It’s important to make sure that we don’t learn the wrong lessons from pain, frustration, criticism, or failure. Like a cat, we want to learn not to sit on a hot stove—but maybe we still want to be able to sit on a stove that’s cold.
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As I mentioned many times, I love aphorisms, epigrams, paradoxes, collins, allegory, stables and teaching stories of all kinds and someone who is famous for the things he said whether or not he actually said them is the legendary baseball player manager and coach, yogi bearer. In fact, yogi
I wrote a book called the yogi book. I really didn't say everything I said he's quoted saying many things he didn't actually say such
It stage I flew all over again, he didn't say that unlike yogi berra, Abraham, lincoln and albert einstein, mark twain is often quoted, saying things he never actually said
Or road, so I knew a story about mark twain and I looked very carefully to see if I could find out whether mark twain actually made this famous observation about a cat and a hot stove- and I discovered he did mark twain- did write this. This maxim comes from following the equator twain rights. We should be careful to get out of an experience, only the wisdom that is in it and stop their lest we be like the cat sits down on a hot stove lid.
We'll never sat down on a hot stove lit again, and that is well, but also she will never sit down on a cold one anymore. It's a very important thing to remember experiences, a great teacher, but it's often a challenge to know the correct lesson to draw from it.
poet stephen spender made the same point in his literary autobiography world within world in right.
About literary criticism, he observes a writer should remember that the tendency of reviewers is to criticise work, not for what it is, but for what it fails to be, and it is not necessarily true that he should remedy this by trying to become other than he is. Thus, in my own experience, I have wasted time by paying heed to criticism that I had no skill in employing ride. This led me to try right, whereas I should have seen that the moral for me was to avoid it when my biography of J f k, forty ways like a j k did not sell. Well, it didn't find its audience. Well, that's what they.
Are you in your book as a flop? I remember thinking there are lessons here for me as a writer. What are those lessons? I didn't want to learn the wrong lessons. We want to make sure
we don't learn the right lessons from pain, prostration, criticism or failure. This is much harder than it sounds.
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