2 short posts from Allison Carmen where she asks why it is so tough to be a positive thinker and discusses the stuff that really matters.
Episode 1022: Why Is It So Tough To Be A Positive Thinker AND The Stuff That Really Matters by Allison Carmen (Happiness)
Allison Carmen holds a B.A. in accounting, a J.D. of Law, and a Master’s of Law in taxation. After working for a large law firm in Manhattan, Allison founded her own law firm and built a successful practice focusing on real estate, corporate, mergers and acquisitions, and taxation. After 15 years of practicing law, Allison transitioned her practice into business consulting, business coaching and life coaching. Today, Allison’s clients range from owners of multi-million dollar companies to artists, actors, writers, and parents. She's also the host of the podcast: 10 Minutes to Less Suffering.
The original posts are located here:
http://www.allisoncarmen.com/2013/09/27/why-is-it-so-tough-to-be-a-positive-thinker/
http://www.allisoncarmen.com/2014/02/02/the-stuff-that-really-matters/
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And most of my life trying to be a positive thinker each morning and wake up and try?
put a positive spin on everything in front of me. However oftentimes before I,
got out the door. Something unexpected happened now be thrown off course,
It could have been as simple as Billy. My coffee, when I start to feel the day was not going my way still. I would take a deep breath and try to return to my positive thought.
But as a day went on, it became harder to hold on to this positive outlook. Sure good things. What happened to me each day, but also unexpected events, would happen
I perceived as bad or life now
working out as a start.
Working as an attorney at a large law. Firm life became more complicated, and so do I
drug with positive thinking. I was still try to start each day with positive thoughts, but it became more apparent that I can control the events around me,
if a partner of the law firm did not like my legal memorandum or the firm lost a longstanding client, I projected what each event might mean for my job in the future. I
worried that I might get fired or not yet arrays sure these were only possibilities, but these thoughts consumed me each day. My fear,
the unknown and what could happen to Morrow seem to have a more powerful effect over me than my positive thoughts. Ultimately, at the innermost days, I felt negative and fearful of what the future my brain. Nevertheless, as two years passed, I persevered in continued my journey of trying to be a positive thing her when I came across
Norman Vincent Appeals, the power positive thinking I was so re inspired there try even harder
be a committed positive thinker, I began to hold onto my positive thinking so tightly then, instead of battling between negative impositive thoughts, as I had before and now found, I could force away the negative
as with positive ones. My later learned, there was a problem with my new practice. I realised that we can't pushed down a negative thought completely
it stays inside us festers and grows. In fact, after a short, while of only permitting positive,
I had a horrible nightmare in which many people that I love died. I woke up petrified and when I
I'll sleep again. I had the same dream. I had never had
same dream twice in one night or dream of so much negativity a loss. To this day, I
these nightmare surfaced because
permitting my mind to be negative. I was suppressing my feelings and then the pressure, because
so great that my mind release a tremendous amount of negativity when it fell asleep and cannot conscious control. My thinking after decades of strongly with the pain and pressure of trying to
hate my perceptions. One day, I heard a simple towers story that introduce me
the idea of maybe
the very man I heard the story, all the experiences in my life immediately changed. I was struck with the realisation that every situation as multiple possible outcomes and within those outcomes is always the hope that whatever is happening, maybe it
He did something good, maybe circumstances will improve or maybe I'll find a way to accept a situation and still be ok for me is the perfect combination eye to see positive, but with maybe I could accept and dilute my negative thoughts
Once I accepted that life could unfold and infinite ways. I was no longer stuck in my negative projections of the future, a bee into
The continuous realisation that may be something else could happen other than the thing I feared most since embracing maybe
I am now a much more effective pauses thinker, negative thoughts, no longer hold sway over me, because I know they are just a limited view of all that is possible.
As I held this mindset of maybe in transition, my work to become a business and life coach. I saw
to see how many of us struggle with positive thinking. In fact, most of us start each new endeavour with Hope and up
positive outlook that we will be successful. We start businesses take new jobs,
save our money for a new home Mary and much more than that.
It throws a curveball in something happens that we didn't expect the economy could change. We could lose a good job. Our businesses profit might decrease dramatically
or trouble my bruin important relationship for many of us when we don't
the results that we had hoped for. We worry and get stress that things were.
Ever work out or we'll get even worse. We create native projections about what the future will bring, based on what happened in the past,
because of this, some of us give of honor dreams completely or we live with tremendous stress and worry that leads to serious em,
she'll pain and sometimes even physical illness, with the mindset of maybe we can.
Hold onto our goals and just find new ways to achieve them, we can stay positive, an open
We hold onto the realisation that we are not stock and that life can unfold in many ways we are not leaving things
the chance, but instead we are expanding our minds to embrace all that is possible in turn, maybe
It shows us more opportunities to find the life we are seeking. I hope, you're right.
To embrace maybe in your life, is just one simple word, but maybe they changes every day.
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women of Allison Carmen DOT come quote. A house is just a place to keep your stuff. While you go out and get more stuff. George Carlin
I recently came home from a challenging day and all I wanted to do was lie down my cosy, couch drink, some hot tea watch, some good television
then play a game on my ipod after bobbing down,
I thought about and realise that I really wanted to escape my thoughts.
Forget my day and let material things sues. My emotions, this authors, anything
wrong with that. But it got me thinking about how much I rely on my stuff to make me feel better.
The real danger and rely on our stuff or comfort is not the material items themselves, but our attachment to them a cue
Lenny material items can help us be more at ease with life and give us a feeling that everything is ok. We may also feel our stop provides a safety net just in case bad things happen.
Yet if we use our material items to make us feel better and make us feel safe, what will happen if we lose these items because of events such as the loss of a job, a stock market,
Crash or an act of Mother Nature, often this loss or even just a threat.
Of losing our material items leaves us feeling groundless.
Then consumed with fear and worry of what the future will break. Does
making wonder whether there are things that we can cultivate in our lives. That cannot be taken away if it came
Any material items doesn't keep us safe and strong. Then what does I think real strive comes from a place where we can access, hope and faith regardless of our circles,
as is maybe the simplicity of everyday living and loving, can be our true safety net.
I am not advocating getting rid of all your stuff, I'm getting rid of most of mine, but I am suggesting,
We spend some time considering shifting our relationship with our stuff
Maybe we need a lot less than we think. Maybe we can spend less,
time accumulating and taking care of our stuff and more.
And with the people we love. Maybe we can fill our daily thoughts less with matter.
A and more with gratitude and what we can do for a community and the world spending some.
I want the realisation that you can live without some of your staff may create a feeling of freedom and trigger the ability to cultivate inequality. Is that
their mother nature nor about economy can take away just maybe
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