This week is slightly more on the personal side. July 2nd 2021 is when I sat down to record this...July 2nd 2020 was the day I moved out of the house that I shared with my now ex-husband. I met my ex-husband when I was 18 and when I got divorced last year I was grappling with that pain, but also the fear of living alone as a grown adult for the first time. I want to talk with ya'll and reflect on a year of singleness and living alone, and some of the lessons I've learned.
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I guess I guys welcome to another week the podcast, and
this week- is interesting- maybe something a bit more on them
small side than I might normally do an one of my solo episodes. But it feels fitting- because I am according
as on July. Second, twenty, twenty one and exactly
one year ago, today, on July Second, twenty twenty, I moved out of the house that I shared with mine. Now ex husband, I moved out of the house that my kids were n. I moved away from home and into a new home and it
was one of the hardest scary ass, an also exciting
times of my life and
there are so many big heavy emotions. Last year, on this day,
and I thought man I'd love to talk about what I ve learned in
a year of being on my own in a year of being single, and maybe your listening to this you're like were who cares or people who are single all the time?
But the interesting thing about my story, if you're not familiar, is that I met my ex husband when I was eighteen and I had
ever gone on a date before ever like I,
zero experience, and so when I got divorced last year
I found myself like beyond grappling with divorce and how painful that was and what it meant for my kids and the end of this thing like just beyond all of that, like all of that which are so much
I also was grappling with really never having been on my own, like as a grown up, grown up indefinitely,
lived with a roommate and allay before I met my ex husband and then I definitely hide. I think a year
in an apartment by myself, buddy.
and then I was in a nineteen years old like I just had no
to what I was doing said. This was really the first time that I,
like I was a grown up- and I was single
and I was living.
a house, and just
was stuff is a lot of things and I feel it
I've learned so much and last year about myself and just man,
What it all, what it all means right and so, on the anniversary of this day, I thought I would talk to you
about some lessons I learn when I was journaling this morning. I I was journaling like what I had learned in the last twelve
and then I'm gonna die
he threw them now and maybe you'll find it interesting if you're going through a big life,
position or maybe just find it interesting as something.
this funding here about other pupils drama, but this is why this week's is about
one year post
moving out of my house and into a new place. So I guess
where we should start with. Probably why it felt like such an extra big
deal when I moved out. There are few reasons, so I think he has made it very clear.
It was not his decision and so I'll just say. I said that I wanted a divorce in May,
and I said that I wanted a divorce. After probably five years of
us talking about it and
trying and struggling and working and then having like beautiful joyful seasons and like
great things and exciting things, and then all the problems that were there
just still there and I think you know really interest.
The thing that came out of having a public relationship and then a public divorce was
I got a lot of really pretty hateful backlash from people.
I still try and not have anger about the fact that he didn't get any backlash, but that I did
mostly from women, infected
that any men cared but am do so large.
Tension of women who,
I said that I was bad.
and wrong and evil and how dare I do this thing and war
I find so crazy, crazy, crazy about that situation. Is that nobody publicly knows what happens but me
and my ex husband. Nobody and I made a very conscious decision to not talk about it. In fact, if you looked at social
media at any time.
over the last year, one of us have talked a lot and it's not me, and I made that choice, because I wanted to be respectful of my children because as much as my kids are on social
their friends are- and I also think social media will last forever, and so you could open up. I don't know something ten years now and find what
one parent said about the other. So I made a very conscious decision to not tell
story, and- and I won't because it feels like the respectful thing to do
And so I will keep that to myself, but I think
mean knowing what really
happens and then me, being
publicly shamed for making that choice
it feels so hurtful and
year ago I was. I was deep in it because I honestly never thought I could cease absolutely that
our fan base might be disappointed
like I was disappointed, would blaze Shelton Miranda Lambert got divorced. I M still upset about that, so I told
we get being disappointed, but I never expected
Other women, too,
without any information. Take sides and say hurtful things, and so I was grappling with all of these painful things:
of that are involved in an ending a relationship that has been going on for at that point and been eighteen years and China.
in to navigate the puzzle
and it was so painful.
so hard, and
It was in the midst of inner covered with stall at its peak. It was going nuts
we were still you know, and-
down on and off, and it just was such a wild time.
and I remember trying to find a place
Eleven just like gonna be super honest about what this process felt like. Maybe
of you are going to break up- are going through a divorce. I don't owe me this will be helpful, but
I remember that I needed to find a place to live and it was it felt so
impossible inside of covered and
so desperately wanted to find a place. That was good for my car
then could be a home and could be something that they felt comfortable, and I was so.
so much anxious
says an insomnia of just like not being able to find a place, because you know
told him the decision that I had made in May
and I didn't move
until July. That's how long it took, and I dont know if you ve ever had to live,
in a house or a place with someone who broke up with an oath.
was an awful so awful for us, both
not because we were fighting, and I think like when people when there was backlash from the public or
people are friends or family that we never saw you fight, because that does not our style. We weren't fighters
We were the kind of people who talk through everything and we still do by the way to this day, but just because you don't fight,
doesn't mean, there's not a lot of pain there in a lot of resentment, and it was,
so it felt like I am
I don't want to be overly dramatic put. It fell, Ike torture, I mean just
every day in that space and both of us
so much changes having to see each other all the time and oh, my gosh, who so hard and
the decision to move on,
of the house, was in mine. I mean
Ultimately, it was mine, but essentially it was because
I was the one who made the decision. Then he fell.
I was the one who should have to leave and honestly that, like I'm, just gonna preface and
They look I'm telling all like a very true and personal story.
There. This is not anything about him like.
it, doesn't matter how great people are as you
beings, if you go through to force its gonna, be painful and it's gonna be hard and they're very parts of it that are ugly,
and I'm telling you a very honest recounting, but it's nothing negative about him and I think people
this wrong so often that I will tell a story about Dave and there, like
Oh now you're like talking crap about data like no I'm, not
telling you my truth, and he has his own truth. That honestly he's gone into quite a lot of detail about. So this
that anything negative about Hamish is how it worked out. How worked out was that I had to move out of the home I had made, and I first felt
so defeated by that. I don't know if any of you have experience something similar but
I felt so defeated, like I just kept thinking
he's not a pillow in this house that I didn't choose, there's not
a painting on the wall that I didn't get it a flea market.
You know in allay ten years ago, there's there's enough
here that I didn't like put and make.
As part of our home and so there.
idea of leaving it fell just
absolutely insane to me the Ruby slippers
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well say in retrospect. I am so grateful that it were
TAT the way that it dead, because I've provocateur get so much.
for this and he would laugh at me, but, like I do
I know that he would have been
oh yeah, he would have been able. But, like I don't know what
a job. You would have done it like trying to let go make a home, especially during covered
not to say a man can't decorate can make homes they do all the time. But honestly, I can't
we laughed about it later, like. Oh, my gosh, you what you do know whereby a sofa like it would have been hilarious should actually for what it's worth. If you are going through something like this,
maybe that's away to refrain that had a girlfriend who went to divorce about six months after I did and she's,
sad about moving out and I was a gap, but you can make a whole new
for home, for your babies and he might go and just make a bachelor pad ray, and my parents were divorced. That's what my dad
my friends, parent same thing. That's where her dad issues like oh you're, right, yeah least this way. I can make something that I know the kids I feel really comfortable, and so it was hard and its
but it was it was you know, divorces, painful. Moving into this place, I felt like I was guided by
my god by angels by my garden.
angels because when I started looking,
I was so oh, my gosh, I was so nervous. I could not forgotten as gonna go. Do this thing by myself and I had to find a place that my kids would lie,
can to be honest eyes, really scared to live by myself when the kids or with their dad
Had all of these fears and when
started. Looking I was like. Oh my gosh. I don't know what I'm gonna do and then randomly except, I don't believe in random. I happen to like find this
little house in a search for something and is the pictures were very good enough.
kind of like what is theirs and I just send it to
friend like hey, do you think we can get it? We train go look at this one, and so we looked. I took
acts with me, which I highly recommend. If you have kids, that was a big and important thing was
him being able to fill. He was part of the process, the other kids there, the boys
in a word Luxor like whatever, but Jack's really cared, and I took him. Why
may so he had an opinion in every Jackson's, my eldest, so he had an opinion in everything and we walked into all sorts of places
and I just honestly it just like each one was sort of mourning
urging than the rest, and
Lord I'm an end up having to get a bachelor, Pat like my dad, even
so what I want to do, and then we came to this place
and I remember walking through the house
and their wise alone,
garden on this,
I'd yard, and that just may my heart swell and I walked out
the back patio, and I just like
this clarity, in my mind of ice
sit on this back patio and I'm going to heal and
it was and still is it the most,
ideal house, like it's pretty small for me and for kids, know
wise bedroom. It was like an office. There was converted, but, like I made a cue, don't worry the boy
have to share room like it's, not why they have
dad's there is in a pool theirs and trampling there is go. Cars is like all it doesn't have all the bells and whistles, but it is this sacred ground,
for me, and it really is that moment of clarity of like what are you need like? What's the intention? What do you need out of this and what I needed was so
de what I needed was a feeling of security and I needed a place to heal and that
is a really important thing to ask? I think in a process like this
I know that even me having the ability to go get another place
was a huge deal, because I walk through this of my girlfriend, where
You know she was a homemaker,
she was a sterile mom and
wise and so is dependent on her soon to be ex husband.
it is so scary
for women who don't have one
and for security or their financial security is wrapped up in some one else, Emmy I can
I tell you how many times I have counselled women in my community who have
partner whose abusive or who have a partner who cheats on them or who have a partner who- and
far longer than they should because data
have another option.
so even having the ability to go somewhere else was massive
and I don't take that for granted for a second I, when I moved out, which was a year ago today, eggs- I I you know, Sir
the paper whenever got too to move into this place
I moved out of the other house. I took my clothes,
and some family heirlooms. It was a loaded on my car. I think I did too, or maybe three carloads and I took nothing else.
And I made that decision, because I remember when my parents would split up and they split up and go back to gather a lot. But I remember when one of
would move out that they would like take the so far like take the.
She's off the walls are just it was always has
as far as little kid sort of sea or house get pulled apart, and so I am
the conscious decision to only take things that really had very spot
no value to me
and that would disrupt the home for them and I think, like there's so part,
mean that gets a little sad like just to be honest of
This may be sounds but like the key,
its rooms at the other house are so. Oh man
Those are making emotional what of well there.
firms are so beautifully decorated and
I worked so hard to like figure out
themes. Unlike oh, you worked with like,
most amazing decorator and like it was such a big deal.
and I remember there is those rooms were done at the old house across so proud cause
I never had anything like that
like hand me down furniture and like just now,
were- and I was so proud of how beautiful there
rooms were and how they like spoke to their personalities, and it's still makes who really sad
that they don't have that here, yeah yeah
I don't have that area, and I say yes because I
that some day they well, but you know,
it was when we first moved here so hard to get anything. I don't know if any of y'all had to move in Covid or like get furniture or whatever it was so impossible
I remember like I did not have furniture for months. Mundt M not exit from.
I didn't ask for a roof over mad. Thank God
and I had mattresses on the four. Thank God, for that is the very
Santa move. Here I slept on the floor had literally nothing. I remember
free piece of furniture that would come in. I would literally like ball, like saw crying.
when I got a so fine cried because I just was so grateful for every piece of furniture and I
you can't understand it unless you lived through it, you just can't tend to not have
things or honestly, you know they would come from this, like amazing house, at their due
and then they come here and I like had nothing.
A table set up right. We play board games and man did we play board games, but
just made me sad and there are still parts of it. That makes me sad because
you don't want to be like the place that is not
fine, but I feel like in terms of stuff like having staff. My
I definitely isn't as far as the other house- they get to stay at the time, but
it for sure is fine in terms of
energy and joy and play and laughter and watching movies and hang out.
Each other in cooking and eating and like we have found a way. My
being a well decorated, room,
found a way and we have gotten so close. I think that some
I could not possibly have fathoms before all of this,
is how close I would become with my kids,
I was so close them before and it
is not even comparable to the release
should that we have now we sort of
we were in a bunker together, you know because of covert and then going through
divorce and I just wanted to be present for them, and I want to make sure that their own okay and that has been beautiful
eyes as much as cottage
solved. It sucks so hard to go through. All of those things come
at the other side is like these.
Ships I am. I dont know if I ever what had so there
some goodness there
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he bore and a chance to be together in person for the first time. In a year and a half, I think the thing
that. I I didn't anticipate, but I want to make sure and talk about in case. Any of you are in this is how
time I spent alone
I really process by myself. I do not like
Thus, in a grew I dont want to do with my friends. I don't want to talk it out. I really need to process and think and journal, and that is how I get through things and
and I was
alone. I was either with the kids kazoo they're here, half the weak,
I was with the kids half the weak and then they would go home and I would work and then I would be alone- and I was by myself alone with my thoughts for months and months and months and months and months, and I think that
it was the most important part of this process, and I
have walked with a lot of friends through break up this year and of course, this year- and I have seen so many people immediately- mediately jump back interrelationship and everybody
the process and deal, however they need to, but I I just can't think of something that would have been worse and an eye
get the. Why, like, if I
started dating right away. If I started going out with my friends like drinking and living it up and doing whatever it,
have an amazing distraction
I would not have had to think about how sad I was.
How angry I was how hard it was, how how
confusing. It was too like go through a divorce,
Some do with attorneys and figure out finance.
goals and like it was so overwhelming to me, and I
One million percent could have distracted myself in a bunch of different ways, and I just sat in it.
now, if you read my last book, which is all
all about going through.
thing. I talk about sitting in it you
I say you gotta, allow yourself to feel how painful these things feel
did. I need to learn what am I still learning from this process and I
went through every emotion. There was, and I just made myself like I told you sat on that
patio I mean
hundreds of hours have been logged on my back patio, just thinking or crying or praying or journaling.
or just trying to get myself to. You know
raise above the pain
and I was in that moment because I have to suck it out because the kids are on their where I've gotta go, make dinner. I've got
do bedtime or whatever, and it just eyes fell
At a time alone, as talking-
Two. If you heard when I interviewed J shadow here on the podcast, has become a very sweet frantic,
you just got to hang out with him and allay earlier this week, and you know him
I talked about this idea of when you're alone there.
Two ways that people describe that some people-
all being alone, lonely and some people call it solid,
dude and one of those is
empowering an end intentional, and one of those lonely fills immediately sad or wrong, and I actually
there's something in red
we valuable about being alone, with your thoughts
to say it's easy all the time by it
I I spent a lot of time by myself and let's see eleven or ten months before I started dating again just like alone,
and the first, like I remember my girlfriend who was going to divorce. She was like
how long until it doesn't feel like you one day
like how long until it doesn't you don't wake up
every day and remember and just want to crawl back in bed
and I was like six months yeah
say four months of really feel like you ve, no idea how you're going to survive
and two months where it still really bad, but you can manage a lot better.
and then you start feel better and start to feel hopeful and to be
What's with you, I started dating in March, but like never ever with
intention of it being anything serious and they give
You heard me talk about. There's there may be sought on rates
on the Youtube Channel in. I told you the story about like I gonna dating out, but I got a dating up because
I wanted like friends to go out with, not because I wanted to make out with somebody and p, as that was terrifying
For me to figure out how to do it again,
it just so happens or a guess again. I don't believe in coincidence here
didn't just so happen, but I just the first
reason that I became friends
I ended up falling in love with, and I think that's because God it in her.
Then it wisdom was guiding this process and knew the kind of person that I needed.
kiss for the first time when I didn't know what I was doing and I was freaking out, unlike at
or to put my hands or will I just you know like it's
crazy and am so grateful for the beauty
the serendipity and how it all came to be.
There is no way, no way that I would be healthy enough to be in this.
Beautiful relationship if I had spent all those months by myself processing things so if
you have to go through.
Something hard like this. I hope you will allow yourself to to sit in it.
as long as you need. I think
You know it is sort of like the hot topic. I get the chilean dams about this and lots of comments and questions on you to Ben
Nobody wants information about dating what that's
again. The boy friend and the whole thing- and I
making a real. We conscious
decisions can find to talk about it because I think number one. I think it's hilarious, because you would not even believe how
king terrible. I am for all that I am confident and I think I like cool avenue of doing. I was such a freak in the
I was so nervous, I've so anxious for
I like- could speak same person same man same situation like it's. A shock is beyond belief that this human, but kept being like here, let's call another date, because
I would just like. I would literally just like stare into his eyes and, like feel like, I was dying like. Why are you so beautiful, and then I would just it was ridiculous. It was just ridiculous. Just let's go with that
so it's a miracle that anybody wanted to keep talking of, even though so clearly not good at dating. But
I'm being very conscious of this is
something so precious and my last,
relationship, I didn't know better, and so it was it was so
president on social media, and it was something I talked about so much and I just something as precious
as your love, I just I want to be very careful
How and when that
is out in the world, and it so funny to me when we're out
restaurant or liquid, taking walk or getting coffee or whatever, and I see you know
a listener: podcast, Garcia, a reader, a fan or whatever see us and realize like. Oh,
this. Is this? Is the guy EL it? So it just makes you really it was really laughed does I think people feel they have some sort of like insider thing of.
of this person and I know there's like blogs about
unlike random internet things about
sue, I'm dating back. I just it's just the sweet, precious things, I'm just
being really I'm keeping area close to my heart, some talking about dating what that looks like we're like talking about who
Is there any that staff suggest? I know there are questions, but that's the why in case you're wondering
The last thing that I'll say about what I have learned in this year that I feel like is so powerful and I think, a sort of something we ve all gone through, even if you are going to break up or moving into a new place, is
I am really lie
being the reminder that you can.
Redefine and re frame your life at any moment,
twenty twenty we were forced to redefine and re frame our lives right, covert men that, whatever we thought
was true. Was it an things we thought
ever be taken away were, and I never thought I
get used to wearing a mask. I never thought that I would be in locked down. I never thought that I wouldn't get to see my friends for months and months. I never thought that
We live in fear like there's a million things that happen that I never thought could happen. Our whole world got shifted on its axis
and what I am reminded of, is that in
world, getting shifted on its axis. I made a decision that was the right decision for me, and I know that that is such a bold statement. It
freaking shouldn't be, but I made a decision that was the right and healthy choice for myself and my children
it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of the choice that you make for yourself
whether or not you have kids
you are allowed to make change. You are allowed to ask for more. You are allowed
demands that someone keep them.
Word. You are allowed to speak your truth.
who are allowed to
have the same rights that your partner does. I think a lot of time-
times. This is nothing. I love man, I'm raising three of them like this enough,
and men of so many, my closest like guy friends like I love, love men, I'm not bashing men, but so often women are scorned for wanting literally just what is equal to what
their husband or their boyfriend gets from them on the regular. So you
who are allowed to ask for whatever you need, and if you do,
get it. You are allowed to have an issue with that and
you know, maybe you do what I did then its years of conversations and trying and working in doing what you can
and maybe you find a way, maybe you do fix the pieces that are broken.
and it becomes something more beautiful and stronger and greater than it was before. That's amazing, so freaking amazing,
but also, if it can't be.
Sometimes it's not meant to keep going,
Our thinking about this today, like I can't remove, I told ya,
I told you that I got to meet Dave Girlfriend. Finally, and she said
sweet, so kind like exactly. You know what I knew she
would be and to see them
together in their so happy and they complement each other so well and I think of me
and my boyfriend and how I never could have like written a coup,
not have written a script of the kind of
man that I would want and need
cause. I literally didn't even know that this kind of human existed. I wouldn't even have known to ask for him, and but now
now being with him and then Dave being
Heidi, unlike oh yeah, clearly, if this
who you move on to and we moved on people that were so different from each other, but so compliment
HU we are its
an example of the fact that it was. It had run its course and that
Ok, not only is it ok, I think it's beautiful people,
want to look at a divorce and see that be oh it
did after eighteen years and its failure? No, it's not a failure. I consider my marriage a massive success. A massive success we have four beautiful children were still
and were still a family. We are making
choices now that are better for us and if their better for us, that means are gonna, be better for the kids and so
Hey there, a conservative people who don't believe in divorce and who great? Then you live that out in your life, but those people don't get to tell you or me.
or Dave or anybody else how they get to show.
Up in the world, or what's right for them or what's good for their family, and I just wondering
I urge you man, if you're gonna, have to go through something like divorce will have to go through a break up. I freaking hole that you can come out of. The other side
that with a clearer idea of who you are, if you're gonna have to,
walk through Hell, hoagie,
on the other side, forged
oh yeah, I went through it and I didn't go through it for nothing I went through.
so I can live and authentic life, as myself so soon
patio now and I'm not
sitting merit a heel, I'm sitting there celebrating this beautiful life that I get to live
I'm still hard and is so complicated and it still messy there still for kids
screaming, and it still navigating you know Ex husbands and new girlfriends and boyfriends and
Thanksgiving and were altogether and was a slight or still so much messing us in this, but it's good.
I'm tellin you guys. A year ago today I slept I'm SAM. I'm
happiness for you in my bedroom and iron
keeping on this for Sweden for an hour
Had a pillow and two blankets- and I remember feelings,
so discouraged like what the hell am I gonna do
and I remember crying that night
and I also remember even
the pain I remember this knowing or this voice deepens
of me that just knew that this was
I'm saying that in case there are those of you who are in something that is painful, and you just
need to listen for that still
small voice. That is speak
to you and guiding you through the time that you are in their voices there and then
tariff me a year ago- and it's here
with me now and if you're in a really hard season by guy was a year ago today I want you to know it gets better. It gets better if you do the work
and you honor yourself and your graceful-
with your heart and you
strive to love yourself well and take care of yourself while it will get better,
you are strong enough to keep going. I love you guys. I hope this was helpful
I hope that if you are going through something similar that maybe it spoke to your heart,
and if you know someone who's going through something similar, I hope your consider sending them this episode to listen to. If you liked it,
It would be so wonderful if you would check and on social, take a screen shot of today's episode or share in your inspiring.
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Is a hotline for the pod cast? As always? If you have questions view on follow up, if you want more detail, I love doing q and a podcast episode, so the hotline is
The number is in the show notes. If you and check it out here, call in and leave me a voice mail, you can do it anonymously. If you want to- or you can tell me your name, maybe we could even have you on the show. We can talk about your question, but the hotlines in the show, notes and yeah
I hope you have a blast wheat and that you are enjoying whatever part of the year.
are you listening to this end and in turn
I talk to you next time. I want you to know that I love you. Anna Maria,
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