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1618: [Part 1] On Transforming the Judgmental Mind: Stories From 7 Days of Silence by Dr. Elana Miller of Zen Psychiatry

2020-05-16 | 🔗

Elana Miller of Zen Psychiatry shares her thoughts on transforming the judgmental mind. This is part 1 of 2.

Episode 1618: [Part 1] On Transforming the Judgmental Mind: Stories From 7 Days of Silence by Dr. Elana Miller of Zen Psychiatry

Elana Miller is a psychiatrist based out of Los Angeles, California. She loves to write, read, and make music. Elana received her B.A. in psychology at Harvard University before studying at the Keck School of Medicine of the University of Southern California, where she was a member of the Alpha Omega Alpha Honor Society. I completed my psychiatry residency training at the University of California, Los Angeles, where she was nominated as a UCLA Exceptional Physician.

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and today i have a bit of a longer posts or read the first after day in and finish the rest free to so what us get right to it and start optimizing your life on transforming the dodge mind stories from seven days of silence part one by doktor you miller of zen psychiatry dot com on the first evening of my recent seven days silent meditation retreat at a strange frame was in my house and had flooded as a walk through the rooms waited in several feet of water panicked to call my landlord l me i feel anxiety and feed
there is i rushed to dial her number miss typing in several times instead of picking up the phone though she had her husband answer he was unkind and dismissive and told me that his wife didn't want to talk to me i could feel her presence in the background and became more and more of set as she refused to get on the phone refused to help me refuse to even talk to me the next morning i woke up and still felt the weight of my anguish in the dream i wondered why that dream came to me when i did what i was trying to tell me in dreams other people often symbolise parts of our
elves in real life my landlord is a very sweet and non dismissive woman and so i felt that are present symbolise apart of myself that is dismissive and cruel to my own anguish in pain of the course of the week many powerful emotions and experiences bubble to the surface and i took advantage of the safety and simplicity of the retreat environment to stop ignoring them but first things first was a hard to be silent for seven days no may was easy manner was a very very cool experience the rules of the retreat were no talking and no eye contact because i can't i've can be a form of communication and the ideas that any communication pulled a person out of there in our world and takes away from the deepening of the meditative experience but did the silence feel like isolating absolutely not first the environment so safe and warm they could feel the mutual carrying income
passion emanating from each person even without talking to them i came to her tree with a few friends from my meditation clauses that you see allay and while i do not after them or look at them for the entire period we spent in silence i felt their care for me men know they felt my care for them when thomas my friend sitting in the dining hall at luncheon took the sea next or we do not speak a single word or even acknowledge each other's presence but by sitting there i let her know that she was in my thoughts another day she took the sea next to me a dinner and i felt her silent greeting we reach sign jobs as a way to practise marvel working and to give back to the community as a second shift dishwasher there were three of us each with supper responsibilities i scrub the dishes the guy to my left rents them and put them in the dishwasher and the other woman took them out of the dishwasher and put them away the guy next
maybe but the dishes in the dishwasher we barely spoke to each other more even made eye contact but i swear to you that we were friends on one occasion i thought we were wrapping up i had missed a bucket of dishes he gently tat me on the shoulder and pointed to the bucket reflexively gasped oh he laughed and i laughed and then we went on washing dishes another time he was led to the shift so i d get started without him we arrived i saw him presence palms together about me out of the corner of my eye i bowed back in all was immediately forgiven at the end of the retreat wants to silence was broken i found him and we started chatting mostly about how awesome we were a washing dishes don't feel like this was the first time we were meeting it felt like we were already friends of meditation retreat is not about finding peas but in sight i think one of the problems with the mindfulness craze hitting us these days is its failure to accurately represent what meditation does
sort meditating hoping to find relaxation and instead are shrug like a ton abreks bricks by the inside kennedy of their own minds in inner peace come with a regular meditation practice but it comes later not from forcing oneself into a calm state but from real he a deeper insight about the realities of the human experience so one can stop reacting unskilfully to the joys and sorrows intrinsic tore existence i came to the retreat hoping to relax and slow down and my dear but also learn important lessons about how the mine works and how i create suffering for myself it's easy to find peace in the middle of the meditation retreat with no responsibilities no phone calls though males and no demands right was challenging and more important is to find peace in regular everyday moments instead of clean to brief pleasures and resisting inevitable pains
pain is inevitable suffering is not the buddha taught that we are all as if struck through the heart by an arrow this arrow symbolizes the unavoidable pains we experienced the sheer fact then we are human however we can your second arrow as well in the mistake we made his thinking that by shoe the second arrow at ourselves or someone else we can remove the pain of the first have you read physical pain and clenched around it or had heartbreak and told yourself that you must not be good enough or felt criticise and hurt and lashed out at some one else one of the goals of meditation practice is to learn how to sit with a first arrow without shooting the second we learn how to sit with the unavoidable the of the human experience without adding suffering to the mix the first
and transforming the judgmental mind study at the specific topic of this particular retreat was how to transform judgmental states of might the teacher divine judgements as noticing plus react poverty the goal was to become aware of how our judgmental minds worked so we can use our ability to discern for wise and compassionate purposes as opposed you getting caught up in our narrative about how things should be well what gets measured gets managed peter drug or the quote to know the velocity of a particle we must measure admin to measure it we forced to affect it heisenberg uncertainty principle first we study the judgment in mind we watch it understand it measure it mindfully follows stories justice dear process of observing concrete insight into our patterns thereby dissolving the ignorance tat leads to habitual reactivity o the week we were instructed to become keenly aware of our jobs
let's both during meditation and throughout the day did we judge ourselves from meditating well enough to be george someone else for not moving through the fu line fast enough do we judge our knees were getting tired from someone sitting what do the judgments feel like in the body what sensations arose how did the judgments feel in the heart as reflected on recent situations where i had become critical or judgmental i noticed that my reactivity tended to stem from feelings are being threatened or unsafe in some way in seeking to protect myself from these difficult feelings i shot the second arrow into what else to be continued this isn't a part one of the post titles on transforming the judgmental mind stories from seven days of silence
by doktor ilona miller of sense i quietly dot com a real quick thanks to anchor for hosting this pod cast anchor is the easiest way to make upon cast they'll distribute your pod cast for you so can be heard everywhere spotify apple podcast google podcast and many more you can easily make money from your bike ass to with no minimum listener ship anger gives you everything you need in one place for free which it can use right from your phone or computer creation tools lighter recording eddie you're podcast so it sounds great download the anchor up or go to anchor dot fm to get started and they get a doctor you wanna i've done many many hours of meditation but never done a silent retreat i know is offered at some of the place of been too and everyone i know who has done it has said it was a worthwhile expire
dance but i never got around to it i've heard stories from the super emotional to not that much but in either case always interesting to hear about and definitely maybe want to try it chris writing a writer we narrate mostly on optimal finance daily he actually did it and i had a very emotional response that might be worth checking out if you're interested in a silent meditation retreat i narrated that article way back in episode nine hundred and thirty nine cuz i should do it for today thank you for being here listening every day including the weekends and i'll be back tomorrow to finish up this post or your optimal life awaits
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