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Chapter two, the lie
I'll start tomorrow.
Can't count the number of diet. I've tried
Can't tell you the number of times I've made plans to go to the gym and then blew them off.
Number of half marathons I signed up for paid the entry before and then quietly
Pretended not to remember when it was time to actually train to
number of times, I've declared from here on out I'm going to walk a mile every morning before work,
and then never made it passed the third day infinity.
I had this habit for years as many women do we talk
whether things we'd like to do be, try and accomplish, but once we
yet to the moment of actually doing it, we fall
Asked her than a card table after bunco night.
We ve created this habit because we were brought up observing this pattern.
Magazines and tv show spend a lot of time focusing on what to do when we fall off the wagon.
Other than teaching us how to stay on it. In the first place like
plans we make fall through, but where
become such a regular occurrence that the promises we make hold very little actual power and our lives we need,
A few months ago is out to dinner with my closest girlfriends. It was
in palm too happy hour that turned into an impromptu dinner and end
Going later than any of us anticipated
I got home after the kids were in bed and day was already deep into a game of major early ball or hard hitting league or whatever. The name is of the baseball game. He's played nightly for the last two years of our marriage, without
making any real progress that I am aware of sight,
gave him a smooth and chatted with him about his day,
then I went downstairs to the basement were old. Treadmill is headed and around
a few miles
put the evidence of that work on Snapchat and later my girlfriend saw it and sent me attacks. You work
after dinner, what in the world I wrote back yet
because I planned on doing it and I didn't want to cancel. Couldn't you just postman
wait until tomorrow
she was genuinely perplexed. No
because I made a promise to myself and I dont break those not ever she typed back
the first person I break a promise to show
Not the only one
I used to do that all the time
until I realized how hard I was fighting to keep my word to other people. While quickly
cancelling on myself out
gout tomorrow became I'm not working out any time soon, because
Honestly. If you really cared about that commitment, you do
When you said you would what, if you had a friend,
who constantly flaked on you
if every other time you made plans, she decided not to show up
What does she gave lame excuses like? I really
I want to see you, but this
tv show. I'm watching is just so good what, if a friend
was constantly starting something new,
She announced a new diet or goal, and then two weeks later, it just ended what, if you called her on it like
you called her on it. Like hey PAM,
thought? You were doing whole thirty. Meanwhile,
Pam and sitting in the break room eating a meat lovers, pizza and telling you that she was doing whole thirty and even though it made her feel great two weeks into the programme, her son had a birthday party and
couldn't resist the cake
fear. There was no point now she's gain back the pound. She loss, plus a few extra ya'll Woody.
This woman, who starts and stops over and over again
you count on PAM or their friend who keeps blowing you offer stupid reasons. Would you
Ask them when they committed to something
Would you believe them when they committed to you know no way
And that level of distrust and apprehension applies to you to your.
Subconscious knows that you yourself can now
be trusted after breaking so many plans and giving
up on so many goals,
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Have you ever known, someone who always kept their word
they tell you they're coming. You can expect them to
minutes early, if they commit,
to a project. You can bet your but thou finish it.
They tell you they signed up for their first marathon and you
already in awe, because you know for a fact that Finnish, when this
the person commits to something. How seriously do you take their commitment? I hope you see my point here.
If you constantly make and break promises to yourself, you're, not
making promises at all your talking.
Your waxing poetic like PAM and her die, or your flaky friend who bells on you to watch game of thrones.
How many times have you bailed on yourself to watch tv
How many times have you given up before you even started
How many times have you made real progress? Only too
they sat back and then give up completely how many times.
Your friends or family or co workers watched you quit.
How many times have your children watch you
Give up on yourself over and over and over
This is not ok,.
Our society makes plenty of room for complacency or laziness, we're rarely surrounded by accountability.
We're also rarely surrounded by sugar free, vanilla, lattes. But when I really want one, I somehow find a way to get one
only sort of kidding.
When you really want something you'll find away when you
don't really want something. You'll find an excuse.
How does your subconscious know the difference between what you want and what you only
pretend to want it.
Looks at a history of how you ve tackled similar things in the past. Have you kept your word.
When he set out to do something. Did you see it through.
When we are at a loss we reach for the lowest bar and the low
was bar, is typically are high,
the level of training.
Sounds a little backwards, so let me explain.
If you set out to run thirty miles today, where
you think you're easily get too without stopping you
to your highest level of training, some of them.
Most you ever run comfortably is four miles: you'll Peter
somewhere around there sure
adrenaline can take you a bit further and mine of matter is a big deal to, but
thickly, your body will revert to what it knows and what it fills me.
Comfortable with this
same can be said for keeping promises to yourself.
You decide on a goal. For example, I'm going to write a novel or
I'm going to run a ten k. You're
I am conscious, will formulate the likelihood of that happening based on past experiences. So when it,
day for and you're feeling tired and you don't want to head out for the run. You will revert to the highest level of mental training. What,
happened. The last time you found herself here. Did you push through
in form a habit and get it done, or did you may
can excuse. Did you put it
Whatever standard you ve sat for yourself is where you'll end up,
unless you fuck
Through your instinct and change your pattern
That's how I changed my own patterns and behaviors,
how I established the rule in my life tat, I would no longer break a promise to myself, no matter how small it was ended.
Began with diet, coke.
I used to love like
obsessively love diet, coke.
For the longest time. I'd have several diet coke today
then I realized how terrible they were for me. I cut
my consumption down to one candidate and I
looks forward to that soda like an attic waiting for our high
Do I want to drink it at lunch time to give the afternoon a little pap?
should I waited till dinner were eating MAX
can food tonight and diet. Coke is so good, which have since also so maybe holding out is the right. Choice
way too much time looking forward to the beverage, then ones
I found myself with terrible vertigo.
I tried cutting anything out of my diet that might be harmful,
even my daily diet, Coke came into question honestly, I thought to myself.
A kind of Vigo gives up diet coke.
Are we supposed to just give up joy and goodness in our lives? Why don't I
electricity and live like the amish.
My inner monologues are incredibly dramatic.
Cited to give it up for a month. I figure
one month wasn't a long time. I could hold
For thirty days on anything, the only
problem was, I never in my life successfully stuck to any kind of diet, exercise riding you name it without quitting.
Cheating at least a few times. What, if just this, once, though
I really thought through.
And so I did.
For thirty days. I didn't have any soda of any kind which see
like no big deal when your healthy and happy and not addicted. For me, the first we
was a special kind of hell, but what if I could
To asking myself what, if I just don't break this promise
one day passed and then another, and by
three. It wasn't bad at all at the end of them
I hadn't broken my word and by then I didn't even craved dc anymore. It's
and for years now
doesn't even occur to me to drink diet, coke anymore, when fish
with it as an option. My instinct,
Is to reach for my training wits
I mean I don't drink that stuff anymore.
Establishing success in this? One small area made me realize that the one thing standing between me and achieving my goals is the ability to build on past success, running my
first half marathon. I got
by committing to running one mile a few times a week when I kept
that promise to myself Committee
to running two miles a few times a week didn't seem like such a tough thing. My
training, told me that whatever goal I sat, I would keep Eve
if I was tired, so I kept showing up writing my first
It was the same kind of thing before that, for
completed manuscript I'd started and stopped at least a dozen different novels, but one
Got a first draft, I knew it was something I could do.
My instinct is to give up or walk away or throw my computer against the wall when I'm on deadline. I remember how many times I've been here before
I used to where the word count of my first novel on a cheap gold bracelet around my wrist.
Two thousand three hundred and eleven was edged into it
every time I looked at it. I would remember what I achieved.
I was the one who strong eighty two thousand three hundred and eleven words together in semi coherent sentences when face
the challenge of writing other books,
I revert there. Well, I think
at least I know I can write that many words. I've done it before.
I know that blowing off a work out a date and after
And to organize your closet or so
previous commitment to yourself does
seem like a big deal
but it is
it's a really big deal.
Our words have power, but our
actions, shape our lives.
If you choose today not to break another promise to yourself, you will
force yourself too.
you cannot keep every commitment, promise goal and idea without
intention amity. If you,
recognize that your words have power and that your commitments carry covenant. Wait, you
agree to anything so easily you'll have to
Ask yourself if you really truly have time to meet that friend for coffee this week
have to decide if working out four times before Sunday is a real possibility or
if it's more realistic and achievable to commit to to
these mode sessions, and then one power walk with your neighbour.
You'll slow down and think things through.
You, won't just talk about a goal your play.
And for how you can meet it? You'll see
a goal and surprise yourself. When you achieve it, you'll teacher
self a new way to behave and set a standard for the type of person you truly are
the one you dreamed about becoming, but who you?
practice being every single day also,
Maybe I consider giving up diet sooner because the
in that, mass are terrible for you, things that helped me number one
Starting with one small goal, diet Coke felt, like
a great white well at the time, but in retrospect give
up a soda was a million times easier than running marathons, hitting our annual budget goals or writing a book.
When someone tells me they want to start a diet, also
they start by aiming to drink half their body weight in ounces of water every day.
It's much easier to add a habit than to take one away
the water goal, is a challenge when they
Hocker that for a month they sat a new standard for achievement and can add on something tougher number to be
careful with my commitments,
easily jump on board with anything that sounds good for us, a diet of course
volunteering with church this Saturday, absolutely
We know these things are important and good. So we say yes, assuming the value of the commitment will motivate us into following through, unfortunately,
that is always the case. Slow,
down your yes only came
two things you know you can accomplish, because their incredibly important to you otherwise
as you said yourself, up for continued failure, number three being
honest with myself be honest.
With yourself about what you're blowing off a little
cancellation here or about their can add up, but only if you were
used to acknowledge your actions. If you
a good hard look at what you ve cancelled on in the last thirty days. You might be shot
to discover how your training yourself to behave, thinks
Our producer, Allison Cohen,
sound engineer, Jack Noble and are sound editor Andrew Weller.
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