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1804: If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion by Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui of A Life In Progress

2020-11-18 | 🔗

Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui of A Life In Progress reflects on self-compassion.

Episode 1804: If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion by Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui of A Life In Progress

Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui's mission as a Joyful Living Educator is to help messy humans like herself quiet the noise of perfectionism, comparison and fear to show up fully to their imperfect and beautiful lives and/or businesses. Her message can be summed up in 3 sentences: You're imperfect; Life is messy; Show up anyway. Krista will help you figure out how. She has a new Seasonal Mindfulness Journal available here: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/52-mondays/

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this is optimal living daily episode eighteen o for if i could bottle of one gift for you on self compassion by christa riley dvd of a life in progress dossier and i'm just a mortgage who's been reading articles book excerpts even student essays to you every day including holiday for nearly five years covering personal development or self help a better life in a lot more songs with permission from the authors more websites just hit the subscriber or follow button in up to get new episode for free a real quick thanks to anchor for hosting for hosting this podcast is the easiest way to make make a podcast they'll distribute your podcast for you so it can be heard everywhere spotify apple podcast google podcast and many more you can easily make money from your podcast to to with no minimum listener ship anger gives you everything you need in one place for free but you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools to recording eddie you're podcast so it sounds great download the anchor
or go to anchor dot fm to get started you pronounce get right to it and start optimizing your life if i could bottle up one gift for you on self com action by christa o reilly daddy degree of a life in progress starts here the best way to ditch self doubt and walk in confidence is to practise self compassion self compassion is fundamental to living with purpose health and joy and for sustainable and meaningful growth self compassion is also it he tool and learning to quiet the noise of comparison perfectionism in fear let me tell you how according to chris enough associate professor in the university of taxes at ostend department of educational psychology increase of the self compassion scales widely used in research self compassion involves treating oneself with kindness and understand
when facing suffering self kindness seeing ones failures as part of the human condition rather than feeling isolated common humanity and having a balanced awareness of painful thoughts and emotions mine bonus sounds amazing right self compassion self esteem are not the same thing when comparative research self compassion predicted more stable feelings of self worth themselves to him and was less attached to specific outcomes this is what i mean when i say i hold things loosely or say open up to joyful possibility self compassion was also linked to less social comparison public self consciousness self rumination in anger talk about freedom we can absolutely be compassionate or others lacking in self compassion the research bears this out however i am convinced that a short fully to life including choosing to receive the fullness
gifts and beauty that life has to offer including the opportunities to strengthen grow into three even in the midst of challenges self compassion is a must self compassion leads to less self judgment in lower depressed symptoms increases resilience and a sense of capacity and because as a direct and immediate positive effect on our cycle physiological experience of stress our families activity our re variability in interleukin six response and also leads to improved health behaviors and overall physical health reduction in perceives trust means that people respond to their personal failures struggles in difficult circumstances with a kind of forgiving attitude i suspect is also tied to a more hopeful i'd food because self compassion also makes way for a growth mindset carol dweck a psychology professor at stanford
three teaches about growth mindset which is tied to neuro plasticity in the understanding that abilities and intelligence can be developed having a growth mindset boosts resilience positive emotions anna persons capacity bounced back quickly from struggle failure or loss self compassion and growth mindset are required for us to become the fullest healthiest versions of ourselves self movement i prefer becoming requires a realistic assessment of who and how we are of both our strengths and limitations we must get honest about hu we are where we are or stories and struggles and our gifting too first we need to see and tell the truth about who we are then we could take positive action to move closer to who and how we choose to be yet another benefit of practice self compassion and of a growth mindset is that it helps us live with courage we become less afraid of failure
we know that failures normal and were able to work towards meaningful goals without attaching are worthiness to the outcome we are less worried about judgment from sell for others in his opens the way for us to try experiment risk be honest do hard things and so on bernay brown professor at the university of houston and researcher on the topics of courage for mobility and shit speak to the ordinary courage a speaking from our hearts and living wholeheartedly she teaches at courage is a requirement for living our best lives because to do so requires great vulnerability and even risk we will get hurt we will face rejection or challenges and without self compassion we are unlikely to choose this path self compassion also allows us to see differently it helps to see ourselves as messy and complex rather than broken or in progress as opposed to bad or a failure you makes roofer joyful possibility and all
or something and serving all or nothing perspective self compassion is essential for worrying to embrace our imperfection or common humanity even having a sense of you more about it for making peace with the messengers of life and picking up joy anyway why does walking himself compassion matter to you for one resource demonstrated slightly lower self compassion and women compared to men but women reported higher compassion for others compared to men rate your level of self compassion from one to ten and take note of your response chicken periodically men note any shifts number two what are your immediate feelings and thoughts tat surface when reading about this topic nor is any sensations in your body right down the thoughts here a notice if you're feeling resistance or openness to the idea of offering yourself the gift of self compassion number three pull out a book in ten or head out for me entering walk as he spend time in reflection considerably
apples from your life where you are not being kind yourself for noise kind is he like thing about how life would feel differently if you committed to living with self compassion for why you think learning in practising self compassion and self kindness matters to you what are your motivations for growing healing becoming more in this area number five consider the roots of your current patterns of thought and behaviour was self compassion model to you what stories ro believing about yourself gazing given and or life experience they made you believe the training yourself kindly was wrong or selfish number six do you have role models in life which rose you to them without the character six about them you admire and or want to grow in yourself think about how living from a place of self compassion might help you move closer to the vision of who and how you want to be number seven
if there is one area of your life that you most want a change name it and write it down to acknowledge it then as we move through the moth throughout our apply the information were learning to that specific issue or area of your life may thus be a year of gentle grow letting go of what no longer serves in deepening your roots of self awareness and self compassion you just listen to the both titled if i could bottle up one gift for you on self command by crystal riley dvd of a life in progress thoughts here and now as a list of the show you already know that life can be stressful even under normal circumstances men twenty twenty is challenged even the most difficult times of life you need stress relief that goes beyond quick fixes that's heads base at
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lee today they get a christa i love those steps at the end i brakemen coming by her sight a life in progress the cia in visiting this article is actually go through each one instead of just listen i think there's also learn there by always finally to these articles in this episode description either in your podcast up or at old podcast outcome i try to make it as easy as possible for you to visit the article and authors on your own time if he heard something and you want to revisit it these is one of those posts i could be super helpful and that's all doing the optimal living daily work book we took posts and then turn them into problems beautiful out on your own we're so excited that's already here come check it out at old podcast dot com the price is lower for pre orders and will be shipping soon but that thank you for listening and being here at four take me to the show have a great rest of your day i'll be back tomorrow as usual we're off to my life away
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