This is optimal, living daily episode, nine hundred and sixty good enough how to overcome fear of failure am perfectionism to live your best life by can foster Carlsson and I'm just a moloch Happy Saturday, welcome back or work for the first time is where you every single day to help you live a more meaningful life covering personal development productivity and minimalism, mostly from some of the best blog earth and authors you with their permission, of course, this episode of off. Living daily is brought to you by away away, makes first class luggage at coach prices. I'll, see you to charge your phone on ago for twenty dollars officer case go to a way: travel dot, com, slash old and used a promo code, all that's away, travel dot com such a well d and promo code- oh well, de it's been awhile- would have a book except for you. Today can foster. Karlsson is an award winning broadcasts. Journalist, having spent the last twenties

Years as a member of the San Francisco Bay Area, radio and television media, Jim Foster, has worked as a traffic reporter news report, news, anger, sports anchor and talk, show, host and thanks The challenge goblin for making the connection and getting me Kim's book called good enough. I checked it out I'll, be reading the first two chapters for you, so that doubtless get right to it. Optimizing, your life good enough, her overcome fear of here They are an perfectionism to live your s life by became, Foster Karlsson chapter One, the p word: we live in a society that celebrates being perfect beauty to brains. We all know someone who, in our minds as the ideal person the person school who had all friends the friend who can work. Papa Gourmet meal, was ingredients found refrigerator an ideal world we like to be

happy with ourselves, but in the real world. We all feel we are good enough. The resolution coming the best version of you with all your foibles and quirks is to embrace your imperfections doesn't give you permission to become a slot and do nothing, but how great would it be to embrace your flaws? Love the parts of you that you once thought of as your shortcomings, men see them as an equally, you perfectionism keeps you from your true expression and creativity as well. It invites fear, and out being flawless, does unhelpful you up. Real and being flawed invites real connections to others. So what can you do to combat a bad case of perfection? you can see mistakes as information that you must have to become successful. Learned

nothing from them that you can improve on, don't be proud of being perfect, don't confuse perfection with high standards. Healthy standards are better practice being imperfect. Take a day to do everything in perfectly mistakes made progress apple under Steve Jobs probably had a few bad versions of a cell phone before he and his team invented the Iphone, be kind yourself. Perfectionists are critical of themselves and others be perfectly imperfect, was being yourself chapter. Two problems are good, in his twenty sixteen book. The subtle art of not giving a F Mark man's says counter intuitive approach preaches that life is essentially an endless series of problem. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another. Instead of asking how can given my problems, the question should be: what are the problems at excite me where the problems I am willing to sacrifice

for to work for Manson offers an example of wanting to get in shape. You can solve this problem. By buying a gym membership which gives you a set of new problems, funding, when your day to go to the gym and budgeting the extra expense balsam, not bad. Problems to have, but our problems nonetheless, and that is the key to Manson's mantra, fine problems that you are interested in. Solving here's, where perfection comes The blame you for problem arises: you have two choices, decide on this Lucian or distract yourself from the problem. Distractions are perfection is best friend. They can help you to Britain and the problem is not really there. What are your favorite distractions watching television playing video games getting high deciding on a solution seems like a much better way to go. Solutions are active decision to move forward distractions keep you right where you are miserable. The key here is the honestly

Jennifer, the problem and the distraction. If you a job, for example, Do you work long hours was a horrible boss who ignores you, promote everyone you and basically makes your life miserable. You have a few choices, find a new job, live with the fact that you are not appreciated or confront your boss. If you're not against solutions, they are probably distracting yourself with things such as watching way too much Netflix equally to a junk food and sitting on the couch for days, weeks, months and years what a waste. So what can you do? Make a list of solutions to your problem? Make a list of you distractions and be honest: which list looks better. I did this myself for a similar boss problem. I can tell you it works, but it's not as easy as it looks. Many of my distractions had become habits. Tat were difficult to break, but they needed to be broken, not sure, you're ready asked for help. Some people are afraid of therapy

My sister was a therapist told me is the mentally healthy people who come to therapy the stable ones, think that everyone else is the problem support are always an option. They can be truly order and not just a place for everyone to complain about their families and each other. A compassionate friend can also be a great place to start. The more problems you saw the easier it will get to work out. The next problem that is just around the corner, loony distractions, are key, so put down that piece of cake turn off the Netflix start. Writing those lists. Once you are on the problem solution. Gravy train the next stop is happiness. Happiness according to Manson occurs by solving problems is an activity Completing a marathon makes you happier than eating a chocolate cake. Raising a child makes you have here then beating a video game starting a small business with friends we're going to make money makes you happier than by

a new computer. The road to these goals can be paved with potholes pitfalls and perfection. Mystic, procrastination, because once you get to the finish line, you realize that in fact it was the journey that brought you. The most happiness of all. You just listen to an excerpt from the book good enough how to overcome fear, failure and perfectionism to live your best life by can foster Karlsson It takes two away for supporting my podcast away, makes affordable high quality suitcases that choice, Your phone, which I love to do a great shout to make your travel, experienced, stress, free, three and sixty degree, spinner wheels for a smooth right in any direction. The luxury deft proof with a t essay up. Combination lock built in and a super durable. But very lightweight at the same time, which is great and two usb ports with a high capacity battery can charge multiple devices on the go through legal and worry about any

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