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1448: Stop Creating Gratitude Lists and Do This Instead by Kristen Manieri with Gottman Institute on Gratefulness

2019-11-28 | 🔗

Kristen Manieri with The Gottman Institute on stop creating gratitude lists and do this instead.

Episode 1448: Stop Creating Gratitude Lists and Do This Instead by Kristen Manieri with Gottman Institute on Gratefulness

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is a holiday here in the. U S is Thanksgiving hobby of a happy and safe one of you in the states and listening in real time. I'm Superman before you listening and sharing the show. It always blows me away to hear how the podcast, impacting you and I'm sorry happy that, with your support, I been able to turn this into my full time job. So thank you for that and look into central nice ensures. Let's get right to it. Star optimizing your life Stop it ingratitude gratitude lists and do this. Instead, by Chris him, any area with Gottman Dark come in the many self him movement in positive psychology books. I've read over the years one common finding his appeared again and again true. Contentment in life comes from our ability to cultivate gratitude. At the advice of these author the screws and sages I've embarked on writing daily gratitude list, scrawled on no paths and in fancy gratitude journals of incurs, a sharing of gratitude, said dinner with my family used gratitude
absent reminders. It made him prompt Listen my head to emotionally transition from frustration to peace. It works, which is why I'm such a huge fan of gratitude, gratitude and I go way back last December, I had thought what, if I'll shore, changing my experience of gratitude by keeping it all to myself. Most into journals and limited to my husband in two kids. It was time to level up my gratitude practice to Amazon. I went ordering three hundred and sixty five thank you notes, arriving impacts of thirty six and forty eight in splash, with flowers and poker, dots and kaleidoscope of colors. Which Amory first on the near horizon, the plan was set out right. One taking note every day for the night Three hundred sixty five days with an aim to upgrade my sense of gratitude by the end of twenty eighteen. It worked the course of the past year of send. Thank you notes to colleagues, family man, friends of pen, my thanks to restaurant owners, service workers. Male delivers a cardiac
just and an airline pilot everyone notes of depression, asian to authors of books, I've loved. I think people for gifts invites the parties and acts of kindness of express thanks for new business, for making introductions infer wise advice of thanks my parents for their parenting. My friends for their friendship and my work team for their hard work a few months into this project. I share the experience with it. And two while delighted by the idea was perplexed. How do you know who to send a thank you know too each day he asked Miss SIMPLE. I explained I just mentally scan through the day before in fine one person I interacted with to send my thanks to surely when we look through the previous twenty four hours we can find one human being that touched our lives, maybe was a jerk to ruin, article, you loved or the plumber, who not only fixed your league but was punctual and courteous He was a mandatory grocery store. Who was glad especial order? Those crackers you love so much or the extra ever. Your child's teacher puts into a curricula
so our students are engaged and excited was finished instructor that makes her six MRS exercise not only tolerable but actually kind of fun. This project Tommy too What is that every single day we are touched by the people we interact with if we allow ourselves to be, we interact with dozens may be hundreds of people every week, sometimes virtually times invisibly, but there is a connection and an impact that can be acknowledged. We're not islands. Given this world with billions of other people, most of them just trying to do good and be good what a gift it is done, Someone thanks for their goodness of learn, some about the art of saying, thanks and here are a few take a ways number one. On a practical level, it helped to have a supply of staff. Amazon cards on hands, there is nothing stopping me from radio know each time the opportunity arose number to the act of writing. A thank you note is so
different from typing email or tapping in a text, its slower, more thoughtful and more heartfelt. It invites pause in reflection as the pen. Patiently weights of the paper until the right word, start to flow number three, making it a daily practice. Perhaps the last you do before you go to bed or the first. You do in the morning creese a ritual after three hundred the sixty five days. This habit is firmly empty. In my life, the number for no act is ever to small. All too deserve acknowledgement, in fact, no it is needed at all, so, my favorite notes to write were the ones I think someone for simply being in my life. I'm very aware that writing. Letters and notes is an old fashioned art belonging to a culture of civility and courtesy. That is slowly disappearing from our society. But imagine if thinking oats made a comeback. The impact would be Measurable. We live in an age when Retro is cool men vintages vote. I think we're poised welcome, backs
old school social Moors his time ever. Thank you note revival. I'm in are you You just listen to the post title to stop creating gratitude list and do this instead, in any area with gottman dot com. A real, quick thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast anger is the easiest way to make a pie cast they'll distributor podcast for you, so it can be heard everywhere spot. By apple, podcast, Google, podcast and many more. You can easily make money from your broadcast to with no minimum listener. Ship anger gives you everything you need in one place for free, which you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools like recording ETA, your podcast, so it sounds great download the anchor up or go to anchor dot fm to get started. They get a christian and common institute. This is an awesome suggestion was actually looking up.
Receive a thank you card. Just yesterday I went to my PO box and found a thank you note with a generous gift in it and made my day. So if you have some time and there's someone in your life, you can give one to try it out. You have to do three hundred and sixty five in a year, but even just a couple will make a difference, especially on a day like today, so that We would have happy unsafe thanksgiving. Thank you again for listening and sharing the show being here. Every day you support is changed my life for the better. It really means a lot of these more for the Friday show where optimal life awaits,
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