2 shorter posts from Leo Babauta of Zen Habits on beliefs and happiness.
Episode 922: The Miracle of Suspending Mis-Belief & The Three Secrets to Happiness by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits (Choose to be Happy).
Leo Babauta created Zen Habits, which is about finding simplicity and mindfulness in the daily chaos of our lives. It’s about clearing the clutter so we can focus on what’s important, create something amazing, find happiness.
The original posts are located here:
https://zenhabits.net/misbelief
https://zenhabits.net/the-three-secrets-to-happiness
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This is optimal, living daily episode, nine hundred and twenty two, the miracle
the spending Miss belief and the three secrets to happiness both by
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Optimize, your life, the miracle of suspending misplaced,
If by lobata of Zen habits die net, would it see miraculous if
who could dissolve anxiety, fears, stress, frustration, anger
by making a small mental shift. The answer
might lie in thinking about how we watch films last night,
watching the Lord of the Rings trilogy with my kids. Am I
A daughter said some of the things in the movie scared her as our talking
our how they're all just actors and isn't funny others
us up in these costumes are tells the story by helping her to see through the make believe or films.
A friend a helper dissolve some of the fears she had
Amazingly, I found that this works for all our other fears and difficult feelings. We just need to stop.
Giving in to make believe in our heads. Think about this. When you watch a film, you suspend your miss believe you know it's all pretend, but for the ninety minutes or so you're watching the film, you agree to forget that its make believe you believe in this allows a film to move you to cause you to cry. Be angry, be scared, be overjoyed by the climax. Not everyone does this some of us think
God. The storytelling is off. All the actors are very good. These special effects are cheesy. I can't believe you're making me watch this. Those of us who don't
Spent or disbelief aren't very moved in
rest of our lives. We constantly believe
in the stories in our heads when we think about how someone has
inconsiderate. We believe
story where we are the hero in the other person is a villain.
Think of how they wronged us. When we are
disappointed when someone else doesn't love us the way we want them to we build.
You weren't romantic comedy and the other person should fall in love with us and be the perfect partner. This happens,
over and over all of our anger, stress sadness, depression. It all comes from the
stories we tell ourselves about. What's happened,
the world around us, two things
putting in the world around us don't revolve around us and are part of a story there just happening
often it's all random, but to deal with this chaos, we try to make sense of it as part of a star
ray. We create meaning where none exists. We think the other person has bad intentions towards us when actually they are just thinking about their own stories. So what
answer. The answer is in how we watch films. If we stop believe
in the story of a film and start to see the film as a series of moving pictures that someone has created from props sets costumes digital effects scripts.
Sounds studios and more. We see the reality and don't feel the hurt, the anger and the fear when we feel
difficult emotions in real life. We can stop believing in the story
and start to see the reality of what's happening there. Just physical objects around
Thus movie. There are Adams, molecules, living organisms and people who can talk and create
Those are not part of a story, but just happening by letting go of this false belief. Dismissal
leave and made up story. We can let go of the
Here's and anger man frustrations that come with it. So when you feel stressed sad, mad does totally fine, but just right
Eliza. You can stop believing in the story. If you choose
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the three secrets to happiness.
All about a and habits done? That.
We all know that money can buy happiness but many times we act
we'd be happier with a bit more money. We are condition
want to be rich when we know that
fish are unhappy either we are train
We want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want. We
on to earn more money because
then we'll have the good life, but none of that will be
minotaur, penis, no matter how
we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice
our clothing or cars or toys. None of it will make us happier, and the sad thing is that it could take us a decade.
Pursuing wealth and luxury items before we realise this, so what will bring us happiness? Luckily is three things that Doncaster thing. These three things have been proven by research service of hundreds of
thousands of people about what they have with their lives or like and how
Maybe they are here, they are the three secrets. Tat happiness number one good relationships: we have a human need to be close to be intimate with other human beings having
supportive friendships. My strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more like
to be happy action. Steps take time today to spend time with your loved ones.
To tell them what they mean to you to listen to them and develop your relationship with them. Number two positive thinking: I am obviously a big proponent deposits thinking as the best way to achieve the goals, but it turns out that it can lead to happiness too often
some and self esteem are some of the best indicators are people who led happy lives, happy people feel empowered in control of their lives and have a positive outlook on life. Action steps make positive thinking a habit. In fact, there should be one of the first time as you develop, get into the habit, squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. Instead of I can't think I can, it may sound corny, but has worked for me
every time. A number three flow. This is a popular concept on the internet. These days, the state we enter when we are completely focused on the work or task before us. We are so immersed in our task that we lose track.
Time having work and leisure. I guess you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness, people fight
the greatest enjoyment now in their passively mindless, but when their absorbed in a mindful challenge, action steps, fine work that you passionate about seriously is an extremely important step: fine Hobbes, a passionate about turn off the tv. This is the opposite of low and get outside, and do some
that truly engages you, you ve been given the three seekers happiness. Don't waste them
You do
listen to the post, titled the miracle,
the spending, this belief and the three secrets a happiness.
Both by Liam about of Zan habits done that only that their future
They have a happy rest of your Wednesday and I'll be back tomorrow with a new author for real since time, saucy you there, where optimal life, awaits
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