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1584: Can We Choose How We Feel? by Allison Carmen on How To Be More Positive & Optimistic in Tough Situations

2020-04-12 | 🔗

Allison Carmen shares if we can choose how we feel.

Episode 1584: Can We Choose How We Feel? by Allison Carmen on How To Be More Positive & Optimistic in Tough Situations

Allison Carmen holds a B.A. in accounting, a J.D. of Law, and a Master’s of Law in taxation. After working for a large law firm in Manhattan, Allison founded her own law firm and built a successful practice focusing on real estate, corporate, mergers and acquisitions, and taxation. After 15 years of practicing law, Allison transitioned her practice into business consulting, business coaching and life coaching. Today, Allison’s clients range from owners of multi-million dollar companies to artists, actors, writers, and parents. She's also the host of the podcast: 10 Minutes to Less Suffering.

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Two new optimizing, your life Can we choose how we feel by Allison Carmen of Allison Carmen dark? Come a few weeks ago my children were offer spring break and my husband and I decided to take the girls to Disney World for a few days. The first two days were mulatto fun. We also took a detour to you Russell studios to visit the Harry Potter attractions and just enjoyed our time together as a family. On the third day, my older daughter woke up nauseous, but I thought it would just pass so we headed to the amusement park by Two p m: we were running to the hotel rover. What turned out to be a stomach virus. My husband, headed by to the part with my younger daughter and there. I was in my hotel room Disneyworld with my older daughter feeling, just awful as I squeeze
stuff out the door onto our small balcony, overlooking the giraffes. We stated the animal kingdom, I get here several children laughing and have you a great time I felt my mood Sartor drop and had the following thoughts: I fear that those children get to enjoy Disneyworld and we dulled. I can't believe we spent all of this money, sit in this room, and this is the worst vacation ever as dilemma. of it further further into this mood. I started suffer greatly as I felt myself slipping. I actually asked myself out How do I really want to have this experience? With this mindset? I meant a lot of emotional pain. I take a deep breath and decided to accept my situation, be grateful for what I had and make them. asked of it. The shift, in my mind, said changed everything. Many of us have read articles impose about gratitude, acceptance and making the best of a situation. Boy
hard to actually do it. The reason it is sometimes difficult to shift our mindset is because we are afraid of the future and our minds cannot rest with the fear of what will be always term every one to the idea of maybe in these situations, but are also times one fear of the future is not the cause of I get every instead is stems from being disappointed that we are not getting what we want in the moment. Many of us have these types of negative feelings. Throughout the day we get stuck in traffic. Someone rejects us, we have to work more than we Spected, our children need help with their homeward, but we have something else. We want or need to do or the weather's. A cooperating life is not as planned, and we are angry and upset yet in these It we have a choice to shift our perspective For me, when I made the choice to see it differently, all the sun, I felt joy. How could I be joyous sitting in a small dark hotel room with an animal motif with my child feeling, sick and your stomach virus would pass
I want to give up another moment of life complaining that things were not working out as planned. We put on the top, vision and wash reruns of the fresh principle air castle and a few other shows that I cannot even remember, we talked and laughed and between moments of her not feeling well the next day my younger one woke up not feeling so good, and we did it all again. It was not my preference to be sitting in the hotel room, but my fill peaceful and content to be with them. They did rally back the following day and we returned amusement park. They wind a bit about Naga. We only went on a few rise, but We had some laughs and enjoyed the fireworks the day we were leaving. We had some time to spare because it was raining. I took a deep sigh of relief that everyone felt okay. We would be headed home in a few hours and then her baby, my phone, there was a tornado warning in our immediate area and we were directed to seek immediate shelter instead of thinking This is a lousy end to a difficult vacation. We to cover, in a nice restaurant
and ended up having a great lunch. So today, whatever you are experiencing, ask yourself is my mindset causing me emotional pain. Can I accept the situation and be grateful for what is in my life. Is there a way to make the best of it and choose Choi? Instead of negativity is not always easy, but often with some effort we can find the path to get the most out of each moment in life you just listen to the post titled. Can we choose how we feel by us in terms of ours and Carmen Dar come and they get a better help? I'm really happy dimension them, because it's such a great service, better help offers lying counselling and therapy with licence therapists from wherever you are in around your schedule. The counselor specializing in russian stress anxiety. These self esteem, anger, grief and so much more derby can help improve your life in men.
Different ways, we ve heard it here on this show a bunch of times better help makes his super convenient and that there are four our communication modes text chat phone. And video in available on desktop mobile web drawing an ILO S apps anything he shares confidential and is not a crisis line, this professional counselling and therapy with since their base, which is super important, but actually affordable, with financial aid available best of all the truly affordable option. Optimal. Living daily listeners get ten percent off your first month with discount code optimal. So when I get started today, go to better help, dot com, slash optimal civil, fill out a questionnaire to help them assessor needs and get mash with it. Elsewhere, you'll love, that's better help, dot com, slaughter, optimal and have them linked in this episode description and they get Alison. She has a podcast called ten minutes to less suffering. That's worth checking.
she's a great person. I sell to meet her members in, but my business partner, and I shouted with her on the phone for awhile and was a pleasure and while it definitely isn't easy to choose over negativity? All the time, especially, will were already deep into that mood where sometimes it even feel comfortable to be in that mood. You can change it with practice. If we really want to if you're feeling emotional pain tat, can be a trigger for you to change your mindset and it can help to ask those questions she mention like. Can I accept this and be grateful or is there a way to make the best of it, especially if it's out of your control than good to realise that, except it feel the pain of it as quickly as possible and try to make the best of it? again easier said than done by practice house and now is good time with the world how it is, but I'll leave it there for today. we're having a great Sunday if you're listening in real time and I'll see you tomorrow, we're optimal life, awaits
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