Today, I am doing episode about age, then thing that this is what I was going to talk about today, but I was less Turning to the hotline to have a hotline for the podcast, and if you didn't know that now you're going to wear listeners can call in they leave me voicemail. They ask me questions and sometimes I turn that content into the basis for a show. Sometimes I reach back out people instead of give them my thoughts or my advice, and in this instance there were. A handful in the hotline that were all about age. I feel it Any time that I see the same question eat it over and over or I see a pattern like people keep asking me the same thing or I keep sort of seeing the same words pop up or the same themes. I always feel like it's a sign,

the universe that either I need to learn something in that moment or that this is the kind of content that I need to be created. Some really gonna win into it today I love the questions that came through inside of the hotline, because they're all the ages. I have questions from girls in high school. I have questions from women who are in their six sees. It really runs the gamut. I think it's gonna be. Good and helpful, and no matter what age you are hope. You're gonna find some wisdom or some informing Sean today, but I am going to some? as I have already heard some of these I haven't heard yet so in real time. I'm gonna listen to some questions and when I answer all age, I I'm Rachel Hollis, this is my podcast, I

spend so many hours of every single week, reading and listened podcast and watching Youtube videos and trying to find out as much as I can about the world around me and that's what we do on the show we talk about everything. Life and how to be an entrepreneur. What happened dinosaurs, what's the best recipe for fried chicken? What's the best plan for intermittent fasting? What's going on with our inner child house therapy working out for you, whatever it is, my guess or into I want to unpack it so that we can all understand these. Our conversations. This is information for the curious. This is the Rachel Hollis I guess it just so happens that this week I was talking to a friend about pursuing some

so she has a job and there's a bigger job that she always aspired to have, but doesn't have the degree that would be required and she just this new job and she's really loving it she's loving the change in pace, but is already sort of feeling, a little frustrated that she can't pursued the thing at the higher level cause she surrounded by people who have. Job that she wants to have that went to school. That got the degree that did think so, I'm going back and forth her on tax and unlike hey, what, if you just got your degree if you really want to do this, if you really feel like this is the calling- and this is what you want to do through life- why not just pursue the degree- and she said- oh, my god, it would take for ever am I go. How long is forever she's, like? I think, probably take me, because I work full time she has kids. She said I think you are probably take me five years and I was like

dude. The time is going to pass anyway thing that you want to do it doesn't matter if it will take you a week or six months or sixteen years, those years are going to pass you buy anyway, but in one scenario at the end of it you get to pursue. This thing that you ve always wanted to do, and not only that in her case I was like Not only will you have this sort of life at you We have when this is all said and done, but also your children will watch you pursue this thing. They will watch you make your life better one step at a time which I think is incredibly powerful. All of us, but especially for kids, because our children are growing up in a world of instant gratification. They can pose some, right now on the internet and have people instantly, give them praise or props or likes or feedback on this thing they haven't even done yet

it's like social media is incredibly powerful. It's also a kind of dangerous when it comes to pursuing something and why I need to get the accolades or the prey he's or the recognition or the success at the end of it, because right now you go onto social media and say I just signed up from a masters programme and every will celebrate you or you can get social media. You could be like all you guys. I just signed up for a half marathon and everyone. Sarah, that awesome, you're doing a half marathon right Sarah didn't actually take a single step yet meaning lack of physical step with her body. Yet she signed up for something, but she has actually started train, and yet she got celebrated for the thing she has not done anything. We should support each other. Not saying that we shouldn't cheer everyone on as they pursue a better version of themselves. What I'm saying

is, our kids are growing up in a world. You are growing up in a world where evolving in inside of a world where we can just put, something out there not having actually done any work and get the car and of response that we would get once we crossed the finish line. So the path were in my friend pursuing the stream comes in a lot of different ways. It would change her family life. It would change them economic equally it would give her confidence. It would give her education and knowledge, and all these things she probably be exposed to a new crowd of people there be so many great is that come out of it, but one of the most powerful pieces is that her children would watch her pursue a goal that would take a while that would take years of effort and time and energy that

is incredibly powerful. So whether you are a teenager or someone in their sixties or my friend in her forties, whose considering a whole new life that time is going to pass anyway, doesn't matter how old you are when you start or how old you are. When you finish, we become who were meant to on the road to something I mean, I'm sure that this is a quo and I dont know who originally said it, but the deaths Asian, isn't actually guaranteed. Think about it for a minute door destination. Your goal, this thing that bring your pursuing Zero guarantee only guarantee you have is the journey You know- and you have heard that saying it's an Aerosmith song- it's like I don't know who originally the quotas from life's a journey. A destination. It's about the journey

we all know that we ve heard that, but the destiny She is not guaranteed, so the anything, you know for sure you have is the way you pursue. What comes next and all of the questions into episode are from people who are wondering how to pursue what comes next, all right, I'm up the very first one that I heard that made me realize I wonder, do something as it pertain to age and it made me so happy because this is from a younger listener. Her name is Jessica. She, seventeen years old, yeah. How much do we wish that we were listening to broadcast and working on ourselves and pursuing goals like this? At seventeen, if I had had access to the three and four. Nation on the internet when I was seventeen years old, I mean I'm a. Would I be president. Maybe would I I I can't

would I be Elon Musk, probably I dont know I'd be some really cool version of myself, though God bless you just cut most of us, we had the library that was the access that we had an AOL dial up, you are too, don't know what that means. Don't even look it up. It will give you nightmares. Ok, let's see what Jessica had to say I read so many deaths, car and seventeen years old, and when I was fifteen, either However, what I want to do for the rest of my life. I want the abrupt blogger with specific type of blogger, has shifted overtime. Looking around, you yourself, I realise that food and feed photography is right. They feel the happiest doing. I have a goal of creating these in salary. For my blog and photography, A graduate high school because doing twenty twenty three. However, unstoppable them student, on top of my school and business, I feel again a million things are ones and the reality of reaching my opera, Google, your father,

by their out of reach. What can I you cannot only bring better focused my goal, but also what can I do to reach this specific goal? so much- and I hope you will help me out- thank you all right I had to make notes because I had so many thoughts for my new friend Jessica. I M just obsessed with the fact that you are asking these questions at such a young age and I feel, like you will probably be alone. Ask or opera or the president that we all need the time you're. My congratulations! now. Let me answer your question in a few different ways. So the first thing that I want to address I'm in a start, just by answering what you ask and then I'm gonna give you some life advice that you did not ask for, but I'm your big sister in scenario, and so that's what you're gonna get the first thing that you ask. Me. Why, as you said in our

this idea for my business and I really want to take it to the next level and I want to make a decent salary. So, if you're not watching this on Youtube than you can't see that I'm doing air quote him saying decent salary, Has airports around that? The reason that I am doing, that is not because I mocking you freaking unicorn human it's because a lot of entrepreneurs do this. In fact, a lot of people do this. We, say that we want something, but we are not specific about what it is that we want. What does a decent. Salary mean to you. Is that five hundred dollars, you can, you know, go by go clothes like. Is it a thousand? Is it ten Grand is it twenty two thousand? Is it a million whatever it is? you, you need to be specific because right now You can't really work toward a goal, because there isn't a specific one that you have in mind. If

tell me that you want to make a hundred thousand dollars a year. This is for Jessica or any other entrepreneurs that are listening. If you tell me, I wanted a hundred thousand dollars this year. I remember you ago I had a sales person on my team, and she said this free that I have never forgotten she said getting to us. Revenue goal is stacking dimes. Meaning most people think oh I'm gonna go get a hundred thousand dollars right or I'm gonna go get a thousand dollars, and that seems like this massive chunk of money when reality is, if it's a thousand dollars, say that you want to make Jessica, ok, that's ten people paying you a hundred dollars right or two people paying you five hundred dollars or one huge client paying you a thousand, but you can break it into pieces. You can stack those dimes up if you no specifically what it is your aiming for, so I really want you to home in on what that number is to you.

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the amount of money that you ve earned. That would be huge. There are business is all of the world that wish that they could double. Amount of money that they make in a year. But if you don't have any frame of reference, it see, you haven't made money at it yet then I would do some research. I would look up their food bloggers and ask questions like how much can I expect to earn my first year, food blogging and bay, is your revenue goal on something that feels possible. Not just a kid, Z, number that you make up in your head. I want you to grounded in reality because you're, just starting And I don't want you to be discouraged. You name occur. Easy number and dont get anywhere close like let's say you're like I wanna make fifty thousand dollars which would be freaking wild as someone who's in high school, I mean amazing and I'm sure you could do it, but it would be wild and be able to still do school. Well. But let's say you say you wanna make fifty thousand dollars and then you work

we hard any bustier by and you actually make eight grand, but all you do is filled disappear. I know that you didn't get to fifty when the reality was. Eight thousand dollars is alot. The first piece of advice I will give you is to get specific with exactly what it is. You want this Second thing that I want you to work on doing is to visualize visualizing is honest to God. Yes, it is. How I lived the life that I live, it is how I built what I've bill. It's, how you, how I wrote, books and started upon CAS and built a company, it's how I have continued to keep going every time I get knocked down by life. It's how I have gotten through a child her. How I got through my divorce is everything. Visualization is everything some of us that comes easy, So if you ve got an imagination, if you like to sort of think of things, if you can then a music iconic zone now and kind of imagine a different ideas,

making a vacation or a party with your friends like if that comes easily to you you. Visualization all day long and what I would suggest you do is go listened to episode. Seventy two of this podcast, where I take you on a guided visualization for imagining your future, so totally free go dig into that episode. Basically you just fine the sound of my voice, and it will help you to visualize what you want that Golda, look like for someone as young as you. I would actually pull the goal in closer. So in that guided visualization item, people to aim for ten years in the future, for you I'd say one year or I'd say by the hammer graduate Highschool, but the way of visualization is to give your mind something to focus on where focus goes. Energy flows. Tony Robins quotes one of my favorites basically it means that would ever you focus on whatever you think about. That is what you create, either good thing

it's like oh, I want to take my bogged, the next level or sometimes bad things. Sometimes we ups ass over what we don't want to happen and we obsess over it so much we keep giving energy to the thing. We do not want So I want you to have a visualization go to basically a daydream that you can reach for when you're trying to get your focus back on track, Another thing I love besides visualization exercises is mood board or a vision board or a pinterest bored. I just made when, for the month of October, I wanted to sort of be really specific and kind of script out the way. I want this month to go and how I want my life to go I believe that we create our own reality. So I think that when I set my intentions for how I want my life to feel or look or be that I can create the toy love Pinterest as an example of you creating.

A visual of what you want all these things, meaning like. Ok, when I to the revenue goal that I have. What am I, I do with the money. Am I going to take my girlfriend's to a spa my going to get my nails done? Am I going to treat my mom? Am I going to put money away for college like help yourself visualize. What life is going to look like when you have this goal, because that's really powerful when it gets hard to get you where it is that you want to be ton of information you can find on the internet about how to grow food blog and how to get clients all of that exists, but the last piece of advice I want to give you is an important one for me, oh for real fur, offer real. Please listen to me because you asked me for advice unless pretend I really am your big sister right now, and this is good advice and I'm about to give you use

The call by saying that you have known, since you are fifteen years old what you wanted to do with your life, and I think that is freaking rat. I knew exactly I wanted to do with my life when I was fifteen years old and it morphed and it changed and it became different overtime. And my life is so much better, so much better, so much cooler so much more hatful, so much more magical, so much more loving like it's so much better than anything. I could have imagined so I want you to use the goal that you have for your life as a guide post as in North star, but I don't want you to think that that's all it's ever gonna be being a food blogger. Food photography Food, stylish, chef like that world has a million diffrent tracks that you could take

and sometimes you're gonna go off over here to the right, and then you won't swing back around to where you thought you were going to be for five years, but. The time five years, walls around it so perfect and time so correctly. You can't even imagine a different life than the one that you're living so use use. The guideposts have the north, sorry literally habitat to just a guess. You can't see unless you're watching this on Youtube might add to his a compass and at the top of a compass is my Northstar, so be open, Patsy advice. I would give you and good luck And honestly, we can't wait to see what you do next cause. It's gonna be really read.

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Yes, now this next, when I actually having listened to you yet. So now we are going to listen to it as a team team. Listen, I Rachel. I wonder if you'd ever jewel, podcast on the next later chapter in life, I'm sixty the sheer and struggling with how do I make calls ten years out twenty years out what happen after retirement. What do I do with myself I know you typically speak to a younger crowd, but I'd love to hear from your thoughts on this. Thank you what's funny is that. People tend to think that I am only speaking too, maybe a different demographic than they are, and you see this conference. If you ever come to my conference or see me, speak it in your you'll, see this in the audience. Literally in my audience, there will be

women in their seven? These I swear they'll be little girls who are nine? I think that I tend to attract an audience that identifies with the more than in and I dont mean feminine in terms of girly. I just mean a feminine energy lack of a female energy because I deafness Have men in my audience, but their men, who kind of identify more with the feminine ideal, but it don't really have an age group. So I- I want to go ahead and say that, because oftentimes someone's. Not like. Thirty. Five, though go oh, I know you're not really creating content for me. No, no. I am creating content for you and I think that, what's really powerful about the advice about to give you is that I don't think it's very different than the advice I would give Jessica whose seventeen or something

he's twenty, two or thirty five, the only piece of advice that I think is different when it comes to people who are fifty sixty plus is that a lot of times the feedback that I get is that their there are like? Oh, it's, too late, but get feels hard for them to make good, rules, because they're like bought, but I'm in my six seas or I'm for me or I'm fifty two, and so it feels like it too late for me to try and do these things or I should done them by now? I should have accomplished that by now, and so they have block or almost self sabotage of not continuing to dream and grow because they think that time is done. But let's just look at the average life expectancy right now I mean this- is where blows my mind if your fifty or even sixty life expect,

see right now you could have forty more years. You could have fifty more years for real forty more years, Lucius, like call in the middle. Let's say that you got forty more years, any let's say you got thirty. Frankly, none thus really know what tomorrow hold so yeah could have way more life in front of you than someone who's twenty and imagine that for a minute, let them and that you have forty more years you have an entire now their life in front of you right now and if that's the case, why in the world, would you stop your evolution? I think you're just getting started. I think you're just becoming and light hopefully you are out of place in your life, were not only are you just becoming, but you have more resources than you had you have. Community that you didn't have when you were twenty. Let's hope that in your sixties, you give zero crap

about what anybody thinks of you. Rightly you will all of these Things going for you that are going to help you to be a better. Jeanne, then you ve ever been before We can now is the time to dream retirement. Oh my! What what what a gift, what a gift haven't front of you, and that obviously, is a beautiful place to begin this process, for you is, it sounds to me like you need to shift your mind set a bit about. What's ahead of you, this is not something daunting. This is not something scary. This is excellent this is powerful. This is: u, with no rules, no restrictions, no guard rose, you could shop. However, you want what kind of impact you want to have. What legacy do you want here is a challenge. This is for you at sixty or someone who's teenager or me at thirty eight. What do you want Let us say about you at your funeral: what is the law?

you see that you want to leave behind you? None of us know How much time we have left and how often are we actually slowing down and asking the question about how we want to be remembered, was doing yoga a couple weeks ago, and I feel it Every yoga class is essentially like therapy for me, because the instructors talking and online struggling through a move and always filling it such a beautiful representation of, maybe how I struggle in life- and I was taking a class where the theme balance, so we were doing a lot of posts. Is that purposely messed with balance? And I had these two beautiful learning coming out of this class. The one was that the thing that always throw me off balance is looking at other people. Do their thing when

I look at other people doing oppose I'm new to yoke. I've only been doing it for a few months, and so basically everybody in the class is better. Me and it just so happens. I was at this class with my boyfriend, who is just the most of my God, like his body and his the quality and he's so good at all. The poses an I just its boy, my mind and you know they tell you till like get into this pose and then you like put year, put into your hand and the new like ways it up in the air and, like I was already struggling with being on one foot. That was already hard enough for me and so I am doing that thing well, I guess your leg is shaking your your whole body you'd, like China, balance yourself, but I'm building and unlike good for you re to gear year, stand upright that fills important and I over at him and he's like on one foot with like one foot by

his head in the leg, just ridiculous, and In my brain, because I'm a competitive and I'm achieve, or am I I can do, that oil try like a hike life were up. It be aired, something crazy and of course, I immediately lose my balance oh man. That is such a good lesson for me and such a good reminder that I get thrown off balance. When I look at other people the second thing that I learned in that class- and then I took away from me- is that When we are balancing in class of fish, with your body, whether that on your hands on one foot, however, you are trying to take it on and I'm doing it and yoga, but may be for you you're doing this imbalance or your? U no bounds on both sewer you're doing something at the jam. Whenever we are taking on a balance. Practice are our bodies.

The work literally your experiencing physical tremors, like your body, is trying to course, cracked, and so it's trying so like help you to bounds, but your wiggling and shaking and thus to rank, is in that the strength is found in the fact that you don't feel balanced. The strength is found in the answer. T the strength is grown literally when your mom, Souls are having those tremors and they're, trying to course, cracked and they're, trying to keep you upright. That is where our balance and our strength come from. You actually have to put yourself into those positions. Were you don't know what happens next? In order to have the strength, do what happens next and I feel like for you as you navigate this. What

the rest of my life look like or what comes next, either remember dull what anyone else is doing. In fact, I have this conversation recently with one the gauss in inner circle, which is my coaching community and similar. Two years, she's her I'm late fifties and She was talking about this idea of trying to start something new and and lying unsure about it and My advice to her was: do not look at what other people you're age or doing because when she did that's when she felt discouraged could use like I dont the examples of anybody might choose, trying to start a new business or trying to do a health journey. Trying to run a marathon or, in your case, fill in the blank right. So Don't look at how anyone else's posing idle look at how people are posing because I'm try and compare my beginning to someone else's middle. I

I want you to do it because in your case, you may see people who have just stop trying who cited that retirement is it who have just been like. I'm just coastline in to the grave, that's forty five years in the future. And maybe or laughing, or maybe you think, I'm being rude, but you and I all know people who did that we know people you just said: ok, I'm done an. I knows how many people who have retired and our living their best relaxed delay. She s long walks, knitting circles, playin bridge living their best, freaking life, and you do that. But even in that there's, a visualization of the life that you want to have. You could start to visit eyes in the same way that I told Jessica to do it, you could start to. Imagine you can go was an episode. Seventy two of the podcast and you can start to dream.

If something bigger right but bigger for you, you may look like, oh, my god, I'm about to relax so damn hard ago on some vacations I'm about to play with, Graham babies or me you're like no in the second half of my life. This is when I start the nonprofit this is when I impact my community. This is what show up. This is what I build my legacy. This is what I do all the things that I We wanted to do, but I never had time to do them. Those other word that I learned currently in a different yoga class. Called San quota. I want to read you the definition it s and copper means an intention formed by the heart and mind a solemn vow determine Asian or will in practical terms, assent.

Well I mean they one pointed resolve to focus both psychologically and philosophically on a specific go and how the yoga instructor explain this that I thought was so beautiful and I want to give her credit. Her name is Karen CORE power in Austin. Parents said this thing that I thought was so beautiful. She said. That she had learned that San Copa was like your thumb print? It was This vow, that you made this intention that you said this: will that you had. That said, What am I going to leave behind like what is this print that I am going to leave behind me, and I thought of that in terms of legacy and think that, if I was in my sixties, I'd be thinking a lot about legacy. What is the lead? you see that I want to leave behind, and I dont think that this is just for those of us working

littering. What we want people to say at our funeral. I think that this is a beautiful practice or consideration for any point in your life. What is the end, Gee that you want to leave behind you on this earth after you walk out of a room. The way that you exist in your community, how you shot for your kids, like what that you want people to say about you or feel from you or to be true. What that you want to be remembered for because if you haven't taken the time to consider that then? There's a really good chance that you're not showing up or leaving behind the wheel, that you want to ok I'll, if you are in to this idea of personal development of personal growth,

wanting to figure out how to become a better version of you, but you we like you need the next level, you feel like you need a deeper dive, some more guidance. Maybe you want to count ability or community. I want to make sure you know about inner circle, inner circle is my monthly coaching programme where people from all over the world join together to unpack, a very specific topic. Every single month we have talked about self sabotage. We ve talked about business. We ve talked about life. We ve talked about how to restart and we plan every single and includes a one hour, teaching session and workbook, as well as a live q and aid in community with me, with people from all around the world, through our focus on this idea of becoming.

Whatever is next. So if you want some more structure around your growth want to make sure you check out inner circle. Details are in the show, notes and we'd love to have you as part of the fund. there's a really good chance that you are not being as intentional as you want to be or that you're not being thoughtful like you wanna, be, I can think of many times in my life where I haven't been conscious of that and I shown up in ways that I didn't want to, and I can think of times where I let anger get the best of me or bitterness get the best semi or beer who feared ass to me, and I have acted out in ways that I

I use the word. Shame because I dont believe in that, and I dont think that it serves ass at all. But that I can look back on with compassion for that version of my Self and realise how much I was hurting and then how that her manifested for other people, because I took it out on my kids or took it out on me. Friends or took it out in ways that it wasn't my intention to be hurtful, but it definitely manifested that way, and I think that If I had really been connected to this idea of what is energetically that I want to leave behind. Then I wouldn't have ever got into that place, because I would have come back again and again and again to my truth, which is I want to be a source of love in the world. I want

to walk into a room and have people literally feel all the energy of love radiating through me. I want my kids to feel that I want to bring joy with wherever I go, and I hope that I give joyed other people and there are still times I just have this happened last week. And or someone really hurt me, and I no, I didn't do it maliciously, but still did something pretty shitty and I really hurt my feelings and I agree pulled with a lot, because my intention in the interaction with this person was. One of love like a really was doing something from a place of love, and it felt a bit like that got thrown back and face when someone kind of I don't, if you ve, ever done that, where you have your intention, your intention is one of like pure goodness. You try and do something for someone else and it felt like it gets shoved back in your face.

And then I had this moment of like oh wow. Am I getting all of this wrong? Like em, I said myself up to be taken advantage of like in my setting myself up to be heard. Because I'm weeding out with my heart and like look this person just smash my heart, they didn't care That they were being where it like. It was just the wildest learning from me in this moment and then I remember thinking, as I was true, unpack all the things. I was feeling about this that if my aunt mention is to be this example. Of love and joy in the world. Then I really have to practice, that with people even when it doesn't go. The way that I wanted to or even when someone treats me in a way that I know is an ok and just

Give you guys, like a little bit more information on that, because I feel like I sort of hate when people say Oh you know just let it go you're about love or Europe this year Annie it's ok, I like it can just roll off your shoulders, but the truth is I dont believe that we should continue. Let someone hurt us who has heard us before. I think that's what boundaries are, and so in that city, We shall, then I had to ask myself how I could be true to myself and loving to myself and uphold a boundary, but all so not hold on to negative emotions about what has just happened. So I ended up telling this person I felt very mature by the way I was like, damn it, thirty eight years, but you are really growin up. I didn't say it's ok, cause they apologize for what they had done. And I didn't say it's: ok, that's what I would have done for you. No thirty.

Seven years I would again like oh my gosh. It's ok, no worries like nobody deal, I didn't say it's ok. I said I receive your apology I hear what you're saying, because I really dead, like I believed that they were sorry for what they had done, but and and I explained why what had happened was very helpful and then ice. You know I love and goodness and said good. He, in a way that felt like I, was leaving a legacy behind that I was proud of, but I also made it very clear that it was hurtful why it was hurtful- and I set a boundary that I think that you can be a being of love and you can but love out into the world, but the first and most important love there we have is with ourselves and if I don't love and protect myself, nobody else is going to. So in that instance,

they get one. There are new friend, so they get one fear of like my lifelong friends. If you're boyfriend. I am deeply in love with you, like. You can have more than one, but if you're in you friend you get one time and then the boundary is that it's not appropriate for us to be Friends, anymore, because I think that people will show you exactly who they are and everybody can make mistake right. We all do, but not repeatedly. One time is a mistake to times is I know I know one off on world but of attended there. When I. I get all works together. I feel like you know. You asked me this quest. And about what is the second half of your life look like, and I would say Hopefully it's an evolution where you question things and grow and continue to work on yourself. This

in way that the first half of your life showed up ass cause. That's a point I think we're here cause we're supposed to evolve and we're supposed to learn and grow, and God filling you now. I hope I go out. Hundred and ten like wherein Red Carson drinking whisky. Horn, great grand babies like but ie at that age. I hope I'm so Morning, I hope I'm still like all y'all. I read the greatest book about self Are you now, whatever I look like I plan to keep on coming me until This version of me is no more age. Having the number, I think, at the social contract and then you can build a massive business. Seventeen, I think you can.

Start a whole new life at sixty. I think you can be any thing you want to be, no matter what age you are, and I hope he carried out with you as you go into the room This week got this is three to Hollis Podcast, I'm Rachel Hollis, and I would love it if you found this episode helpful if you would share it with and that you think would really dig it to or even better take a screen shot and postpone. Social media tell me so that I can see and just know that wherever you are in the world right now, I am rooting for you big time, and I love you. The Rachel Hollis podcast is hosted by me. Rachel Hollis are so is edited by Andrew Weller with a dish no production support by sterling coats. Our exec If producer is Cameron, Bergmann the Rachel Hollow

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