Natalie Portman is an Academy Award & Golden Globe-winning actress, director, producer, and activist. Natalie joins the Armchair Expert to discuss the effect of being a public figure at a young age, how being sexualized that early affected her and how privileged she feels to be able to connect with so many people that she admires. Dax tries to impress Natalie by wearing a Fauci shirt and admits to having a photo of her in his toolbox. Natalie explains her decision to take a break from acting to go to Harvard, how she comforts herself during career lulls, and the impact Star Wars had on her life. In the fact check, Monica takes a personality test.
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Welcome. Welcome up an arm chair, expert on Deck Shepard who joined by Monica Lily Pad man. That's me I wish I was Monica Portman. Oh God, don't we I guess it is Natalie Portman which, by a boy rarely do Monica. I have are same favoured actor Yassin episode. I now only such an exciting revelation about Monica is very personal pass with Nellie Portman Airway to find yet Lhasa cliffhanger. Now deployment of This is an academy award and Golden Globe winning actress director, producer and activists. I fell in love with her in the professional. Of course, she was fantastic and closer and black swan. Many of the star wars, Jackie. And stay there. So many merrily has a new book out, which I own and I've read my child called Natalie, Portance fables. So we'll talk a bit about that. Also before we dig into the ever delicious Natalie
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I find I mean much is not aligned led straight metal. I him recording yet please help me. That's what I'm here for a right, yeah, ok, so do you have a role of pennies coppers gonna play a big role in this alignment. You got, give like a heads up. So, there's something copper here I want to point out to you probably missed it, so I wore this shirt last time we spoke, have you been wearing. It sends a higher amount to remember now I wore the GM twofold continuity and two because I possessed you as being a fan found and I'm trying to win your something. You have my approval, sibling heard in your support and love of algae with you as you to him on the bill Gates, Rashid Johns Pike yesterday and is heart exploding.
As always anytime, I listen to him back up Bill Gates and Rashid Jones have a podcast. You haven't lessened, yet it's amazing, that they're always doing together. Our So jobs are live here. We interviewed him. He sent his diet copes with our names autumn. We thought we were best friends with him and he gets. Is there my god this interview? Maybe I'm inspired him? Maybe he was like look at this incredible pairing How did you get this? Oh, my god, as the coolest. very. Very cool deserves no question about that. Say: ok, where to go now a bride? One shock you to know that my wife got me this t shirt, so I dont want to say too much credit. Your wife is the best. Yes, that's you animus less that we're talking at the zoo, there's a lot internet issue. What I'm curious about is what has changed in the internet landscape. Since we last talk to you because this is dynamite, well,
I got a dongle was though it's like a thing like a mobile internet back up plan and just learned about it, and it sounds like a word that you're not supposed to say better than nothing works like doing busters. It's really really happening, at what happened in your world since we are, we went to the sand dunes, we went off roading where the sand dunes, they are south of the Sultan, see, their foreigners where miles and may actually go up to Mexico, the wall is within the sand dunes. You can not road to it. In fact, I am always out. Like I'd been many times, I was just going: his new people were at the dunes and, to be honest, it's kind of like shown people to sign in Hollywood you're through their exact break deep political.
Disruption now now, but I've been going to the dunes for fourteen years that walls been there forever and I used to go to. It was just like oh wow, but leave the steel wall, and then you put your hand through it and I going to Mexico now I'm not took a selfie of myself from Mexico table. But yes, now it is this incredible beacon of political angst. Ok, now you were born in Jerusalem, correct and I'm areas because mom was american and Father was has rarely. How did they me did they meet here? They meet their wouldn't axon question they met here. Well, here, being the you asked, that's complicated were days in Austria they met? My mom was at Ohio, State University and my father was doing elective in medical school at Ohio State University and they met at Hillel House the leg jewish
Students, clubs, like a red men whose story and I knew about Israel and Sheila Guenaud- went there in Manhattan, sir yes, Sir, I was born in Jerusalem, which significantly, I think until recently, I don't know they changed everything but it doesn't say Israel on my passport. It says Jerusalem, because Jerusalem's not recognise internationally as part of Israel, because if I think very special to be like an inch, national city. Sure it's almost like being born in the Vatican or something exactly. I think it's like one of the few places that's like internationally recognised as like an international city. Of course Israel clean. as an israeli city in nineteen anyone they were viewing themselves the citizens of Jerusalem as a sovereign state now, and they did not even says that way at all but the rest of the world, the AIDS, because its contested the
the world is recognising it as like non attributed city. So anyway, I'm a passport. It doesn't say a country that I was born and just as the city all that's, why because moms american you had no problem having american citizenship. Is it dicey to be born there at is born with an active citizenship because of my mother? Ok, now, when mom move there were two mom grew up in Ohio, highly oh hi amendments Cincinnati. Since a wonderful, she certainly Benda Cedar Point which she and I could talk about effort. our kings island growing. All she did. She lacks Cincinnati. My whole families fairy Cincinnati. So friendly with him Israel's a big departure from Cincinnati. How do you like it? She was super brave Chirac, hadn't been out of the country before she moved to Israel and it was like a dog. Been nation with a thousand percent
inflation when she moved there. it seventies and citing who is a big shock, but very brave men call that she took that leap of faith for love how many years were you there before you guys move back system, he was their six years, but I was there till I was three because they rising buried for a little did things properly where they, you know we're married Pherson in a little later yeah. So traditional sound, that's not only did we went to how to get a sin. Our kid was at our wedding, but that's cool same same so when you guys moved back to the states. What drove that move was it a job opportunity was? They were just enough of it yeah. I think it was simultaneously tenants. My grandfather was sick, so my mom wanted to be near him and then my dad like found work opportunities here too. So he continued his leg. Medical education and care to this end the only child? Yes, yes, yes, yes, it shows
I will not share While we want to know this, because this is something we have observed in our friendship circle, the only children they have. No, problem like we're at a busy party in they'll. Go upstairs, though read a book of they'll take a nap in plain sight. They had no problem. Just breaking up and doing their own thing is that you are now ok, there, legs? Jewish mother ok, act which is like you have to take care of. Everybody at all times, even if they're not asking for it. I have like high anxiety around me In short, everyone is happy and feels attended to, and I would never ever leave a group of people I haven't got overrides the only child ness, a proper codependent, I gotta being alone I am but I would never leave a group of people, so our friends are just several hundred, because I didn't my husband's always saying to me like Natalie everyone's a grown up like you, don't need to take care of people there
Fine. I need your husband in my life cause, I'm a middle child whose causing like there could be an argument. My comedies gonna be needed to take them fire down an arch, so you were the sea and then you went to Connecticut manure into dance and so on and so forth, and you start acting. really early and of course boy don't know if I should tell you this now or later. So, Kristen, I first started dating. She went out to the garage. She knows my toolboxes, and there was a gigantic picture of you. It had been in my toolbox for twelve years year, you're my favorite access of all time, I'm sorry honor. That's young eyes. I don't know that's good or bad. Now I am sure my husband had a picture of Kurdistan and his life, the other good good dressing room at the ballet. So everything We then ok, good, so you'll find that a lot of my questions are gonna, be kind of about. When I became obsessed with you before, you start carrying right
totally. I can hear a lot about. You know we live close to each other. I've seen you in real life and on my head cowering we're boring. Aren't we all in my lab, wait before we get into those questions. Do you get this all the time because you ve been around for so long and you ve been in the public eye for so long that people always want to bring you back to your past. I'm sorry! I have very small ears. I don't know if you ve known as hard from his two days, you're one the worse equip movies dark. You ve ever thought he had found the worse internet. You haven't we're online shopping. So a lot of people definitely like love the professional, so that is by far the thing people talk to me about the most above star wars, yeah, which is surprise,
rising when I'd say star. Wars is a close second by the professionals like really means allotted people which is cool call. I also don't feel I don't know anything I feel very close to what I had anything to do with its success. More like shy about or like uncomfortable taking compliments, but when you're twelve, you like I don't know what the hell I was doing, I'm so happy you love at that. so great like that was made that, with all other group of people had made that successful, and I can feel happy that that makes you happy you know I can accept the compliment more easily. Well, that's a great point because, to be honest, If you they could have put anyone in star wars and it would have done great. You of course are great in star wars, but definitely star wars is a star star wars, the professional. If you are not exactly who you are and that movie it doesnt work. Not thank you. Leon doesn't fall for this kid and this kid
Zeb portraying the loneliness and the laws, and all these things the movie jests, and it literally hinges on you- may be more than any other movie. You ve gotten. It was really fine. For me, it is very exciting to get to dislike mess around. While I was elected and turns, while, while I was shooting so here's what gets dicing so I'm six years older than you- and this will be a theme- I think it is very interesting I sense where this is going. I have to imagine this was a common thing, which is you got costs in that, and then I was like, oh my god, this person, so talented and so cute, and so everything things are you also I'm nineteen I feel that way about whatever- or maybe I was eighteen isn't terrible. Ah I got you. The feelings and conspiracies, while the premise of beautiful girls is Timothy, Hutton gets. In fact all the year has infected with this girl, whose picture
shoes and wiser their ears and there's something whimsical about at length of this girl knows love before its jaded. There's like some pretty things and there's some complicated, dicey thing not now I dont know that movie gets. May I mean there's so many layers, Diego I'm working through my own stuff with you, which is there were times these are all over this girl, but yet be Timothy. Hutton is he's much older than me. I guess I'm fine was that Then you are aware of. I guess it's where going with all of this, I definitely aware of the fact that, like I was being portrayed like mainly in kind of journalism around when them these would come out as like this, like lolita figure and staff and have actually talked about it. I wrote a thing about it for the women's March a few years ago about how being sexual lies as a child I think, took away from my own sexuality because it made me afraid- and it made me
like the way that I could be safe, was to be like I'm cool. a bit of, and I'm you know like serious, and you should respect me and I'm smart. Unlike don't look at me that way, whereas, like you know that age is like, you do, have your own sex, reality and you do have your own desire and you do want to explore things and you do when it be open, but you don't feel safe, NASA airily when there's like older man better like yeah, stand near leg. No, no, no, no, no! No, and so I feel you build these fortresses around you and also take on like so many people. I think had this impression of me that like Super Syria's and leg fruit and likes to conserve.
As they get older, and I realized I consciously cultivated that because it was ways to make me feel safe that, oh, if someone respects you they're, not gonna objectify war, we interviewed the California surgeon General and she was talking about childhood. Aces right in a car an outcome of vat for women who are molested, it's pretty common for them to gain a bunch, a way to become invisible. They want. To be not seen by men ever again, and so it doesn't surprise me that you had your own kind of defence against that unwanted attention. Yeah its deal and it's a complicated thing because it's like you're told as a girl and a woman that you're supposed to want that, and that is a good thing that, like people finding you attractive or like people thinking you're sexier people thinking you're, beautiful or precocious, like these words that,
we use around young girls in particular, and then it's complicated because it doesn't making necessarily always feel good or old, always feel safe, and then it hinders you're, just like natural development of what you might be like because your creating a self defensively Hamburg I'll, be the person. That is be like in you tat any weirdness you now and it works out. Luckily I mean I was safe, yonder your internet sucks, but other than that I've seen everything seems to have worked out, but you know what's funny, is you almost have the opposite trajectory of a Disney star? So you see so often like these kids to get really popular on Disney, Actually want to claim their sexuality in a really big way because they were not allowed to be sexual, and so yours is like the complete. Opposite way, you're like kind of plain sexy, and then
you went the other way. It's really fascinating its tone of major and it's so weird, because I think I was auditioning for all that stuff too, and I would never got it as a kid like. I always got like the dark. Like kind of sexy, lucky girl, ventilate tail foregone Ivy League Generous Europe. Commercial. Maybe like no way like ours does not cute cheaper. She needs of an anti drug commercial. Let's get her in the next room. Exactly one thing I think of in ITALY we just interviewed Halsey in she gonna talked about having been seventeen having to twenty four year old boyfriend at the time. Thinking It was one thing now getting older and looking back and going up and then re evaluating the whole experience with a different set eyes in so I imagine the real time experience of it is one thing and then probably in reflection. Also as you learn about the many is a massage any and all these different things like do you ever stop a bell
you waiting at or is it ongoing yeah? I think it's definitely interesting. I mean and not someone who's like sitting around Thinking about? Do you hurry, I made sure of our area or the stuff I've been in, adding that also a luxury, because it wasn't particularly dramatic again. Like I was lucky that leg I mean there's hundreds of little thing that I think any woman on earth in any place as experience, but nothing massive that I've been ruminating on I think it definitely makes you where you know. I think all of us think about like what are the things that have kept me from being free judges authentically who you were born to be. Ray re. Unlike what are the things inside of me and what are the things that other people who put on me that have stopped me or blocked me in any way from being completed
free, and so I think in that way, in the way that we are all trying to lake look for being are like full o, been real selves just as a public person at a young age and then as a public female at a young age. In my attempts to lake build these fortresses that kept me save the succeeded in keeping me save, it didn't allow The full expression of who I was at that time are certainly not artistically. Like I started choosing roles roused like I won't kiss I want you know like When I was in my teens, I was like I don't want, you know, have any I see and are gonna make out scenes are either. I would start by choosing parts that were less sexy because it may mean worried about you're saying in a way I was perceived and how safe I felt, and even though I am so sorry, you- and you know I do said- well, ok,
if I may like full throttle- and I don't want to- I think that is really profound- then I dont think you're sitting around thinking about you we're about what I imagine you do do day. as I do. We now have children, so there's two things a you start thinking about. So if my child wanted to do this thing, you know you ve had the personal experience. That's can inform it in some way and then even more. So, like your passing on stuff right, I'm just a brief word on it boys because I grew up terrified I'd be seen, is weak and of an everything possible to be seen as strong in its cliche an embarrassing, and so I would have to decide like I dont want to pass this on to my son in law, in that way. I guess I wonder if you evaluate like. Oh, we're evolving. I have a daughter, I'm goin, to pass on something what part swollen keep in. What do I want to say this was bonkers yeah! Absolutely I mean I have a boy
and a girl, and so it's been really interesting to I get to think about each of them and also was kind of a revelation to me. What you're talking about about how these constructive, what people are supposed to do by their gender is so limiting for men as we talk about it for women all the time about, like things women are not able to do or not able to express are not able to achieve because of these social prejudices. But then to understand that men are so constrained by the things that are allowed to lake the things their alleged interested in the emotions they're allowed to feel I mean I know my husband's French and he said when he moved to the: U S he was like guys, won't talk to me about theatre or music, are all his close friends were gay man because he was like straight man in America are alive,
I too have interests in the arts, its limiting like our. You only allowed to be intellect car listen motorcycles. that's all I'm out you I'm not paying the price of the culture. I grew up in all I care about two things you put gasoline and- and I dont want the earth the burn up. I'm the one thing I like I can't even really enjoy anymore, but its leg, of course, all bad creative energy, the emotional energy is only allowed to be channeled into certain interests, and certain things to talk about so with both of them. I'm trying to be conscious of support. what they're into genuinely and exposing them to the same things, which is hard because you tend to be like. Oh boy, soccer girl, ballet, you know in the stuff, but to expose them to the same kinds of things, see what they take to encourage that its shocking, how much stuff just comes from outside of that
household that is very gendered and, unlike you know, oh yeah, but I think that also one of the reasons I want to read the book, because I wanted to create characters. They are representative of the world today you just want to get into their minds and hearts and empathize with them cause. That's it I'm constantly trying to do with like myself, and be like how does she feel? How do you think she's feeling when someone says that to her? How do you think he feel cause? I don't think boys are practising bad enough. and girls? For my daughter? I want her to think how do you feel, I didn't girls, we over Practice Lang, knowing how, everyone else thinks about us and feels about us. Where are we ready enough, be smart enough army nice enough, every kind. Never we Sweden after be cute enough and then we're not lake.
why. Why would we need as much- and I think that has a lot to do with not thinking about the inner lives of female characters from an early age when you see how many books and movies and tv shows for kids are primarily male characters were not having kids practice. Thinking about the female mind and heart early enough for both boys and girls? Oh yeah, so did you find yourself, as we did you're reading your kids, all these six, four by the way this cause a whole shitstorm, so prison was critical of sleeping beauty and invention, Paris, and we want to get rid of all classics which, by the way now we love the books, but at the end of the week, to our daughters. Can we this girl was passed out in the duke kissed her right. That's a little curious you to illegal minimal illegal, so we don't read them, but then there launching off points for us today
go like well, that's kind of weird is an order. All she desired was to be the husband of this prince or you know we just get into it. So have to imagine you are having the same experience. Words like ok, here, the classics and boy what a bit of culture on passing on our definitely also so many pronoun changes to make sure that all the characters, I think, the animal kingdom so many of these books about animals and then all the characters from now and then notice myself, even like we'd, go to the park and and be like. Oh look at that dog. Isn't he cute? Like my deep? It was always to go to where he with an animal which is weird an accurate. changing the pronouns reading, my kids, those books just to make it reflects the world to experiment on them. Exactly and then I was like this should just exist because it's silly to read these books. and sometimes you get tired. You forget to change the pronouns or they learn to
and then the reading themselves. The books and the books are all he, and so as like this. She does happen. Well, that's what I notice about Europe the tortoise and hair. So you correct me if I'm wrong, but the conventional story is probably supposed to be teaching humility and focus. Maybe is that a good assessment? I think I think the challenges are getting south perseverance perseverance in yours The tortoises female in the hair is male in so there's some other layers going on here to cause the The hair is trying to embarrass the Tories by insinuating that she'll cry that she's weak and yet the tortoise. Odds, ahead, right and stays focused and by the way, as an anthropology You know hunting and gathering societies. The women were just so much more durable. That's just a fact: women had a child or two in there person while they were gathering you know they survived famine, better just more resilient and their stronger. So the irony that the hair, of course, things tortoises weekend will cry,
all these things. I was thinking. Others definitely also male female layer going on here in a little iconoclasm of those gender stereotypes that right and absolute I definitely try to not make it leg. Males are the like bag, Characters. Females are the good characters, because I think that the more range of power, stability. We allow females to have as humans and as personality is the more we see females as people first and then judge them by their characteristics or veto actions. So, for example, in that we little pigs. The wolf is female. You know. I think that a great our budget about if you put a woman on it, at his dull. It's just another kind of cage and its true wig. When people say like a women are better leaders are better and you're like not necessary. I think that acknowledges humans, they're, just human
capable of being good or bad, and the video about rages, surrender, unjust and you know, were human and if you make any kind of stereotypes about any group of people, its dehumanize even if its positive, even if it's like masquerading as a compliment, and so in that Sport is an. There are some typical kind of like. now female gender dynamics. When I tried to make other places where you know you don't see women as like the hero of the story necessary elements that you know that our three g at all. Thank you. It's not preachy at all in by the way, I'm probably projecting a lot of things from like a whole anther, a point of view, but men due to these Flashy things like we can pick up a tremendous amount away its it's of prey, Russell, a chant better than you can but giving birth, having a period every month. All these longer, Creating endurance drive like it's, not it's why she, but it requires so much Strang. Someone tell me
in the leg, bathroom theory of gender equality, which is like there's always alone, wine in the women's bathrooms and the man's never and so like. If you want to make a quality and like a theatre or something, you should probably make ten times the number of bathrooms for women than for back up. There are different, Is that you need to attend to charge? You guys have to undress and yell, extracting reacted their whole situation, but I think that there are different says we can address we're, not trying to say like oh yeah, everyone is the same. That's gonna like sand. I don't see re since, like ok, will then there's a weird side of that to reign exactly just trying to be JAG left well, that was or weird than we were correct, and hopefully the long arc is moving in the right direction. He asked, and hopefully I think we can believe that people are trying their best to make things better. Yaquita allotted
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to your own children. Did you first didn't mean you had written it or did you give them a blind taste ass? I told them. I write at Boeing eyes. Ass would be waiting dangerous, very high risk, but if the compliment is very like iron, that one that's true now, but I didn't warn them and I tested around them a lot since I've heard many generations so here's some clues. We got a organ and ultimately offer you a role in the pod witches. Thank you take, no? No, no, absolutely not you'll, have nothing to do with anything technical, but as in our guy or name, our gale you seem to be connecting with people right before we hip to them. Ok, I'm gonna. Give you a couple of examples. The first thing we interviewed you ve. coming from your house and we were like or how this bitch get ahead of us, no very loss and you'll have twenty feet
yeah. That was really funny and took him thirty minutes. I love you vol and his partner are so wonderful and he is so brilliant and changes my mind and thinking about everything all the time I would agree. I don't think I have had such a paradigm shift since leaving college twenty years ago or whatever it's been the whole explanation of Buddhism, which I don't think I ever really understood and craving I'm on. Oh yeah. That's me my sufferings, all just I'm craving from a different mental state that I don't have an oh yeah, that's right and then even the explanation of capitalism versus communism in the store I mean it's all. It's so good. So good and in his recent about in the times about conspiracy theories, was so wonderful too I haven't read. There is great it's just. The basically point is Even if someone wanted to control the world, you couldn't sleep
you ve, been behaviour over seven billion people is completely unpredictable and it's not possible to manipulate. While my other thing is most criminals caught because they go to a barn. They brag do a stranger not even like their best friend people love telling other people to shit they might I find it in simple, to believe anyone can keep a secret on these the scale that's part of it. It's just like this would not work with human behavior. Yes, this were true. There were people trying to do this leg. It would not succeed. Because human behavior is much too unpredictable. Yes, ok, so there next person was Jonathan, saffron Flower and flower yeah. We came over which ETA with him we gonna, fell in love with him. Then we find out. You have had this friendship with him above about so here's my question: what are the logistics up, so you read something: let's say you read sapiens and you go on get involved with this person like a. How does it work you? While I think maybe I should mention that I liked him
an article or something. Then he asked me to moderate a conversation that he was doing and London randomly and unlike what an opportunity- and that was that Jonathan I read his book when I was in college and then went to go here a reading of his and met him after the reading and mistress like fanning out on him, and then we stayed friends and then I guess at twenty years and yeah he's written, more and and gun very deep into animal protection has become kind of this deep environmentalist. So it's been really interesting to know him for a while. If I fall over something- and I think for a second- I have like
access. I will try. My heart is to be a part of the person's life. Well, isn't that kind of the biggest privilege, yeah yeah, being a public person. You do have this ability to connect with people you admire, learn, frowning get to actually meet them. Sometimes so definitely use that. It's like pride. The thing I use most out of my preferred It is like getting to connect connected. Those people had so exciting that, unlike restaurant reservations, that the other really taken advantage of one thing I will then I've come to really be grateful for his target treated. The hospital American often said that to me, as I everything does, that Oh my god, for year you're there often tell her I want to say going analyze. You, though, for a second and do it ok, I don't believe in any event, so
I'll get you had better get. So how do I save us? So I have all this baggage thy was dyslexic. I was in learning disable classes when I have a big ship on my shoulder by being smart, but a lot of this is like identity and what I want to be seen as verses. What I am being seen as so I play stupid people, a movies and I'm a comedian right. So I really a gross egotistical way. I do search out the praise of like intellectual and people I admire, and I wonder if any very smart half of the egg you you're one of the people one here that right, not an intellectual. I think you're very smart, but I wondered goods. I want to say this, but the Harvard like you're on the spot get shipped to be in any movie you wanna being in, and you decide, I'm gonna take a break and part of that you already addressed, which is, I want to be seen as serious and for the many reasons there, but you also have like a romantic identity. Is there things that you ve been like? I want to be this person and I want to be seen this way in his Harvard part of their in his like approval from these p
we admire part of it. Definitely I mean it. I think I have a similar chip on my shoulder about like being seen as smart, because you know I come from like very academics, Emily, like my dad, the doktor, my grandfather had four Phds and was a professor in length. It was kind of embarrassing to be an actress like my dad took me aside when I was twelve two click. I'd already done, all the star worrisome is like. So what about grad school like this was cute, but lay you now leg, Do something meaningful and serious with your life and when I went to Harvard I definitely was like. Oh, this is, I changed careers and a kind of was the moment where I had to come to terms with this what I love I do find meaning in it I find meaning enjoy an iron. profound meaning and telling stories that change the way people going the world and hopefully empathize with people the way that they empathize with characters on screen, because you know when you're crying
or a stranger and their life or laughing with them because of their joy. Your happiness, that's practising empathy and feels like storytelling has that purpose, and that was kind of the time when I had to admit that myself that I like did not enjoy Prima, I'm not that excited about cam organic chemistry is leg you know in my camera. I get it but like it's, not my passion in others is not gonna. Let me up for the next ten decades, hopefully so yeah that was important to me, been definitely having most kids that but go to Harvard care about. saying that they went to Harvard alive. But if I'm partly like a brands association, what we talked about this a lot by this friend Christine from Michigan, she went to Harvard law. She did great I've been with her when people say where you go to law school, she said
when they go like they did to the whole thing is so crazy, the reaction it triggers every insecurity everyone has so people SAM. I went to school in Boston, but I guess you can't really did everyone knows you went to Harvard it's definitely like false modesty, recycling like people now, then what are you trying to leg pretend your humble or yoyo curling really offensive to be like. I went to the school and Wendy like. I, don't think so you didn't you know upon their. I did I did and the best part of it for me was my a group of friends that I made you who are still like my closest friends today and doing interesting, bangs and engaged in. You just good people and I love them. Do I remember correctly that you live in the dorm yeah in so what went into that decision? we have to live in the door pretty much everybody dies, except for like a few rich kids, you know Jared Kush,
all he didn't have in the dorm I mean having freshman year ever one dead, including him, and then you know the lake Super Wealthy gets move off campus yeah. Did you feel self? Conscious being there I didn't much, you know Facebook started I was a senior school. Zuckerberg is like a freshman when I was a senior a bank and at first started camp is so There was no social media. There were no camera phones. No one was like oh you know, one was like snapping pictures of me when I didn't notice like I was able to kind of have, I'm norm. Experience like kids were aware of me, but leg. You know there were like big athletes and, like the best pianist in the world, the link, the best mathematician and the country and, like you know there are all these kinds of people around. So I don't know. I think, if anything there goddamn accuracy now legacy that would have been. My big fear I walked around with
Oh, they all think I don't belong here was scary. Like anytime, I talked in class. I would get legs shaky boys. Do you hate everyone's gonna buy those still bears. That was part of lake growing. Now, because you know you have one professor, who you really admire. Who takes you seriously and things you have? good idea, a new start, getting confidence. You know that you're opinion or idea might be of value, yeah, ok, one of the things on me outside looking at your career. It seems to me that you ve had a confidence to step out of it back into it and out of it back into it. I am curious, was it that? Was it just a confidence or have you had the same panic as everyone else that you think like o v? I take a couple years of a kid. It's going to change. I mean it's proven to not ever have affected you negatively, but I
That requires a ton of conviction. I mean I'm definitely had moments. It panic in moments of feeling like. Oh, my god, I haven't done anything I don't have interesting opportunity is. Are you know? I think all of us do, but the lucky thing is that it's been so long. I've had twenty five years, so I know how to comfort myself of being like. There are ways it can seem slow and then it will be more and then take it easy. Do your thing focus on your page. You have your own path and like this. Is it it also knowing how importantly life is cause any time I see you, someone who's like working nonstop, unlike when do they have time to leg, be with the people they care about? His work is very all consuming. You know like when I'm shooting, I don't do anything else. You know right. So it's pretty often to have time to wait.
friends and pursue interest like you're talking about in like calling up someone I admire and having a conversation with them. You know and spending time with my family. Of course. Do you have the thing that my wife has the battle, which is, if you're working, you feel guilty and if you're not working, you feel guilty like if your our game. You have this guilt of like all, because a woman- I you know like I just feel like are damned. If you do damned, if you don't owe surf in ITALY, I think every working mothers burden as that you're either feeling like you're not doing enough for yourself for, like your own empowerment or you're, like not being are enough for your tags or whatever, there's just a lot of expectations we put on ourselves and that society doesn't help out a lot with yeah or it can. I ask you selfishly about one movie yeahs offers, while you're the daughter and he which is grass? What does he say? Well, but you know he says:
he said something about you, I used to do it all the time boy says. I got four dead bodies on Venice Boulevard. I am sorry if the goddamn chickens cold, but he says something great about you that I used to imitate, and I can't remember what the guide closer. I was so mesmerized by closer it, such as special movie and again back to like your ebb and flow of. Oh, I was portrayed a sexy, I'm gonna be serious. That's me almost feels like you going like. Ok, I'm gonna do something. That's now me without any of the baggage of that stuff. I'm sorry that was really definitely a point where, like I felt safe like. I was an adult. I had just finished college. I leg felt confident and myself and, like my ability to like take care of myself and then I was also with a directive that was like my best friend. Let me to my uncle
was just like the greatest friend and I trusted him completely. He showed me everything anything I was uncomfortable with he caught like their stuff that I was like I know where I shot it. I was like and he just took it out without trainer pressure. Be your fight me, your convince me or anything like wish, just completely respectful and everyone I worked with like Jude and Julianne Clive. We were all such a team and like super comfortable and respectful, and it's like. Oh, you can do that and fully express and fully, reveal both physically and emotionally. When you feel safe, right, yeah yeah, you pray that, like you, can trust the director enough to go ultimately too far. You
to feel safe to go too far so that in the added they can protect you and yeah how great that he never put up a fight about it. So that said that you were his favorite neuron his toolbox, but you also my favorite toolbox. But I am like a little kid who wanted to be an actor? You were the person. Thank you, we're smart. You went to Harvard and your beautiful and you're so talented I wanted to be a new and then in my senior year of college we had to do like you know in theatre we had to do like an independent project or whenever and so me and my best friend, We did closer now, yeah we own in me, and I hope it was like so much more. Most people did like a monologue and we were like no we're doing a full play two men: do man, ok, unto men, yeah airplane? yeah, of course-
yeah. This is such an amazing writing. My guys, marlboros dialogue is so so beautiful. Everyone was great in that, but I have to say Kleiber one for me in that. He is so good at his side, guy I gotta getting chills right now, just thinking about it, so GAD you're. So when you're opposite of someone like that, that's got the head skills that or is in the perfect movie with the perfect everything. Whatever do you feel like you just get sucked into the force field like you have to do nothing, but react are definitely I mean he's an incredible example arsenal he's just like so strong and just obscure own game and yeah responds in eighty the ability to like react in the moment to play, I mean that's like the most fine. That's like the most joyful when you can just play when you have
the room and the like partnership with someone who's like willing to this mess around has that's fine. The worst is, if someone's like you have to do it this way and incite very specific. But when there is real, to play and mess around in, do new things too? other that, like surprise and change the scene and interesting way, I mean everyone on that movie was like that, but yeah he's extraordinary their ages ago. Volcano in that movie, there's something really special about these always good, but that thing was like the perfect for him or something yeah. There's a line. The Patrick wrote net that I always think about it. Cuz thing we're like you, So when you say and paraphrasing of course begin now remember exactly, but it's like you say you don't have a choice in relationships like I couldn't help it a love or whatever, but there's always a moment always a moment when you make the choice, and it's true it's like take a little responsibility for it. Like MRS, like I tell you,
into this vein. I couldn't help myself is like not taking responsibility for what your actions are in our relationship. Yeah. I was here We too, but now I'm sad, I'm said now cause we're older, but I was happy at the time you didn't really have any like big public. You didn't date, your co stars or if he did, if you have a really secret and I never knew about it- was at a choice or just in time out ever. I have learned was a choice. I mean dated some people reef way, nor in any serious way like yeah, you quickly learn. That's a bad idea. Bank for people do others, though it's just not so helpful and then some people are able to do it, but I don't know it's kind of turkey when you're young there working together. The I'll get my last question. Of course I want everyone said by nearly Portance fate.
Was I own and I've read it to my children? I love it. Thank you I get. What I really love is that you have all these other interest. If all you thought about his acting, it would be justified because you're that good, but knowing you do all these other things and what was my last, my god dammit schedule, you not love take this out next Wednesday. I have one salacious. Question isn't even illegal. I'm just really curious. I was shocked to read this because I can't imagine causing director going like we found the two girls so you in Brittany spheres were both under studies and ninety nine too. That's true. It is, but not at the same time in Brittany last this off Broadway show, which was called ruthless B on the Mickey Mouse Club. I believe I took over for her. I had the job after her
Ok, so we met later and leg laughed about it like we both had this same understudy role for Norville Burundi, the star, as the show, and was incredible that, yes, we were not there at the same time, it's really fascinating to think like for whatever reason at that moment in time you to seem like a either one you resemble hour, and then you wonder like if you go on making miles and she goes into professional. I know it's all very interesting. It's like apparent trappers and ratified could just swap environments. What would return in jail? sliding doors or something I just now. Remember wives, I so I love long
a round long way down and long way up. I doubt you seen any of them, but there are Macgregor Motorcycle Documentaries magazine any yeah. Yeah, ok, so what I gleam from that, especially the most recent one where they drive from the Tipp of South America up to allay, and he goes too much- you PETE you, which he's been dreaming of going too far his whole life and he goes there and then I feel so bad form because he becomes the attraction like he's actually up staging much. You have been his entire day, of course, is taking pictures and is very, very nice, and so you know he just does it envy? You cannot help, but be Qana. Heartbroken form cause he's dreamed of We hear the whole time in any just really wasn't allowed to experience it where and when it becomes clear, because it's all these people, they don't speak English. You know their problem familiar with this or that it singularly star wars like star wars. Factors is like sure, made
live in its impact is live in so many ways like you can't go too much of Egypt, so I just wondered: did you feel this title shift of like oh I'm not long in the mall, now now. You know I feel really lucky that I didn't. I mean. Certainly people recognize me, but I think as do with I'm really shore and analysed a small person, and I can do pretty much. Anything, and no one pays attention to me because it's not I dont naturally attract attention, like I think, if you're like six foot tall and blind, you walk into a room every looks at you and men they'll. Be like. Oh that's an actress you know, but when you're like
this kind of small brown haired, you know, jewish girl, like your kind of invisible, and I feel like no one, looks at me and allowed me to kind of do anything like I feel very lucky. I've been to a lot of crowded places and nobody bothers me. I kind of agree with you and not like your Kristen and I are together or you won't get separated at the airport right. I hear people say other girl, exact Kristen about and then they keep moving. But then they look at me if they know me they're, like all that's him again, all these stupid decisions are made. I have tattoos too tall. My nose Look at all these things. No one ever goes. He looks like em they're, like that's him, but I hear often they think. While she looks like christen bout, that's insane alike people always say you look like you now, aha of to day, ago, I had the mask gunners at the gas station on the way from the dunes and the woman said, you look like Zack Shep, and I go now.
look even more like dash the grave she was just making Zack Breath index Shepherd one per I think. Definitely now is someone who worked with Zach Wrap in hand. I have talked about extensively. Do you see the candy resemblances it Erie No, I hadn't thought about it until you just said it. I don't think you really look alike very different coloring to start with, but well I'm also very weird lighting. It's pitch black anyways point is I had this idea for a movie for me and I ten years all nature verses, nurture and where I dental twins, but I'm raised by hillbillies in the south and he's raised by like opera side, jewish parents in this. That's how you twain the difference, but word this exact same other than that I love it. I would watch that movie. Please make that that was actually my last wish it so and this is something I've been envious. So many of my friends and allies, jewish I've been invited to shout. I've been invited to save her I'm an atheist, but if I had to pick the traditions of
me religion. It would be Judaism. I love baby You mean, I think so, cool that you would have to take a minute. Remember someone who's died, some curious as you pass this on to your kids, and maybe it is none of my business, but how into the deep be part of it. Are you and how into just the cultural heritage and made my food I'll, just a I mean I think them carefully about what are the things that are helpful and relevant and positive that I believe in The thing about Judaism that I love more than anything, is that you're allowed to break any rule to save a human life any have the jewish laws that are exist. Leave it if you're gonna save some. Oh I like that something that I think is ice. innovation. All that you like just put life first is wonderful. Like nothing else. You know you can break Sabbath, you can
you know I'm kosher or whatever you know rule if it's to save a life. So I think that, like that is a foundational role, is incredible. Some other things are like hard to explain to your kids like how did God make all the people dont women make the babies no Adams Red make the babies come on guys. You now, since some of the things you dislike, ok well, it's done Someone wrote it and you know that other things we need to take with the grain of salt, but I love the food. I love the family aspect, I love that emphasis on education on books, like people of the book, I think, is wonderful and obviously persevere through a lot of shit that oh yeah, the Jones basically route. That's not gonna room more trials! Here I mean I can't be they suffering Olympics back
It certainly is a good history to draw from, in terms of lake fighting against injustice for everybody, and you know keeping strong through the obstacles that may present themselves but yeah. I think religion with the modern lands. Half a man as we go cause. I would feel so on ethical. We didn't do hit me with a couple. Your favorite aspects, a lower Moses, will all go. We're gonna circle. No it s. Okay, Laura Moses, as our mutual friend for the lesson and she's gonna edit. This episode is going to be first to hear yes, good I'll, get how many things I love about work is she is the person you when I talk to most when you are having a hard time. She is like the most caretaking like person ever away
she's the first person to make sure like everyone has a drink, and everyone is fed well and thoughtful. Very thoughtful soldiers like at ease great sense of humour so funny so capable really loves cats- oh yeah, lively, even her love of cats, kind of made me have a love of cats and I hate cat yeah, I'm not a cat fur sand, but I'd like reassessed, cat people, because she so great. But, unlike this, has to be revives. Stop making a lot of the cat. Lady jokes, I used to map out a respect for her, but I also at the same time, I applaud her boyfriend, who we love as well, because he gave her a chance when her Instagram was almost exclusively pictures of the puzzle. She was doing and hurt cats that's good for him. No had the best respond to have new you brought it up. You said I'd, be scared away. He said in all
other girls, I dated all their pictures were of themselves, and I thought, oh maybe this is thing I need contrary add ons, subsequently, ourselves more obsessed with their cats. I gotta say the eye. her for her word a file ness? If that's a term? Yes, we I have a very shared love crosswords and are very mutual dark association. Why have you ever watch an episode of game of thrones with her now? I've actually never watched him for I am ashamed to say, oh well, when you started, as you showed its of fantastic programme, please do it with her because she's an encyclopedia of all the crazy names in different languages and
She just can retain all that. Every gravy everytime, you pause. You who's the islands in person for four seasons. She's, like that's true various is Uncle homeland preparedness on the doorstep of Zabulon. In your like. How do you know that Monica you- and it is one we take em all why you took a lot of bad. I think I also really like her conviction, but she's not swayed. I dont bank, by with the group, think sore the group is doing I she has her own point, the view- and she doesn't really have found now, like she's, not worried about being lay like she's gonna, be a couple hours late. You like why missing part of the party like she's, just like fine, showing up leaving when she wants that's good yeah. Oh, oh, I haven't important one, although good best teeth as often as railways. Who is your dentist caused? You know what you have the best team. I've already now,
amazing- I mean not deep, but no now, but real, but let's be real. Exactly we all are taking it all with our eyes? First, ok, there's my prediction: so the thing Monica most proud of herself she had a like her number one quality it be that she does not succumb to peer pressure and I'm guessing. You guys have that common. Now, really that's really cool lion and also a big compliment you gave Laura. Is you basically said the same thing? That's what maybe think of it. Actually it's hard for me if everyone like, I really. This movie, and I didn't like it. I wouldn't say it s really hard to say but I have a different opinion than anyone else. Your low on the disagree, ability aspect to the personality. Does your low yeah, like I just one, every like me and agree on everything, but I'm working on it. No, I think everyone loves you, so you really
male Dave achieve the goal I now the bad goal. I am aware that the bank notes to let you go, but we see each other we bump into each other was taller than you were expecting or did you have no expectation? I expected you to be TA, TA, ok great, that's what we're ending on knowledge. Is she to say anything about me? So My big, why I know this is a very smart, dear member that but I'll never the exact. what we adore you- and I can't wait to bump into you again in real life and and people should read: Natalie Portman's fables their wonderful. You will not have to explain or make excuses afterwards to your children, for the questionable legality of some of the plot points. You're assured that way. Until maybe forty years, but currently, though we no explanation required exactly up to date will have a
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Barca people, maybe bite someone wrong enemy in court or he'll, get loose, get injured, yeah schemes, door shut, guess what doors, open, open my door to the attic the country is on the staircase. I now I'm so happy he alone. We owe you he will, for his sake, he's lucky yeah discovered him, because I'm sure the next step was to bite somebody in the run up to the road. So then we brought courteous into the attic while we recorded with David Farrier and boy. He just went apes it in here right now, children all around on your lab. In my lab, we look at all the windows looking for his lover, squealing it was dreadful. It was worse to people to be stuck with doggerel mazurkas mosque. Would you say it could have been worse if someone was afraid of them, at least for not afraid of that's true, but we war pretty annoyed by our tolerance for or Junius antics
we're all can also because there are too many cords like you to sign a good space for a cane. I forget, is he came out and also I kept walking over the recordings and all you do is but one of a paw on the red button in in we're fucked. We have to start with, MR because we're not that fact, but it in the moment it felt like we be taught Foxier broke Junius. You thought to this a small companies has totally says Do you think there's a comedian offers? Maybe MIKE Judge who pointed out like certain surfer browser, make far too syllables. I think you're, what MIKE, and I think he said he was at like the Malibu market any over tickets talking to serve guys and this one as I You remember, Cheryl yeah Sparky. What over to her house in a Turk.
No word sparking Jennifer. No, Archy thought Cairo in this conversation is about who to multiple syllables money, more Kelly Kelly is it oh my god, you're bathing, I gotta get this growth as well as I do that sound. I make that some of the worst local tries it can be done to get here now, let's get it it's fucking curve, you're fucking lips. Ray without was complaining section of fact check your. We try to keep to a minimum, but you know you're. We are yeah. Oh just talking mothers with my therapist tell us for lack of it.
Better more specific thing, guys in general right, a very solution. Oriented in women like to you know they like to just talk about a problem in and then they they all empathize with each other, whereas geysers like tell your boss too, but you know everything is like These are you fix it and we have had drawn down into it. I said you know yeah guess if I found myself just then team, I think I would see it is why knee in weak and then, of course, is all roads led back to this stupid masculine. I dont like weaknesses, the worst thing you could be It's not weak to complain in all I'm by naming talking something through who is what you're literally doing with your therapist wall, but it's with a solution in like he's, I'm not I'm not paying him too. hear me: go I dont, like this person. Gregg he's always telling my wife that I M selfish in whatever he's gonna go. Go why does that bother you? You know he's gonna try to get to what the problem is.
when John Bosom tools, I think, most of the times when girls or anyone is venting you get to a solution in talking it now. You do talk about solutions, but you also talk The feelings involved as well you're, not getting a common thing and in relationships guys have to learn, is sometimes your wife or your girlfriend just want you to listen and go home! Sorry that happen. They don't want you to you know, tell them how to make that never happen again. Big they just want You d go like I'm. So sorry that happen, that must have sought Ray it's nice to be. It is ice with sympathise where this year, but for whatever reason, guys generally don't talk to each other. That way, they attacked a frank, I'm very stern with, very direct. But after before I have no problem being very direct with boys, but I have a hard time been direct with women, and you know like that, die
that you have that. Yes have been like that in the past, like I give you the example of someone that washes my cars and- and I just told you- I pay for your business. Justino people want their problem, the disk, here. They don't want to know all the steps it took, but I just come out and tell him like hey. This would be good for your business. If, as a woman, I wouldn't do it, I just one. I've done it I'd be too worried. I was gonna, make her upset or sat at that stem I mean cause. I would say that to a woman right, yeah. Well, any man, animal do things. You're very good have been direct, I level more on a call business, wise, warlike in development of something yeah I'll, be afraid to say something to some in your safe and among them really grateful that you're there. Thank you yeah, maybe its cause, you feel like? I have some leeway, I'm small, and so I'm not intimidating.
so maybe I ate I get away with being a little bit more direct, but also, I feel that you know that it's not that I get away with it. I actually feel like I have to be. I don't really have the op to not be direct, because if I'm not while dismissed yeah totally, but there are different parameters for all different groups. Sola Jes of play, basketball adjusts have told you before pick up public game at a public court, some rough deeds plain tattoos on their neck and just get right in their face. In fact, how any easier shopping ASEAN in their face and that he is screaming fucking file, but he's doing it in such a high pitched boy yeah that they don't know what to do with that had I done it? There be a fight
so we can get interesting latitude. Sure I mean, I don't think that's that's just every person's energy can illicit something and someone. That's not your dinner, our society, culturally. It is frowned upon four guys get physical with women. Yes, thank God. Yeah yeah anyone can watch the MIKE Tyson Boxing match in its palatable, even if you're not into violence we could wear my time. Writing a woman. It be very disturbing. That's it culture. I am now going to try to ignore that. That is not our girls. Our come on. I'm I'm appreciative. That's that's! Our culture! Air I mean there are made up rules their own cultural there like it's. When Natalie was saying about her husband, whose French and he came here who is like the only thing guys
type: butter, cars and motorcycle live no one to talk to art with, and that's cultural for sure in France has tons of friends to all about it and then is not Europe here, a bright eyed workers more singles Vague Robin France, a bright doc about whenever he talk it's actually. So it's it's. Maybe it's not who we are genetically now on that, and I hope you don't think I'm suggesting that phone to say about it so exhausted, locate the tsar. Second great. This will be our second grievance section, gaunt, so watches whose two options for me
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because so in October, at the United States will allow Americans born undisputed Jerusalem to list Israel as our place of birth on passports and other documents? According to a new policy announced Thursday said this is new her body in October. The move the day after the United States amended science accord signed with Israel to apply to institutions in the occupied West Bank, the changes and act two days before the? U S, election appeal, to be aimed at shoring up the support of evangelical Christians and other Israel backers. Your gives the limit we move our embassy to Jerusalem. That was the big hot button topic. President DOW trumps administration broke with decades of. U S, policy recognizing Jerusalem as Israel's capital and two thousand seventeen and later moving the embassy there from TEL Aviv were most other countries, maintain their missions. Okay, so use
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that the study may deem got her data from is the one who discovered that ok, yeah, ok, sorry, it's ok! I just saw goes for myself if people are interested in that it set its annual Hon and also listen and eighty mercurous we'll imo knows great. You will regret it. You said she connected people right before we get hit hip to them. And you said, Anne our guy in an are artists and repertoire. Representative is responsible. Finding promising new artists for a record label or music publisher to sign so yeah would reference yeah. You know our foreign Eric also uses. This word super knowed. He says a supernova as someone who is very connected to a lot of people, so he used to be a lawyer and he said at his office he was a supernova.
He was connected to weaken, bring people use valuable tipping point. Gladwell called those people collectors. Was maidens containers there's lots of its well, so a supernova in peer to peer. Now working is any note that also serves as one of that networks. Re layers and proxy servers, handling data flow and connections for other users, so he took like this tech term in applied at of air. Did that on his own language. Good job Eric, if you did really go just makes me think, my favorite words, I learned an ally, geography, which is that we are multi modal city. What does it mean so most cities- the city center and all the traffic flows into that centre in the morning and then out of it. But Ella is multi modal, so there's all these pockets of industry, so the traffic crisscrossing
I ever saw which way actual centre of LOS Angeles interesting near there's like their employees. may be borne Santa Monica as they are in doubt on our land isn't century city and in all these pockets trail it doesn't move and wondering multimodal so multi modal polycentric those either term for it. So what what's the word for? If there is one unison A new noto naughty just plain all: noto noodle more mobile. Ok, so I told you that I did the French and on this I did the play closer with Andorra, oh yeah yeah. It was find a tape of it. I would love it if you played it right. I don't think, there's a tape, I hope not thy. It was said sure. Yeah. Do you remember any of the lyrics to it? You mean dialogue will you take our terms, our shared her? No, I dont you don't
actually cause. You know she was trying to remember a quote, and I was disappointed that I didn't ring a bell could have a really cool moment between you I now dammit, but I did look it up in the quote, is the quote? Is that's the most expression in the world. I fell in love as if you had no choice. There's a moment. There's always a moment. I can do this. I can give in to this, or I can first it I dont know when your moment was, but I bet there was one Julie. Robert said that two armed live on a match. Us share a few like that's when I should now I'm embarrassed that was a great seen in there, kitchen, he was on and off the stairwell. He had come back from a trip. I think you came out and it was he said- The individually Robert Department was there any fighting over who would play, who now listen It is no bad pick, their know about exactly
in Europe. When we were kids, we often played dukes a hazard. Everyone wants to be both Duke no one to be looked at. Rio do get blonde hair cod. What that's it! we want me, as I don't want you to stay there, You feel bad that we all want to be both Duke he was cuter because the blonde hair, no I'm just distinguishing which one it was so glad I'm with you. I know I'm just telling you this is part of the problem. What is that everyone has decided blonde hair people are better. I'm learning society, but sometimes the darker persons. Much better looking very real example, then if you want you, don't have to look at her care, could seize them. Excommunicated wines to use, maybe option but ill he's not attractive. Oh my god, when using lethal weapon, I'm a hint he doesn't need as a ringer about now. Because of all
you know about him now, Dog Logan compartmentalizing before are there. I was ever life into him. Ok, I'm just saying society put a premium on blonde hair and I'd like to not happy the case. Nano Boathook was taller and cuter of her most or bonds seem to be a bitter car driver and the distinguishing thing to let you know who he was he a bond here. I don't know any of them like, I don't care, pitcher, either Bower looting. Now, ok or the brothers are cousins. They were cousins, ok, yeah, kissing cousin. They were kiss him cousins, they weren't, kissing cousins, but Daisy duties their cousin as well? All three of them are somehow cousin. Now in its, I was always confused. If they were tracks, a lot of people were here. She Abram here she do yeah,
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of you watching a car chase is like me watching from La Billina meat meat, Q in IRAN, com, whereby potter wrong come may meet these bills. there was a favor. This is wrong com but like in like goodwill, hunting When will there on that, will obviously that's my favorite of this kind, but when their at TED hot dogs stand and bake, they Duke has, for the first time their flirting yeah. I guess that is my favorite, though the floor in the first case is always a really exciting moment wrong com. I pushed really hard on parenthood make kelly- and I had ever seen- it started with us- blowing into frame We are already like MID Party, when under the bed, and I I said or denying that this first step moment where, like you, want them that kiss so bad you die
all but its inevitable. You doll crystal wanted us to kiss because the floating than the scene was such, and I mean you guys had so much Camus street yeah, but really you had chemistry and seen before in the scene at the restaurant. Well, there's a scene where I think or get in a guy just remember. It was on how your house tragedy at my heart, and I want to say we did an up kissing there, but I, I almost think me, because I pushed for what, because the other side the thing I knew that was coming, I felt like you were getting robbed of that moment array because I personally, as a viewer chairs that moment for they are getting close, or thing on earth again, and I remember when we're filming it stretching it out to what I thought was a preposterous amount of time yeah and if things were the better scenes, I ever had of that nature. Because I made it gruelling long for everything you how they like wishes. We should just
Just in case you want in my either they might argue that we really are we get. It just think. Is workers rights both at that moment respectively were were watching a show, and I want the guided you're. So bad treaty you have, and Alan are more men. to be together, of course, but now the mink Kelly you that was not a good situation. Crosbie was cheating they on jasmine. They are broken up that morning, quick. Or in a bad situation very bad situation, but look I'm not going to fin crosbie. That's all I'm trying to say that if I'm going to be in a kissing scene, I would like it to be the best version possible and what I like the most is that tear we'll agonize yeah bands of whether another gonna kill or not. That is sure that is true, but you guys also had it in a scene before
when you were at a restaurant having margarita. Oh, my goodness, only remember that it was like the groundwork for the flirty. Ok, I think it was at cause. You're, never seen, CASA De Vigo, something that the mexican restaurant read by the Hansen's. Oh, it is Why did they didn't talk about? Where was and if it was by the hands and largest? Now I remember in real life shooting a scene at that restaurant with her and her saying she, I was there a law and that they make good. Our readers and then I don't Oh, if I knew her well enough yet where I was elvis- and I like going at a sad can't drink more, Reed is a rumour having that found. You do know by the way I don't drink Margaret S like I had like all here's a moment, I tell you I'm sorry because she was like giving you it I think one of the guys come here. They gray Margarita, arouse like my ride on during my reason- and I was thinking like well commoner-
oh no, I don't want you to have to feel like you don't you're nervous. You say that I think it's cool. Ok! Thank you! Generally, I I think a girl, I'm sure, that's part of it- I'm sure that's part of it, but I just think also enough maybe time had gone by where I may be, should have. I don't know neither satire knows I'm just like our own has risen long enough that I guess they should unknown or not that I don't know it just them when you tell someone yours over some time, yeah the talk when I understand- and I could see that being a hard thing- so dongle. She he had a dongle about that's what fixed or internet a dongle is a small usb device. That allows you to access the internet. It can also be referred to as a wifi, dongle usb mot, modem internet. Stick. You
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please low on the disagree, ability index the heart of the personality tests or destroy my people. That's the big five personality test studies have shown it effectively predicts behaviour in the test. Soften use, an academic psychological personality research. The traits are openness to experience conscientiousness. extra version, agreeableness and eroticism We should have someone give us his test on air, oh yeah, but love that people whose score higher and conscientiousness tend to work harder. For example, while more neurotic personalities are more prone to anxiety and depression. interesting, warm highly disagreeable. I know that yeah, sorry, you ask them to open to new experiences
the logical that is true. That is true. I wonder if we could take a quick. Let me just go away its lunacy. I'm attire testing Now. Let me George as you you got to do the M area I am the life of the party disagree, neutral agree and the life of the party disagree I feel a little concern for others. I feel a little concern discipline. I am always prepared agree I get stressed out,
easily agree. I help me if you think any these are not right. I will you know, cause you're disagreeable. That's right! I have a rich vocabulary. You can be disagree, neutral, agree, agree. I don't talk a lot disciplinary here Thirteen and talk for a living organism been interested in people, agree a new day neutral, yet nature. no! I am very interested in people but more like intellectually behaviorally, not what you think. It's asking diving you're very interested in the people. You are interested, and I don't think you broadly interested in everyone, but I am very interested in the way humans behave. Yeah, that's too broad, ass. His people right sure go neutral, as is my Paypal Catherine. I got in the way
yeah I leave my belongings around I am relaxed. Most of the time disagree. I have difficulty understanding, abstract ideas. Disagree. It be fun for us to fill his offer each other. I feel comfortable around people agree Think so maybe I'm neutral hunting through its in an US what's changed exaggerate yeah he's always harping on circus. I insult people that's it. We're question does not exactly because I certainly ends
I'll, be books. I dont think abs, insane neutral, rarely intentional, gabled or neutral. I pay attention to details. Oh this is tricky for me because I'm not observe and with like, world, but I'm in, but I am very detail. Oriented and studying, like some leader really vague, I'm gonna, say I'd, do pay attention to detail yeah. I worry about things thuggery some of these issues. I have a vivid imagination agree. Yes, yes, camping troops were venom. Madam, I keep in the background I keep in the background and like I disagree, I sympathise with others feelings neutral. I mean
a mess of things. You know four, just talking about your apartment, I say: how are they talking about vat or do they mean situation only at I would either payments situation only again, this is very abstract, make a mess of banks. I mean I'm messy, but not at their mercy. I think I've origins sayings. I complicate relationships or something I guess I should say neutral or maybe I should say agree. Would you would you like to cite just say, agree I seldom feel blue disagree.
I am not interested in abstract ideas. Disagree. I start conversations agree. I M not interested in other people's problems, I'm not interested! I disagree. I'm interested, I get chores done right away. Disagree. I am easily disturbed agree right here. You now adding a disturbed, and I have excellent ideas,
Button? Ok! Next, I have little to say, disagree. Do I have a soft heart agreed as our own knowledge right? Ok, I often forget to put things back in their proper place. I agree I get upset easily agree. I You now have a good imagination: icecream symptoms user like not not their dairy yeah. I talked to a lot of different people at parties neutral, I think of myself, neutron that is well, I'm not really interested and others. There's someone a trick very, very asking yeah, there's a critical remark that we go on this way. I am
I am not really interested in others. Disagree you have. One of the conclusions might be like your inconsistent years, a person I like order, agree. I change my mood. Alot agree. I clicked understand things agree. I don't like to draw attention to myself studio yeah like socially, maybe, but as a performer. Yes, I take time out, for others agree. I shook my duties disagree. I have frequent mood, swings,
I guess, agree eyes, difficult words, difficult area. This is part of the track and whenever the high vocabulary- diff words, I don't think so. Disagree even I said, agreed a hive of having these. I think, that's part of the trip bearded, I dont mind, being the centre of attention disagree, No yeah disagree. I don't like being the centre of attention, so I'm gonna disagree. I feel others. Emotions agree. I follow a schedule agree. I get irritated easily agree.
why? What of it said? I wrote my eyes twice a day. It's a tech I spent in time reflecting on things agree. I am quiet around strangers neutral. I make people feel at ease neutral. Do disagree. I think you do and I don't think you're afraid to make people uncomfortable. So I think is that goes into the disagree. Ability ray if you have an opinion, is here make someone uncomfortable Unita. Gonna hold back, that's true, but like there's someone new. I think I'm good at making them feel like. I think I've approachable, I think those words neutrons like in the middle. I exacting in my work. I agree I often feel blue agree. I am full of ideas, agree. Ok, we have a graph
oh my god, what just happened by eleven years like any site I am. I am. I am ok number one factor extras and you're a sixty seven o emotional stability, Oh no, sir, I'm sorry it is a very comical two percent one now I'm right! These only amendment we all you do is ask you. Some questions What are your over are map right now in response to this agreeableness seventy. Why? Yes, I wouldn't other conscientiousness, fifty two intellect imagination, ninety six, yet
one one for by really want you to know. What is Nobody got time for me to take. It may will take out. Take it at another time, hey no now everyone's worried about nice to elevate monitors, no staring at the result all right what all those and grounded, and even if it wasn't all that would be on now, is I'm emotionally and you have some emotions determined. I love you you exactly as you are a love whatever that graph is. I love it.
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