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48: MLM secrets to success - how to build a great team to grow your direct sales business.

2018-06-12

Lindsay Matway has a thriving MLM team of over 70,000! In today’s episode she tells us how she learned to be a successful team leader and how she motivated herself to scale her business. Her rags to riches is story is one of the most inspiring we’ve ever had on.

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mark decisions and the long term welcome to the day s podcast. My name is Rachel Hollis and I felt a multi million dollar media company with a high school diploma and a Google search bar each week, Wilshire direct tangible advice or inspiring interviews with the same intention. These Are the tools to change your life? This week's intro is coming to you from an air mattress and my new bedroom in Texas actually forgot to record and intro to this week's episode before I left allay. So I dont have fancy equipment, I'm literally with
putting this on my cell phone, but I wanted to make sure and get you this episode as soon as possible. In this week's interview, I am chatting with my Instagram friend Lindsey Map Way, and I have to tell you guys. It is one of my favorite interviews. I've ever done before. In fact, when I told Dave about it the night that I interviewed her actually started, crying as I was repeating her story and how inspiring I found it, Lindsey is one of the leading
Coaches for beach body. She has a huge team underneath her and actually asked her to interview on the podcast, because I know so many of you do direct sales and want to build a team, and I wanted to ask her how she did that. So can we super inspiring to those of you who do multi level marketing, but also super inspiring to no matter who you are when you hear Lindsey Story about how she fought her way out of a really hard childhood into creating a life to support her baby and has done incredible things for herself and her family all through hard work and determination, you are going to be as inspired as I am. I can't wait till we all think of this week's episode be sure and check in on Instagram, and let me know what you think be sure and tag Lindsay to cuz she's, the absolute best. Your love her feet as much as you love mine, can't wait to hear chill,
for people already follow you don't know you know who Lindsey is or what you're all about what you tell us your story short loved you in for a start, I am completely humbled and excited to be here. I absolutely love and now you and it's better fun journey. So just say it s now. I think it's important that people understand where you come from, because obviously when they see where you are today, you compare you're behind the scenes to somewhere. We highlight area just gonna back to the basics. I guess I feel it gets really. For people understand. When I was, I was one of four children. I didn't you have like one out, a parent, I had exceeded surrounds afore, all parents, if you totalling, step parents, like that, and so a lot of uncertainty and not really understanding. Why
our family seem to struggle so much, but work to jobs. Most of her life made about twenty thousand dollars a year and support four kids on that, and I remember at some point my childhood. I can't pinpointed to a specific number, but at some point in my childhood I had decided I was going. To be the one that would rescue my family. I was going to be the one that would work are trials, and that some way somehow I would show my mom my dad their potential. They would all this had come out of the fog. I would rest all my siblings, and so I think my plan. Look. Back- was to be as different as possible from my family and I was so much into this role that I had adopted as this rescuer that I actually dropped out of school. I think it's the middle of tenth grade and move With my dad, I was to turn to be able to help him come out of this and I'm when I say alcohol I can be a very wide range, but I'm talking
my mom, actually, just in that passing away from alcoholism in September meetings, he Eyed is it it overtook every aspect, overtook every aspect of their life, and so when I, on this role and made my life obsessively almost your point of warning to us since then the one I didn't focus on. Is changing myself. The one thing I didn't focus on was areas that I had issues with, because I thought more paired them seem pretty good and funny enough. That's that the catch up to you and I actually moved out of the house at sixteen. I bought a house at twenty years old because I thought okay, I going to have the white picket fence. I had my same boyfriend from fifteen until twenty two years old and at twenty three breathing sort of caught up to me all over me!
ignoring my own issues, olive me trying to hide how things had affected me came and the way that it came out was somewhere I never envision happening, which was I had a positive pregnancy tests and I have just broken up my boyfriend? I twenty two. I was now they re just started dating my second, boyfriend, and I just I why me are you serious, like I finally had started to feel like? I was moving forward in my life He had a steady job. Even that wasn't my dream job. I was a bartender. I felt like there the light at the end of the tunnel and with that pregnancy I just style. Oh my gosh, my biggest fear and life is to end up. Like my mom, to not be able to be the man that I wished. I went ahead and I didn't see at that point, however, is ever going to be able to become that person in that actually only mount.
Because at about seven months pregnant, I end up having my daughter, premature and she was born with a grade three or four brain and basically giving her a ninety percent chance of cerebral palsy gosh. I was it was insane and it's funny because in that moment the man that I was with now is my husband think he ended up being exactly what I needed by. It grows so much through that experience in a kind of brought me to my knees. It's coming the place where I realize. Ok, my entire life I'm trying to control all my circumstances, I'm trying to control what other people choose to do. I make nor, in my own area, certain problems and Are you to surrender their like? I can't do this anymore. Inside out at twenty five. I was losing my home, foreclosure, my husband and I hiding
far down the street, so it doesn't get taken by the repo guy and I just felt my knees and unlike ok, God, I don't know, what's real bad I don't have the answers anymore and I need dress the change so use use all this stuff, that's happened. We felt like it was to me, use it to do so. Good with that. Crazy enough. You know you hear those stories of people's testimony is where all the southern, their life completely changes and spending my didn't completely change. You know the next month or even a year from then our circumstances were similar. However, my mindset shifted and I started to be when the things that otherwise I would have been either like knowing too busy for that are now. I can't be involved with this, and the funny thing that was placed in my path is, I know, marketing company and being
The bargaining industry, let me just tell you you get pitched nonstop. Really you you're, like I'm, your stop you're stuck like the sounding board behind the bar yeah you're, the Post office, squirrel show really went away out. So let me tell you about my company and in their you're a tip temple. You say you listen implies a sound. Maybe I'd never orbit it total fence man. I was a victim, but I I had such a preconceived notion and just hated the thought of being applied. Industry. That typically, I would have even I would not even heard of listening but I had had started my journey to get back in shape after having my daughter because legitimately, and that moment it was the only thing I felt like had control of which yeah China. I thought me,
by certain look like myself again, I will feel like my again and then I'll start too. You know changed my life for the better and I was right. I mean really. I bought peanut, acts which, for those people listening, you might have a decade ago, you might even still have a dusty copy book shelves somewhere, because it was like this huge programme- and I was even Skype the goal of that, I thought you know they hire those people. The audience shape all the year before it actors are edited there. Russia or whatever, but I was also desperate. I bought like on the payment planned as we get barely afford. The I think was thirty nine dollars times three payments, and so and quit it. Three times before actually succeeded with it in the way that I succeeded. Weathered inevitably was that
I decided, instead of trying to compare myself to people in a video or compare myself to where I was pre pregnancy or beat myself up that I can't get past much more than the warm up, I'm just going To start ship beat my own personal best. They compete with myself, and that small shift in my mind, so sorry this journey of me, starting to think ha. If I do eleven minutes today. And then twelve minutes the next I may do this work outline thirteen fourteen, whatever all the way up to they were sixty minute work out. And I would see myself being able to do it and start to celebrate the small successes. What could I apply that same thing to life beat my own some basket a little bit more further than I did the day before and other areas of my life, my marriage, my being a mother and a business and when each body, when I found out that company wasn't network marketing company
typical response of not wanting to get anywhere near. It was like kind of pride or ego: do you have asked for a lot that you can he's so you know biggest, but you can't look into it and it's too, I also did know it legitimately had changed my life for the better that I had grown into more positive, person. I had started to have healthier habits and felt more like myself and felt more confident I want to pay that Ford anyway and so that's kind of how I got into the business that I'm in today. What's, before we dig into that, I want to talk about the idea of when you look better, you feel better
I know that there are people who are listening to that her going to be annoyed, that I knew him. I absolutely believe that its true and I think that it's worth the caviar that you don't have to look. How Lindsey looks you don't have to look how I loved you dont have to be in two big hair and lash. Is you just have to work in a way that makes you feel great about yourself because it on sleep does play in to your self esteem yourself worth and me energy that you have for a day like I can't tell you how often I MIKE Don't you know, I'm not feeling it whatever? It is, and I might now we're gonna where I put our face on and maybe that's better. No, I open a southern culture, and that was my what my mom did. So I don't know if that's just the way that I raise, but it really does make me it's exactly what you said like when you started to look
like yourself again. You started to feel like yourself a hundred percent- and I can tell you right now- cause I'm thirty six weeks, pregnant, literally cerebral, so bright metal and before the court like I did my hair and my maker and you guys are going to see me. I know that I actually did even brush my teeth. I was caught islands. I feel I speak more competently when my brother's rush, rather when I used to do like when I was just starting out, I would do like I go on and achieving segments are different things. I'd publicists. You gave him this advice years ago. She was like always wear heels when you're on camera, even if they can't see feet even if it's from the neck up, but just having One thing that signals to your brain like: oh: this is a little bit more we're gonna button up a little bit more were a little bit more polished. It does make a difference. It a hundred percent dies and that's funny, because I obviously I work from home and so I don't have to get dress. I don't have to do my hair and make up, but
I realize I can actually turn that into something that it's a hat, where I actually incorporate podcast during that time, like incorporate training but I want to listen to at that time and I can double dip why I'm getting ready, I'm focused on listening and unable to really take information, whereas if I'm trying to work and listen to bypass, not so much that that's a great piece of advice that rituals refuge yeah so, The reason I mean we became Instagram friends and why I like, where most of my friendships come from the right and I was so excited to have you on- is because so many listeners podcast do network marketing and direct sales do that sort of thing, and I know that there are areas in your business that you really excel, that you're really a leader in and I'd love to touch on those, but I would love to start with so you, make the decision to join with this company
how long have you been doing and what did your journey look like from like little baby, starting out to where you are now
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I've been doing it almost eight years now wish it's crazy. Bank, because sometimes I still feel like a new in it. I guess probably cause social media is constantly changing, so you have to continue to a ball but I started out and again It's almost crazy! You see things in your life and I well s crazy that you keep coming up against that same thing, because your there's a lesson to learn their so I came into the business. I actually called beach body to ask if they had a referral programme- and I didn't know specifically that it was network marketing and so they randomly placed me with somebody and typically and endeavoured marketing business. You have someone that you are enrolling with that person is gonna, be your mentor they're going to show you the steps to follow to be successful. In the business, while I send a brain, namely I get random selected two who I'm assigned to and lucky me. I, the girl, doesn't work the business now
we job, I'm ok, I just became a couch and I'm so excited. You know what backs and she's like. Oh, I don't. I don't do the best and so I reach ups person that was her sponsor that persons not working the business either and then when all the way to the very top, that guy was everything that I talk about, I ran from behind the bar and more money, I had a decision to make. You know a lot of times, I think, prior to that moment, had said well. When you find the right thing, It's like the stars. War lie. You know everything will be at a flow you'll feel it gets, is meant for you, your card to it, and when I had that first huge road that was my initial reaction was like see you now. Maybe this is just not my thing because if it was, then I wouldn't be so hard but-
and I decided I had this little whisper. That was like no you're you're gonna become. And a cold she wished. She would have had the same way that I would talked about. I wanted to become the kind of mine I wished. I went ahead and I may the decision that ok, this going to be harder on me. Then maybe it will be some one else, but from here, are now the work that I put in is, if I may easier for the person that comes behind me and I'm gonna, I'm gonna be can a coach that I would one as a customer, I'm gonna do the things that would feel right to me. I'm gonna show the business in a way that it wouldn't come across skinny and it would be a fantastic and it would be sharing my real truth and up until today, and wouldn't be about trying This convince anyone would be finding me. I want to find me I'm so decision really started me down the path of building this little business and I had no idea what I was doing no direction, but I had a crime:
ten a passion, I had built vision board that I of where my life, gonna go, and I had this daughter that was just she was such a fighter. Initiates thought through this brain bleeding. Overcome so many eyes. I just decided no I will do whatever it takes to become everything that she needs to be that support a person in her life and its provider every opportunity as possible, and I know that you as a moment anymore out there listening. You know you have this like crazy. These fighter in you back comes elegant. Ninja and is willing to do whatever it takes. So I had this picture, her in my she was wearing it. I heels it was like a year old and I would was holding her while she's in my heels, and I have a picture pinned in front of my computer and I would look at it and any time I would get a nut. Appointing somebody would quit. I would look at picture and I would weigh her future
and the vision. I had four it verses that disappointment and I was like, as this gonna hold me back from the best but I have a life. Then it was like now guy says so guy that is so so guide it. It's like that. The idea of you become what you focus on who did not focus on the loss of a customer or the loss of eighteen may or she not getting the sale, because that is what most people do in those situations it's on the negative thing, instead of going back no cures, here's my why you have my why here's my why that is so powerful to people listening do you know your, why do you look at it every single day so that, when you get discouraged reach again for the thing that will keep you going exactly in it. It's good caught up in the moment in the little things versus stay focused on the big vision, and
I didn't, let those things stop me All this sudden, it seemed like. I would get this disappointment and that I pushed through it all the sudden. Like that the garter faiter. Whenever we d shift me up- and I would go to the next level- and I started to realize- oh my gosh- every time I hit one of these little pain points. You know from new, be wanting to have my first, you customers to now newbie leader, having to leave the first people to now. Ok, gosh, I'm starting to build this pretty solid team, but there's this disappointments up a leader leaving every time that I will get one of those moments. Where is that deciding factor of how am I gonna? Let this affect me I chose to look up that and beyond it and to take the higher road, all of a sudden, my business shifted and I continued to grow and the more thought. Those kind of the more I mean stagnant. I think that's where a lot of people struggle is they do they let that stuff there
then again put way more effort and energy into it that that it deserves so answers I started to grow the business about so, months into it. I was a fresh year, I started in July and it was January and I just decided. Ok, everybody is zero. For this year and if I am given an even playing field, these people than I can work then took that stands in and ran with it. Tell me words like you're, going into this new year? How do you take on a girl like that? it's it's a you haven't really had a ton of experience at that point of assuming you're. Just what done since July, what kind of guy? did you set for yourself? Were you measuring against other coach,
or were you just like an it's a revenue thing like what was your mission and how did you figure out how to get there? They had this competition, and this is kind of them the star the things they have this competition of the top, but they call Success Club point earner, wed top three. What we're on a chip, the cargo and I had never been anywhere outside of like Florida, George and so I was determined to win my husband and I this trip and I had nothing to really quantify it against, but I just saw I thought: ok, I'm that talk to a hundred people a day and I didn't have- that is a bad- could raise the guy. I love- and I didn't have- I think at that time I may be had three hundred people. Total on my facebook account, so it meant I would have to then go find if there's thirty days and the mother, let's go find a heck of a lot more people than three hundred to be able to talk to hundred a day and it
outside my comfort zone and bade me gates, creative, it made me go and have conversations I wouldn't typically have because I would have. Likewise. I only have this. Many people in my network or and so I started a list and every single day I wake up, and I try to go through that hundred asbestos, We could now also keeping in mind my original thing, which was treat other people how I'd want to be treated talked to them. As if their real person. Yes, they're going to relate to my story and my journeys are not scripting at and sending these mass and by its, which, like think what a lot of people maybe do that stop them from seeing the successes as they're, making it very much. Uncle verses sharing her heart and sharing their excitement a vision and I wrote-
a lot of people that are like me. I was like ok mine. My niche audience is obviously going to be moms and where demands hang out so I join the mops group of my church and I joined Facebook. Groups that had different mom stuff going on, and I it sure that I was on Youtube making videos advice that I could give to moms trying to work out with little babies, and I thought how can I add value? How can I connect with people? that are like me and I got super super creative and that month and I ended up winning that trip and I feel like that was the glass ceiling shattering for me because before that, I just compared myself to everybody else and we have just started to approach it just like ended. The condemned ex thing beat my own personal best, be my own personal best. I bet blinders on the way they do in horse races, Silas focused on my goal. I had the goal of a hundred people die and
Didn't look around that nobody else was doing all the sudden ban things. Big things happen That is so incredible how how did you that, like goal manifest into its it's like, snowball rolling down the hill- and I that has my the success in my career and mice. Myself has very slowly but as it so two Raul, then suddenly, it just takes off, so did you find that you achieved that go on? Then it really gave you the fire to get the next place. Absolutely it's! It's all about what you believe as possible for you. We all play limit. Ourself of like good for her but no me I can now, and I now after that I remember anything. The beach body would put out They would have a thing to an Ipad. Haven't I bad may well nigh that says, like
Let me let me win that, and I didn't necessarily know how I just would like Think about what I did last time. It did the hundred people okay. Well now If I follow up with all those hundred and then added another. Fifty, then started. Annie just a little bit more each time, an obvious I'm becoming as I'm gone. In the business I'm becoming a little more keen on what works. What doesn't work, trial and error failing a forward, I'm watching trainings, I'm listening to podcast and so my my effective rate, got better, but I tried I level about a lot but more every single month. And still to this day, eight years later, I still work just as hard to continue to grow and level up my understanding about some, success that you ve had in this space? Is you have a pretty?
large team is that accurate, corrects there's like about seventy thousand ok way under you or now yeah under under me, we explore that too, I don't even know the words that you just so the way that it works is typically have and applying that's actually putting well below you, but I don't have that. I was on this dead spot with nobody, that's working, so people that I signed up in the business. They then sign up other people who then sign up other ball and its basically ground to over seventy thousand people over the last eight years. Radipole yeah and ass. You are like that. Are you like the Queen Bee into of groups which a little I am asking is an hour you responsible, were
like a motivating and inspiring all the people underneath you or do you guys kind of like break off into smaller groups, which little bit about so we host larger calls the one that you did for us in the umbrella of what my team Essen. Anyway, that's below us is welcome to join in than those calls me actually ended up, opening that up to a bunch of other teams as well. So I always put out information in content and training for the entire business, but what you really want to do as you want to develop other people who are great leaders who are they? Taking their own group their own tribe and doing their own unique staff they're using some of that. The big umbrella teams training, but really we all have different. Markets and things that were called too? their training there on people using some of this stuff, that I create but more sally. Even you want them to branch off and do their own thing so
responsible, were all seventy thousand, but I hope that I add value to as many of them possible? And then I work with my individual people that I actually personally sponsored someone is listening to this right now and they have hope or a desire to let's say there now marketing and they want to grow their team. What are some tips that you could give them that you remember when you were starting out how to attract team members and how to be a great leader once you have them on board. So again. The whole theme thing that I talked about is, we're rescuer. When I guns this business, and I saw I started to see the success that we started to have and obviously completely change our lives. I mean from high. Our cars too now we live in a home, that's completely paid, for we have zero dead. You know it just have completely transformative saga. Incredible,
very, very, very excited to gifts that two other people however, Sometimes you and be super uninspiring. It can be that lie and what you attract our people that just want to be rescued. Don't they don't want to put in the work they have done. So I I would say that's probably the hardest part about this business is does test you, you will see you all see the bigger vision for people and every person on me, This thing I see as who they who they could be who's, got. Who got calling them to be, and I just like gets so excited. However, they might be ready to see that just yet employees that just yet so one. The things that I think that I had to do, first and foremost, is keep myself in check, one. I'm leading people by my example focus more on the changes I do to make and
leaving them showing them the way. But not trying to drag them down that path, and so I had to set certain vexations and requirements and show people that this was her the work that it presents playing on social media ever find that I I didn't, create this out of chance, it was out of really being cantonal and being read the change and come up against some of the most annoying habits that I had a thing never realized. So I think when it comes to becoming a great leader, is one you gotta work harder on yourself and you do anything else, that's so real, so real and it's hard because it's easier to focus on other people's problems, it's easier to see how they need a change then, is to focus on how you need to change and be accountable to that. Absolutely
I would say if you keep coming up against the same things with some of the people you are attracting yourself, this is only one variable that has now changed that is it by but you're putting out somehow is attracting that and I I constantly had to say and check about, even when I dont think I have that habit. I dig deep but I realize yeah. Ok, though, I was, I was gonna, vs Joanna was describing it as suffering is well aware, and think of how to say it is like a few. Having the same problems if your finding herself, in the same space for having anxiety or panic attack, your frustration it is usually the signal to me of ok, Somethin's off and you're the only thing that you can effect in this situation, and so what and you change. Can you change the habit? Can you change the trigger? Can you change something to get
this. I think so many women will just keep repeating the same hardship over over and over, not realising that there are in control of affecting that absolute way and until You do it just it will. It will completely manifest time and time and time again and you get stuck- and I had to get to the point where I am where, when that's happening, I ask ok what is this year to teach me absolutely. I remember Oprah saying that was like one of her things that she does. What is this here teach me, and then I ask pray largest This lesson as fast as humanly possible: yes, that's alright, like don't don't jagged this out over a year. Just tell me that you want me to say one of them. Things that I was so excited to discover about you through instrument. If you all are falling, lends young instrument absolutely needs, because just her hair alone in nature,
I love that you are as in two personal growth, personal development. As I Yes, I I don't think making this up. But you could tell me like Rachel, you are drunk you who here a fan of Britain. Bouchard too, I am real, I'm not a fan like I'm starting to feel like I'm a little bit of a star. I, when he's less but came out. I honestly think people thought I was getting money for how much extra, though free King Guide. It was like nobody puts it much wisdom and insight into a single book. I mean it was like firearms were of great soft, so perform its habits. If you haven't read it, I cannot recommended enough, tell me about em is: is his the only a conference at your go to or have you tried a few and what are some of your fragrance so definitely obsessed with Brad Brendan after the last like nine months. I've been to three, and I actually,
pregnant right now because of one of them. I think your social, like this baby, we see the last year on Michael that's, a good cop. Bread by performance come early around here, that's Larry, but no it just. I think I keep horse so much information and it so it's so valid. Every area of your life that I am really blown away by hand have also been to multiple tony Robins events. Yes, I re unholy Molly said a couple things and I was like a wonder: she's been Eu Peter yeah, our goal is aware: gonna go to date with destiny December, which is that we so funny. I didn't interview yesterday with Amy Porter Oh yeah yeah, so I didn't understand the full scope on her. She did marketing for him for, like ten year
there's something no way on the podcast with her and she's time you this I'm like peeing, my pants, I and my him so much like Amy if he has secretly a jerk or a diva soon heart. Can't re use exact same guy backstage that he is onstage owls like you, but thing wise. You haven't seen it until you wondered it with death and that's what I keep hearing I was like. There is a part of me. That's afraid there are you, my soul, you Peter view. Then we did this mastery and January. That was my birthday gift to myself and out with all other level I just have a little issues like you did you do Niven. Only talking about Mosquito Louisa get changed my life and I worked for Heaven. It changed my life, some like crap and would have to go to watch- I'm not your guru, oh yeah girl, so that like a glimpse into that when an lake,
ain't. You maybe understand this, like fear of mine, my God The level when you see you now that I have a bit more understanding of your history. You will maybe understand this. Like fear of mine, my god, you know a lot of trauma, lotta stuff from my childhood again, I feel like I'm doing real While there is this part of me, that's ok! I up this grave twenties, in times of done, the therapy have done the work and there's a part of me. That's like I don't know. If I want to dig back into the wood you insane, but that's my fear, I hopefully get a because I've been I've been the same way, and luckily I had my excuse- has been being pregnant for like two and a half years straight at the flag December and, like all sorry, babies to younger baby, I'm pregnant, and I can
events, pregnant. I didn't wine pregnant and was like Unbar can't even imagine guess it, those who are listening. You ve never been one of us. It's like seventeen hours, you just like a live by day for you're like a we just live at this conference centre. What we this is our life Hence the ad Austria describe it, but yes, I'm the same way, but I am also there's this piece of me that just was one of he ripped open because, unlike my ass, I know every time I am, I grow even more and I'm so hungry for that growth. I have a goal. Tony will be my best friend like earlier in Vienna we'll be it will do it together as the name of the fund as I say, someone told me like, a ago any time she heard three things like any time. Three people told her something in a row she like that, was God or the universe being like pay attention to this yeah. This is two days in a rather someone's mention date with just name like our I heard
Tony Robins inside my computer, I will do. Is yes but are what's beyond Brandons book, which we love deserve book that you really loved and last year the fuck Ben Helpful were yours was an early, I'm not gonna. Let that emphatic lit the. Legacy journey by Dave Ramsay. That's one We want any of his conferences. Ok, here's one going on right now and I'm Caesar Jealous, because the Arab with raising people, but I went to that last year and on trade leadership summit and in its not inexpensive, love more extensive. I have never, and I did events for ten years. I have never. There is not a team that exists in conferences that is more professional. More on top of that the highest level like it's so so great, it is
slowly where I had not one up, it's a he doesn't really good job I mean I would expect nothing less. I've read a couple of his boats under leadership being one of them, which is another great when, if you haven't read, what's the legacy journey Oh legacy journey is kind of like the step beyond once you're out of debt, What do you do it? I like you from there and for me being a leader of leaders, one of the biggest responsibilities I felt, especially in the network marketing scene, is I want to leave these people to make really wise decisions, for not just the moment, because I think you can get caught up in making this mouth per week. I dont want people to make poor decisions because they ve never dealt with having good income, or they really bad. I guess rational curses with money or perceptions of money, and I think Sometimes we underestimate the effect that we can make with tee
with our own incomes. I think legacy for me has always been huge because my family tree with so dead to start with that, unlike I dont- want this to be a thing for my daughter or my daughters, my son, I want to be like five generations deep there- still the effects of our family, and so I've wanted to grow in that area, because I wanted to be a great leader of leaders who are making smart decisions in the long term. That's awesome, So I, at the end of every podcast, asked the same five questions to everybody that I chat with an. I would love to ask those huge sums to creep, and this is what I wanted to allow other women. What time do you wake up in the morning? Ok, so, typically, when I'm not a few weeks from having a baby. I would wake up consent. Gently around six, thirty, seven, o clock I'm not. I tried lake, the five thirty five, a m thing- and I- consistently for a good man and it was horrible. Will you
having little people really your kids are cause. How does your oldest offices nine and then I have a eighteen months old and then I'm you know superbly. Stir, I didn't realize you had under two. You have under two underwear, less Europe all right, I'm a sand extra prayer for you. It is real hard when their little an awesome when their older ran mix about it now we'll get. You know the both be India, Brazil do that thing, and then maybe they're gonna be best France are you I know are now you you have your growing a human, but are you normally a coffee drinker and if so, what is your favorite coffee order? So I am winners weirdos that just doesn't like coffee and I've tried. I lived in Chicago for a year and I was like they had all the kinds of fancy copy drinks and I like why my forcing this- I don't love it. I do drink this
suckled energized. So it's like a pre work out supplement, but I dont District get pre work. I like junk, get like lemonade all day of funding. So that's when I mentioned during the toy yeah around I'll, take it. What is the one item? You can't travel without definitely a new either new podcast new book in some ear buds, because I dont sitting still have a real issue. I think I'd like a little bare ADHD when it comes to sitting still in doing nothing like medicine this is partly the most intimidating thing to me. There are having to use like you're, you're you're, doubling down you're, getting worse than what I like. What is your favorite work out, and how often do you do it? I know you're pregnant if you'd like you're not yet have a baby. I love weightlifting hate cardio. And so I typically do streaming work out.
Now, do a lot of weight, lifting in them and then actually double down like I do with the make up and do my personal development and pod personal stuff, while in working out rather than listening to the person, do their queues. What is streaming work out? So I add me, I think I'll beat and the man it's kind of Netflix fitness, so you have all the workhouse dreamer nets and scientists. Gone. One that I like put it on, do the work out, but I don't like to just sit there and listened their queues at that really lame music. I like to throw on something that I am growing in my hand and at the same time so another way that I can fit that kind of stuff in less so smart The last question I always ask, is if someone's listening to this other women who are listening to this podcast if you could tell them one thing, one piece of advice that they would take in as truth and practice, our everyday life? What is the one thing you would tell them? I think it's that there is
There's gonna be things in your life that are gonna You down figuring out the path the calling that you have in your life and all you to do is as look about can say. Okay, what are some? biggest lessons that I've learned and how can I then use those to serve other people. I think too often we get it, we get so in our own heads and even before this call, I thought to myself. Okay, this is not about you. This about and when she can give others and if we are get in that state, a mine we say: how can we use our story to be a blessing, someone else. How can I use whether at seeing a very dramatic things from your past or it's just something you're, dealing with mentally right now that you realise dang, I'm letting this hold me back. If you, if you, cast light on that sucker these bernay Brown that talks about the gremlins. You know you shine light on the grim, lend the thing that Scares you, the mouse and all the sudden, the Kremlin like bursts, and it has no power over you anymore. When it comes
There are social media are sharing your business or whatever, whatever gremlin is that runs through you had that little creepy voice, the present stop you? You shine light on that thing. You put it out there and it loses all its power and then all of a sudden, like I mentioned earlier in the call you just you, get levelled up and it stops controlling you, and so, if I could give somebody a piece of advice, look for Things are actively figure out. What is the thing? That's holding me back right now is a thing. I'm most scared. Ever what's an area, my life, that I fear of people say doubt about it. They would judge me four and then go to the scary thing and put it out there, and I promise you if you do it in a way that it's just someone else that might be going through the same thing, you will have people you build trust with them. They will honour unrest that you people will be sharing your staff. They will be recommending you the same way that your whole book is about that right and that's what people love
as they love truth. You allow, by living out your check out loud. You allow other people to do the same in ass. That's really what life is all about: my gosh you're. So so much with us and for sharing your story, which I did not know your backstory at all, and I am so grateful for that insight. So grateful to who have found a kindreds written in killing yourself up out of. Hardship and trauma and really building a life, your family and a legacy for a family- and I know so many women listening to this are gonna benefit from your wisdom. So thank you.
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