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on four March Manson. He narrated his own content for us exactly seven days ago for the special week of the five hundred episode, so you're welcome to check that out. If you want to hear his voice, does episode five or five The commission is quite a while ago. See might not have heard it. I'm trying to get a good feel for the demographics of the show, help shape the content. I you here, it's really short like five or six, really easy questions. If you enter ye, but just her unpicking random people from there to give books too, to take their shore survey. Just gotta old, podcast, dot com, slash, sir they will give you a reminder, the end of the show. So for now, let's get right to today's post as we optimize your life. Twenty paradox is that are true by Martin and sin of Mark Manson done that some of the most Orange truce in life are contradictory on the surface. They seem like impossibilities. Yet experience proves to be obvious over and over again it isn't until you,

Tibet deeper beneath the surface, contradictions tat. The real grains of wisdom emerge here- are twenty paradoxes. I've come across, which are, paradoxically still true number one, the more you hate a trade and someone else, the more likely avoiding it in yourself, crawl, young believe that characteristic in others that bother us our reflections of the parts of ourselves that we deny Freud referred to it as projection. Most people copying for example, the woman whose insecure about her ways will call everyone else. Fat, the man whose thinking about his money will criticise others for theirs number. Two people who can't trust can't be trusted p. Or a chronically insecure in relationships are more. They d sabotage so called the goodwill hunting syndrome. But one way people like themselves from getting hurt is by hurting others. First number, three, the more he tried to impress people the less impressed he'll be nobody likes, try hard number, four

The more you fail, the more likely you are to succeed. Inspirational, famous person quote here. He fully heard many of them. Edison tried over ten thousand prototype before getting labelled right. Michael Jordan got cut from his high school team. Success comes from improvement in improvement, comes from failure, there's no short cut around it number five, the more something scares you The more you should probably do it, with the exception of genuinely life, threatening or physically harmful activities are fighter flight response kicks in when we're confront, with past traumas or actual the self we dream of being, for instance, speaking, to try to person cold calling someone to get a new job public speaking starting a business saying something controversial, being painfully honest with somebody, etc, etc. These are all things that make you scared and it make you scared, because there are things that should be done. Number six, the more afraid you are of death. The less you'll be

to enjoy life or as one my favorite quotes, puts it like, shrinks and expands in proportion to one's courage. Number seven the more you learn the more you realize how little you know, the old Socrates, adage. Every time you get a greater understanding, a trees, even more questions than answers. Number eight ass he care about others, the less you care about yourself, I know this may go against every perception you ve ever had of a self serving full, but people treat people way they treat themselves, it mean the apparent on the outside, but people who are cruel, the people around them or cruel to themselves number nine, the more connected we yet the more isolated. We feel by being more constant communication than ever, research finds an increasing loneliness and depression in the developed world over the past few decades, number ten, the more you're afraid to fail. The more

likely. You are to fail, see self fulfilling prophecy number eleven, the harder you push for something the harder will feel to achieve what we expect something to me difficult. We often unconsciously make it more difficult, for instance, for years as I assume starting a conversation with a stranger, was something those highly abnormal and therefore difficult as a I spent a lot of time. Strategizing in studying ways relate to people. I didn't know little did I realize all I had to do was a high and then ask a simple question. Now, ninety percent of the way there, but because it felt horror, I proceeded to make it hard for myself number twelve. The more available. Something is the less he will want it himself on scarcity bias we unconscious I assume things that are scarce, are valuable and things that are abundant are not. This is not the case. Number thirteen the best way to meet someone else is to not need to be with someone else, the defining theme,

my book on dating was non neediness and how that he's out in our relationships. The fact remains that the best way to find it, relationship committed or otherwise, is by not needing a relationship to be happy and investing more in yourself number. Fourteen, the more honest: you are about your falls. The more people will think you're perfect, using thing above owner ability is a more comfortable. You are about not being thy great, the more people, I think you are never fifteen. The more you try to keep someone close the further away push them till the argument. Against jealousy and relationships once actions or feelings become obligate since they lose all meaning. If your girlfriend feels objects it is spent her weakens with you. Then the time you spend together has become meaningless number. Sixteen, the but argue with someone, the less likely you are to convince them of your perspective. The reason for this is that most org hence our emotional nature. They come from someone's values or

self perceptions being violated. Logic is all use the validate those pre beliefs and values it rarely about the objective or logical truth as much it is repairing people's worldviews for any real d, it is surely exist. Both parties must be met. An honest concession to put their egos aside and only deal the data. This is rare, as anyone who spent time on an internet forum could tell you number seventeen the more choices you have, the less satisfy you are with each one. The old paradox: choice. Research shows that, when were presented with more options, we become less fi with any particular one. We go with the theory that when we have so many options, we have greater opportunity cost to selecting each particular. One therefore, were less happy with our decision number. Eighty the more convinced someone is that their right to less they probably know, there's a direct corps,

play between how open a person is to differing perspectives and how much that person actually knows about any given subject or, as a philosopher, Bertrand Russell once said. The trouble with the world is that, stupid architecture and the intelligent are full of doubt number nineteen, the only certainty is that nothing is ever certain This realization almost made my head explode when I was seventeen in number, twenty, the only constant his change one of those little banal stamens that feels really profound but doesn't actually mean anything but is still true, you just listen, the post titled. Twenty paradoxes that our true by Mark Manson of Mark Man's and Annette, and a quick reminder to come by old, podcast start com, slash survey to be an bonus raffles. I'm picking random people from their who helped me out and take this demographic survey. It won't be attached to your personal info. This is just to get a better feel for whose listening,

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