Here listening to the gold digger podcast episode number one hundred and sixty eight guys am legitimately and giddy to share this episode with you. It's one of my favorite one's ever end. I've got a lot of amazing episodes today introducing you to one of the most magnetic women. I know Emily Sexton. She is force to be reckoned with, and I have been able to experience or magic first hand in my mastermind group this year with a pound scarier on Wall Street is a vice president of communications and change management, Emily brings her win them over know how delightful enthusiasm and every day wit to encourage american consumers to use their purchasing power for good from work. Street to the streets with no name you can now. Find Emily travelling in developing nations. Speaking on stage is all over America Binding, we're just new goods for her downtown Raleigh Boutique, an online shop. They flourish market. She isn't,

overly obsess dogma in unlikely cross bitter a contributor to the Huffington Post in an avid leave her that every woman is worthy of influence. Today, Emily's gonna teach us her signature topic and let me tell you she teaches it and is all about how to influence others gold diggers. I can emphasise how important this episode is, whether you're in you college share a single mom there, value in knowing how to communicate well how to own your story and connect with others. A powerful way. I can not wait. Need a harness. Your inner voice and learn from this one, in a million woman, you're ready before we on in. Let's talk about the review of the week, This one guns from Doktor Brianna and it says a best podcast ever I love this pod gases especially as a female business owner. It is so amazing to hear

The lady bosses advice in perspective Jenna is amazing, with always putting out fresh content, while staying consistent in her message, highly recommend, to anyone who wants to improve themselves their business in there relationships of others. Thank you, Jennifer. You do follower and Van for life. Thank you. So much Doktor Brianna, believing that review these reviews, really just fire me up and keep me inspired as we continue to create this content for you every single week and guys I can. Now hold back on this episode any longer you are in for a treat buckle up here. About me Emily Sexton? your listening to the gold digger podcast, where we firmly believe, work doesn't have to feel like work, so made millionaire and marketing guru. Jenna poacher will help you redefine what success looks like it's I'm a year from the experts listening,

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in for a treat. I am so excited about this girl. She doesn't exist so happy, and so I welcome the show thank Stana Guy be here. Girl come on we're He did this. We re like talking and am I know we need to record right now. So first things, first, if everyone a peak into the life of Emily Sexton, who are you? How is your path unfolded in what s your journey looked like shore, okay, so I'll start with who I am Generally. I am literally just a girl sitting in my bad right now with a pile of chairs in front of my bedroom door, hoping and praying my dog will not like start barking and- and I had a photo sheikh yesterday, which it I got my here, make it damages amazing, except it rained yesterday and was so human that I feel like right, like I woke up in one of my fake eyelashes is set to mine and my hair, currently pumps night, Jane Fonda Lithely stuck.

Finger and outlet. So that's who I am that's, I'm feeling right now, a widow more about means that people just don't walk away from this podcasting, took that how weird I am so. I grew up in a small, Helen in North Carolina, I live in rally now, but I grew up in Eastern North Carolina in a really small town and basically, all anyone you know about. My me growing up was that I loved to dance and I had one during their life and a one dream only when that was to be Britney spears. Literally, all of my eggs were in that one basket. I went to Ilan University for College as a dance, major and unfortunately, are actually very fortunately, two months into my freshman year of college. I got her and dance class and I was told I would never dance again and can we just

right now and say like thank you. Jesus offer interceding because I think everyone Kennedy took a sigh of relief when I got her narrow, like ok, can you please make something or out of her life so I remember not knowing what to do with my life. Obviously I really mean it when all of my eggs for in this one baskets, I went to my career centre and woman? I know it's like bless her heart and you know I was like what am I supposed to do and it s this to study and she said well, there's the communications, major or the business major. Those are the two biggest major business and will what's the difference, and she said, while Emily and communications your right away and in the business major you'll talk. Oh, I also mean for business, and I welcome that I ended up falling in love with business and I was from the small town- were I didn't know. Any business owners are entrepreneurs, everyone kind of had blue collar jobs, and so I was so behind in every class and I had to work ten times harder than

Rowan out? Are you on a lot of the students, especially within the business major, were all investment bankers, kids from New York and jersey. And so I just for the first time in my life. I wasn't the best at something, and I wasn't this modest personal RAM and that was humbling, but it was also impairing because I learned the power of hard work, so I ended up guide ready for the major in business, concentrating within sales and marketing and I lay in a job right of school working for a swiss investment bank and if the transition from Brittany Spheres back to have served with working less investment bank sounds, we heard it is really weird, but I fell into a job that I loved. I got hired to beer recruiter, so I got to sit and me and listen to university students, and then you know, professionals, ten to twenty years and their career over the years and listen then tell us about positions and see if they were a good shit further. All this is a job that kind of morphine

there's something even crazier. I ended up moving too Dan and getting the opportunity to work in Singapore in Switzerland, in Poland and the age of twenty five, when I became actually knows raised, I think became vice president of change, management and communications, and I work for fifty thousand person company, and so what that really meant in the context of my job was that I was in charge of winning people over and it normally was waning people over to really horrible news. It is, though, that was fine, but what was interesting about living in Europe is that you get six to eight weeks vacation, unlike the two to three may before you got in America, and so I

Darted volunteering during my vacation time in the developing world- and I found this unique kind of proposition where I could use the skills that I was honey in corporate of winning others over to help nonprofits when people over to their fundraising efforts to help social enterprises, so businesses that were doing when people over to the high there really awesome goods and ethically may products and for me April, twenty fourth, twenty thirteen wise big interruption, in my life and those who view is being probably have I do it that date wise, but it sticks out of my life, because that's today that the Wrong Plaza building collapsed in Bangladesh for months employees there had and complaining to managers- that's in other, saying they're, trying to make clothes and shoes for big brands and there were cracks in the walls and they felt unsafe and nomes listening.

To them and all of a sudden on this morning, the building collapse and more than one thousand people died and twenty five hundred people were were injured and big brands. I guarantee fearless name: you shop with them and have always still do, and their names were kind of on the record bucks, and it was in the news It was in the news for only one day, pretty much and I remember getting so angry and I would look at christian speakers and, unlike how are you speaking about justice when you're wearing a top, you paid seven dollars for, and I started to look around and think everyone else was doing it Ryan in my mind, unlike living on this high horse of thinking, you know I this is going to change the way I shot for ever and I have action been in the developing world and I know the power redeem, if I'd job and that's all I am in a shop. Three days later, I went to target for probably shampoo as they do and all of us,

in my cart, starts sliding to the left to the clothing section in all this, and there is a kimono in my heart and a t, shirt that was on sale and the girl who was all excited about leading change and telling people what not to do waves the white flag. And I realize ok take a step back Emily you are in charge of leading an influence in change and teaching other people how to do that in a corporate context. Take a step back. What can you do about this issue? and I realize rather than attack and tell people what not to do. I needed to incorporate what I was learning in corporate and teaching managers and training classes. I needed to create an easy solution and show people what to do. I needed a paint like this positive narrative.

That they can become a part of. So I knew I wanted to paint this positive picture, but I wasn't quite clear on what that look like tat, but I wanted to start somewhere. I was still working on corporate job, and so I started ethical fast a blog and I started highlighting brands that we're getting it right, producing ethically treating people on the other end of the purchase fairly, and not only that the doing incredible, Gooding communities all around the world to create sustainable and positive change and then one night. Shortly before my thirtieth birthday, I was on Pinterest. So at the time has been an hour, it says to the tiny house

shows and we have a legitimate way to pilot that. That year we were gonna, build tiny house and salad. I mean who does that for fun? We do were kind of weird like that, but we have decided to settling in bad one nice pilot to Yemen, I'm squarely on Pinterest and I had searched tiny house in all of a sudden, as my fingers scanning scanning up scanning up on my pad. I stop and I see a picture of something that is not a tiny house and underneath the description it says first found Some truck arise in LOS Angeles, and I thought what is that like via you, ve, never heard of that and my whole life have been interested in fashion and said, I remember my camera has then in saying crisis like will. Actually, I think I welcome

That's what I think I waited till morning, but I know I didn't sleep tat night because in my view the merely realise the bigger impact pass, the blog, and that was going to be what if we had a fashion truck and we filled it with clothing and shoes and bags and show re only by ethical brands, and we just by these things from the all these relationships. I built up over the years of voluntary and broaden right here at home in the U S. And what, if that was the positive picture, the positive story we couldn't women here in our community to be a part of so the next morning when discussing this with my hasn't. Unlike me, I just wish I thought of a fashion chart first like me and that such an amazing idea, I always want to be like first market and my husband setters famous last words and he sighed out. There is not one here and rally

about a month later we found ourselves about two hours West, where we live, standing in a sketchy bank parking lot, exchanging a whole load of cash for an older, uniform delivery truck that was basically almost broken down and so began the beginnings of the flourish market. So we actually just did what I just told you we were going to do so. We filled. A fashion truck, that's my husband and I built together with the help of literally forty one other friends and with many boutique on wills and in October, of on migration feeling. So all of what is clear is that of October twenty fifteen we ve been into this year and a half years. I think that our territory fifteen, we launched the first Arusha Flourish market, which was this fashion truck, and at that time we carried about twenty brands a couple of months.

In C drive in this fashion, truck around town in during public events and private parties that women's homes we realized. Yet this is working. People want to be a part as something positive, and this is changing, buying habits and people retired or trying to track down and figure out where, where that the Gonna be so, we started looking at brick and mortar spaces. And a year and a half ago on black Friday, twenty sixteen we opened our shop in downtown rally and we have it looked back since it's been a crazy two and a half years since we launch that track and yet, if you told me when I was sitting with my friends in our drive of paying all over us like hand screwing in these little hooks into birch branches, we had gotten Michael's craft store like trying to be. Let can we think necklaces offer this. Will this look cool? If you told us now today we ve been able to place them seven hundred and fifty thousand dollars of orders with our eyes in part groups around the world. I would have told you you're crazy, but

the learned, the power of positive influence and how that can help. Business, that not only that literally changed the world, and I think that's what we're talking about today. Some pretty darn excited, I'm just your story. Just gives me goose. Bumps You have this gift from the moment. I met you to just move people with the way that You share story, so I'm so excited because you have pact this episode with so many take a ways and I feel like we just got it. Their role in re, sell ideas. Let's talk about kind of the different seasons, You gone through as an entrepreneur because I mean two and a half years in entrepreneur. Land goes by and the blink of an eye, but you guys have really cheap

Inga and shifted and transform not just your business, but you as a human being. Let's talk about that shore so and hang onto her nurse at very straightforward, so easy. The last two and a half years have been no easy, bracy gent, I'm sure you can relieve. Now it's been absolute. We in saying you know going from just basically myself rang the business, but my husband driving the truck two parties at night to now a team of ten. We just hired our big New employed that two days ago, so really excited and we're just expanding, but I think the biggest she now our business has been. I watched thinking that our mission was one thing, but the more or I listened to the women that shop with us, I is that our mission is actually something deeper. So when I first launched the flourish market, I was very pro artists and obviously, as someone who spent a ton of time- and still

ten years has a ton of time in the developing world and on Skype and chatting with our artists and partner groups. I just thought you know: let's spread dignity, across the globe like come in and use their purchasing power for good and we're going to change these lemons lies in the developing world. It didn't take me long to realise that and I had no background or retail, but once I started stepping ensue the arena of women shopping with you and then stepping into addressing and trying things. I realise that even sour, even just as much as women in the developing world, need someone to intercede in their life and remind them of their worth women in my community here in the first world needed someone to guess what interested in their life and remind them of their worth, so our business has grown and expanded. We really seen a shift in the content or sharing and how we talk about what we do and how we serve our customers and, yes, we're pro arson. Obviously, when we sell things, it's benefiting

But you know these businesses doing great things all over the world, but in reality, when I tell back the layers of the onion, unlike Emily, there's there sitting right in front of you that you need to be ready to serve and that something that has been amazing shift in our business and, I think, has been what has propelled us to just grow and grow and grow there. So many of us that bear even doing what we are doing in a lot of them just show the arsenal behind their products, and I just felt like for us for some reason that wasn't working for us in that's, because, because my personal story, we shall share in a little bit, but there's something so much deeper there. Something so much deeper to why. I do what I do and there's something so much more that we can bring. You know women right here in our community and women. Just in the! U S right here in the first world, absolutely One thing that I think is so incredible: you touch on that as with your previous position of influence and winning other people over. But how have you kind of use to that

as this skill as you ve transition throughout your career, because it is a really big skill that not many people have right. So ok, thank influencing others is often a scale. That's not overlooked, but I think it's suppressed and that's because I think we confuse influence with manipulation and I just remember- in corporate like going through all these corporate trainings and getting link sent to me of things to read of you know, how to basically manipulate people. It was phrases how to win people over and when I took the strength signed test whew is my number one. I kept getting like all these, like development materials in me by managers and people in the context of my job, I really did need to win people over to sometimes really important things to make their life better and employs that worked under them better. But I just my soul, was off

When I would read these things, I gotta be a better way in some of these articles and training materials. I will go through in literally think like is this real life? Is this real life and obey like when they say this save this, and when they say this saved and you'll totally like hidden in their weak spot, and then this and I just literally any my dream- I was never fold. I was never followed and I wasn't. This is not the economy that I think Levant, and I really just don't think if this bills offer me I'm willing to bet there's other people that this fills after them too, and so that's not gonna work, and so I Just in my corporate career, I can tell you the one reason I was successful is because I humanised myself and the people I worked with I remember moving to London, unlike basically, Sherry may live, store,

in sharing like? Oh, what did you do this weekend and I think about all these questions and they were like some lift by me there, who is this girl wearing bright colors and when right read here whose, like millions eating ass, I mean you can progress that it really fa and british culture immediately and I gained relationships that waves really real with people, and I dont think I ever shared. I was just sharing that my life and inviting them to do the same with me and I remember being warring before I went to Switzerland, my manager at the time, on the plane ride over. He said only just and he wasn't gonna. Shall I tell you what countries member undoing relax it doesn't make any organizer. Dear Lord, ok, you is like Emily. Basically like you need a toned down your enthusiasm and you know and don't ask personal questions like the swiss men. They don't like that and I thought argument about whether greatness

I will take that where the greatness out, because that's not how then do my job today so Gaslight whenever there maids and jokes was enthusiastic and they that, and I remember asking them personal questions hurricanes you have today. I see your kids framed on your desk. Tell me about them. Oh my gosh. What are their personalities like and it was a game changer and I just sat there and listened, and I just don't think you know in corporate and even when you run a small business, even in your personal life, you're theme of all these things you want to achieve and get from people and things you need to accomplish and check off early. Soon? We never set to think like oh gosh. They have something to offer to, but I ain't I wish is that just been so powerful is as I see it, kind of an overarching theme of my life is a move from corporate to running small business. To now growing, amid sized businesses, just humanising ice off and I think that allows others to do the same and just sitting at their feet and listening to what value they bring to the table

Salute Lee now lie and excited because you have come repaired with a ton of hands on advice, and this is a lie workshop. I guess it has made a thing. So, let's do it again this of the nitty gritty. So if a listener is looking to win someone over in their personal life, what are some tips for them? How do actually go about gaining influence and really creating those connections that you talk about. Also, let's do it and Jesse guys know I'm coming from when I was a kid, I got some. How thrown into this training with lots of senior managers will not lives there. Only six, this time, There was like five men in their image fifties and then, like twenty five year old me, and I was terrified because the two men leading the training they handle a peace treaty negotiations, the government in the Middle EAST. I have to say, have been.

A scared and my life and many times are intimidated. But I wasn't, even at that moment, I remember thinking it was a whole week training- and I remember thinking this is the day. This is a day- is a twenty five year old. You know that up here, Our pants lacking risk white linen banana republics to ours. Replanting Jenna, how I'd like exit the building with my work back behind me nonchalantly, but it was terrifying for me because they were putting us in hot seat. So all of what about two Jerry's learn from just training throughout the year that really taking that with a grain assault and putting it into action to my personal life and then even if you're, just looking and listen to this package for business was not closely to the personal, because weird next minute by minute, taken translate that for how I've done these five tips in my business are what sealant so emotional Aki through five tips for if I think, someone ok, if you hang up this park, has in your down with this in the next thirty seconds. That's fine, because all I really need to do here is this tat number one is to listen. If you do this, you will win

Literally. No one is doing this if you think about: let's give social media as an example, all of the things that are getting us as a nation just right now in America, people oppose something and then people will just calm in and just say the most hateful things and yeah. Maybe weight Maybe they didn't say it in such a great way, and you highly disagree with them, and maybe they should, you know, go to jail for thoughts, but like that's, not gonna win them over like how is that working out? It's just dividing us even more Oh, I really feel like as a nation or just as a people that if we listen that will change the world and I think if we are a people that want to lead change, an influence people, we have to start listening in listening. Well, ok, so number two tip is to ask,

clarifying questions without thorough and shade. You know what I mean by Van so like. Why do you feel that way, you're throwing shade without comment, so I find the open and in questions are the best way to let someone expand on what their thinking and feeling, because what you want to do is you want to help people feel heard like they ve got everything out of their system and that you kind of can feel in their shoes When you ask clarifying questions the right questions, without waiting them down the path and trying to steer them towards your pack. Your truly just generally acting good questions. You learn so much tat. Number three is to find common ground. So after you ve listened, it is our common connection between the two of you from something you just heard if I can find a connection icon in connection with sweat manager.

Or do you got that I promise you you can find a common connection with the person you are trying to influence As you know, maybe you're interested in the same things growing up it. Usually it's not anything to do with the item at hand that you're trying to inflooence them around its normally something outside it again. That goes back to humanising yourself tip, for I want you to cast vision in tap into higher values that are hard to disagree with. So I guess it would be helpful if I gave you an example. So something like this, I wrote to us not talk about gun control, but just that's what I'm untouched, as I'm thinking of thinking Let me give an example. So casting that vision and tapping into a higher value, that's hard to disagree with. You could say something like. I think we can both agree.

That we want our kids to feel safe when they go to school. Both sides of the table are going to agree on a comb and then last tab with your life as an example of what you believe so you can use words all day long and try to influence than like that. You got a walk that top girl. You know think about some running your wife? That's one you over to anything. It was it just through their words or one Congress. Was it it's in how they live their life each and every day that is influential. That is convincing and you know it. That's gonna, encourage me to be won over by them and then take action in my own life accordingly, so really powerful and then caviar that I want to say to all these tebbs is that you won't when everyone over so please don't die trying. You know I've almost

the table at a faintly gathering before we interracial injustice got figuratively placed on the table, and you know Maybe you haven't great aunt. Nobody in your life that you wanted to foot the table at before too. In you know you can concentrate on inside all day, but we're not playing to the law on the lowest common denominator. Here. We really instead have their such power and spending instead of spinning. Oh that whole I've trying to events is one person of something. Thus precious hours and days could be spent winning over thousands of others, which I think is such a good transition into business, because I'm thinking that, if you're listening shade, has been thrown out you via a comment on social media. A message on Instagram or maybe even something. Someone said behind you behind your back about the way we business or how you run your brand or right you're all about- and let me tell you

I've been wanting to definitely stew about that and every time I have to foot the switch in my head and say Emily move on, because we ve got a lot of good work to do you- cannot let them get. You don't just look at what happened with generous some guy row and her post about it, how did she, and a guy like drew. Oh, you know why Jenna turned around and just wrote a positive post about body positivity and it went viral been here and why? Because other people, if they saw it commonly beta, maybe there's a few others that would jump in the apart something negative, but in the grand scheme of things where people that wanted to use Parson the positive so leave that way in a positive way. Just don't let you no one person get you down or a small him full of people. Focus focus focus on not the lowest common denominator, but how many people you can help, so I wanted to translate those

five tips and show can walk through how I do that in my own business at the flourish market, so tat number one but to listen and again we're not listening to the lowest common denominator were listening to our ideal clients we know already love us or fear, just starting a business you're going to listen to people that you want to work with so like, for example, someone asked me on. I was speaking when time out a culinary panel and someone asked me You have two hundred and fifty dollars to start a business. Would you do logo first website like? How would you spend that two hundred and fifty dollars and I said, don't go to logo? Don't get a website? Have a lavish dinner party spin alternate fifty dollars? white ten people over you'd love to work with. This was a growing honest. Our personal styling business said invite them over and listen so the next step as clarifying questions, and then I walked her through question. She could ask these women

but she's having over and treating them lavishly the clarifying questions, peace, I feel Oh, like no one in business is doing this. I mean area. On again I'll get a pop up. When I buy something it's like. Would you take this survey? Unlike now, I dont time for that Am I gonna monitoring but other than big? I really never see people surveying or asking really good questions, and so I guess I don't wanna say no and in business is doing this. I think just people are doing it well. So let me give you an example of something we do in our business. That works really well that maybe you can take away and you and your business, so we survey our customers frequently. So in this past January we sent out a survey the email and also posted a link to respond on social media- and it was very simple. It was only two questions and in return we promised them a fifteen percent off shopping past,

and we explained the why behind us asking these questions is that we really wanted to be able to serve them butter, and so we had figured out through listening to customers that they had come to us for yes, fashion advice, but actually were coming to us for life advice, which is not something we expected. So our survey was to questions that they took one. What is your biggest pain point in fashion to what is your biggest pain point in life. I made it so that people had to leave at least like ten characters before let you summits are basically, they only had to leave one to two words and each answer. Hundreds and hundreds of women responded with books like whole chapters about earlier. It was powerful because they felt seen unknown in their like caution is asking the right questions. We are

listen in new, that's how they wanted us to serve them, but we didn't know exactly how we asked clarifying questions. It was an amazing, and you know it now, every new her that starts with us. They have to read the survey answers because that's all they need to know to help us ran a successful business as these are the questions and things are, people need, let's serve them less dish, our continent which leads me to the next point, the next it three that was fine common ground, and that is, we took our survey results in ways that ok, here's what they need, and we, all that down and found the common ground of where we have the knowledge and influence to help them, and then we put plans in place to serve them. It is that simple, and there were so many things you know me. I can't dish up good. Some people were like struggling in the kitchen, you know, I don't have it

I myself, but I can't help you area about which we can only give you pack talks about. Your worth me can show you how to pack for weaken trip. There were many things that we could find common ground on, that we could help serve our customers, so Tipp number for Mr Cast Vision and tap into higher values so with our business, we will live and breathe to show women that they are worthy of inputs, so using their purchasing power for good. That's only one small piece of that pie so on our social meaning accounts and the events that we hold any time you're interacting with us. We really missed the mark. If we were just like hey look at this pretty off the showed her dress, monetize fifty four dollars, let that scene can and think about that in the context of your vision,

what is that bigger value and that vision that you want to cast for people? Ok and then the last it was to live. Your life is an example and one way. I do this on social media. I show the real life of running a business. I share them I highlight rills and my personal life, and here is why I don't want women to think for a second that they have to and this million dollar business to make an impact I'll show how and making an impact at the grocery store through helping a woman. Pick up her blueberries off the ground, you know, I don't want them to think that their hair makeup has to be perfect for them to cease their day. I really want this. It says, show that's my life, her business, because I know that by meeting them in that common ground of wife's, not easy that I can show them how

locking the talk and still rising up in claiming my worth and having influence in impact, and that is what will inspire them to do. The same I have already told you briefly, about the magic of slack, but that was just skimming the surface of this incredible programme on team Jenna Gooder. We use it to share projects, ideas, answer quick questions. Without waiting on someone to reply to an email, it's a toad, a game changer in small business saved. You time, improves productivity at super, easy inconvenient. It works everywhere. You go, you can even get a mobile app and simply put its efficient org nice, and it ensures that every member of my team is always in the loop. I can imagine coordinating everything without it and I'm so thankful to slack for sponsor Today's episode had disliked our com if you are ready to take your business to the next level, that is slack, dark com, slack it's where work happens,

amazing. I might just soaking all of this in thinking the world needs to hear this world me you're. There is one thing that struck me: about you when we met is the way that you connected you're a unique personal story, and I think that really drew me, and here is that a lot of the times the things that were struggling with are the things that we tend to hide. Shy away from by they become the things I can connect us most, and I know we ve experienced this with sharing are missing. Europe is embody image and all these things that are things that you don't want to talk about, but it needs to be shared. And so can you talk a little bit about the process of owning and then sharing your story right out I love this question, so I've actually never here in what I am about to share like on internet I've, only kind of shared in person, and I shared, but the first highway banana and a group of women back here

feeling and stirring in my heart to share what I've learned in the last few years and actually writing that'll be under shells and twenty twenty yeah. I feel like. I really want to share this, because I think that, if you're listening to this, I think that you'll find yourself in part of my story and hopefully walkway inspired so three months after we launched our business the fashion tracks. Something really horrible happened in our lives and too day only a close him for friends. Now the details, someone close to me not my husband, was hot. Doing unthinkable things with young girls in general. I remember glancing at the front window of my house in seeing FBI agent Working Paper, work in her car and thinking we're not gonna get through this. I felt like such a fraud. The very thing our business

dead, for which first championing vulnerable women and children that was being attacked. So I felt sponsible, even though in no way was any of it. My fault, I felt so alone, because I couldn't tell many people I felt like I was somehow being punished because I had stepped up boldly as a woman to start a business that stood against sex trafficking and acts of ingest, It's against women and I felt like I no longer have the strength or authority to run my business, and I sat and that for a few

x and one morning after a ton of therapy, I woke up, and I I declared S, TAT s all that those are all wise and we ve gotten more work to do so. We ve got to work and a few months later, our business was blossoming. So much that we started to immediately have to look for bricks and mortar spaces and here's what I found through that struggle breathes confidence. If you let it- and you know, you may think this ray Saps there, but just like clockwork a few months after we open our bricks and mortar store. I found out through a letter that my dad was my biological dead and that for thirty two years my parents never told us all that I was hermit storm donor, not us all, including me.

And I remember, dropping to my knees behind our check out corner in my store in shock Reaching out to grab my laptop pulling it down to the floor with me and googling what to do when you find out your firm, a sperm downer in literally praying that no one What color my shop and for the forty eight hours that followed, I legitimately, could not look in the mirror, I no longer recognised. The shape of my face or the length of my legs, because I'd never looked like We want to my family and I wondered who they came from, and this past year has been one of redemption, of knowing that my identity and worth is not tied up in anyone here on earth so when women walk in our store and share hard things with me or message me on Instagram now have empathy and the sweet sweet gift, a being able.

To meet them where they are on common ground, because I too have been through what felt like Helen back. You know, I know what it's like to not be able to get out of. Because anxiety is sweeping across you, when you literally feel like you're duct tape down to the bed frame, I know what it's like, not wanting to. Look in the mirror, because your confused about what you're, seeing in its big mind, game at the time and so, if you're policy, I do my main message. You know I just don't want you to let yours, you're struggles distinguish your fire, want me to use them the fan, your flame, nothing wasted in your life in their struggle, know her in this moment no hard conversations, no shocking news, none of it is wasted. I had an absolute gift to be able to make your mass. Your message knew the truth, as you have the strength to get out of bed her not to wreak the truth is Udall,

have to have it altogether mute that message playing on RP in your head. That life is not perfect, so you're not capable because you are there capable of real influence and real impact be no so get out of bed. And, let's go sister engineer. That's me. Message. That's my message. You know when I think about the year I was born that'll, be on migration, and then the year I die. I want that flash in the middle to represent something specific and something good, something damn good, and so, when we think about influence, you know it is not an accusation is what do you want? Your legs he D be like. What do you want to leave here on earth in June? I remember in a package that you talked about how drew us you guys the best man in your wedding. Very suddenly, and do you know you just remember, lying in bed and scrawling through social media feeds is trying thing. You know here from ham, and here is the thing

show me: we live in a day and age for social media bears witness to the influence we had while here on earth, and so I think that let's not confuse influence, manipulation and in place lie. I think that we should use our impact for good, and my favorite thing about influence is courage in people to use their own, because it's gonna multiply good in the world. My in can, I just say Emily for programmes do not only by words. Saw its own guy that again I want to know it like this hearing the way that you're sneaking in how you use connections. What are three things that we can incorporate today to help us influence. Others, intentional, ok, well, my first tat has to be to less than I'm just gonna repainted, Enrique Arrogant,

because it's like, I said, I think, if you can do this, while your when it life and when in business and if you want a resource I work out. Friends and influence people in written like lung along a long time ago, but so it's kind of our cake. But the message just say the same, and if I had a bull, his book down to one or two, a bee, listen. The second tip I would give is to allow, if you own, a business or even just from a personal perspective from a business, allow your customers to be Co. Creators of whatever you're putting out there setting out in their products. So, by serving our customers, as they say, what their becoming co creators and our vision and anything we're gonna, be apart up in your personal life, take your five best friends. Doreen together

You re together? Listen to them have been speak truth in your life and allowed them to be Co. Creators of how you can influence the world and in the last two pogo is just to tell stories to simply put it stories. Stick stories are what people remember it's there take a ways from long speeches. It's there take away from interactions with business stories, about people go and tell their friends about you and your brand. Our brains are hard wired for stories they're everywhere. Actually not till I get to scientific, but when you can tell a story new hit on emotional ties that builds up the dope mean in your body, and that's gonna hit the spot in your brain. That makes you feel good and fuzzy and when you feel good and fuzzy, when people feel that way, they can go out and change world. So you know, I feel, like stories are just a powerful I've seen how they worked in my personal life and in our brain. That would have to be my last my third kind and take away.

I want to have you again, I feel like this could go. For I mean we can predatory I'll get you just said we are going into ratified. It is probably ok with do so. Let's do this. There are four questions. So is there anything in particular, you do to reach your audience week after week I think it's really simple. I shop in their lives consistently and always provide value in that values. Based on what I know they need show up, even when I don't want to even when I feel a duct tape down to my bed frame. I still show up. I love that, if you had to pick

your absolute favorite thing about the power of influence. What would it be? Ok, all our previous answer is going to be to use it to encourage people their uninfluenced by many guy differ out now and say to use that influence in like a really positive way for positive impact. We just did a big campaign. I threw shirt up for sale on social me. I said: hey, let's find one woman to go through business, school and aethiopia and thus changed the trajectory of her whole families, lives forever and long story short refunded. Five. It was amazing and it just went to show me like influence, can be used for such cool and good things. So, let's not back down from it. If you D pick three words to describe successful influence or positive influence, what would they? Okay, authentic rooted, rooted in something that means I locked here, you and say that motivates because I think that you can reach bemoan, tell them.

Take action, then not doing anything if they're not motivated to take action. I gave my favorite one so opportunity This is my favorite one, so say a listener is ready to move forward and they're ready to like harness their influence, skills, which I mean after this episode I feel like this is all of us. What is this thing or best piece of, vice you want to leave them with their stick with me and brain it back to Britney spears since restarted. So everyone caught him when I was in college that oh, thank God, I got hurt because when we were seniors in college Britney's shaved or had I like it however, the bat in her from over eight years? Well, guess why? Eight years later she got residency in Vegas and all of my girlfriends from college. We went to see her. Obviously, that's the only way to celebrate affair if birthday and we dresses each other,

favorite Britney spears characters over the years I was wearing blue hot shorts and carrying a yellow stuff snake around my neck, as one does- and I had this realization in that moment, looking at her up on stage and she was calendar as bread, bright red does that I was like getting hurt, didn't take my stage away from me. We were just launching the marsh market, unlike I took my stage away from me. So my challenge to those who are listening is the only person that can take away your stage that can take away your platform for influence. Is you you're the only person that can do that? I don't care what lifeforms your way. What people tell you what feedback you get, what people say it can and cannot do the only person that can take away your stage. Your platform of influence is you, and so I can give you tips all day long. But if your mindset is not there, if you're, not ready to claim your worth and claim that

are worthy of influence. I've really failed you, and so I really just want you to know that you are. Worthy of influence. If you want to check out our instagram account or at the flourish market, we have built a full women. All shaped sizes, colors backgrounds, honour Instagram, account confidently answering the question I asked them, which is: why are you where the of influence- and I think you'll find yourself in one of their shoes? I love it. You guys have to go check our feed and let me just say to your sons in your instagram stories or bring me so much joy, so speaking of which, where can everybody find you and connecting, though I'm just gonna, give me wine linked guys, headed up it's the flourish market, dot, com, backslash, Jenna and you'll find some fun things there. I'm keep a little bit surprised, but what you're going to find there to prove my point?

and show you walking what I just talked out to you is you'll, find a to question class and the two questions. Really find a knocking reveal what they are, but here's the deal. I want you to be the co creator of content. We can put out to help you and those you love claim their influence. So too, simple questions that I asked and then you answer them as a thank you I'll turn right around and give you a fifteen percent are shocking, pass that you can use or gift to a friend. I will literally cannot wait to die Van and learn from what you have to say. They do what they do for this up. It is, though, far one of my favorites ever and I think my favorite pieces about it is I've always loved the idea of influence, but I think women weaken shy away from it, because it can feel strategic or conniving. They think that the way that you painted it today, just

oh that influence leads to impact in that is so stinkin power fall. So thank you for your expertise. In your time in Europe, our interest. Being you I'm sorry, I'm gonna be here injures Jenna thanks for leading the way and paving the way of vulnerability and just true community Marilla grateful for you,. Does anyone else. We like you, need to start this episode over and take notes cause. I do Emily just incredible, I mean the way that she speaks edges makes you listen and she's so much valuable wisdom to share. I love watching her do what she talks about? I mean this woman has influence but she uses it to make a genuine embarks on the world and guess what she has crap a business around the feedback that she consistently cease out and she uses she

It makes people feel seen and heard and she really contributes to the world in a way that makes you feel less alone. I think what I the most about Emily. Is it You can use a topic like influence, something that we might have if he'd feelings about and really persuade you to know that this is how we can change the world like when she said about her gravestone having the dates was born in the date she dies without dashing between, in that she wants a dash to mean something. I know that you, gold, digger, feel the same way this show was just life changing. She you showed up and she served and she shared- and I am just so thing for four voices like Emily's in this world and so gold digger thank you for hanging out with us today. Thank! U verse, soaking in all of this knowledge and please going Emily in this pursuit because she is changing the world and were just lucky enough to know her

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