Hello and welcome to happier a pike s where we discuss cutting edge science, the wisdom of the ages, lessons from our culture and our own experiences about how do we have this week will talk about picking a mantra for the day and the happiness stumbling block of awful lies. I'm good ruben a writer who studies happiness, good habits and human nature, I'm in new york city and with me, yes again, is my sister Alyssa crap still in new york, such a treat to have her right next to me and scratch. That's me: it was craft, a tv writer and producer living and allay, but I'm spending several weeks in new york city loving it, although it seems to have wrecked havoc on my voice, and maybe because I have to talk some,

during the day has were working on a pilot, and I'm just cite constantly jabbering bed excuse my cracking croaking voice le and from a having a standpoint. How is it being away from home for like have met several several weeks? This isn't just like a casual business trip. This is like you're you're living in york city for what yeah, although I am a little bag, I've gone home to see jack other just getting a little bit of taste. You know the alps and they're gonna. Come visit me during his spring break, I hope So it's hard of course, unit being away from him face time helps, but it is so much fun to be in new york that it's a great distraction and like the weather has been gray yan we're just having a fund for the weather of meat coming from los angeles. It's like my now. We can bring about our whether gee I now unlike I must just like. I can no longer exist and bad

however, I go, it has to be nice, although I do need to get some rainbows. If you'd like every time you should a pilot like you have to buy like major, whether I remember when you are getting ready to get a budapest, they will you bought like shackleton, level jacket, of it, and I have it ready to go in case, have you never know in new york, there could be a blizzard at any moment. That's true! That's vesture, while its achieved for me to have you here, I like being in the same times and with you guys and here you know as another update I wanted to read this email. We got from our listener, kate, because we had asked for the anniversary show about pupils before and after stories could sit so interesting to hear what try this homes of work for people and she says since last january. I've lost almost a hundred and twenty pounds at the LAO. Why started these changes before reading the book? Reading help me understand why their working and wine having success this time after countless failed attempts, I'm an oblige her and accountability.

it's one hundred per cent key for me, I'm on a diet plan where I have a personal coach every night. I text her my food log for the day three times a week. I text her a picture of my feet on the scale and once a month I text her pictures and measurements. The food plant itself isn't so different from what I've tried before, but the accountability is so much more than a weekly weekly weigh in at weight watchers or doing it. On my own. I've also worked accountability into exercise every monday. Through friday, I participate in a fitbit challenge with a group of women, knowing they can see how many steps I get get each day gives me. Accountability and my competitive nature helps push me for some extra steps. If I see him close to whoever's right in front of me,

I also paired that's the strategy of pairing watching netflix with being on the treadmill, my own personal, sweat, flicks, that isn't that a that's an amazing term. I love that flick, sweat flicks when you're you're you're using tv to get you to exercise on a treadmill, basically convince myself that netflix only works if my feet are moving and then I keep myself hooked on great shows where I can't see what happens next, son, as it gets me to the gym to hasten today. I only struggle with going when I'm in between shows. It also makes me a better tv watcher, as on the couch, I'm always getting distracted and doing something else. At the same time, I think about the tendencies all the time. I have a good friend and co worker, who is the definition of questioner and I used to had annoyed and defensive at all the question. Sometimes now I remind myself it's her tendency and I believe it's made me more patient and better, not taking it. Personally. My boss is enough: older again. Knowing that helps me work better but this that's amazing, I mean she is totally chain.

Seeing her light. While I mean that's the thing she said issues during these changes before, but this is my argument about. The tendencies is like sometimes things work, but we don't know why they work or sent, as we think it's wrong reasons why they work, and so then, when we're trying to amplify it, we go we're not efficient, because we don't understand it and I think You know the tendencies when you realise okay and oblige, or so I have to have that accountability. Then it's easy to see will all plug this aunt or I may to make sure that my plan includes this or if I have auctioneer option b. I see that option. Aids can work better for me, because I need that accountability it suited to you it's not just like some general planets, but aimed at everybody. It's like really aimed at your particular psychology and so a hundred twenty about congratulate, congratulations, gate, that's heat and also the idea that when you understand you know this is your things.

I like this is just the way person is it's not it's up personal, the ground aimed at me. It's just the way they are on the way. I am that there the way they are, and so we don't get upset about it with such a figure out a way to handle each other more harmoniously, I'm so that was throwing email. Three ass, I was excited so thank you, Kate, fur weighing in with your before and after story, and now it's the try this at home tap elizabeth. Now this this is your tip. Yes, it's pick a mantra further day who episode, twenty six and then again in our anniversary episode. Fifty four, we talked about picking a theme for the year. Nine was novel. Yours was vision, so there's the theme for the year, but recently I was in this. I discussed on the show this paramount

fulness closet and often in that class. The teacher has everybody pick a mantra for the day so sick? What do you need today? Some people will pick com or peace or hers, vienna various words my one I pick most recently was. I can because I was free link super overwhelm because I, like this pilot, was coming in answer and I are working on a pitch for another show that we had to do and all the stuff was happening, and I felt like on the verge of totally losing control my mantra and I'm sort of just keeping it every day, as I can, and I ve actually been using it like when I start to feel like vibrate.

You know like. Oh my god, oh my god, I'm like I can I can. I can, and it's really been helping me now. I think that's great because because the idea picking a theme for the years, it's sort of like this big transcendent goal for everything, but I think that there is really something about. I like picking this one word of this one phrase: the kind of sums it up that makes it easier to act on it because assent is this kind of vague and co it sense of like? Oh, I should just remind myself that I've been through things like this fever Ababa. It's like I can and it can flashed through your mind and in it like his eight centre. You yeah, I mean like, I could think of words like energy, for instance, would be a word. I would think a lot of people would want to use and die you guy now. Hudson I was singing dad's word. We energy reminds me of one of my all time- favorite movies, all that jazz amazing movie.

a theme in the movie is the main character repeatedly. He looks in the mirror and kind of makes his face and says it's showtime folks, and it's just kind of like it sort of his hit his mantra for saying like okay, now I have to go out there in, like you, know, bring it and in the movie you see how he's using that to steal himself over and over, as he's racing, I know gretsch if you had to pick em entre for today. What would it be? I often you know- and this launcher is kind of inspired by ulysses, because you have you and Sarah made those signs for yourself it's. This is on job and I enjoy it and I you know- I often remind myself as I'm sitting my desk or something- and I say this is so fine- because I can get liking get lost and, like I have to do this, I have to do that now. I have to write this up, and you know I remind me, so this is what I pick. This is what I wanted doing, and I remember that because I was tucked jamie was you know Jamie and I were talking on the phone and that our day and I was like well, what have you been

today. What have you been doing today in his legal? He I ve been doing today with a lot about affordable housing tax credit report. and his eye. What have you been doing today? You know what I've been doing today is I've been doing a lot of research about taylor. Swift, as you said, he thy taylor, swift, those than upholder and sows actually researching says like going online. We know these profiles and watching all unities taylor swift, unlike this itself, more fun and tax credits. jimmy to hay, malays mitya, he would much be wrought doing that and then a group amber? A friend of mine had who has four kids and was saying to me. I always remind myself. These are the good old days which is sort of a cliche, but it's really true. You know to take it back and say I don't want to just race through the day I want to remember,

yeah. It's this whole thing about the monster. It's kind of a variation on the gratitude that cause it's like you know you can reminder, have a practice of reminding yourself to be grateful and this sort of reminding yourself what you're trying to put out into the world yet today or just get out of yourself run, you kind of feel run down or low down just a way of sort of reaching in getting something, more woe and one of the things that I often again. I think it's so hopeful. Just have this very brief thing to kind of it's just easier for your mind to handle and to kind of ignite that before I speak, I often think enthusiasm because I'm like what do I want to communicate. Enthusiasm like I'm so enthusiastic about these ideas and it's just easier than having some kind of big psych up speech that goes on and on and on units. Summing it up in a word is helpful yen. We actually for this

had cast yeah word son. We folk- and I think we ve talked about that. Yes, it should read them sure. Ok! Well, if a lot of words but its practical funny, transcendent, revealing sisters, evergreen, loose fun, vulnerable differences, research community and that sort of like each one of those is something that we want to hit and having it. Have a it's better than like a mission statement that we would have to read through right, yeah, oh excellent, so I am dying. Grants to hear of people have montrose that get them through the day, so in your class to people tat

Yes, we go around and say why it is so. It's really interesting to hear other people's like some people's. You know, like I said, com joy acceptance as a big one and we urge is different, praises sideways, really interesting to hear what people are focused on it's a little weena window into the mind yeah and if you get it good ideas have things to copy ethics, letting us know your daily mantra: twitter, facebook, podcasting, gretchen, ruined our conference email or it's always. You can go to the show notes at happier cast dot com. Slash fifty seven to comment or to get any kind of sir images, that we talk about on the show. No one is slowing down in this hiring race for the right. Tell it that's. Why principle wants it be stay competitive by providing a comprehensive benefits. Packaged go to your companies and your teams needs because

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When I have a tendency to do it a lot and I'm really trying to work on that, partly as a drives Adam absolutely insane. Oh, how does it why? How does it come up? well, it's just like all be sitting on occasion I going well, you know what, if this happens- and You know what, if I go to this pilot, and I have to go to new york, which did not happen and I can't see you guys and what, if you're, working and you can't bring jobs, and I don't have what, if we're shooting on Saturdays- and I can't come visit you and it's going to be a whole month- and you know spitting on and on and on, and it just like. He wants to wait and see what happens and deal with it, which is the healthy hedge. Ah, so I've asked term because it can actually leads some arguments to say to me like jill eyes, like just pointed out today, liz you're off,

rising you know, stop and just take a breath, and if he does, if you do it in a gentle way, had actually just stop me in my tracks and make me go. Oh yeah right forget everything I said, and I can just kind of be back at the moment, but I need I really need someone to point it out to me cuz. Otherwise I just keep on going and what is not helpful is when people are like that's not going to happen. What maybe could happen or you know. Well, that's gonna be fine and you well. Maybe you won't be fine, sir. I think it's not. They can't make you promises so tat comforting for people to say hey that will never happen cause it can happen. Do you ever awful eyes? Yes, I do. I do well in its interesting because in psychology circles they use the term catastrophism, a catastrophe. Rising is when we imagine the most catastrophic outcome that can happen, which is virtually predict that sunday,

going to happen and that if it did happen, it would be a catastrophe so yeah and I think it's a very common thing and probably in some ways it's adaptive because then you're thinking like wolf. All these things happen. What would I do and you're kind of like you've, kind of got your emergency escape plan or whatever going but you're right, every medicine become point can become poison and at some point it's helpful to think through, like negative possibilities or to say like well. I I'm going to join aaa because, what's going to happen, if my car breaks down on the freeway you know and and to take action, do it, but when it's becomes counterproductive or when you're just spinning your wheels or you know all these possibilities that are very remote. It just drags you down without being helpful and anyway the item, and I think some people would say in awful lies in your almost as could be a self fulfilling prophecy. Yes,

you know like you're, saying oh well, if my boss hates me, then I'm to get fired and I'm I'm not lose my health insurance and all this, and it can almost you know some people thanks for bring in bad things by imagining them happening, of the opposite, where I feel going to my worry, as I've said, worry us having. It won't happen. So those are that's dueling philosophies of life, but I think your point is this: if you are aware that you're doing it that's very helpful because then you can be like what is this leading me to construct of action, or is this just bringing me down to no purpose? We have to realise that you're doing it and its can be very hard to catch herself in it, and I also thank you know in terms of what you talk about with certain

catching emotion, young. You know psychological states like it can really bring down the people around you, as if they're just perceiving this site, constant stream of negativity, yeah, and I think that's what happens with Adam. It's like he just starts feeling like there's just too much negativity, whereas I don't see it that way, because it's coming out of Me- and I guess right, and so I do think that one of the really bad things about awful ising isn't just what it does in your own mind, but also how it affects the people around you right. this is an example of emotional contagion, not really awful icing. But you know I'm a very fearful driver, your fearful driver, but you drive all the time and I don't write that much will jamie. I had to go on and on a drive and he'd had back surgery, so I needed to drive a fine driver

I was nervous. It will make driving in your exceedingly just getting onto the getting onto where I need it to get and I wasn't sure exactly which route to go as soon as we get one with another, and so I became let's say I became increasingly agitated and my talk to him and he's like he's like calm down you're, making me nervous because he's like the calmest river in the world- and I was like right. This is not helpful. Like me getting worked up, it's making me worked up and that's not helpful to my driving and I'm making him anxious and that's not helpful, so just like dial it back yeah. You know I but there's also the point too. That's a good thing, maybe to remember when you're awful icing or catastrophizing is. This is mom's story that she always tells about. How do you know if this is bad for you, which is this old story? I forget how the whole story goes, but it's like a guy's son breaks his leg and his neighbors say. Oh that's! So that's so awful and he's like how do you know and then the then the soldiers come to town or they're going to conscript all the boys of our of you know who could be in the in the arm

but they can't take a son, because the son has a broken leg and they're like oh, that's so lucky and he's like how do you know and- and so it's all this thing about even know, what's good news or bad, and you really don't and that- and that can be helpful, also when you're thinking when you're in that downward spiral. To just say: okay, maybe I am going to lose my job, but then maybe I'd get a better job like I'm, not saying that's necessarily going to happen, but it's a possible outcome as well right, you could and what are the opposite of authorizing. You could wonderful eyes, wonderful life Try to start wonderful isaac

Those rose coloured glass, but this is like an age old thing. I mean there's this great line from Tom Thomas jefferson, writing to John Adams, saying how much pain have cost us. The evils which have never happened. You now is something to think about human nature. Yes, grass. It is time for a listener question and by the way, if you wanna reach us, leave a voice. Mail question at seven: seven, four to seven, seven, nine, three, three six or easier. Remember, seven: seven happy three three six and this is a question from janis and she's she's in germany constance and not charm, pronouncing right, I've she's originally from scotland and janis rights, I'm someone who doesn't care much frontier, decorating, etc, but having or clean,

relatively tidy apartment does make me feel less trust, and then she alludes to the secretive adulthood which I always say, outer order contributes dinner. Com are one happiness. Stumbling blocks is that chair and she attached in internet photo my husband, I good with getting dirty laundry in the basket and clean laundry iron folded and put away, but does in between clothes, are starting to be annoying. I don't believe in washing things like genes too often close get wrecked and race wastewater I often era war and clean clothes on the balcony overnight. Before I wear them again. There also things like swat pants that I sometimes where around the house for an hour or two after work before getting ready for bed. These are just some examples of things which end on the chair for some reason, I'm very reluctant to put once more enclosed back in the closet with the laundry fresh clause. Do you or any listeners have a manageable solution for the chair? She notes. The apartment is not that big and I'm not a millionaire This is so funny because I hundred percent, no exact

She's talking about my version of the chair is the floor of my closet. Ah, but I hunters hundred percent know what it's like when you like. Well, I'm not gonna wash this. I'm not gonna dry clean this, but so we it is no man's land It is its total limbo in a lot of times, I'll just leave it on the floor until it gets trod on and crumpled, and so like, ok. Well now I do I have to wash it right yeah I mean that's just get it dirty and for me it's the end of this. This couch that we have- and I just put everything over this one arm- and it thinks this pile up.

So what did you do? I bet everybody's got it or is it completely identifiable place and in their house? And so I would say, there's two strategies for dealing with that point in opposite directions: okay, so the first is the strategy of convenience. So that's a habit formation things which is you could embrace the fact that this is kind of a liminal category like instead of saying it's either dirty or clean you would say: I'm gonna have a place where I can neatly put away the things that are neither laundry fresh nor dirty enough to wash because clearly, she's Jana seems to feel like these are very distant. categories and you're sort of saying the same thing where they they don't belong in either place, so there is no place for them will create a place for them. So if you could add a chat, she says she's, not a millionaire doesn't have that big apartment, but maybe there is a a chest of drawers or or or some kind of something where they could be put away so they're not on the chair.

Put away, but they're not put their put away in their own special place. There may be a laundry basket like when you actually fold clothes in the long. You know and and assertive Well, you have your thing about about baskets and hampers like how many hampers were in your closet. Oh and we had like six, I'm not a fan of the hamper, because it's not an easy way to like put things away and get them out neatly. I think you need something. That's got a little bit more structure to it, but it can be like a little cube that has two drawers because it doesn't sound like it's all that much stuff and and here's another thing that I've noticed I am obsessed with clutter clearing, put things away where they want to go like a lot of objects to sounds very kind of answer for more effect, but a lot of objects seem to want to be in a particular place. They will keep showing up there. Even if you think I go I'm trying to put this away in this one closet, they will keep appearing in another place, try to put them

Way as close to that place as possible, so maybe you even can get like a little cube that could be like next to the chair as kind of a side table slash place to put these things because they keep wanting to be on the chair. That wouldn't be helpful, putting them away a it'll, be more convenient to put them away since that's where they want to be.

in their own little way, rather so zan, but is really true, like you can decide where something belongs or there's a totally opposite solution, which I would say to her, which is the strategy of clarity in this tragedy of clarity. Is that when we know very clearly what we expect of ourselves in what we think it's easier to stick to our good habits, and so here is she could either accept the fact that there's this third category or she could say there not dirty, therefore they are clean. Ah they do not need to be. The question is: does something needs to be washed or is something that needs to be watched and then put them away just go ahead and put them back with the clean clothes, because in her mind there is a distinction between laundry fresh and these clothes, but maybe she gets billig actually is something's, not dirty. It should be put away with everything: that's not dirty nephew wash because, if not to be washed, it should be with these other things, and then I think sense. But if she got a clear in her mind that there aren't three categories there, two categories, then maybe she could put the things away,

a cause she's she's she's, but so anyway, it's like any other. Either there are two categories or their three categories. They may because she said she airs things out. Maybe I should immediately errand out on the balcony and then put it back in gas with the clean clothes Instead of that fresh air, yes, cleansing, yeah yeah, I know exactly or like the dysfunctions she work for an hour. She does really look at them and say these. These do not need to be washed there. Or they go back where they belong. So I don't I don't that that that's what I will admit to you have this thing: why have it? I'm? Not it's not that I don't think that their clean enough to put away. I do some too lazy. I just don't like hanging things up. That's my problem, but you have this sort of also this in between thinking

would this work for you and yeah, I think, probably just returning them to you know the other. Clean clothes would probably work best for me, yeah, of course there is the laziness factor as well. Well, that's what it is for me, I'm just like! Oh I took he's yoga pants for the leading the shortest possible time, because I have to go to a meeting, but the minute that I come back. I met up with these europeans back on, so why put them away? Obviously them here and then you know? Oh, but now I gotta different purview, pants and some others. He a pair of yoga, Panzas sitting there for like two weeks until I deal with it, as is also a lot of people say there treadmill winds blow, you gotta check, yeah slow, hang clothes on their treadmill. Yes, instead of using it as a channel. Yes, exercise equipment seems to be a target because I'm like who can exercise because it's all covered with closer than you gonna loop, all exactly yes, yes, okay, so janis! Thank you.

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just running around like a chicken with my head cut off. What do I need to bring? I don't have a room. How many suitcases am I bringing like? I want to spend time with jack, but I have to pack. You know that whole thing, even though I kept saying I need to start packing because I'm want to be organized. I want to be calm and relaxed the day before I leave so I can just enjoy the Amelie. It was the opposite of that and I had to like you know, find my snow pants cause. I have to bring those and I have to bring all like this crazy gear that I never have, except for when I'm doing a pilot so we'll have to locate it. Would I have to interrupt your nephew, you need. pants to be city, should it snow. I need snow to seriously because it it when you're shooting a lot of times you're outside for hours at a time so say, there's a like it's snowing. Yet I need snow pants that does that.

Where do you want? This is a very high level of packing. This isn't just like. I need a couple of tea, sir. This is like. I have to prepare for like any, so this is hard, but the question Did you remember your bourbon and cigarettes the utter prominently on John didion yeah. Of the item she had on her list. I also did not bring a typewriter and also what you write your ipod brow. I did through anyway. So I just you know that the de merit is just that. I didn't do exactly what I knew. I should do we, plan ahead, the gap tat I could have packed and, as you know, left out the few key items you know I love toiletries what not then been very calm and relax, and instead I gonna was distrust case and that's not fun for anybody. So happiness, demerit, I've! U packing such an issue, but now here something that I try to do. What I'm doing a big trip like that, I don't have it would help you is like,

open up the suitcase and then, as I think, of things like I'm, not even trying to consciously pack ministers when something occurs to me, I'll put it in the suit. if so that later on, when I'm getting organized at least that stuff has been pulled. That was my plan. That was your plan, but I didn't paid into it and side. Note pet peeve, when I'm trying to pack for something like with family trip, is that, like family members will come running up to me, whereas When is it? Where am I propose, and I did I lose my train of thought and now everybody I d say like I'm going to the zone where I'm just following a train of thought and moving from room to room pulling things, and if you talk to me you will regret it and they have learned as it is hard to back those good, so you can borrow anything for me. I had no pass our regrets. What's your gold stars, we ok! Well, I mentioned okay, so I mention this nineteen. Seventy nine!

the earlier in the opposite. All thy jazz- and I have to confess- because I was like earlier- was so cool Louise, had it showtime folks that I went online to look it up to. I myself whether or not he had actually set it more than once or if it has been one time, and so start looking at youtube videos, and then I then I was like well but there's not enough video for me to tell if you set it more than once, and I have to look at the screenplay, so I like searching through the screenplay. I've been slowly bit by bit, I'm watching one scene and then another only get more than theirs. That amazing, seen until I have to give a gold started this movie, although jazz, because it might be that other people dont know about it and its truly one of my very favorite movies. Well time. Think it's one of dads favorite movies is then I think it is it is it is it it's it's about so many things. It's like every like really masterpiece of a movie. It's about art and performance, is about love, and marriage divorce and children and self destruction mortality more tell my guys, mortality attempt,

haitian what do we owe other people? How do we help other people? And I mean I every time I see it. I cry it's it's every time I see it. I see something new and it's just as bytes of people know what it's even about, and so it was if it's by Bob fosse. He has this very famous dancer. Choreographer director and it's summing up by about autobiographical based on his inexperience and the main characters, the sky, Joe Gideon who's. Clearly like a genius he's incredibly charismatic, and he and it's about him preparing for a broadway, show and and then also what's happening in his personal life. And so there's all these scenes of, like kind of like people trying out for a big dance number and which sounds like a cliche. But they do it in a very cool way and then also how he's sort of-

destroying all his relationships, but he's a very likeable person. A lot of times movies like that. I can't watch because I hate seeing people self destruct, but it is r rated man. So do not make this your choice for movie night out for and if you don't like, ah, are ready the kind of things I you will not like this, but I also feel like when you describe things they sound worse. So, like I forget what I said and just like go watch it and you will have it right and you have this movie as much as I do yeah it's great. I mean I haven't seen it for years. I remember seeing it in the theater with mom and dad. Oh my gosh I, but I would not have wanted to see it with mom and dad here's what's funny, though we were so I was with a friend. I think it was Emily and we, but we sat not with them. We were in another part of the theater, but still so are we didn't follow what was going on, but I mean that there are still there's like a lot of naked body parts and stuff There's a lot of stuff, you I'm sure

In retrospect, heavily edna brought us had laden so yeah yeah. This is now this is. This is not on the edge. This is clearly an it's. Not I mean it's not beyond the pale. It's just you wouldn't want to bring like too little kid yeah one of them's, not even your own kid to it, but but anyway, I want to go. They weren't that little. I want to give a gold star to her, though, just because I feel like it's such a masterpiece and it's one of these things that, like I, you know, I think about it all the time. It's just it's extraordinary and that's it for this episode of half year. Remember try this Combs pick a monster for the day. Let us know what you picked, because I think we can all get great ideas for each other. When you hear, I think I can time it for myself star producer, Henry milan ski who agreed to come to work very early. So we could do this before my pilot work starts started day, thanks entering also thing two andy bowers, mayor of panoply, to get in touch grudges on twitter,

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