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The welcome to this special master class. We brought some of the top experts in the world to help you unlock the power, of your life through this specific theme. Today it's gotta be powerful, so go ahead and dive in. The important is understanding human psychology and human behavior to work with a team. How'd you just relying on your gifts and talents, its is probably most importantly, you when you in this culture and our society, you can do some phenomenal things individually, but they'll never reach their full potential. Unless you don't like the way, you have to figure out how do that in the field of action was greater than he will you Just coached the a coach, the game, but he'd read everything about every single. We heard about your history. How you grew up

How you raise where we were. We re read every interview and he'll, learn about you and gives him a better understanding. its motive eu which insecurities are right and then it just help some communicate with you reed and push the button here visa You learn that it was important to understand who your teammates are, what their licence dislikes are. Was that high school for you or more knows I learned from fill that there was a stretch in all three, where shack, without with an injury and feel coming up to him settle, came, we need you to really turn only at the bird star score lafayette words, I did, and I wonder scoring, but it was nice regained forty postboy, nine straight

three games and then shaq comes back. Second, is second to last game about and then fill color groups whose offices code, okay and asia dial it back I'm like. Why, like? We don't have a valid understand, because our goal was to win a championship and we can get to the western conference with you playing this way, but in the east you know we can dominate them. I was shack and oppose, but if you continue to do this will lose shack. Losing his motivation his excite, which rigorous him right. So I need you to pull back, so we can pull shack forward four june and I'm as his lieutenant. Smart much earlier was murdered. Man supple filled by while there what do you think has been the greatest challenge you've had since leaving the game.

The greatest challenge. I think it's about me. I want to ask launching here your shows and you've got a you gotta put common, but it's it's. It's different. Like you We were just talking about her in the office the other day when you play the game you hit a game when it shot mrs shot, the reactions there, you can see how people respond to invite. You can feel it As he has energy, is there What I do now, you don't like it see how people are affected by your basketball or. creating the puny, as you put it out there like. I wish I could see a car, of a family the first harm. their daughter hears lilies lemonade and which is due in our she sing and allowed to. It does not dare writes a best to that.

Well. That's the one thing that I miss is the feedback off of the energy, the instant feedback you get from shoot, missing or scoring a shot at winning or losing a game. It's like either way you're getting a result res yes, yes, that's the one day and went to exasperate autonomy in tourism as well about pixar and in the studio, had been absolutely wonderful, animation, disinformation and I've taught him. frozen and why eyed, how his love? Only there always like all. That's all they want to hit because they don't ever get He is the street, you see it. I did do not sitting on movie theater like you know, and they don't have time to go to decent way, to walk round the park and see how many family, I join the cotton that they ve created because their busy making the next creating yes, yes about. That's the one thing we do. You think biggest challenges for most athletes after their retired. Are these the fears of some a new, and that was certainly present for me as well, really

yeah, like his identity, mean or its starting from scratch. My because, when you, when you play for twenty years, when you reach a certain level women at the start again at the base of a mountain Very scare is very gmo free of all. Absolutely absolutely anything that help me actually hurry Machiavelli's, because that for me to sit, there is ok, could be today that you careers over at any time when you are playing media now, these ideas about doing something with your life after ass, a boy but would have today is the day that you does it now. You do So I had all this time said near mercury. The dream contemplating thanking him. Did to her- I was at war the vision for you afterwards. That was it to do what you're doing now did you have? Other ideas are, what is what's the vision? I struggle with it efforts, because the first question

ass, which is the wrong question, is was the biggest industry I can get into was a more money. Thinking are money, thinking, say: ok, athletes who say we can make more. when you retired ass it used so she income, as you said, ok, the challenge. What can I do? I remember his going for the initial launch, a fund or something I did I did, and so I started. I went for a ride and I said: ok thinking of it that way, you're thinking of it the wrong way. Why did you start playing basketball because I loved it? Or would you love to do what I love to tell stories? Hmm, alright! Let's do that and then that's where it started for me and then on top of that it became things like eurostar, learn more about the financial industry, about players going back cause they retired, saying. Ok, how can I, how can I The miser chases of that happening, we're afraid I can do That's my money, smartly also

help control some of that I'll come to a certain extent right? That's why cod micro, polly micro polly, was entrepreneur. Bill by water in water pipes, buddhism, ass companies is psychological and therefore, that came the opportunity to invest in body on which which regulate in half measures that came from the injury to sell possess your face that there really dark room of what comes next. Storytelling, is something you really passion about what story over your life, that's been a constant theme that should go back to as or something her as a kid that you that really resonates with you or a book or a movie. That just feels like this. Is me it's funny. Movies are plenty, but there's a quote from am I think it was teaches ultramarine name, MR fisk, at a great quote. said rested the end, not in the middle

as something always lived by not going around I'm gonna keep on pushing now your letter Answers I I don't have even questions and I don't have to I'm just gonna- keep going we're going to keep Boy and I'll figure these things out as you go right and you just continue to build that way. so now I try to live by that old time, recipe and rest of the year. What's the question that eat you alive? The most did you have an answer yet. The question that Israel, I will have an answer still answer, I'm still looking for the answer: how to tell a good story how he is the fact that answer did answer. When I sit down to write your basketball, it's we'd all want to say, and Jeff certain acts and how we can structure certain things, red absent flows of story- in the formulas that have been there since the beginning of time, but as such, and in that an exit,

soldier, algeria, right and so bad one question is really interesting. What do you want to tell a grace are think stories with moves the world whether an inspirational? Sorry, it's an information, one nothing in this world moves without story being from the political world sports world nothing that we have moved without story and so I think that is the route of everything and if we want to try to meet them. a better place. Stories are right place I agree. Most people understand I might lama. Last year, people will come up to me say: okay, what are you going to do? That would be a storyteller really. Yo. What are you talking about man? So so what do you really gotta do yeah? I was going to happen when you're retired you're going to go through like a week of depression the second week is going be like deny on alright. Am I do seriously I'm good.

so if the widest got sick of it, I just said I don't know, I will take office re the selma. Why I'm not going to do anything else, they're not going to me, I'm just gonna sit around or what does losing feel like to. You is exciting. Why is it exciting? because the media have different ways to give better your certainties, figure out Can take advantage of rising weaknesses that were exposed that you need to shore up rise, was excited mood mean sucks to lose, ran By the same time, their answers there, if you just look at cause you get the information from losing more than from winning, probably yeah yeah. I mean the answers. Are there when you went to she said you just have to look at raceway is a constant process, it's exciting. When you win it's exciting, when you lose cause, a process should be exactly the same. Whether you win or you lose as you go back and you look and you find things that you could have done better. You find things that you've done

well that worked figure Did they work? Why did they work? How can you make them work again, another. The hardest thing is to face that stuff ass, a really really tough Amy face. I mean look at. from the mirror and say: okay. This is how I showed up, or this is what happened, and I give an example. So Katie Lou Samuelson is one of the best college basketball players in the country she plays at yukon she's, going to be a senior right now. Right now and just from honey to reach out here by us, and so she comes down and she worked with some minor, but my girls in teams, yelped coach, and these had a really tough sees unless you really loss in order. Damon final, that's right! Really too! lawson letters, locks years, and so I, as I say, have you watched the notre dame game this whole. Well, why? Not? So I don't wanna watch tennis. I know you don't if you're gonna play notre dame this year. Yeah yeah was the chance you see him again and the final price in the air You can't shorten play them without noise.

why you lost out one right so yeah the mistakes that were made in that game. You have to do the hard stuff and watch that day and studied. Ok,. not make those mistakes over and over again, just because you weren't brave enough to face it, so We cannot set off is about down off. As we said down, we western game again I'll write you gotta get to do with it, gotta deal with it face it. Learn from must have cringing I heard it's like. Oh we playing like, we could have won. That's exactly it is. I just did that one. This is akin, but didn't get that file photo scored a layup exactly right. You look at this. Oh there's the mismatch. Oh there's, the gap, You know in all those little things at its heart, but but want to have that Andy rice, oh yeah, really study faces

and not to say you'll win the next time you fade, but you lease you'll, give yourself a better, better chance yeah and did you what was your routine and ritual like after every game? Would you watch? every game over or certain games, all every game. I watch every game. The whole game now get nowhere yet so I started with me when I was well fill jackson's. This first you're here with the lakers one of us, in coaches? His name is tex winter, and I call him yoda and he was like eighty. when you got laugh and here is responsible for teaching me trying office. How are you that I was t why so three, for years in a of my boma year, okay and so I go up to his room and this is when you're there were no ipads or anything like that right. So, when you're on a road test, you have to call down to the front desk, they have to bring up the tv the whole. You know the rowley thing in Hs and the cassette tape popping in I thought we were going to watch. We call touches so

All your touches might have all the decisions. You may go ones bad. No, we're watching the start of the game almighty into the game and not like not like the tv feed watching the in arena feed Delay, apply the time out saw my year, rewinding stopping that's what we wine in slow motion every little thing every game of that season. the eighty two year old yoda. Oh my gosh, who as brutally honest, as you can get one of that teach you that season. taught me to look in detail. I, like a thing, things at the smallest look at body language look at the energy between players, our team in other, to look at the tactics look at the overall strategy, no forget how tactically things are manifesting themselves

because I watched so much film. Then it gave me the ability to see game in real time as if I was watching film wow, where I can see, but up up up up up above time to give us more really fast. But if you try yourself to watch our film. The games are moving passing? Were you to really recognize? Who is doing what why legal position, as in the right places in real time, see it before it happened. Yes, yeah we in on football. We watch it once a week game film, but not you know, with every game it was only one game. A week you gotta like three or three weeks of deaths. Yeah you gotta, you gotta, go I dunno. I know Tom Brady's obsessive over game from as well. I mean watching his show that came out thomas I was all about him just in their studying, even months after the game he studying to prepare right. It's like he's not up, and that's that the keys? You think it's like, if you're not watching film, whether it be as I speak

on stage or our performer and a musician. If you're, not watching yourself back gonna learn man, I says saint same thing really after performance she's immediately on her lap. re watching the performance on. Why? Yes, sir do things better work? We have done differently ms is this is this is an obsessive news that comes along with the? U want things to be as perfect as it can be understand, nothing, is ever puppies. But the challenge is how to get a mess perfect, as they can be What can you do it's in your control, so control? Would you can I can watch them all day? Law is gonna. Help me get better gas. Yes now did you have your teammates also follow on this obsessed I missed that you had as well, or did you just encourage them or what was the no? You can't push somebody to do that right, but what you can do is is alter behavior and Also changed the matter of how we speak about the day, so wanting

his team planes in a locker room at the practices? I would look at the film I'd, pool pow, lamar de fish, coma science, it will look at this I should understand the other she'll show them again from a little air. You speech on an executioner terms is never come on guys. We can do better come on. We can do better. That's raw rostov right leader must give very tactical things that we can do it. judgments or can differences doing this any other means which probably do this this this waited season behavior, you start seeing them communicating the same way back to you. Right and it's like okay, cold they're, doing the stand yellow to you. Maybe we should do this. I am like okay, yeah awesome, great stewart yeah, whatever add season, Sixteen seventeen! Eighteen! Are you still watching every game from as obsessively as the first ten

Not now when I was playing when you're player. So when I was plain where we do as is studied a film But study are younger players and see what is need to developing, and how can I help them develop without was the big challenge you move from hill, being a single dominant player, so interesting ok. I hope these other guys if everyone else of mister Williams you're so dominant your whole career, one of the grey while time was their weakness that you had ordered you because obviously you're always trying to master your weaknesses, so they came strengths with you at the end or towards the end. Did you ever feel like gosh? I still haven't like after this one part of the game. Challenge for moves, always compassion. Empathy, causes gulf. The results

I don't complain I want to hear your whining. I don't want to use is also me are rough. The water is bring the boat, and you know I don't want you know. Then it's funny is understanding like okay, guys I have lives outside of here. They have other things out of other things happening to them. That may be affecting the way that they are practicing or the way that they're performing It is hard for me to stand back. Is not nothing bother me anything personally her face me when I'm compartmentalized it very well, and this I can understand how my team you couldn't do that either. Until I, yes, I had a really work on that aspect. heart. She you, you never really have the compassion you wish you in have had like until the last a couple years. Yet I think about oh nine. These are changing. Formula has started really making a conscious effort to better that doesn't mean you have compassion and

your software, it's more like you, you put you put yourself in the side. and you put yourself in their shoes and understand what their feeling and then you have to, make certain decisions of okay. What buttons do I need to push with this wire to get them to the next level? So it's never I sit around and all we saw happy go lucky type of leader. Your job is to get the best out of them, and even if you know they may not like it at that time, while its no wonder that even in winter greenville, south carolina is one of the warmest places in the world safer them. labors the sites and the sounds of greenville comes see for yourself this winter? At visit, greenville sc dot com, slash winter, what are you most proud of from your twenty seasons and honest lose sounds

mesa will shallow, but I gotta see being celtics game. Seven but almost product, because while it was the hardest your play with, regime. Rondeau Paul appears calving garner. He asked ray? Alan myself, Players at other times in one and your, how do we fear out as a group what to do and the reason why I love that serious so much that we went down three games to two years both now. Yet james coming home. I remember sitting in a locker room and they beat the crap out of us to that game, so recent Our group, as really really quiet. I'm senior looking around we just lost the celtics in oh eight, so this is like revenge right and they're kicking our, but again right. So I sit around. I just start laughing laughing and then I looked emulate anymore

I looked at knows what is funny said. Do they be? crack gauges beat the grabber is our mission apart, were that's funny as they may live, if we start the season, they say no, how to do when two games at home in your mb champ, would you take that away? right. That's all we gotta do now go hungry too, too, into mb. I just want to get to games. That's it will take the first game and I promise you you're, not gonna game. Seven oil floor is now happening so we just laughed about it. They went out and we faded out, but that game seven was read out fifty points in fourth quarter: right now. We have to collectively look at each other and say you're dispute immunity must be good. because at that moment, when teams fracture if the energy amongst each other is in there that trust. Isn't there you're done.

important specializations in abundance but then also how important is taking action right. So I have five visualization exercise in that book, just because it so important visualization is a gift to your heart and you're, so it's a gift, because if the the idea, is the seed visualization. Is the is the is the fertilizer as the fertilizer, because when you thoughts are connected with an emotion, see you visualize yourself, winning a you fill all the emotion that came with that and all- you're doing now is chasing a foreign emotion. You know the feeling and now you just doing was necessary to get back to that feeling a real time, and so what what a good friend of mine vision of the sea or my value, you know I would did a visualization with him. We were in bali and

He said to me afterwards. I never get emotional I because it doesn't get emotional right right right, right, yeah. Well, he was like I cried cause. I got emotional because I figured out it's visualization a good. Visualization brings an emotion here that's how you do it, and so I loved visualization, because in its really morton individuals, as you can see it over there to see it right here you you got a meal it right here, like I am it's all I am. I am. I am in my dream home. I am in my dream relationship and then unpack what that looks like, but most importantly, unpack what it feels like it. When you have that, That emotion. In this moment, all of a sudden, you stir up something that I don't think we'll ever go back to sleep, Ok, let's go get that in what it He does. It sets up a state of cognitive, dissonance, cognitive dissonance, is when you see something in your mind,

you see yourself in a way that your behaviors are not current leading to a so you're my becomes disrupted and it goes all kick him get. The iraq is not about their right there right now and that's not comfortable your mind wants a literally become growing. What it thinks is you're doing what it thinks is what you're doing so, when you set up a constant and abundant thinkers like you and I we do it unconsciously wiess. We were constantly keeping our self in a state of cognitive dissonance, meaning what else and I'm seeing LISA over there and I'm going. Okay, let me go wow while being grateful for my now. It's not in that, I'm gonna, be whole incomplete. When I get over there, I'm home Happily now I just well I'm supposed over there. So let me do was necessary to get over there and, let me let me victory. Papers are characteristics that are stopping me. Let me adopt any new ones that I need roma, how to someone- scupper their unique calling? You talk about the book discovering unique, calling what people like I don't even know what I want. I know I want to be.

if the place I'm in, I want to be abundant, wealthy, healthy, great relationship site. But I don't know what my purpose or calling is right now. I think that people put too big of a notion on purpose, in that they think that it has to look like a nelson mandela or mother teresa or opera or You are, I am and a lot of times what really good at his right and funny what you the great as is right in you, and to recognise that you're calling in your purpose can change that it can chew, java long lifetime I going to be the same, calling the whole time and so allow yourself to evolve. Allow your purpose to evolve. What's that thing, you do effortlessly that you give no credit to cause your ear. you're just looking past. All can't be that cost It's not hard will how bout that have to be there, but go how about the fact that you're a great listener? How can you take that an end use an expanded and and don't compare yourself to someone else comparison. I think Benjamin franklin comparison is a thief of all joy.

Is when you look left or right people, always help me to Oprah Winfrey. yeah Levon, zine or less brown. We robs us it listen. I will, if you want me to give you Oprah, our young are tony, are less I'm always going to one thousand percent failure do a good lisa Nichols, and so, when you look at what are my gifts, where am I a unique guess I knew early on. I was a gifted speaker. I wasn't certified as a gift a speaker. I haven't passed any courses as a speaker matter, if the last time I took a speech class, I got a d minus and my speech teacher told me miss Nichols. I recommend you never speak in public. They get a desk job that was at my freshman year of college, the last piece class I took so a lot of time. Your gift in your purpose. You this counted. It because someone else discounted it or what's more common is Udall know how to monetize it. Yes, and sometimes the greatest gift you have to give is not four feet it for free

you watch people like you and I and go like I give aid for one, not every gift, useless if we're nelson mandela did not get paper leading twenty seven years when he got up proceed I paid after that, but he was a great leader. While he was imprisoned and martin luther king, he was a he. He got pay from the church, but his rights is fight for civil rights. That was a free one and he paid the high costs You can go on and onto the sum of the greatest leaders, mahatma gandhi, and what the paycheck and so and I'm not- and I know we're scaled down to our version, but don't get attached to having to get paid for your gift right yeah. I started this cast as a way of opportunities for free for a year. I'm not gonna taken here. Oz. Resign. I write anything like a son of a bitch could create an facility hey great conversations and that's it and now the

The money is coming in like us of how its impact on people's lawyer and potential was in the right place, but I wasn't like how can I do this right now to make money it was. How can I serve the maximum number of people that right there that, when people live in a place of servant leadership, my grandmother said on twenty four, if you leave and how you, how can you serve the most people on I sit with my team go? How can we serve more people? How can we said last year we able to touch thirty million people know how and that all our questions as we serve our platform despite, but how can we serve? Don't tell me how we can make more money, I'm not interested in that, and if so, how do we serve more cause? If I do the right thing for the right reasons, everything I need will be a byproduct abandoned viagra so I think we get caught up in you know. Society allows us to have, as has as looking up possessions, and so we begin to measure our joy and our abundance on possessions, and I have a friend whose worth he's worth fourteen billion tolerable, How do you write that had to write it down? So I could see

yeah. Maybe zeros is a lot he's worth fourteen billion dollars. I checked my email on my phone before we started and he's on my phone asking me please come visit me cause his lonely he's rich, but he's not abundant. He flew from Canada have come to come to my house for new years, just to be around people who were celebrating unwanted, nothing from him and so dont pursued the things pursue the acts of service and everything you need will come. I promise you there was powerful. stop talk about the four e's. What is this principle? The forties was that you talk about your book, yeah yeah yeah, so so that I like to break up my life in quadrants and I help students. I do a lot of coaching. I do personal development and professional development. Coaching and no matter

where you cut. Where you come to me what they can do for personal vellum or whether you are at want to turn your passion into profit and professional development and business development for entrepreneurs. We go over the four ethan, because abundance is holistic. There's a holistic experience, so the first is in richmond of self that you, we're gonna go as far as you think you worthy? I can push you can push. You can have the greatest product, but have you I feel sure that you will work hard to sabotage their relationship. You are what you don't normally there you don't know you do you think these are the things I need and you're driving that guy away you're drunk. in that woman away because yourself worst says they weren't gonna stay forever anyway, or self worth around money. You have a cap that you feel like worthy of a million dollars. You always get two. Nine hundred and ninety nine of the EU will start because your software says so enrichment as number one. What's the actual size or process that we can follow on a daily basis. Maybe something simple to enhance our enriching

absolutely worthiness. Absolutely. I did this for six months, every single day right after a brush mighty, and it's the see you exercise and you get the mere now. It is not necessarily simple because here too, because you dilemmas yourself, of course, and as complicated as you are probably the degree of having sobered writing. My colleagues are very well. Yes, I've received that nothing. So you get married, you complete three different sent us as you want to write them down the first sentence. You look yourself, and you say your name. You say louis and you complete. This is I'm proud that you and fine seven different things every day to celebrate yourself or seven different each day you can do the same thing you do the day before, but each day do seventy four things to be proud of. The second sentence is gonna. Knock you down a little bit. It's going to come from your gut and lewis. I forgive you for and cut the shackles to blame, shame guilt. Great and anger in that sentence, you cut those five shackles, not the first day, maybe not the third day but by the.

twenty first day by the thirteen day, you'll feel some relief so louis. I forgive you for and go back five years fifteen years twenty years to that effect, beat that for that thing done about it, no one, but you go ahead and couple shackles, because if you can still about. It is still in your energy space and then the third sentence has louis. I commit to you that before you make a commitment to anybody else, do our today you make seven commitment. so the first it is. I'm proud that, u yours celebrating yourself! First, we are under celebrated as a society. We look for acknowledgement. They in they interviewed a hundred executive that all made over a quarter of a million. Dollars is said: would you like a five percent raise next year, or would you rather be told? Thank you more often, one hundred percent one hundred percent say keep your money I'd rather here. Thank you we're under celebrated, but first celebrate you be the ample when I was on Oprah what she said you do us. I recognise that I'm the example of how the recipe well disposed to treat me. It is my job to give the world the best example.

Of how I like to be treated right. So celebrate yourself. Forgive yourself, cut the shackles and then commit to yourself before you commit to anyone else that right there powerful that right there will begin to fill your cuppa. To get to your us at a lower. What did you start to learn that process was add something you just started the practice yourself and started. Looking the merits, try a different things and the boy you asked the question.

I was in a relationship engaged to be married and became abusive. I was emotionally abused and then he picked me up and threw me three feet across the room and choked me until I passed out. I don't do a lot of people that do and I was suffering with post, traumatic stress disorder and my mother asked me to go to the doctor strongly recommended. I go to the drug me to the doctor and after the assessment of me in manhattan beach and my doctor said that I was clinically depressed and I I said how did I get here me that don't even fit what my name I was head cheerleader at my high school, I was, I was the capital, the track team. I was I'm always the person to get people going it

it said. How did I get here? I dunno if you've ever found yourself saying how did I get here? I was sitting on the table in the doctor's office, saying how did I get here and when she wrote me the prescription, she handed me the prescription and I'll read the prescription and, and it said, LISA Nichols prozac and it was like. I was looking at a foreign statement, my name him prozac and I asked her I said: can I try something for thirty days cause? I I realize I was just sad. I lost me I at lost me and him I lost me and being a mother. I lost me and being the mother of a son whose father was in prison and trying to hide that shame and then try to make this man happy

in the beginning, the finn from my life, I lost me, so I needed to discover me. I needed to remind myself who I was, and so I just realized that I didn't celebrate me. I was beating myself up. I was really mad at me. And I was shown for everyone else, I just made up these sentences and I did it to rescue myself to turn my crawl into a walk and I ultimately was able to term our crawl into a walk and my walk into a run. Am I run into a sore, but it started out.

as a crawl, so I don't offer the how I got to that exercise often, unless someone asked for thanks for sharing yeah I've, I've I've I've long since learned four things this to me. This is the road to true freedom. I have nothing to prove and I have nothing to protect. I have nothing to hide and I have nothing to defend that. Your perception of me, after I tell my truth, is actually none of my business. My perception of me that I go to bed as whole and complete as I woke up before I check how many likes I have on facebook that I like me first and in every other, like his bonus there, you go make it,

that was a long road to get to lower, wrote her long road yeah. We probably have constantly reminded of it. You know, and then, when I had my place and no one I've won, I live like I'm, forgetting you have to have a count ability partners dashed in the corners of your life, You have to give them a simon all your high day. You have to give them a seminal your high day, if I look like lebanon, where my goes in the way, it might get in my face or get in my face and remind me of the man of the woman. I said I wanted to be: don't let me off the hook for the twenty twenty version of me, because humans, it's going to happen as long as we're breathing out of integrity at some point come on humanities, don't get in the way you're. Our ladies yoshiko go exactly absolutely your resentment, your your your small, miss small. Is it all fits in smallness yeah, I'm human, and so I I'm. The best thing I did was to keep people

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You know because single at the time or do you have a girl to time or know me and my wife, you know we we've been on and off you know: she's had more patience with yeah yeah, but at the time you were with her or on and off yeah on and off and on, but she was always there met my immaturity, sir, but on You know my arm. you know it's just naturally, in a smaller So when I first go and now sleeve and we'll go out and neither people would shy away, which would hurt non early years or purse, which is look, man. What is TAT you know, very few people will ask why I started going out with mostly very few people would say. Just in terms of reform out in an area like a moment habit every manatee, the forty years all good people don't come over phone, but he found out yeah walking through more very few people just come.

Bring me like a man. What have they would just look right into stare and I was extremely difficult. for me for a long time right, just thinking about hey man I. What do you think it right or a really hurt when people just look and they would they looking and they would shy away like that hurt You know early on but I would say the biggest thing that I've had overcome like public speaking, I was fearful about but the biggest thing man was arm from poverty. You know what I consider to be poverty manner, because I thought for boys going. help my family. So when I started speaking I started doing, mainly well, you know. Have for, while with speaking to where I would just go, and I was just run except gauge- gave gay makes much. I was running right too strong to speak, because I what a certain way and our

I meant I don't want you to go back yeah to have to grow up the way. I grew up my kids or go back to the environment and every other monopoly right. I loved encounters with the people. I loved the impact that it gives you I was running from my pass in forget. I was in a small group in a gentleman was walking around in a circle and he was. I was something that you You got your light in childhood, you're dealing with or you run it from We brought a hand say something, and he got to me and I was like poverty and he was like, your body, as I know is. I was not brought it in his simplicity user profile, but it was simple right and I'm not about it. When I got to my room, forget Louis I gotta gay and it was one of the biggest gigs a gun to date. in their about the pay me more money, however, guided our I was thirty.

now, ouch, probably third aka six years ago, yeah they're about to buy your biggest check ever yup biggest check ever and I was stoked in challenge was it fell on my wife's birthday right? My man instead, you know you start work it out in my wife's birth. And I started to which they will go. She got em, I heard they were more than an hour or so when I bring it to her all worked it out a baby to ski you know like I can see. grandma spa. Come back right after that we can. Where I got her on her own law. I got it all figured out ass. She could see how excited I was issues oh she or go to my wife. my wiping been since fifth grade. So she knows me go so I It works out due to gay cinema. Spar fry bags

day pick her up everything those great on a birthday two days later, thank it was something about I've, been some socks summit, have some small wife blew up rights issue decided made at an even seeing it right in who exactly what it was. I immediately, as I do the gaelic outside He blown up not go. lord of about two gate, she felt as if I value the opportunity to engagement in the money over her and her birthday, That was the damage right, where the kids over the family over that moment right and so I had to do was realize that man, you got renewable. You got non renewable moments in life by renault, you can always makes more money right now, noble my wife and never get another thirty birthday.

My son and never have another tempered in my door and never have another eleven birthday right so my biggest thing that I had to overcome and destroy enrolled through was that spirit in a thought process running from poverty. something I encountered as a key. And once I got to a solid space as an adult, you know, The next level by last man, a new version of us right taken at too kit now, reconstruction it grows to another level. So I didn't damage by having the right intentions while doing damage to write intention. My family. You have a better way of life, but I'm doing them. with the right intention, because I'm that growing on that level and at thought process

So how do you negotiate? What if you got to hundred thousand hour gig on our birthday, yeah yeah, you just to say, nike. I can go right: yeah yeah, but man just trying to communicate. You know skilled at yes, I don't think as men we always get or cultivate. You know so well, yeah. now, what do you think so many people hold onto their tragedies or traumas so intently in their present from something that happened to five tat many years ago. Why do you think people hold onto it so long? I think jested in nature. The impact when that happens right how it's done their life. Right like I have my friends who is a high level coach, the visual coach that ended up, didn't fire and down great, man has had a bad run by a couple of years and hit me

a business like hey aikman, need you to help me with something So why am I resisting opportunities to get another head gay so like a lot ball. I, while more resistant resisting the to why my fearful was like I'm not seeing. This is for certain, but Think for one, maybe the embarrassment of the fire and how tat made you feel. How did impact to children had an impact at your family because I think painful, expand, This is they always come with a lot of different emotions. Right like me, talking about going out, it was for me what my own people look at me right now, a bit embarrassing at first, right, and so sometimes we hold on tv. Different emotions that at as to the experiences that we have. So I think you got the experience. And you got the collateral damage of the experience It affects our mindset. facts the way we see people how to ex our emotions and

Big sometimes is challenging to separate the two. Indeed, struck the two, and so therefore we hold onto the felons that the trauma may have given us. The felons that their versed in opposition may have given us and so I think the moment that we can grow through it and figure out a way to use it. I think the quicker we get through it I think, as a powerful being those thank, you probably notice to be true, when we use what happens to us and it creates a lot but moment for another person? That's a great felon it's like when you get something for yourself, a christmas as awesome. It feels great. But when you do something for another person that you know is a knee ten times better for some reason, I saw take adverse in opposition in connected the same way when we go do things it hurts or we figure out a way to get through it. But when we share something and we identify with another person,

They know that because often when people go to stuff, you fill alone for isolated and you feel like man like is something wrong with me and I think happens when we go through when we create a level of empathy We showed him that now menu human we all go do things. I know, bodies perfect. I got told a guy had a bridge, complexes, injuries manasseh you got through it. It hasn't been that easy from me. I I know brought to work it's a years. This was I would do every motion probably going through and I had a lot people who helped me with. What's the difference between the traumas that happened to us and the generational trauma that happened to our ancestors, the major difference is placed them I already so there's a genetic component ended generational trauma and sensitive Marisa Tomei has this

way in which there is a genetic transmission that happens from parent a child rule and saw it creates a predisposition to vulnerability to stress community level. What's a common he's, apple, you see in your practice that a generational story. well. I mean you know their people that will come in and say you know. Ever since I was a child. I was like difficult to soothe and I was you know I I had like this hyperactivity is alive. Thomas of ours that also like believe that their symptoms are coincide with adhd, because there is a lot of overlapping in the experience and then in the center metalogy. So there there's a lot of that there's like people that you know reflect back to their child. and they say, like I've always had like this experience that felt like I was always anxious. When we did. so the layers- and we dig deep. we start noticing: okay, the

because I do a lot of like family tree work and like really going down the lineage dynamic. Will. What are some of the trauma? Responses are. What are some of the? sponsors around also like inflammatory responses like depression or anxiety or other it's like mental illness. You know kind of experiences that were held in the family we start going down the family line and we start employing not only their childhood and how they responded in their childhood, what their attachment patterns were in their childhood, but also how perhaps like them had an inner child wound and the mothers mother hadn't into china revealed it never healed it What's that as a trauma responds yelled, king than the home, you know had like emotional outbursts, what it that do that actually created a disruption in the attachment that you could have had like in your childhood. It created and insecure attachment You then went out into the world and experience bullying a pandemic like all kinds of things, and then that trauma, that trauma in

pan, city or or vulnerability gap, triggered out now you are, continuing the cycle of intergenerational trauma, as it was model to you. Genetically was passed down and then you know now is it Is it genetic or is it? Let's say the mother, braces cycle before she heels her trauma the generation from before she has her child. She can, and and she creates an environment of peace. You know Is it the environment or the biology, the genetic code that is passed down, because it's like these environments are cut passed out when you witness your parents doing it? You just fine, the pattern and you father the environment pattern here, is that you it is that environment. What is both its both? It's, like you know as long as psychology has existed with had like theories,

on nature, nurture darwinism, also decided that re like way back when so nature, being like the biological aspects of our experiences and then nurture being like the social aspects of our experiences and intergenerational drama is really the We trauma that is situated at the intersection of both. So we the natures died. Yes, you know on the nature of the genetic expression like when we're getting a lot of information from like this the rapid genetics which helps us understand how behaviour like impacts genes and so basically, what happens is that a mother, a mother has stress and depression in her life. Let's say that this matter is actually pregnant at five months, station, so she's pregnant, a baby in utero and b, she's EF. I must cessation that baby also has all the precursors sex cells that they're gonna have for their lifetime. Regardless of whether it's male or female. They already have those

so, the mother she experience chronic charmer entire life, and so because, they became the status quo. Her genes re expressed so her jewels said. Ok. This is the way that things are. We stress body and soul, because her genes are now may we are predisposed to stress, that's being the down to the baby in utero, actually a conception of so the is conceived into genes that are predisposed distress. And because he is already still stress while she's having this baby almost a swarm of mainly quarter, so those are being passed on to the baby in utero and what's happening to the precarious So those are also ingesting alot of distress, environments. He have three generations in one body, while genetically being passed down the strasbourg ability but ass the social peace? The mother stress you know like she has all her things going now she's predisposed to trauma. She's got all these things going

while she's right, you know still paying environment is still stressful, yeah yeah everybody, in that lineage of three generations in one body is experiencing stress. Three generations or is it like every generation tat it Well, you know. Like I mean I am, I think it's it's, little bit of a chicken and egg kind of phenomenon when it comes into generational drama. Re, like is like where the who, who started it right, but I think I am be there because it's, I think, a little bit easier to see like oh well. Maybe it started with mom. Maybe she was you know the person that maybe should have an extreme trauma, and there was a reaction response exactly right, and so now we at least get to see where the genetic line started from the from the trauma perspective I think about that way. You're, like man, I'm carrying the weight of you, know multiple generations of trauma in my genes, like physical, wait, actual weight that could that could get a little dark and heavy. If really put the emphasis on that

So how do we actually break that psycho once and for all? Where none, trauma stays with us and we don't pass it down to our kids enough has to be a very like holes some overhaul from elsewhere. like it has to be. You know and integration of holistic practices and identity rise single, like a daily practice. Everyday can't way we're on it, because we- think about what we're undoing we're not undoing the decades of My view spurs yeah you're doing I'm doing all that you writhings to have a rebirth. It's like spiritual, psychological, emotional, nervous system, rebirth. In my opinion, I feel like I've a couple of them in the last decade. Ten years ago, a kind of opening up about my sexual abuse trauma and then in the last few years, just did all relationships and general, like all intimate relationship, sort of had never really face them until a couple years ago.

and I thought you had a re either. emotionally spiritually die in a sense psychologically. I guess burn and then and then build from the ashes kind of psychologically and its process. I'm not saying I finished it or never, but it's like a costume journey of going back to the different stages childhood healing, each stage in integrating that age with my current self, so there's for integration and healing of every different memory from my life, that was a traumatic response and spinning beautiful journey, that has allowed me to have peace and harmony on the insight which I never had that until really ten years ago. I didn't start feeling it, but I'm until a couple years ago- and I started feeling more more peace on the inside and allows me to again see the world differently, I'm not saying, unlike like

trigger by things, but allows me to see it and say ok, this sucks. How can I Communicate what I want to change, now from my reactive overwhelmed stressed, traumatic state, which I feel like you can't really get much done from that state know it I mean you, can you know you can push things down and now and then and still operate. You know, Fairly well, but we can all of the welcome back in survival mode, though cause numbing is still survive, thrive and you're, not creating a bond new life for yourself when you're in a traumatic response. Are we no not at all I mean I think, You know abundance comes from being able to get into the depths of your soul right. So I love that you're talking about them more like cycle spiritual angle, because that is definitely a. I operate from a holistic and gone so like a lot of the work that I do is very mind. Body spirit and the spiritual peace is really essential. Because of that

can I just heard your connection to higher power is really just the also your connection to yourself. You like really disconnected from your true authentic self. living abundantly nurse, and if we want generation abundance and we have to get into the depths of everything, that's their into the mud, if you may, if you're, if you're triggered or have a nervous system response to a lot of things, you're constantly in survival mode right and it's hard to create an abundant, it's hard to dream from a fight survival is hard to create something beauty or from that place I mean it makes a lot of sense even like you know, from a biological perspective like we're in a nervous system response- and that's me, survival mode and a chronic nervous system all right so. Our nervous system is designed to actually make it so that whenever we are in a fight, fly, freeze a fawn any non essential functions and he until like or functions bodily functions, our brain

even like the cortical regional of my brain. All of that is mildly shut down. So, if you're talking about like alchemy, using and creativity and like all things, those things require a lot of cortical. You know structure later manifestation of. Like you know, all the things that you want like really requires feed, again see a creative mine and if your cortical is not fully Functioning in the ways that it because its survival maud thing you're, not really gonna get more than actual aviation. I hope you'll

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