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Today. I am talking to Brook Brook story kept unfolding with surprising wonders: she's just finished training for a super cool topsecret government job where she finds bad guys. Well, it was topsecret until her super proud. Seven year old daughter told the cashier at target. The news which led us to talk about the winds and wise of entrusting children with privileged information brook is divorced and her ex has a terrific new girlfriend who has terrific kids the same age as Brooks kids. This set of circumstances lead us to have a heart to heart, with Brooks touchy inner child and solve the riddle of white kids, give a beloved parent the cold, shoulder other topics. We skated to accepting the bitter sweet without trying to change it. Oppression
getting a partner within inborn reflects for goofy ness and how singing to or with your child can be more valuable than an earnest conversation. I also got to picture for generations of female. I skaters ready to show their moves in the wrap up all fair. a perspective for dealing with blended families that socio biologists learned from elephant mothers. I'll explain how music beds, experience in memory and you'll, learn and untranslatable and swoon worthy word in Arabic. First, a disclaimer. What you are about to listen to is not a professional counselling fashion. Each episode is a one time conversation and the advice I offered does not constitute psychological treatment or services substitute for professional diagnosis, intervention or behavioral health care in order to protect their privacy. Our guests have been given pseudonyms and
personal details have been changed. If you have concerns about your child's well being or your own, seek out guidance from a medical or mental health, professional good places to start your child's pediatrician, the counselling staff at Europe, out of school and the american psychological associations comprehensive guide to finding resources in your estate and now onto the fun We got one means we can mean. We have work
Hi, it's me to think you're nice to meet you too. In this you're. All time. More. All in it's been a year- and I know it's really been a year for you I want to tell you what I know and then hear from you what you would like to talk about today. Ok, you have two children a seven year old, daughter, Edward, call her the seven year old rather than her name? That's ok with you and you have a four year old son within adorable but we're going to convey a forty year old and you have been divorced for two and a half years, and you went away for nine months to train to be a federal law enforcement office. Her was if, because of covert that you needed to stay for nine months straight, or did you
now that in advance now I had no idea in advance. Normal wilder programme is like five months. It was eighteen weeks at the time. Sometimes it changes that man was eighteen weeks and then, after the first few weeks were allowed to go home on the weekends or we can have family policy eyes. So that was always my plan and I worked it out with my ex husband that you bring the kid sounded. See me and I go to see then so that was the plan.
who expected how? Far apart? Were you a city, wise travel, wise everything? An eight hour drive, ok to a big drive, your relationship with him before I'm going to call it. You were deployed before you went. Yeah training was basically harmonious. Gracious good advocate polite. Ok, ok, so it was good. So this whole plan, I imagine, was something you looked forward to very much excited a little bit nervous, something totally new for you
front line of work. I had been with this agency for thirteen years. I can knew the ins and outs of little bed, but it was a completely different job. Rural absolute was it a step up a step sideways or a step into something more adventurous, more challenging. It was a step up and you side eighteen weeks and then what happened. Then there is covered, so I do get to come home once in February. was hard even now, I had only been gone for. I think, like four weeks that time we had tickets to Disney on ice in so I thought it would be like really fun and it just wasn't even just been gone for four weeks. The kids were like missing their dad and they didn't really have that. Great of a time at the Disney on ice, they were kind of quiet and it was just
because those just aren't my kids and it got to the point we were like in the inner mission and my daughter's like I just want to go home. I wanna see down like oh ok him, so that guide you do So, like I've been gone for, remember me: my name like I faced time them. So it wasn't a good trip home at all and then probably six weeks later as when they sent at home and they closed down the facility in there's this global pandemic. So I drove home but needed a quarantine for two weeks now and then after that, slowly with integrated with them. So I could see them
the time that I was home, which was about seven weeks, but again it wasn't like it was before where we had like our shared custody. They really didn't wanna stay the night with me and spend time with me on everybody's pang of bunker down. So those really lonely, because I didn't know what was going to happen with them job in also didn't want to be around me and then to throw another ranch, and so the story, my ex husband, with dating someone new entering covered she's, got to children close to make his age and they moved in with him. So they could. kind of being a part together, and I think that was like the biggest dynamic of not wanting to come because they have like two friends that they could play with, and I didn't have anything but me
I hope you are enjoying episode to of nurture versus nurture with Doktor Wendy mogul. This is an incredible episode Monica Robin. I were heartbroken for this guessed, the thought of having go away for working only to return to a different relationship than you, ve put in with your choice, awareness so hard to imagine. If you'd like to hear the rest of this incredible episode, poor Wendy, provides solution and encouragement and brevity I encourage you to go over to the nurture verses, nurture feed an subscribe, that's where all the new episodes, productive, others pay Gas will live, nurture versus nurture will not exist on the armchair feed it'll be on its own feet, so please search nurture
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