Rachel Shanken of MindBodyWise encourages us of what to do when life doesn't go as planned.
Episode 1771: What to Do when Life Doesn't Go as you Planned by Rachel Shanken of Mind Body Wise on Gratitude
Rachel Shanken is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Yoga Instructor, and now a Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy Practitioner. Her philosophy is simple: what you seek is already within you. In the busy lives we lead, it's sometimes difficult to stop, listen and access the knowledge that resides deep inside of ourselves. Using a whole-body, client-centered approach, her passion is to: support you with listening to your own internal wisdom, assist you with connecting to what you really want and help to empower you in taking steps toward achieving your goals.
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What happens when your life is beyond your control, when life doesn't go as planned,
when your reality fall short of your fantasy? Maybe you always dreamed of up.
a job where you get to travel. The world need wonderful food me wonderful people into work that you feel
passionately about every day, or maybe you dreamed of the most wonder.
Partner, to share your life with men who loves you so deeply that he or she would take a bullet for you or more simply have breakfast brought to you in bed, maybe even vision, their fantastic sense of humor.
their charm, their intelligence, their dazzlingly good, looks to professional success
send their easy to get along with nature. That makes conflict almost impossible. Then reality happens. We find a great job but miss not quite as you imagined you get to travel.
but maybe not to exotic places and only allows you a small budget for meals. Maybe it's worth that you like some of the time, but fine, boring or unfulfilling other parts of the time.
Maybe you find a wonderful partner, but you don't walk off into the sunset with them. Happily, ever after
Maybe they lovingly support most of the time they show they care
are you very deeply, but
Some way they don't match up identically to the fantasy, they ve
read it in your mind over the course of your life
now here you are in a job you like, but don't love men in a relationship that works well, but isn't matching with a dream of near perfection that you always had. Would you do with this?
people feel a sense of frustration, loss, grief or even shame and embarrassment about the gap. It
in a fantasy? They created the reality that they have chosen. Rumour that worrying will not change.
how come they may not even realize that they are dissatisfied, because our fantasy and the reality are just for a fantasy is just that a fantasy, nothing matches up to a dream identically. Nothing is perfect. Nothing is pure wonderful jobs, always have some drugs work or a bossy. Don't like more an environment that is in like ideal real relationships have hiccups in bumps
and sometimes mountains to climb is he's, imperfections and challenges that help us to grow, even though they often aren't pleasant, learn to let things you cannot control go. It's important. Remember that crafting fantasy
This is a normal part of being human and serves as well. In many ways it's funny is a crime,
purity of your mind to experience something beyond your current scope of reality of Europe enjoy them.
We, then you know how much fun it can be to lose yourself in a world that is made up, however, sometimes a gap,
fantasy and reality in our own lives causes painful feelings to emerge here. Some tools for moving through this gap with
race and sometimes stumbling less than gracefully. It helps you use each tool in this order. Number one name, the fantasy, a fantasy
before all else. You need to know that you're, comparing a reality to a dream, you've conjured up. What's you name your fantasy, a fantasy? It helps to address your feelings of disconnect between was actually happening and what you had imagined,
number two lean into vulnerability,
Our creed, imaginary circumstances. Have you ever imagine
to winning the lottery. Of course, you have no shame in this. However,
they can feel vulnerable, uncomfortable or scary to recognise it
comparing a reality to a dream? If you try to push these feelings away,
pain just remains underneath and it eventually surfaces? How can an honour what you're feeling without judgment and criticism, number three grieve the loss of the dream,
Now they have named it a fantasy and experienced the vulnerability of having feelings about the differences of your fantasy in your real life is time aggrieved. The loss of the fantasy
The reality that doesn't match up with your imagine dream is a loss is the end of an event
that you ve, been on in your mind for some time your fantasy deserve respect for her
and comforted you when you didn't know what you're real circumstances were, turn out to be filled in a gap of uncertainty, engage
a beautiful girl for which to thrive, and now
Here you are too maybe
sadness, wistfulness nostalgia.
other feelings that arise as you grieve this Andy. It's important allow yourself to fully feel these feelings and number four
appreciate what you do have, instead of focusing on why you don't do the fun part. Sometimes we get so focused on the trees. We can see the beauty of the whole forest focus on what you can control, stop worrying about the little things despond. Eighty of life has trees on
different from your fantasy and maybe something quite wonderful in its own right after grieving
Also, what is it you get to celebrate the gains of something that you never could
conjured up in your imagination. You get to focus on some of the goods.
that has come along on your journey, the unpredictable learning and the gifts. What can be grateful for on this path? Even one is not how you expected it to be
it may seem that I'm saying you can't have it all, but am actually saying you can have it all and appreciate your life. So much
more. All may need to be redefined as a chance to be all that you are in imperfect circumstances, because this is reality. I have found that learning from the challenge is an all worthwhile.
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I have any expectations or desires whatsoever. It's to think about that from time to time and remind yourself that some things aren't in our control, in that it's ok, so nice reminder for Rachel for today in this weekend, have a great weakened. If your listening in real time and I'll catch you tomorrow, we're optimal life awaits
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