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it's crazy around the holidays or to make the super short for you. Ll get right to the post. Is our optimizing? Your life what do about the world suffering part one by David chain of rapidly the dark com. In all the emails I receive from readers. Perhaps the most common theme is a question in this vein: how can a person be at peace with the world when there's, much suffering going on. I don't think need to start rolling specifics here. Virtually every story. Every newspaper is a tiny nominal record of horrendous offering for someone somewhere crimes, deaths, famines, wars, fires, floods, How we live with so much suffering going on? How can I do so much joy, bagel, with a clear conscience. While so many people are enduring unspeakable suffering. I never really had a satisfying answer for that question, most of my life, and so my the strategy, was distraction it's a something more immediate, more consuming and those thoughts go away, but it never

Billy sat right with me until I began to question the usefulness of those thoughts, The key lies and understand the difference between the two often misunderstood responses to suffering, sympathy and Empathy are often used interchangeably and though there Definitely not the same thing I came You say my definitions are the right ones: I think of you read all you understand. Why is so important to make a distinction both orally It's a feeling, the suffering of others, the more common, action is sympathy which is essentially feeling bad. Because someone else feels bad. It doesn't require understanding of the nature of the other person suffering only amount acknowledgement that they are suffering when you, back to the suffering of another with sympathy. It means your suffering, over their suffering. However, as we suffer, we become less conscious. Many state of suffering wisdom disappears, reactivity takes over and he began to feel helpless. Empathy, more subtle, it is not a reaction, but rather passing to be aware of the suffering of another in sympathy.

We can be aware that another person is suffering though we are, in preoccupy with emotions and thoughts about the suffering, picking impossible keenly aware of it to cultivate. Em He requires a your main receptive and sable able to listen without judgment. To stay aware without getting indignant. Above all, the required is that you do not make their suffering yours parallel suffering sympathetic reactions to suffering are actually creating more of it becoming fear yes towards a supposed perpetrator of the suffering, for example under Maya possibility of empathy with the sufferer as soon as you notice her slipping into revenge fantasies or wishes for better days you creating your own suffering. Man are liable to cause more suffering to those around you the why the response to the suffering of others is to cultivate a keen awareness of their suffering in the moment turned towards it not away. This is the opposite of the initial impulse for most of us, which is usually anger, grief

Lifting the reality of somebody else is suffering can be almost unbearable, particularly The sufferer is someone close to you or the sufferers defenceless, such as in the cases of children, the poor or mistreated animals in particular pairs. The powerful urged to try to bear the suffering of their children as if by some in parallel. They could spare their child the burden. It often even feel just plain wrong, not to suffer when someone else's suffering, and sometimes we backstory. You increase suffering in ourselves as a response to feeling guilty about someone else's plight, I remember more than one instance as a kid when I accidentally heard somebody in a schoolyard soccer collision, I was felt here also get up limping too. Even if our fine, I guess, oh see more attractive to be in a situation where we were both victims to just up on her enough to watch some kid crime, because a me was so awful. I find myself acting, some plight of my own. Just I didn't feel so careless, even

donations where we aren't the cause is easier to bear the suffering of some one else. When we suffer to that way, we feel we can be sponsible for it. We can do something about it, but we ve. Track of their suffering, because we're really attending to our own too simple be present and aware of the suffering or another person without deflecting it with your own eggs is remarkably scare proposition even witnessing minor suffering like watching someone crash and burn in oral presentation can easy Their bodies and faces trench, it can be awful. We have a strong impulses suffer over the suffering of others, so many other human impulses, it can make trade breaks out of our behaviour and state of mind. If we are not aware of it, we do it out of self defence by some. Bring sympathetically by distracting ourselves with blamed for the apparent perpetrators by training the notion of value to cure cancer and animal cruelty, get drugs off the streets achieve world peace, feed, the starving children. We can momentum, to defend ourselves from facing a universal truths about reality. That line

Beings do suffer and we can't always fix it, and I say that nothing, we can do about disease or poverty, but here oh urges. We feel in the presence of suffering serve only to die. Writers, from accepting the fact that it is happening right now, smarter, more helpful action can be taken when you not running from the reality of suffering, as always your I, with rage or weak with despair. Your closed, suffering of others. Suffering alongside another does no good, though it is usually are primary impulse. When you collapse into a Active state, where you can, I get pass your own suffering. You cannot help the sufferer Kathy, which really is no more than an aware unconditional acceptance of the suffering of living being takes practice. The sympathy. Impulse and all of its offshoot, emotions, rage. Denial despair is so strong you must be aware of it or risk losing awareness of the suffering itself. You

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