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922: The Miracle of Suspending Mis-Belief & The Three Secrets to Happiness by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits

2018-06-20 | 🔗

2 shorter posts from Leo Babauta of Zen Habits on beliefs and happiness.

Episode 922: The Miracle of Suspending Mis-Belief & The Three Secrets to Happiness by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits (Choose to be Happy).

Leo Babauta created Zen Habits, which is about finding simplicity and mindfulness in the daily chaos of our lives. It’s about clearing the clutter so we can focus on what’s important, create something amazing, find happiness.

The original posts are located here: https://zenhabits.net/misbelief https://zenhabits.net/the-three-secrets-to-happiness

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this is optimal living daily episode nine hundred and twenty two the miracle the spending miss belief and the three secrets to happiness both by about us inhabits on that and i'm just a moloch welcome back or what first time of your new here is where i simply narrow colleagues for you sometimes books but in any case always with permission yesterday if you are paying close attention at the very end i said i'd have a new author today but i push that tomorrow's episode say have to stick around you that is for today i have two posts from leo of zen habits and its episode of while living daily is brought to you by active active praises audio based workout created by certify personal train available through mobile app new members get thirty percent often eu membership visit active dot com slash old that's a p d ivy dot com slash oil d for now's get to today's to both as
optimize your life the miracle of suspending misplaced if by lobata of zen habits die net would it see miraculous if who could dissolve anxiety fears stress frustration anger by making a small mental shift the answer might lie in thinking about how we watch films last night watching the lord of the rings trilogy with my kids am i a daughter said some of the things in the movie scared her as our talking our how they're all just actors and isn't funny others us up in these costumes are tells the story by helping her to see through the make believe or films a friend a helper dissolve some of the fears she had amazingly i found that this works for all our other fears and difficult feelings we just need to stop
giving in to make believe in our heads think about this when you watch a film you suspend your miss believe you know it's all pretend but for the ninety minutes or so you're watching the film you agree to forget that its make believe you believe in this allows a film to move you to cause you to cry be angry be scared be overjoyed by the climax not everyone does this some of us think god the storytelling is off all the actors are very good these special effects are cheesy i can't believe you're making me watch this those of us who don't spent or disbelief aren't very moved in rest of our lives we constantly believe in the stories in our heads when we think about how someone has inconsiderate we believe story where we are the hero in the other person is a villain think of how they wronged us when we are disappointed when someone else doesn't love us the way we want them to we build
you weren't romantic comedy and the other person should fall in love with us and be the perfect partner this happens over and over all of our anger stress sadness depression it all comes from the stories we tell ourselves about what's happened the world around us two things putting in the world around us don't revolve around us and are part of a story there just happening often it's all random but to deal with this chaos we try to make sense of it as part of a star ray we create meaning where none exists we think the other person has bad intentions towards us when actually they are just thinking about their own stories so what answer the answer is in how we watch films if we stop believe in the story of a film and start to see the film as a series of moving pictures that someone has created from props sets costumes digital effects scripts
sounds studios and more we see the reality and don't feel the hurt the anger and the fear when we feel difficult emotions in real life we can stop believing in the story and start to see the reality of what's happening there just physical objects around thus movie there are adams molecules living organisms and people who can talk and create those are not part of a story but just happening by letting go of this false belief dismissal leave and made up story we can let go of the here's and anger man frustrations that come with it so when you feel stressed sad mad does totally fine but just right eliza you can stop believing in the story if you choose i have another posed in just a minute for you but first thank you again to active active produces audio based workhouse created by certified per trainers and available through a mobile app they ve expert trainers
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of unlimited workhouse just visit active dot com slash old that's a p d ivy dot com such a d the three secrets to happiness all about a and habits done that we all know that money can buy happiness but many times we act we'd be happier with a bit more money we are condition want to be rich when we know that fish are unhappy either we are train we want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want we on to earn more money because then we'll have the good life but none of that will be minotaur penis no matter how we earn no matter how much we have in the bank no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys none of it will make us happier and the sad thing is that it could take us a decade
pursuing wealth and luxury items before we realise this so what will bring us happiness luckily is three things that doncaster thing these three things have been proven by research service of hundreds of thousands of people about what they have with their lives or like and how maybe they are here they are the three secrets tat happiness number one good relationships we have a human need to be close to be intimate with other human beings having supportive friendships my strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more like to be happy action steps take time today to spend time with your loved ones to tell them what they mean to you to listen to them and develop your relationship with them number two positive thinking i am obviously a big proponent deposits thinking as the best way to achieve the goals but it turns out that it can lead to happiness too often
some and self esteem are some of the best indicators are people who led happy lives happy people feel empowered in control of their lives and have a positive outlook on life action steps make positive thinking a habit in fact there should be one of the first time as you develop get into the habit squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones instead of i can't think i can it may sound corny but has worked for me every time a number three flow this is a popular concept on the internet these days the state we enter when we are completely focused on the work or task before us we are so immersed in our task that we lose track time having work and leisure i guess you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness people fight
the greatest enjoyment now in their passively mindless but when their absorbed in a mindful challenge action steps fine work that you passionate about seriously is an extremely important step fine hobbes a passionate about turn off the tv this is the opposite of low and get outside and do some that truly engages you you ve been given the three seekers happiness don't waste them you do listen to the post titled the miracle the spending this belief and the three secrets a happiness both by liam about of zan habits done that only that their future they have a happy rest of your wednesday and i'll be back tomorrow with a new author for real since time saucy you there where optimal life awaits
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