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67: Rachel Hollis reads Chapter 17 of Girl Wash Your Face

2018-10-18

We are well into our annual #Last90Days challenge and so I thought what better way to get you fired up about health and nutrition than to read chapter 17 of my New York Times Best Selling book "Girl Wash Your Face." In it I recall some very painful memories around body and shame that led me towards a path of health and fitness. Why am I sharing this on a business podcast? Because it's one of the keys to success...have a listen.

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Welcome to the rise podcast, I'm Rachel Hollis and I felt a multi million dollar media company with a high school diploma and Google search bar each week will be sharing tangible direct advice or inspiring interviews with this same intention. These are the tools to change your life this week. On last. Ninety days challenge we are focused and on health and fitness, so I wanted to bring you one of my favorite chapters from the audio book of girl wash your face in this after the lie that I used to believe is that I would defined by my weight, and I know this is a business podcast, so it might seem odd to focusing on health and fitness when it comes to business. Unless your business owner and then you understand exam Finally, why it's important take care of yourself, so you can take it
Every one else look if you are not healthy, if you are not spending the time to get enough, sleep drink enough water eat food. That make you feel great, you are never ever going to be the person that you want to be so I hope that this After helps you as much as helped me- and I hope it gives the courage to face down the things are Doing the life you're not living. And the decisions that you need to make to get you to me its place with your health. Chapter, seventeen, the lie. I am defined by my weight when p. Talk about divorce? They Words like irreconcilable or messy, but those were, are too like too easy. For the destruction of a family device. This is a book falling onto a housemaid legos
the cannonball, shot over the bow, the crashes through the deck and sinks, the other ship divorce, destruction that starts at the time and breaks everything apart on the way down. So no messy isn't- that right, adjective horrible ugly hateful annihilating. These are closer. When I was sixteen, my parents were in the middle of a horrible ugly, hey full annihilating divorce that had on again off again since I, nine years old. During the season, the final death throes of their relationship, I had receive received my driver's license and a hand me down car. It was nineteen, eighty, nine hundred and samurai, and it also a stick shift thing. I had no earthly clue how to operate. It sat weeks in the driveway collecting dust, I sort of a reminder that it wasn't being used and
I wasn't capable of operating it. I did to my elder sister to her boyfriend and to my mother, hoping that someone would take me out on the weekend or an afternoon and explain the intricacies of operating a clutch If I knew how to drive that car I could get myself to school, If I knew how to drive that car, I could get a job and start saving money so many possibilities existed on the other side of that manual transmission, one. Out of nowhere. My father decided he would be the one to teach me how even then, amid excitement of wanting to know how to drive myself around I knew that this was a catastrophically bad idea, daddy had a hair trigger temper it. An ever present part of my life growing up, but during the time period, it was so much worse
We were only a little over a year and a half remove from the death of my brother. I am in rhetoric, I can see that my father was struggling for normalcy, that was trying to parent the only child he had remaining at home, he was also trying to teach me to drive, stick shift in my brother's car. The hand me down made possible because Ryan didn't need it any longer. What, That have felt like for him for any of them who had hesitated to take me out driving and Ryan's car. Daddy, drawn the proverbial short straw. Was he The only one strong enough to move past the pain and do what needed to be done. Perhaps Another person would have battled their emotions in a different way my mother would have cried or my sister would have lashed out, but my father
his strong emotions tended to bubble, and only one direction straight to the boiling point. I didn't understand any of my pain or trauma the time like one as I was sixteen and couldn't fathom why my father was so angry. We driven to the outskirts of town where I could practised without cars around. I can still see us on that abandon country road, as he screamed commands into the air between Us Clutch shift How many times you are going to start out before you get this right? he screamed the more I stalled. The more I stalled, the more I cried, I cried. Angrier. He became. I have no idea that episode lasted for ten minutes or an hour I only know that I treated further and further inside myself until I was shaking
He finally demanded to drive. We rode home intent, silence as an adult I can understand now how hard he battled his temper with us, kids and how upsetting it was for him to lose it an executive, If a pastor and later a phd, he was utterly carpet out in the world, but often at a loss at home. I can, that now the child. I was blind to it all. Most of my life in fear of upsetting him, in a situation like this, where I had well and truly failed, and he was so so angry. I wished not the first time that I Was the child he'd lost? He Let me off at home- and I found myself in an empty house scared and fused and sick to my stomach. Then I walked into the kitchen.
I come from a long line of emotional eaters, so my first thought is that something in that kitchen would surely make me feel better. I found an unopened box of Orioles, and I pulled out too late so good. I had another, Bert sliding down to the floor. Alongside the cabinets with the box. In my hand, I bet plenty of times before Food is an easy companion, food has never let me down only this time. Something shifted with each cookie. I ate. I cried harder. Then I ate more at some. The noise in my head shifted its staff being about my dad and why he was so angry I thought about myself and all the ways and reasons that I was wrong. Good, I thought eat them all. In every last cookie eat em
thing in this room eat and ugly and worthless and the outside finally matches the inside Sat on that floor and I cried and I ate until I was sick- that was the first time I remember punishing myself with food, but it be the last May shoes with my body the way I sighed and subsequently myself by association, didn't start that day, but I do think that they took a flying leap from something that may have affected me peripherally too Thing that became front and centre and my life, my Wait was no longer just a part of me like hair. Or teeth now. With something that defined me it is a testament to all the ways. I was wrong. Later on that same year Mano
I wish I could tell you that it was because I had an intense make out session with a teenage vampire, but in fact I can it from some water fountain outside honours. Can I bedridden for a week and could barely swallow, let alone eat anything. When I emerged from the haze of sickness, I'd lost a massive amount of way. I was so very tiny. I could stop staring at myself in the mirror. I wanted to buy new genes in this new size. I was positive that my life it was now going to be everything I'd ever hoped, for. I would be popular I would go to parties. I would attract the attention of Edward Colin. I mean as a size to anything. Possible and everything is likely I vowed on my soul that I would not gain a single pound back. But I was hungry, who was so stinking hungry all the time,
no, they say nothing taste as good as skinny feels but I assume that because they ve never had a notch about Grundy. I guess the weight back and then some
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Move to Us Angeles at age. Seventeen. I was hyper aware of how out of place. I was as a size. Ten. And I vowed that geography was really the only thing that had held me back I was ready to get a gym membership random. A thorn and eat only salads from thereon on out. None of which happened lifetime of stress eating meant that I gained even more weight after my move. I decided to try pills. I don't even know what brand they were or where we got them, but for a couple of months my room and I lived off of diet, pills and slim fast shakes. It totally worked I trimmed down and loved everything about my new, smaller body, sure I was hungry all the time and I felt jittery nonstop, but I looked awesome in my genes I
spected. That life would pick right up and be easy before long, and my dreams would soon manifest and become true. To the point that the attention was starting to really bother me The attention was starting to really bother me Anywhere we went, I could feel their eyes staring at me. I expected eyes to charge the table any time we went for dinner. I dirty looks to any mail within a ten foot radius I was not totally saying, but I also wasn't self aware enough to realize it
alright, guys I'm going to grab a quick cup of coffee and, while I'm gone check out some of these awesome product we have coming up this season from the Hollis company. Y'all girl, wash your face, has surpassed every expectation I could possibly have had for a book. It has sold almost two million copies if you can even believe that it's been number one on the New York Times bestseller list for weeks and for you guys even more exciting. It is one of the top five audiobook of the year on audible. So if you are dying to hear a little bit more of my voice be sure and check out girl wash your face available anywhere. You get your audiobooks. One day I got home from work early and I happened to look out there apartment window
the way. I saw two gwan as sunning themselves in the window of someone else's condo, to go on as the length of my femur just hanging out in the kitchen window One of them turned his head slightly, my eye stared me down you're going to think I'm making this up, but I swear on my life. I thought that. Lizard was looking into my soul. I was entranced. I couldn't up staring I watched those things for what felt like ours and I became a certain that if I didn't keep staring back into his eyes across a hundred feet of space, something bad would happen. At one point I remember thinking when was the last time I saw a human being
are these are gone as an ivy, only creatures left on earth, my room found me like this layer that afternoon when I tried to explain to her what I was feeling as rationally as I could for someone who had just stared down lizards four hours, she asked do you think it could, the die of pills. Now. I was so grateful to discover that there were more beings on earth and just me, and the lizards who survived the apocalypse, I ran and grabbed the bottle and read the label for the first time may cause extreme paranoia was side effect. New Moreau, oh no, Bless said assurance. I stopped king, the pills and started eating solid food again and just like every other time, the weight hold back on, I can tell you that extreme paranoia slash lizard armageddon. What
when the end of my career and weighed obsession or Yo Yo dieting, but I can't tried all sorts of crazy things Susan Powder, Suzanne Summers, Adkins Lean, cuisines juice, cleansing, master cleansers though, goes on every single time I would start on a diet and inevitably slip up. One mistake: having a piece of cake and a birthday party would signal total annihilation to my brain one piece of cake. Meant, I might as well as the entire cake plus the chair. And the deep and the pizza and anything else. I could get my hands on I'd reason. That same hateful Ben session that I learned at sixteen in the kitchen, with the Orioles. I had identified at a very early age that women who were thin were beautiful. Thin women would fall in love and handsome husbands
they would also have career success, make good mothers and have all the best clothes I dont know that I ever said those words aloud, but I absolutely believe them six ten years later. This isn't it. I'd like to admit. I dont like To talk about my messy childhood or my negative self talk or the ridiculous lies, I used to believe I dont, like focus on the things I got wrong, but they're like that little cry. In the side of a teacup, an m faction, you only see when you hold it up to the light, the imperfections However, the surface of my life there help me tell my story. Good or bad or worse, their part of me Later on, when I went through my first pregnancy and subsequent weight gain this struggle, became so much worse. I wanted so badly to be like celebrities, I saw magazines who had a baby and then left the hospital and pre pregnancy genes.
I held onto those twenty plus pounds of baby wait for a year and the second I started to make headway on them. I got pregnant again, wondered if I would ever get out from under the pounds. I think This is the part in the typical, inspirational and motivational bug where the author would tell you that a journey of self discovery and a lot of therapy help Her learn that wait did not define her. This is where I should tell you that I am worthy and loved, as I am This is absolutely true, but it's not where I'm headed with this chapter that and the kind of book I want to right here. What I can tell you truthfully about diet and exercise and wait And what it means in my life. Who you are today is incredible. You have so many wonderful qualities to offer the world and they are uniquely yours.
I believe your creator delights in the intricacies of you and he has failed with joy. When you live out your potential, I So I believe that humans were not made to be out of shape and severely overweight. I think we function better, mentally emotionally and physically. When meeting, care of our bodies with nourishment water and exercise The lie I used to believe was that my weight would define me that it would volumes about who I was as a person today. I believe it's not your weight that defines you, but care and consideration you put into your body apps lately does. Because I work in media and because I've had years of accidentally upsetting people online without ever meaning to do so. Already know that my saying mess will annoy some people can already imagine the emails I'll get
The list of reasons why you or someone you know is justifiably obese the trauma you ve lived through in some. Cases food. Your coping mechanism, or maybe I'll do the opposite, Maybe you have and eating disorders like Anorexia, your thin but totally unhealthy, because your body doesn't get the nutrients, it needs or maybe you drink every single day because to a single parent or Walking through a hard season, All of these things are justifiable All of these are valid reasons to negate caring for yourself for a time. Childhood trauma is not a life sentence extreme emotional pain doesn't guarantee emotional pain for the rest of your life. I oh. This is true because I am a living breathing. Flourishing example of one who chooses to rise above the trauma of her past.
The reason I know this is true is because the world is filled with people who so much harder than me and so much harder than you. Yet they show up for their lives every single day. You can choose whether or not to stay there you can choose to continue to abuse your body because, it's all you know. You can choose to live in that place, because it's the path of least resistance, you catch. Who's to settle for a half lives life because you don't even know there's another way or perhaps You have no idea how to pull yourself out of it, but please please stop making excuses for the wise. Please Stop telling yourself that you deserve this life, please that justifying a continued crappy existence. Simply because that's the way it's always been just
as you ve chosen to stay in this place for so long. You can all choose to get yourself out of it. You need to be healthy. Don't need to be fin You don't need to be a certain size or shape or look good in a bikini. You need well to run without feeling like you're, going to puke you to be able to walk of a flight of stairs without getting. When did you to drink half your body, weight and ounces of water every single day. You need to stretch and get good sleep and stop medicating every ache in pain, You need to start filling your body with garbage like diet, coke and fast food and lattes, that are a million and a half calories you need taken fuel for your body that hasn't been processed and few. For your mind that is positive and encouraging. You
to get up off the sofa or out of the bed and move around get out of the that you have been living in and see your life for what it is, Your creator love you, as you are yes, but gave you a body with all of its strength and even weaknesses as a gift it is enough, thence to your soul, to continue to treat yourself so badly to know this. The book where I tell you that the answer to your struggle with weight loss is to love and except yourself, as you are, this is the book where I tell you that if we truly want to practise self love, you'll start your physical body and do the work. To figure out why this is an issue in the first place. Do you think I'd understand my emotional eating, if I hadn't and years of therapy to get to the bottom of it
you think. I'd so easily share that story of that day with the Orioles. If I hadn't done everything in my power to step out of that shadow, think I magically figured out how to lose weight after a lifetime of living off cheese and gravy. No, I had to work. I had to study and go to therapy, Try a different work out until I found some I love for me. Its long distance running and wait training I had to fight the urge to bend. When I made slight deviations from healthy eating- and this happen took me years to adopt. I hadn't. Each myself, new coping mechanisms for stress, say it is a win win for everyone. For example, I Figure out how weight loss works and discover that its actually the simplest thing in the world, a million dies exists based on the idea that if they can confuse you or make you there is an easy way out. Then you'll buy
whenever there selling the truth it's the same now as it always has been the calories you consume. In a day fewer than the calories you burn off in a day, you will His way The end. Figuring out healthy mills, the taste good to you or work out to try that might be tougher, but don't at the media full you into believing that this is complicated. Learning to be healthy when you ve never done before, might Hard, if you ve, got a lifetime of habits to break, but can accelerate our. Actually very simple and the version of you that's healthy and well cared for, is worth every of that work. Things that helped me number one monstrous In my first fiction book I ever wrote the main character walks around everywhere. She goes reciting a mantra. I am sorry
I am smart. I am courageous, she's nerve, and unsure of herself so she says it over and over all day long. That book is based on my early days in LOS Angeles and that mantra Based on exactly what I used to say to myself daily I've time of believing that your value are low, thereof is terms by your body or your face or your whatever me that you ve got a lifetime of negative talk in your head. Playing on RP You need to replace that voice was something positive. You need replace that voice with the opposite. Truth thing you most need to believe so come with a mantra and say it to yourself. A thousand times a day until it becomes real, number two editing my media. If you're struggling to live up to a certain standard
It seems as though, everywhere you turn, you see a gorgeous size, zero model with perfect glossy hair, and if every time you see the stuff, it depresses you or gives you anxiety, then stop consuming that type of content unfairly. The models uninstall ram, stop looking does pages on Facebook surround yourself with positive, uplifting role models who for some being strong and healthy, not saying women who do make up tutorials or answer fitness models. Are bad suddenly love those checks. But there are seasons when following them doesn't make sense, be smart about it number three preparation. You have to prepare in advance for anything, you to do well period we want to make sure you get in a work out tomorrow. Then you need to pack your bag today and schedule exercise in your calendar
to make sure you reach for healthy snacks instead of your kids, goldfish crackers, then you better take some time at the start of the weak and mill, perhaps some wholesome snack options. If you will, until the last minute. You are not likely to achieve anything. You want complex a healthier life map. How you get their police hang out on more than just this package, which means that the next time you're Annette, surround or Facebook or you to be sure and type Rachel Hollis into the search bar and check out all the fun things be kept going on on your favorite backward. Ladies and gentlemen, did I mentioned I have a book coming out. Here's the thing: it's called get out of your own way a skeptics guide to growth in fulfillment, and we the priest cell window of windows. I am
were excited about having written a book for both men and women about this twenty lies that I once believed that were keeping me in my own way. I have written this from the selective of someone that is totally differ. From Rachel Hollis, even if the format is somewhat similar to grow wash your face, I wrote it from the perspective of someone. Who's been skeptical of tools like this book or even the pot castra listening to for ever and ever its through that lends that I'm talking about the ways that I was getting in my own way- and I think in uncovering truth behind those lies not only help me get out of my own way: it I'll help you get out of Europe's. There are two ways I want to say. Thank you for preparing this book. I have created an e course any course yeah in the course of sixty minutes each course called finding your why it's a fantastic resource it's available absolutely for free right now for having pure the book and if you
to get out of your own way. The book that calm right now and follow the problems, not only we get Icarus, you can hear the first thirty minutes of the book and get out of your way comes out March tenth, I'm super super excited about it, get out of your own way. The book dot com hit that link follow the problems, and I appreciate your support.
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