king regime for but so much. It has nothing to do with your ass, a reward resent. Why am I think this is? This? Is my message with nurse I wish that we can encourage a world where, in set of tearing down someone else's creation, and that means a picture of their shoes. There excited about their pumpkin spice latte. Who cares like it's a photo? It's a post! It's it's a blog! It's a book! It's a summit!

I took the time to create that thing, whether it them two minutes or three weeks or years re. If if we could just in like instead of trying to tear down someone else's creation, what have you Just went and try to create something because I thought tat. If you try to create literally anything and put it out into the world, you would hesitate to rip apart even in the slightest way, because you know how much courage that tasks like less hate and more

create. Yes, I arrive at your welcome every ready, your well good. Thank you so much for and hang out. Oh my gosh such a tree seriously. I'm glad that we got to be really frightened. I my lawyer, I write in their entirety of the internet as there you go. We find another positive thing. If you are listening and they learn check out the blogger, you on Instagram tell them all places they can find. You will yes. So, even though the name is now me do go by Tarzan line. I answer to anything, though, at times a gnp, but the blog is called left as a gift and I knew fall down a crazy rather all and then think that you need to like lived work and have filed case already so fundraiser family ere. You really really bananas. Do you know? We know anyone give me feel like that. Come because I'll just like, when you guys alluded to the new apartment and yes, I sat down. I was like oh here's, the play Ramirez the kitchen remodeling right with. Likewise, although all Yang S looks at all the thirty pictures that you buy, the blog post,

the eleven taxes, so I have aid acres that everything spread out and I would like to see. That's me reverse when I'm going on visiting somewhere else- and I have to get my kids dropped into a car seats to like Dr El or something I am like, hybrid ventilating. Am I going to do this? I don't know, I never thought about the city. I mean it's it's. What you know you right then Judy having are really living almost about very romantic loathing and LEO good work, acres in Texas is pretty nice to it. Ladies and gentlemen, did I mentioned, I have a book coming out. Here's a thing: it's called get out of your own way. Sceptics guide to growth and fulfilment and we're the priest cell window of windows. I am super excited about having written a book for both men and women, about twenty lies that I once believed that were keeping me in my own way. I have this from the perspective of some one that is,

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