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356: The One Trait to Look For in a Partner by Mark Manson

2016-12-01 | 🔗

Mark Manson was a full-time professional dating coach for men from 2008 until 2011. In 2011, sick of the industry, he wrote his first book, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and changed the name and focus of his business to address broader self-development topics for men. The book took off, selling tens of thousands of copies. As he branched out into deeper issues of masculinity, self-worth, and the changing cultural landscape, the site grew. By 2013, he had begun writing about larger cultural issues — gender relations, happiness, ambition, life purpose, and cultural perspectives he had gathered while living in various countries around the world. Despite the fact that the business was still directed at men, thousands of women began reading and asking for advice as well. That same year, he made the leap to his own site and domain, broadening the demographics of his audience. The site exploded, garnering millions of views each month.

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august on personal development and minimalism relate content mostly but technically anything that i think will optimize your life today's reed is about relationships and from mark manson who used to be a dating coach a radical that goes along with this one in tuesdays episode that upso three fifty four so if you like this content might like that episode to and without you he has to say about relationships as we optimize your life the one traitor before a partner by mark manson of mark man's had done that some people my views towards romantic relationships are little extreme sometimes when i get it often use extreme examples to illustrate my point when it comes to things like values and boundaries a lot of people come suggesting that you only seek perfection in your love life we just those in unrealistic expectations which then results and disappointment because no one is perfect while of course everyone has false is
find someone without some emotional baggage or insecurities the real question is how do we deal with it first to articles of this series i pointed out how to notice emotionally manipulated behaviour and how to avoid women who display it these were women who had problems and baggage and use them as a weapon with the men they day i want to talk about what traits are actively look foreign relations your partner when deciding to date or commit them baggage and insecurity and all spoiler you look for people who manage their insecurities well learning the hard way my four handful of significant relationships were mire with a lot of manipulation and victim such rescuer dynamics these relations for a great learning experiences but they also cause me a great deal of pain that i had to eventually learn from wasn't until i managed to find myself in relationships with some emotionally healthy women who were able to manage their flaws well that i really learned what to look for when dating someone and
discovered in this time that there was one trade in a woman that i absolutely must have to be an relationship with her now something that i would never compromise on again and i haven't some of us are unwilling to compromise on superficial trays looks intelligence education etc those are important but if there's one tree that i've you should never compromise on its this the ability the sea one's own flaws and be accountable for them because the fact is problems are inevitable every released she run into fights and each person will run up against their emotional baggage at various times how long relationship lass and how will it goes comes down to both people being willing and able to recognize the snags in themselves and communicate them openly think of your love interest and ask yourself if i gave him or her honest constructive criticism about how i think here she could be better how are they react were they throw huge fit cause drama blame you and criticise you back claim you don't love them storm
i am making chase after them or were they do your perspective and even affair it's a little or if its uncomfortable you if there was a low but of an emotional outburst at first with events we consider it and be willing to talk about it without blaming her shaming without causing on us very drama without trying to make you jealous or angry now they're not dating material but here's a million the question to that same love interest and now imagine that they gave you constructive criticism and point out what they believe to be your biggest flaws and blind spots how would you react would you brush off would he placed the blame on them or call them names would you logically try argue your way out of it would you angry or insecure chances are you would the other person would to most people do and that's why they end updating each other having been intimate conversations with someone when you're able to openly talk about one another's flaws without resorting to blaming were shaming is possibly a hard thing to do in any relationship very few people are capable of it too
they were i sit down my girlfriend or my father or one of my best friends and have one of these conversations i feel my chest pain my stomach turn in a knot my arm sweat he's not please but it's absolutely mandatory for a healthy a long term relationship man only way you find this in a person is by approaching the entire relationship from the moment he first meet them with honesty and integrity expressing your emotions and sexuality without blame or shame and degenerating into bad habits are playing games are storing up drama suppressing or over expressing our emotions will attract someone who also suppresses or over expresses their emotions expressing she's in a healthy manner bush like someone who also expresses their emotions in healthy manner making a person like this doesn't exist she's a unicorn but you'd be surprised your emotional integrity naturally selves like some integrity of the people you meet and date and when you fix yourself as if by some magical she code
the people you meet andy become more and more functional themselves and the us a and anxiety of dating dissolves and become simple and clear the process ceases to be a long and analytical one but a short and pleasant one she talks her head when she smiles the way you're eyes light up a little bit more when you talk to him your worries bill dissolve and rigour what happens whether your together four minutes a month or a lifetime all there is is acceptance you listen to the post title the one trait to look for a partner by mark massive mark manson dot net and i think i mentioned this on his day but if you like this kind of content pulse of our relationships and dating let me know the best way to direct me to reply to an email that i send you when you're part of my weekly newsletter begin also to me from the contact page at old podcast our calm ass if her today we back tomorrow with have no idea the stated for something good will
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