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531: Diversify Your Identity - Part 2 by Mark Manson

2017-05-25 | 🔗

Mark Manson was a full-time professional dating coach for men from 2008 until 2011. Sick of the industry, he wrote his first book, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and changed the name and focus of his business to address broader self-development topics for men. The book took off, selling tens of thousands of copies. As he branched out into deeper issues of masculinity, self-worth, and the changing cultural landscape, the site grew. By 2013, he had begun writing about larger cultural issues — gender relations, happiness, ambition, life purpose, and cultural perspectives he had gathered while living in various countries around the world. Despite the fact that the business was still directed at men, thousands of women began reading and asking for advice as well. That same year, he made the leap to his own site and domain, broadening the demographics of his audience. The site exploded, garnering millions of views each month.

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this remark manson but it's a continuation from yesterday's of your new here a deadly recommendation yesterday's episode first does episode five hundred and thirty otherwise this will make a lot of sense so thou yet right apart to continue optimizing your life diversify your identity part two by mark manson of manson dot net what is identity continued most of us naturally gravitate towards certain aspects of our identity merely through growing up and having attention or praise lavished on us for particular reasons maybe with us our kid or the good looking quarterback or the popular musician or whatever the validation receive growing up largely determines how we tuesday value ourselves in adult life some of us experienced emotional traumas early on and therefore many of us get fixated on certain aspects where identity more than others social pressure can also force us into overnight
a fine with certain aspects of our identity or send rounds or other areas of our lives for instance the movie oh is a true story about drug smugglers georgiana younger open a poor fail with a father who had trouble paying the bills as a result young of identifying disproportionately with earning money and being rich and doing it in whatever way he could once it be smuggling drugs the social pressure of those around him the drug cartels and lifestyle he lived continue to reinforce his choice see validation from money and wealth if you haven't seen the movie is fairly obvious that eventually his life unravelled along with all the relationships matter to him in my own life i over identify with my life in the validation i receive from women this lead to me becoming depend i still living on a couch with no job later on when i was building my business and often working fourteen sixteen our days simply to make a rent payment a simple refund request or two to three days is no new sales could semi spiralling into a depression both of these
apples from my life were times whereas investing much of completely until one area women in business and forsake other important areas of my life and my identity in the case of the man and robs and seminar he lives entire life that reinforces identity as a man who could make money he worked a hunter our weeks for decades he mean millions are one who knew him knew him as a man who could make money and did if they knew him alight him because he can make money does cause a review men lack of diversity as life eventually warped has perception in himself away being a father a husband a friend a role model and instead of walking bank account this all that came to matter to him and his identity he and nothing else going for him because he never invested in any other aspects of his relationships and when the money went so did is of worth along with it what do you care about one could take the merely being a well balanced individual the problem is
what can be well balanced but still have a diverse identity they can participate out of different activities but still derived the majority of their validation and self worth from one source for it let's say you're a well balanced individual with a successful law career a spouse some cool hobbes and you enjoy reading in your spare time but a reality or career dominates our identity you worked so i still have little with which to a later spiles other than work your hobbes online i'll be coworkers your reading released her career you have no diversity lobby blind on finance or like this their friends other coworkers the they read and movies a watch relate to their job their social exclusion hence our work and networking functions the they gone with people they me doing work related things there's no diversification you know where their receiving their validation and therefore their emotional billion self esteem is at risk if you invest all of europe kennedy in one basket then you put your son
esteem and emotional well being at risk american football play in your say i'll recently committed suicide a few years after retiring allow discussion has taken place at our athletes are they can regain their lost identity once they retire one can't imagine what they must feel began their entire lives his childhood being recognised for being re at a single activity and then was they hid their forties it's all taken away now is not the only casualty there's a heartbreaking article about hall of fame for butler william refrigerator perry and his descent into depression and alcohol i'm after retirement or an excellent article i'm sorry religions bailey and maradona and their inability to let go of their past or how about one on michael jordan is continued bitterness and insecurity after retirement three years ago the thought of my business going under terrified me i sit up in time need to worry about of a new web page would make me money or not when it tat will do sleep again trying to figure out why
ironically now that i'm successful and business might any isn't as invested in it and if it failed to morrow don't worry i'll be as devastating now as i would have been three years ago why because i've diverse i had my identity i've been around the world speak multiple languages have a wide array of friends of varying lifestyles a good musician successful writer if my business crashed surely saw can be stressful but imagine emotionally i would hold out much better what do you care about i mean what do you really care about invest herself in a wide range of areas if you like music started telling answers or learn in instrument don't just travels a vacation invest in learning about the cultures learn a new language may time for old friends pick of new hobbes get competitive in something expand yourself beyond your work and your relationships glover no other reason than to be with your friends learn how to dance take some time off work a meditation retreat
and don't do something else but care about it invests yourself in it lest he become like our fight penis grew an attorney robin seminar his chances are the banana psychology is not will be around to save you you just as in a part two of the post an old diversify your identity by mark manson of mark man's and on that now skin close to the end of the month just a week away and i give away to a random person on my weekly newsletter on the first of every month does he get free spreadsheet tools from me a lifetime closer more if you won't be part of that come by old podcast dot com enjoying a weekly newsletter like he does any in short a hobby of a wonderful thursday if you're listening in real time and i'll catch you in the future they show tomorrow where
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