This is optimal. Living daily episode, six hundred and thirteen, overcoming fear of public speaking by Steve Loveliness if I ve, no doubt com and I'm just a moloch has ago an old friend, habitues day, welcome, oh hell D, which stands for optimal living daily. The part guess where an area blogs for do every single day, including all days before we get to today's post. Thank you Augusto for helping to keep this podcast alive. Payroll and benefits are hard, especially for your small business. Now we're gusto comes in. You no longer have to be a big company to get easy to use payroll with great technology service and benefits to help support. The show gusto is offering our listeners an exclusive limited time deal. If you sign up today. You get three months free once he Riah First Payroll, just gotta gusto dot com, slush oil d until espouses another one of those I picked for little bit itself

reasons, but I think your benefit from two since the fear of public speaking last, I heard was the most common fear, even over death. So let's get right to it and start optimizing your life overcoming fear of public speaking by thief arena Lena Steep. Have we no doubt one way to overcome fear public speaking is to be afraid and speak anyway. As soon as it seems, is possibly the most reliable way to gain. Confidence, in speaking, be afraid, be nervous, be hesitant, but do it anyway. You will be very good at it the first few times, but don't expect to be simply make it a goal to do it and finish what you ve done a few times you realize it hasn't killed. You you'll be less afraid to do at the next time and if you keep doing it eventually where to get good at it and may even learn to enjoy it. I think well, reasoned people fear public speaking is that they expect too much of themselves as being afraid

the flying a plane when you've had no instruction. Of course, you're going to fail, is a pilot calls you up to the cockpit and says land this plane. It's a safe bet, you'll crash. If you try, but at least when you fail a public speaking, it is only fatal failures. Actually one of the best ways to learn. It is the same way we the walk and talk when we're toddlers we stumble and stutter until we get a right, just as you would expect a white belt in karate to be able to break a brick. You also wouldn't expect a first time public speaker to be as polished as a Oh, but sadly, people demand such a level performance of themselves expecting that if there are going to speak publicly did better be outstanding, and since this is going to happen, it generates fear but the fear largely those away. If you set realistic expectations, men had up to the lectern expecting a stink, your first few times Remo

seen from movie the matrix where NEO tries to do a super jump between two skyscrapers and fall to the ground. Every one follows the first time the same goes with public speaking. He going to stink your first time, over it. Unfortunately, in the real world can be hard to find opportunities to speak where you are expected to be good. People assume She volunteered to speak. You must be good. But it's reasonable for people to demand that speakers be good. Since most people don't want to listen to a poor speaker sporting. I think the best solution to conjure conundrum is to join toast masters international. The nice thing about toes masters is it. The organization is designed to make it as easy as possible to learn public speaking. You can attend a few meetings as a guest for free to see what is like without pressure just show up and watch

One understands was light to be new to speaking, and they don't expect you to be good its low pressure with plenty of encouragement before I join those masters. Last year, I thought the organization was were people who were really good at speaking, the brochures make it look like a bunch of people doing formal presentations that isn't the reality I discovered some clubs are mostly, loner, fortys and fifties and treat their meetings fairly formally, but other clubs are people nor twenties and Thirtys who hold very informal meetings. Every club is unique. Most speeches, I've seen our personal, not businesslike, people, often speeches recalling vacation stories or events from childhood. Everyone as flaws, some people that have been until masters for more than a decade still struggle with arms in OZ during their. Each as everyone is at a different skill level. But no one is perfect, and most importantly, everyone seems to have a healthy recollection of what it is like the first time to the best way to get a sense,

but those matters is really like it to attend a meeting as a guest. You gave it try out more than one club. I've been a five different club so far and if you decide to join membership is cheap. The deuce are going up soon, not by much truly pay only five dollars per month. Plus you get a monthly magazine. There are over ten thou, an individual clubs and eighty different countries with an average of twenty members each. So chances are good that you can find a low the club in your area. There are ten clubs, just within us, a mile radius, my home trick other club located as he was near you some of the costs Those here in Vegas even have their own toastmaster clubs. The aims, grand as alliance, Roar club that Luxor as the pyramid, power, talkers club and then or New York. Has the Manhattan Express Club toes messrs actually as two tracks for building skills? One is the communication track, which involves improving your speaking skills, but less well known outside the organisation is the leadership track which helps you build a leader.

Skills. Noise are free to focus on one track or the other, or both I recently earned my c tm competent toastmaster, which has the floor educational ward, on the communication track and working time I see, L competent leader, which is the first a word on the leadership track there's a lot of flexibility and how we go about fulfilling the requirements for these tools. Masters is a lot of fun to, and I look forward to me things partly for the entertainment value, there is normally a lot of humour in each meeting, especially in the club I belong to. That includes a few comedians in some clubs. New members will go to dinner afterwards, Uncle my area called bachelors and bachelorettes rats is only for singles demean the backers of a bar and grill have cocktails and dinner during their meetings, which tends to make them fairly lively, so don't be intimidate. By the sea me formality of toastmaster, says six extremely friendly to newcomers at the very least tells masters is, re way to get out and do something social make new local friends, which is especially

as to counterbalance and overabundance of online friends, have some laughs and get the heck away from the computer for a while, in fact live a meaning to go to right. Now, you just listen to the both titled, overcoming fear of public speaking by Steve. Have winner of Steve Pebble. Become awesome comments. My own own have a lot of experience with this fear and still struggle with it. But first, thank you too gusto response during this episode. If you have a small, and how have to deal with payroll and benefits. You know that it can be complicated. You don't. The time to learn about all the regulations and taxes. I don't guess those making payroll benefits and hr easy for small businesses, Modern technology does the heavy lifting so easy to get things right. Pc mag and fit small business have called gusto the best payroll for smaller, this they make. It really really easy. Try out using my length, gusto dot com, a slash old dog. It you three months free was you run your first pay

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doesn't work, and I still runaways Is it a stand up your fears? Tiana and that's why I like to posts like these, but if you get yourself to do that, tells matters like you mention it: great step, and I am sure there are other ones like it and then other methods like the tatian breathing techniques. I do think those things can help I'll see what the symptoms, but not the actual fear. Overall, they can help mask the anxiety. Sometimes it doesn't work, but it can so those can be a nice a day. But from my own experience, even after meditating thirty minutes a day for a year, it won't cure the fear and you're still have that problem, even practice won't you're at necessarily but easily the best way to make it more bearable. So good luck and comply. This too, Any fear life, maybe except death, can really practice that

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