This is optimal, living daily episode, one thousand eight hundred and seventy four, what twenty twenty Tommy by Kat Medina of Kat Medina CALM and I'm just a mall. If the guy who's been reading articles book excerpts student essays, many thing I could find to you everyday, including holidays for over five years, covering personal development or self help how to live a better life in a lot more. So I was with permission from the authors or websites just hit the subscribe, or follow button in your podcast app to get new episodes for free. A real, quick things to anchor for hosting this podcast anchor is the easiest way to make a podcast. They'll distribute your podcast for you, so it can be heard everywhere: Spotify Apple, podcast, Google, podcast and many more. You can easily make money from your podcast to with no minimum listenership anger gives you everything you need in one place for free. Would you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools? Allow you to record and edit your podcast

so it sounds great download the anchor up or go to anchor dot fm to get started now, get right. You! Today's post answered optimizing your life why twenty twenty Tommy by coming Vienna of CAP Medina darker. Every year in late December, I perform a ritual of sorts sought. The time where I get naked and sacrifice a goat during a full moon stay, the less entertaining than that. I make a nice hot cup of coffee put on some good music hello, my journal and then spend about an hour or two reflecting on the past year. Our views a goal, but I said the previous January: the people have met the gifts, the challenges The changes in who I've become by scheduling, uninterrupted I am to review the year. I create space for insights to flow that otherwise remained hidden behind daily distractions, I'm able to

awareness to any progress, I've made or regressions in growth or mindset here was an interesting one for sure toy read the whole world by that and gave it a firm twist for good measure. It took us to our core and tested our limits to me as a reality check like we were playing professional hockey and getting slam through the glass partition of realisation for how little control we actually have over our lives. This leads to one of the first lessons of the year number one. The old things. We actually have control over our attitude and effort. put in another way. All we can actually control is the meaning we give someday and are we action to a situation, most illustrious happiness through external factors, everything needs to go the way we wanted to, or at least not the way we don't want to do in order for our call the little heart to feel the urge to smile for most of us achieve or types, we may have convinced ourselves that, by strategically plan

in taking action. We have a say over what we experience when a real they all we actually have, is influence, even if we plan something perfectly still in innumerable amount of things that will force us to tweak our plan. If our happiness is reliant, everything going our way, then I'll be impossible to be consistently happy. So what is the solution practising the art of debt? judgment, releasing your emotional reaction from the external factors choosing to accept the moment as it is. and then recognising that you can't change what has already taken place. The beauty is that you can change the past just by shifting your mindset a tiny bit, choosing to see the empowering meaning in a situation instead of the cry baby. Victim version of the story will give you clearly needed to see that it is a gift and then decide what you need to do about it. Is a moment calling on you to grow or learn is calling on,

you d find a good humour. When looking back, I found that every problem I've ever experienced has added, tremendous lesson hidden behind the mask of total in us. If I ignored that lesson in just saw it as a problem, you later repeat itself in some other form amplifying in intensity and disruptive ness, so that I would have to pay attention to it and grow number. Two separation, equal suffering. This one can be attributed to Tony Robins a fan girl of his in this war of wisdom. As impact in me over and over again, in the sense that I always forget about it, suffer and then I am reminded of the impact of connection when we separate cells from others and just focus on the pain we are experiencing? It has to make us her even more We get caught up in the mind and looped be rendition, the reality until we feel calm Billy alone and are suffering this past year I had two miscarriages after school.

Dealing with infertility for a couple of years. The extreme joy followed by such crushing disappointment felt like someone hawks smashed, my uterus dragging my heart down with it. I did something out character, when I found out there wasn't a heartbeat I immediately sent an email to a handful of friends and family who had been aware of my unsuccessful pregnancy journey to date. telling them the news and how devastated I fell. I reached out when the pain was so vulnerable raw and exposed. Typically, if I experienced some sort of extreme hurt suffer in silence, for we before opening up to anyone about it. Giving myself time new come to terms on my own, so that I didn't have to show people. I was weak, a how I do myself and I was consumed by sadness. The outpouring of love, honesty and support. I received took my breath away and I felt like I was already started

to hear what we separate ourselves and cut off connection with others. It harms us and intensifies the pain. We are feeling this healing can She can also be achieved when we focus on helping someone else when we are in pain after the miscarriages I went on a random, active kindness, binge I wouldn't monotonously by people coffee pick up a letter sent friend a book. I thought they like or donate causes. I cared about by shifting my focus outside of myself. Problems started to dissolve made me feel less alone and like ours, adding value through kindness number three perform honest reality: checks on the timeline of goals and dreams For almost ten years, my husband and I dreamed of moving to one of our favorite places on Earth Lake Tahoe, California. It fell far often unobtainable at times. In January of twenty eighteen, we decided to create a timeline pushing us too, to or get off the pot by January of twenty twenty three they give us

five years to make our dream a reality. This past year, amidst the pandemic, man first miscarriage, we honestly assessed what we wanted to do with our lives moving to talk was still high on our list, which led to the question. What are we waiting for me? Something really wanted. So why are we waiting another couple of years before this random deadline came to an end when we re he looked at it. We saw that fear of big change was the corporate and that, if we prioritized moving sooner, we could pull it off so we got a real estate agent and start looking within the first day of touring houses. We made an offer on a place that felt more like home than any of the other thirty four houses. I've lived in my life, I'm an unofficial, expert, mover and no mad at heart. When we take a thoughtful look at all that we want to do be, having contribute before we die, we can adopt a strategic view of when we wanted.

oftentimes, we launched a big dreams into five or ten years goals, without considering a plan to get there or questioning why we chose that obscure timeline, something you really want pause and ask how you would off within one year. If you had to visit possible, maybe where's keeping you, action in giving it one hundred percent of your focus fear money time if he had a gun to your head one's head, could you pull it off? Probably, if anything, you do everything in your power to get it done, and I can take you much farther than you think by taking the time to have an honor. conversation with my husband about our priorities and goals. We ended up accomplishing, allow time dream in a matter of months. Now every day that we wake up in our new home. We rise from our bed was immense gratitude.

Making a dream a reality is completely changed our lives. Twenty twenty was a tough one, but is also absolutely beautiful. It may take well for you to be able to see the gifts and lessons our hidden beneath all the challenges. But I promise that, if you actively look for them, you will find them When you do, you will start a notice them everywhere and that active noticing will completely transform your life pushing you a happy new year and a joyful twenty twenty one you just listen to the poles titled, what twenty twenty Tommy by Canada, China of CAP machine,

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one situation in countless ways. I think this point may not be driven home enough altogether. So please try to remember that while doesn't mean putting on a fake smile in the midst of terrible experiences were cat mentioned detachment. can really be frank. This has also taught in meditation, so that's another resource. You can try as usual. Let me know what works for you. They give a list I am being here and for subscribing to the show, a greater Radio me back tomorrow where optimal life awaits,