This is optimal living daily episode, seven hundred and thirty three, how to make anxiety, a lot less painful by Lorn Madden, with tiny Buddha dot com and I'm just a moloch, welcome back or welcome for the first time of renewed here. Simply Neri blogs, for you sometimes books, but in any case, always with permission from the website entities episode sponsored by talk space. The all might there be company, though, as you choose from over fifteen hundred licence therapists, get match with your perfect therapists, who can put you on the path to have your life for special offer? Just fur listeners visit talk, space, dot, com, sly, old, an old sense for optimal living daily to his post is a guest author, tiny, booted outcomes was get right to it as we have them, is your life, how to making thy a lot less painful by Lorn, Madame with tiny Buddha dot, com quote.

You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world. Glenn Doyle Mountain anxiety can be hard wired and genetic. We can be passed down from generation to generation, it can be a result of trauma and high stress in areas including divorce, moving in death. These things are out of control and can be really challenging to work through budding Zeit. He calls it comes around although certain behaviors lifestyle choices and believes that you have about yourself in the world and that my friend is always within your control, I want to challenge the way you're thinking about anxiety, take a moment to ask yourself the following questions: what thoughts, beliefs and behaviors are leading to my anxiety. How can I addressed these behaviors and change the beliefs, thoughts or emotion, in greetings. I to begin with, I have really extreme, except France's with anxiety. I wake up feeling this pit in my stomach like something real.

The terrible was about to happen at any moment? Accept everything was fine. I had a good job. I was making a decent motto: money. I had a nice apartment house Emily good relationship and it seemed like every He was working out in my favour on the outside fine, but on the inside I was dreading, He had a bed in the morning. Sometimes I literally couldn't get out of bed in the morning I'd call my manager and tell her. I was having a rough start to the day again and would be as soon as I was back to normal, my breath would become shabby. My heart would raise my palms would sweat my hands would shake my thoughts. Would balance between what the x ray with you to why just suck it up and go to work, and from am I go, a heart attack to join you to go back to the doktor again today, anxiety and I felt so pathetic about it. I felt guilty for not be more appreciative of all the things that were going right in my life. Eight and myself for feeling anxious my hated myself

because I thought there were something really wrong with me. That would never get better Until I realized that I had the whole situation backward does able to start making changes. I realize that it wasn't the anxiety itself that was causing me to suffer. It was a way I was thinking about and engaging with the anxiety that was the Here's the thing anxiety is a normal human emotion that serves in evolutionary purpose. It's a feeling that we get when some is threatening us anxieties and emotion that serves as a trigger to activate our fight or flight response in response to a dangerous situation. So it's normal to feelings. I just because you may feel anxious doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. How we think about Our anxieties, what locri our relationship to the motion itself, if every time you feel anxious, you think negative thoughts about yourself, then use any. Up into a downward spiral of guilt. Shame, anger, depression,

and even more anxiety, you feel more anxious just because your anxious, but we can re frame your thoughts to comfort. Place of positivity in love. Everything changes instead of feeling like a broken or there's something that needs to be fixed. You start to recognise That is naturally have an emotion like anxiety and that you, don't you to engage with it in a negative self. Hating way, you can simply acknowledges presents, try to notice what caused it and non judge mentally. Let it go. Once we become conscious of our limiting beliefs and fears round anxiety, we can choose to see things differently. We can train or Parents know that anxiety, miss a power of life and that it doesn't dickie are worth as a human being. We can choose you frame our beliefs to become more positive, accepting and loving in order to go easier on ourselves when we do experience anxiety and we can take action, steps were living allow

if that is in more balance with less anxiety and distress and more happiness every day, but becoming aware of our thoughts and beliefs around anxiety and fear, we can consciously choose which police are empowering and get to stay and which are blocking our growth so that we can release them, but here's the bitter truth. Your thoughts about anxiety can cause you to suffer more than experiencing the anxiety itself. Awhile back. I got really since an anxiety and my mindset overall, as our working with a coach We understand on a more practical level, the lessons I learn from all the books. I'd read that your thoughts create your reality. You are always in control of your thoughts. I started to write frame my thoughts about in Zaire and shifted the lands through which I see the world from one of luck and fear to one of abundance and love. My life hasn't been the same sense. I still experiencing side in fear owe him gee I experienced so much.

You're running. My own business feels approximately like fifty percent singing my shower and dancing around my apartment, Katy Perry and fifty percent wanting to hide in a key, for the rest of my life and never emerge again of our relationship to anxiety and fear has changed because my mindset has changed at all you see my anxiety as a crippling force in my life tat, I d really want to get rid of. I now see anxiety as a gift. As a sign from the universe that something is off balance in my life and I feel grateful for having the tools I need to get back into balance. It is not my mission to help you do the same. So when you feel anxiety check in with yourself on what your thoughts police around anxiety are. Do you talk down yourself or feeling anxious do, judge yourself or criticise yourself? Can you be more compassionate? Instead do leave your and anxious person can be willing to see yourself as something different.

Becoming aware of the stories we tell ourselves about how we are and how the world is weak, unconscious, consciously choose which story serve us and which need to be rewritten. You have the power to rewrite your anxiety story. The question is: will you do You just listen to the post an old how to making Zion a lot less painful by Lord Man and a tiny booted outcome in big thanks again to my sponsor for today's episode. Talks base a third this can definitely help you things I d and talk space is the online there be company that makes it easy to connect with an experienced licence therapist that you pig based on your preferences and for much much cheaper than traditional there. B plus he darted away in the lobby. You can send your therapist audio messages, video messages or even text messages which I've never seen it. National therapy or into a live video chat talks. Waste. Airbus are fully licensed in the Those who are rigour, screening, process, posting

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