Here. Listening to the gold digger bad guest episode number one hundred and fifty for its most import. Relationship of all. Yet it's the wine that most of us, Joe, even think about, let alone spend time and effort on approving it. No one! It is yet you guessed it it's our relationship with ourselves. Strengthening our sense of love and respect for yourself is a key to accept rinsing, true fulfilment and living your best life, some people, that learning to love yourself as a simple is taking some bubble vast and getting an occasional Manny Petty, but as our guest Melissa, Ambrose Sidney will show you two say it goes so much deeper than that Melissa Rossini is a best selling author of mastering your mean girl and open, wide and host of number one podcast the militia ever seen. You show a speaker and self love. Teacher Melissa teaches men how to unlock their full potential mass.

Through their inner mean girl, smash through their limiting beliefs and ditch the self doubt so that they can start living their life of their dreams named as self help who, by EL magazine her mission is to spire women to create a heart centred life, one that is wildly wealthy, fabulously, healthy and bursting with love. I firmly believe that you need to trust yourself, whole heartedly. What She's in your dreams, if you can bet on yourself, how can you expect others to? However, It is not always an easy road in feeling, confident and capable and hall, but today, gold diggers I'm going to remind you that you are enough and my goodness, gracious Melissa is bringing it in to teach you how to harness confidence and live your best. I've this girl is like my spirit, animal she's, like my australian sister, and I

so so grateful for the way that she shows up in shares in a way that is sure to inspire you for real guys. You're inverted treat, let's drive on into militias episode, major shattered to mine, injures go to food, serve as hollow phrases for supporting gold. Digger receive thirty percent off your first week of deliveries when you go to Hell afresh doc on Slash gold, digger, thirty and use the offer goad gold, digger Eddie you're listening to the gold digger podcast, where we firmly believe that work doesn't have to feel like work. So made millionaire and marketing guru. Jenna Kutcher will help you redefine what success looks like it's time a year from the experts listening. Honest conversations and learn the best tips and tricks that helped others pay their own way and craft their dream career if you're ready

dig in. Do the work and tackle your biggest goals you're in the right place. Here's your host educator, photographer and makin cheese, lover, Jenna culture I am so excited about. Today's sponsor slack slack is a brilliant communication jail. We talked about it on the show before and it is for all things. Business related sort of like organize instant message designed specifically for work topics and quick exchanges of information with in your team flag is the he. Communication channel of team done a good job. We use it every single day and I dont know how we ever lived without it to learn slack is irreplaceable. In my business had dislike dot com, that's right, find all the magic at slack dot com Melissa. Thank you so much for being on the show today

I'm so excited. I've had like full fan go moment over here, like being in taking, as I listened to all that time. Well, the same goes for you I was does listening to me. Is that in the shower I told her. I hope this Weird Islas Nevada Gas, when I should be doing other things like washing my hair, but it makes for some really great shower. So I feel like we are best ease and I'm just so thrilled to have you on here. I feel like when you meet someone mine and he just fill this kindred connection. That is exactly how I felt with you, and so today I want for you to just share the story of Melissa and shed light for what you do and how you impact the world for a listener. So let's hear who is a militia, and how did you get to where you are today? well what I do today is. I am power people to unlock their full potential

to leave their best life, and I do that is through a lot of different mediums. Like you, I have my podcast. I have my best selling books, and online platform, where I have mentoring programmes and ebooks and meditations, and things like and an obviously social media is an amazing platform to be able to help women rise up. So that is the premise of everything that I do the universe tapped me on the shoulder many years ago and said you ve gotta, help women you ve got be a voice and you ve got to do that through these different avenues, and I listened, but I haven't always done this then there's so two thousand and two Hen was when this journey began for me at the very end of two thousand and ten, and that began in hospital. So before that I was

It was a professional dancer and I dance did the mule and version Paris, and I did acting and tv presenting and for me I love to being on the stage like I started dancing when asked three years old, and I just love that that's what I thought I was gonna do for the rest of my life, but I got to a phase in my life. In my earlier light team an early twenties where I was deeply unhappy within my own body and This resulted in anxiety and panic attacks and depression and eating disorder, and I started to have a very destructive relationship with myself. I was hardy and surrounding myself, with very unhealthy relationships and very toxic men and burning the candle at both ends and

is only a matter of time before you know. Something's gonna give when you treat your body like that, and you treat yourself like that and for me the universe gave me lots of little warning signs which I ignored for many years until it was lack right, Melissa, if you're, not gonna, listen and wake the heck up to your full potential them we're gonna have to make you and the way that universe made me was by putting me in hospital with a whole host health issues that you can read about in my first book. Mastering your main guy went boy, them now, but I had a a host of health issues, physically alike, adrenal fatigue entire road problems and things like that, but then also motionless said the anxiety, depression and panic attacks and eating disorders. Things like that and even

though at that time, in my life I was twenty four. It was the darkest an hardest time off. My wife like had never experienced darkness, hardship, adversity and pain like I had and at that time I was living, on my friends full doubt, bed. It was and even like a full doubt couch, it was like a little signal. I actually gave me severe. Back pain back injury that I now still and dealing with from sleeping on that bad because I couldn't afford to live on my own, I just been dumped by another guy, my friends actually just dumped me so this point in my life I literally felt like I had nothing. I had no job. I had no money. He had no friends, I had no boyfriend. I had one friend the girl but let me sleep on her full doubt. Bed

and so I was in the hospital. The most happy I'd ever been in my entire life with money mom and dad thank the law. For them by my side and my friend and at the time guardian angel was my That angel gave me a book that changed everything for me and book was Louise Haze, you can heal your life and I, read this book and though, light. Bulbs went off and I turn to my mom and I said to her. Thank you to hold me. There's like why, you know why You tell me that you too The life beyond your wildest dreams like why? Don't you me that we can choose, love instead of fear. Why you tell me this, and she just turned me like I was fucking crazy,

and she is like- must die for God's sake, I was doing the best that I could you know an inch. Absolutely was doing the best that she could so was mine, and they still are- and I am so grateful for them, but I was never taught, you can choose love instead of fear. I was never taught that you can unlock your full potential and leave your best life. I know one. Told me that in high school people told me you gotta go to university, do degree that you don't really like study the three is and then go get a job that's mediocre. That pays media rights and liver media Goliath, like that's what I thought was the norm and that if it moment for me in the hospital changed my entire life, I knew that I was responsible for in myself into that hospital bed. I knew that I was responsible.

My health and my happiness, and that was a ski Harry, but also very liberating because I thought well, if I'm responsible for getting myself here, I'm the only one that get myself out and so from That moment, I made it my apps salute mission to get happy and healthy again I went on and I studied holistic nutrition and life. Poaching and their taxation and did my yoga teacher training and I studied energy Workin Healy the body to energy in this modality, cold actuated, genetics- and I read every single personal development and self help book. I could get my hands on him. I went in every single event: workshops, seminars, tony Robins DE martini, everything that I could go to just two. Absorb as much of this wisdom, from these leaders and teaches that

were shining the light for us and I and started this thing called a blog. This was back in. Very very early two thousand and eleven and I began share and what I was learning through, my writing and started coaching people coaching people, one on one which I loved and create My first a book that was the first thing I sold online was in a book. It was an eighteen dollars, a book and it was called twelve steps too well in this, and it was about holistic Health and wellness, and you don't know in about nourishing a body, but mastering your thoughts and living your dream life and I then went on to create a corset and men touring programmes, from there. I began being asked to speak as an inspirational speaker and motivational spinning and then

I got a book deal to write my first book mastering your main girl and then started running my own events all over the world and Oliver stray earlier. I started these events, these gatherings called the goddess groups where I brought women together and we unlocked our full potential together and then I did my podcast, which you know one year he to me in downloads and then, launched my second book, which is called open wide, which is out now, and it over the years since two thousand and eleven it's just snowballed it it's just done- it's taken up its own world, because have showed up, and I have continued to do the work and I have continued to master my own mingle in practice. What we preach and be

a leader for women, because that is what I'm here for the universe tapped me on the shoulder and said this is. Purpose here on earth and I am so honoured to be that vessel, and I love what I do so much, I'm so lit up by it, and I I want to help people unlock their full potential, leave the life of their dreams, create the life in the business of their dreams, because where all worthy of it Greece single person here on If you are breathing, you are worthy and we all have unique gifts. We all have a message to share: We just have to master that in a intermingle and do it because the world needs. You We are here to be of service to others, and that is our divine gift the world and I want to help people do that. I just wanna have like all the praise. Hands emerges,

and can everyone see why I'm obsessed with molests, I feel like when I listen to you. I just feel like I can take on the world and one thing I want to dive into a little bare and actually our mutual friend lorry harder on the show- and we talked about limiting beliefs, and I love the way that you speak about the mean girl. Can you dive into that a little bit because I feel like civically as women, but I know we have a few men listeners out there as well. We are not taking control of the dialogues that we are putting on RE p in our brain. So can you dive into what that means? Okay, so every or women on this planet has an end has an inner critic and that lives our mind and you can call it your ego. You cool it, your shadow self? You can call it Bob Mary Fred. I just like to call it my

the main goal, because she's main mine is pretty mean right: leg and data, the voice that says you're, not good enough, you're, not smart enough. Who do you think you are launching a podcast dog, bother writing a book. No one's gonna read it you're, never gonna meet the guy. You never gonna get out of debt. Hello can everybody relate to this. Yes, we all have that voice every single person, no one is exempted. This everyone has it even a cot tall you know like, but the thing is is like he's got in very good at putting his on mute and that's what my first book is all about: about mastering that voice and turn down the volume on your in a critic and turning up the volume of your truth, your heart, because that is this place, that we want to live from a hot space, not out you main goal because

is not where we want to live from. So a my first book and a lot of what I teach and talk about is about mastering that voice, because life is so much more joy for when you do, and this mean that your name going to have a limiting thought ever again: it doesn't mean that you never gonna, have a few based limiting thought again heck. I had one probably five minutes ago right, but when it pops up I'd, take my self through my three step, mastering your mango process to come back to love and die, that's what we're gonna do anymore. You practice that the more you practice from fear to love, stronger you get out at the better. You get us like going to the gym right, will you do your squad, the tidy your booty is gonna, get the more you pray

this mastering your main go every day. Does better you're going get at it. So it's about practising it every day women have between sixty and eighty thousand thoughts a day right. So that is essentially sixty two Eighty thousand limiting fear based in a main go thoughts. Men have only forty thousand, so they have like half the amount of limiting thought so we have so we may be, must our main girl eighty thousand times a day- and I know that might sound like wholly walk- mom we, but just think of it. This way that's a lot of opportunities to practice and a view practice that aid

thousand times a day. You gonna get serve Fricking good at it that when a pops up you'll be like right, I'm gonna go straight back into love, because I know that fear stinks oh my gosh, a man so you have two books and open wide recently came out you tell me about that? One, because I'm obviously Oliver listeners are going to listen to mastering year mean girl, could now we're recognising that she's, a Regina George and our heads. So what is open wide about and what inspired you to write? It ok open wide. The subtitle is a radically real guide to deep love king relationships and soulful sex, sir is book is, relationship manual because were born into this world and no one gives us a manual on how to navigate our relationships and away

that we learn is by watching our parents and that may be an awesome example fear. But for majority of people it's not a very good example, and a lot of our relationships and our habits are either borrowed or inherited from our parents and from the people that we witness growing and so no one taught me how to navigate relationships with myself with others. So I had to learn the hard way and I found and I floundered, and I made a really poor choices in men. I made really poor choices in friends. Survey it myself with very unhealthy relationships and it ll to a lot of hot egg, but it doesn't have to be that way. So, can wide is about opening your heart a new way of living and in

every moment you're either open or your closed here either in your heart or your in your head, and we came here. On earth to be open to not be closed, not be closed off to your point, now your children or the to the driver or the girl behind the cafe at there, you are Ghana shop. You know like we came here to be an open vessel, because when you open during your heart, when you're on in your choosing love, but when you're, in fear, you are in your head and your closed off to the world, your closed off to the everywhere. So this book is a guide for people to navigate relationships, not only with them, so navigate relationships not only with themselves but with their friends, their family and, of course, this soul mate and if they a few I yet you call in your soul, mate in the book. I talk about how nuke,

cool in your one, how you can calling your soul mate, but at all start with you and the whole first section of the book is about self love. It's about cultivating a beautiful relationship with dsl fast, because we teach people how to treat us and if you don't frickin love the heck out of yourself, how the heck? Can you expect anyone else too so it really does start with us in this book is very much about everything. I've learned over the years and fumbling my way through different relationships with men and also friends and family and then come to a place of being with my soul. Mate rounding myself with the most, the sole sisters I could have ever Imagine like my life now is beyond,

my wildest dreams? It is better than my wildest dreams and I didn't know it was possible, but it is possible there is. The such thing as Heaven on earth, and this is it a new concur your own reality and you can create beautiful, deep soulful, king rich relationships we just now to know how and that's what this book is all about. So good, I was listening, do show the other day in and something that really stood out. Nimblest, though, is how you said in your show that for so long that inner dialogue that inner mean girl had told you, I'm just, the marrying kind or I dont want to have a family but deep down in your soul. Those are the things that you desire the most and I,

that a lot of times when were vulnerable, we can kind of put our own crap out there, so that others can call us on and what I love about use, just how open you are in your books and online. So can you talk a little bit about being Rhine real, like do get scared about it. Do you ever regret at what is out look like for you? Oh gosh you. Yes, I wanna vomit. Sometimes I'm so glad you said that all my guide, Yan apps loudly leg, yes, before I went on stage so Nick, and I just finish touring, Australia. Together, we decided, I wrote my book then why'd and he's a musician, and he wrote a Sancho open, wide silence if him touring on his own and may during my own as a book to her in a music to our, we decided to collaborate together it was called from wide. It was like music mixed.

With meditation and motivation. It was kind of like a cold play concept mixed between tiny robins, it was so appear like it was epical, so much fun. Every night before I went on stage, I was buckled over with nerves and then every time I walked stage I had vulnerability hangovers I was like almost My guide did I actually say that today's russia- oh my god, did I just share that that story was that one? Yes, I do said the two thousands of people. Oh, my god, you know I hope that all the time, all the time, but but vulnerability connects us vulnerability makes p. Pull lean in view

an or fantaisie real ness, honesty, truth. That is what we are here for we're not. Here to pretend that were perfect. Get rid of that word perfect him. Section from your vocabulary, delete it right now, because it does not exist in the union tat. To me on the shoulder and said Melissa, I know this is gonna along comfortable, you being vulnerable, but you really need to be a leader and vulnerability. You really need to show people how to be vulnerable. You need to show people how to be authentic and honest and truthful. This is your job and I went, ok, ok what like? Why? Maybe why me? Why sure? It's me a shore and that the week before my book came out, I didn't sleep. I wrote over to my husband and unsafe him baby. Did. I really put. Honey unless it is it too late isn't true light. Is it too late days like the funding it s? My yeah and he's, like you, know

of my and he's like. You know what it's perfect and You are just speaking a truth and being honest, and that is what makes people leaning that's why people are so connect. With you and I love your work because they trust you, because you are open, an honest, I'm very open and honest and I feel oversight Stability like I have to. I have to be a voice, because that is what we here for an that's what the universe, oh god or whatever you want to call it. That's what it tapped me on this water and said I had to do but absolutely to answer your question? Yes, I feel second, my stomach many times I'm so glad, because I feel like a lot of times I'll do interviews just about vulnerability, and it's like. I know this isn't easy for any of us like. I think that is easy to look at. Someone like you listen. Think of the comes naturally, but I think that you just continue to step in.

To that call and I'm just really think all that you have known their ability hangovers too, because something happens, a new step on a stage and incite some other being takes over and then you're like. I cannot believe that just have totally and people say to me: do you still get nervous before go out on stage, and the answer is Yet my heart beats and there is definitely adrenaline swimming through my body and my body heats up and I get you know hot and cold. Me- and maybe I have a nervous stomach and nodded my stomach but lie He said as soon as I step on site as soon as I walk through the fear I am held and then the new First, the divine move, through me and then an what goes by on and I walk off and on my I have no idea what I just said: idea because it wasn't me livings drew me. I mean

to decide by I'm the vessel I am just vessel. It isn't about me, but my job is to work. Through that fear. Just before I get on stage and be the vessel, the universe is let Melissa. I need to use you to use you as the vessel, can you just get up on the stage? I know you're gonna feel sick about a, but can you just do it? Ok, I'm! so glad you're saying all this and I want it kind of pivot into a little talk about intuition because I feel like when I hear you speak. I want the universe to tat me on the shoulder, or maybe slap me across the face, sometimes an eye. Like some times for alive Otherwise we hear these little nudges are feel these little cause, but maybe we're wondering is just my brain is: recalling is there's something I should pursue is something I should just ignored. I don't feel up to it. Walk is through kind of listening.

Your intuition and an answering those calls, because I know that we are all getting them and they all it differently, we might not be stepping into who the world means us to be so. Or intuition is more of a feeling. Ok and a lot of people ask me this is how can I listen to my intuition more? How can I tap into my intuition more and like we were talking about before, with Master Domingo, its muscle, the more that in practice listening to your intuition and following your intuition that muscle gets strengthened so you're in you wish and comes from you got. You know. People say you ve got instinct that is your intuition. Your fear either your head speaks to you more and the words like that'll say: oh don't do that. You know that not a good idea, but you're in

we wish him doesn't necessarily speak to you in word. It's more of a feeling. You know it's like someone city. Why did you start podcast? Like I don't know? I just I just had to start upon I don't know it's just like this feeling came over me and I just do that and That's your intuition, guiding you and the more that you practice listening to. That following that. Even if you can't look, logically and a little. We understand why you like. Will that does makes sense why you know you ve got so many things on your place. Why start a podcast? You don't have time will the space you like. I don't know I just have to do it. You got it. Let go of the logic and follow it anyway. That will strengthen your intuition, and that is how I build my life, my whole life and my business, a built on intuition. So everything I do

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That is so powerful and I think it so such a reminder for us to tap into the more I think, we're so influenced by what we consume in the outside world. So how? Would you practice are what does your practice of self care look like? because you are a busy busy woman. You are so successful. You have so much going on. How do you feel yourself back Melissa, Well, I was, I just haven't another interview before this one and I was telling them that self care is my number one priority, because without my health I cant do the pod. I can't write books. I can't speak on stages. I can't travel. I can't do it. Of the things that I want to do. A cop mentor, my tribe, so health is number one and self care. Self love is number one, so I dedicate the

few hours of my day to myself and I do things like meditation yoga. Oh, go for a walk, swim in the ocean in a move, My body in some way I have a saunter in my house all have a sort of whilst listening and usually your podcast. You know do things like that, so the whole first Two hours of my day sometimes longer is dedicated to me and and when I sit down at my work, sit down at my desk sitting down full. I have taken the time for myself. I I put my essential oils on I've, got them defusing right now. Next to me that really help me, that's not a little. You know me into something it's so simple. That makes me feel like I'm. Taking air of myself is defusing essential oils. Next to me, while I work you know something simple and I know

my body- was beautiful. Organic food and then take time to have my lunch. You know I don't sit at my desk and eight. I sit outside if it's sunny and get some son on my skin and makes- or that I'm getting out into nature and my house, and I we both work and live together- and we have come These together he's a musician, but we also have companies and that we as both sea or resolve. So, We have to dance between this Being lovers and also business partners, and so we, set boundaries and I'm sure you and your partner have to do this. Every set boundaries, you know no You know when we're finished work for the day that It's like you know our office Where is closed, the laptops stays in their the phones, on aeroplanes mode normal work torn, and we

Love is again and it's a dance. You know it's. Definitely I love what king from home, and so does he, but what we don't get free one of us being out all day is that coming back. Can reuniting kind of like that pattern? patent break like you, not twenty robins talks about patent breaks or changing your states like we don't get that so have to implement that. So you know why, either bookends a day with a merry taxation or we'll go for a walk or swim, and then we ate together and then we'll relax together, maybe will give each other a massage or will watch something together: for many many years. I was very against tv. You know my highest spiritual self was like tv, so not spiritual that that was literally what outlined, but for all. Slag wine in down together on the couch coddling watching a doctor

entry or something on Netflix really helps ass. Just ours and we don't sit there four hours, but we like doing that. There and then we'll get into bed and will read and make love, and you know, connect on that way. But it's really important that you take time every day to feel yourself up. Do the things that make you feel good in my first book mustering mingle, I get everyone to create a self love menu. That's a menu of ten things that make you feel frickin wished like from me diving in the ocean and doing on the meditating. Ocean in doing Berger and meditating in making it before meal and laying in the sun reading a book, so I get everybody to create the self love menu and stick it on their free, and in those moments when you want to go and ate a whole tub of ice cream to fill yourself up, do something off your soul. Love menu instead

feel yourself up from the inside out, not the outside in which is. In a tub of ice cream will do that is so good, I always say self care isn't found in bath salts. I feel like whenever people say you need, like a break. They assume you should just go, take a bubble bath and I'm not a big bubble. Bath person, my family loves taking baths, but I think they're kind of gross but I love I'm in and make a menu, and I love that idea, because I think that it is so easy for us to just empty ourselves and not really think about filling ourselves back up. So one question for you that I love to ponder is a lot of times. Are best teachers in life are the ones You need the most help, so, for example, and I love to teach about self love because it something I struck, with? Is there any parallels with your story, or your journey array stand today where you feel like yours

no good at speaking it into existence. But maybe you fail at executing in your own life. I feel like incomes. Back to the practising like. I feel like I'm really good at this. Now yeah Lego, when I've made to my mind about something I just go for it and what I just go for it now and I have this tendency to once I say: I'm gonna do something I do it. And so when other people die. This is something that I need to. Let go off because when I, when someone says something to me that they gonna do and they don't do it, I'm like, but I'm gonna look like when I say I'm gonna do something I do it and I just go for it so that something that I need

remind myself, fathers, I've gotta, let tat go when people cause that's their job, yeah? That's that's the insurers, but for me my boy, Ain doesnt logically commute. Do you know what are you gonna? Do something just do a leg go for, of course, as you can change your mom and that's another, really important thing. You can change your mind, you can change mind about your beliefs, your values, anything that you one just owner you know, like someone said to me we're talking about a health thing and they to me all that used to do that, and I, my Gabriel in my mind, and I owe causing it I don't believe that anymore. I changed my mind about that. I love that. We're all we're all walking contradictions, we're walking, contradictions and just own leg, just owner and say I changed my frickin mine.

That's really big as well like? I have a bonus son whose twelve and being really vulnerable with him and say it's like I change my mind about this weather is a health thing or a belief tat he might go, but but you ve, always said this and, unlike yeah. I know I always said this, but at its root scary and the moment is it. I guess you have to admit that you ve changed your mind and you'll be like asking. You changed your mind on light less so It's ok to change your mind if we want to it's. Ok, just That's too bad, so I'm curious about neck in your relationship in the sense of way is he different in what does he challenge you, and why, in your relationship, is something not just keeps you striving or open to change

or transformation. There is a lot of unity in mind. Relationship with Nick and in open, wide and chapter four school dive into your ocean where I get every one to discover their core values, beliefs, interests and I hope, because when you know yourself really well you're able then to either cool Someone who is super aligned- or I call them deal- break work out what your deal break as I like it in your core values in your core desires and interests and within can I There are many, many areas that the US so aligned and how doesn't challenge me. In the sense that you know

I see some relationships. They get challenge, to buy one per. And being more open one person be in one place being were closed down or one person being more striving in there career and the other not one being healthier and the other non like you look mine, nix relationship and when we think the same for a lot of things, But where he challenges me is in his brilliance, because I can't be average in this marriage. I could be mediocre. I can't, small, I can sit in fear. I can't be closed. Caught choose my main goal because when you off face with a really strong morale cables reflect that back to me all the time

so the challenge, Our relationship is he's all right is challenging me to be the best version of myself to step up to Never choose fear instead of love. So I guess that is challenges me- and I do the same for him, but in time of all of the other areas like our core values in valise, where aligned, on so many of those. You know our police around parenting where aligned, we don't have an issue with that, where a line not police or money and finances, and things like that. But he challenges made a be the best version of myself every single day. I can't be mediocre with him in front of me so good. I love that I just love following your story because I feel like there are so many places where people can,

connect with you and what I think is so beautiful when you show up just as you are no, we all have faults and flaws, but we all have this power with interest. I think that it gives these little bits of connection almost like breadcrumbs for people to see themselves reflected in who you are and who they can be and so What are your top three pieces of advice for people out there who feel like they haven't quite stepped into call, or they are quite sure what the universe is high. We need on the shoulder, for the first thing is get quiet like gets still, because the universe is, currently tapping you, but there's so much noise outside and in your mind that you can hear it so gets still sit close your eyes and listen to.

Don't listen to the main goal. Listen to your intuition, because the messages are there. We just gotta mute the enemy go and outside noise, that your distracting yourself with tv social media whenever it is toxic relationships. Meet all of the outside noise sit down new year in an NGO and then listen to what is coming through to you. That is really important. That is like the number one thing is, I think, we're very good at strutting ourselves busying busying ourselves, but we ve got to really get still and I feel like that is number to end number three. I feel like that's that's what we need to do.

That is what we need to do right now and every day, and I'm still doing at you know, that's why I'm meditate twice a day when he minutes in the morning and twenty minutes in the evening. I meditate every day, because that is my time to choose in and to make sure that I am in alignment that I'm tapped in that. I can hear any messages from the universe. And that I am an open vessel and I'm open wide, and that is why I meditate so get still get still get still. I think that is enough. Of all advice- and I think that so many of us struggle with that were always refreshing, apps and checking emails, and I honestly that a lot of that comes from that mean girl. We feel like were afraid to be still because we're afraid to listen, we're afraid to answer those calls that might be coming in, and so just you show

up today and sharing your story is so impact for in a truly makes a difference, and I would love for you to tell people where they can find you how they can connect with you. How can they can tune in to your amazing podcast? Give us all of the places that we can do that well I'm very active on Instagram, so common play with me on Instagram and introduce yourself tell me that you discovered me. It's true generous podcast. I was currently on lorries podcast and the amount of people that will like. Oh, my god, I just discovered using lorries. Money is who is so? You know my God, my god that so awesome. So please come and introduce yourself to me. I also have faced but I'm super active on Instagram. I love Instagram, my website is just molester Amber saint dot com and you can get the book there. Animalism Rossini dot com forward, slash open, wide and Nick, and I created a

free video master class for you. If you had there is well answering all of your burning questions about deep love, working, really chips and skilful Saxon, that's free and then my would cost is called the mullahs around Rossini Show and that's on your podcast app or whatever stitches, wherever you like, to listen to your pod costs and check it out common play? Listen to my podcast. I I love share going on there with you I'd love to meet you in whether virtually or in person, if you're in Australia, let me know energetic. You need to come to a stray Leah. Ah, I know, drew, and I it's been on our bucket list and I hate bike it. We just need to do it, so I will make and I just want to be able to sound like you when I leave. So maybe you can give me some lessons in that at the Basi, less families

As you know, we only say the worst impressions like I'm, not even going to do it, because it's embarrassing what we try to say and sound like you thank you so much for coming on this show in for sharing your heart. There is so many parallels between You and I M just so grateful that you came on to connect with not just me for one hour. As far as I know, this episode is gonna change lives and I'm just so grateful for you. Melissa lack, lies honey. Likewise, I'm so grateful. I have following you for so long and I'm so excited that we finally got to do this. So thank you for the work that you are doing and for moving stir. Your vulnerability, hangovers and sharing it anyway, I'm so proud of you, oh yeah, you get to listen to this episode, while you're in the sauna, because that sounds a perfect. I feel like this

pursued requires, like a might drop. I mean how Homepage is saying, is mullahs Not only are accent just it makes my heart happy but what she shared today and how she shares how she taps in your intuition and takes care. Of herself, there are so many They re just found myself nodding along while she said this, but I know that sometimes is harder to put those things in emotion in your life, and so what if we stop, small and work bags together. What if we start to tame the inner in girl, in search of pay attention to those conversations in those things that were telling ourselves what, if that port, into the way that we show in the world and how we can impact others Melissa is such an inspiration to me. I think that when you hear her speak, you just feel this confidence and it really. He pushes me to continue to pursue that for myself. I am so grateful for her. I would love if you'd reach out to her and say thank you for coming on the show today

there's nothing better than pouring your heart out and hearing back from the people that it touched. I know it means the world's me- and I know the roaming, the world's Melissa. So thank you, gold diggers. Four tuning into another episode of this podcast, my passion project, the thing that I love the most and they Gaeta Melissa for showing just like, I knew you would entail next time gold diggers keep on digging your biggest schools, and I see you super soon, thanks for listening to the gold, Digger podcast die, into the show notes for this episode and all past episodes at W W W dad gold, digger pod cask dot com. If you love the show share it with a friend, the merrier thing