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Chapter three no lie.
I'm not good enough.
I am a worker pollack
Don't say that lightly
the words are heavy
the knowledge makes my heart hurt, though, if
If myself a little grace than that,
Truth is I M a recovering workaholic
Pollack, and I say those words with the same trepidation and shame that might exist. Were I to tell you that I had any other kind of addiction
The other kind of addiction- I looked
the definition just now, even though I've been certain of my diagnosis for a couple of years,.
My online dictionary app describes work a holocaust as a person
who feels compelled to work excessively compelled.
That's a pretty strong word. Isn't it. I can
be the only one who hears it and immediately thinks of the exercise.
Holy water and a terrified priest.
Compelled feels accurate, like
something inside of you that won't take no for an answer likes.
I'm thing you do without conscious thought did I
feel compelled to work nonstop without question.
Even now I am typing this work, a whole chapter, five, thirty seven in the morning because way,
up to get my word count at five. O clock is the only way I can actually manage to write. Books ran a media
company and raise a family. At the same time. I still
feel compelled to work until I'm exhausted physically ill pissed
but the world or unable to focus my eyes
but at least they don't all happen at the same time anymore, I feel
I'm gaining on this problem,
part of the reason I work so much as simple. I love.
My job. No, I free
king love, my job. The people
work with our some of that kind is cool, is most creative Casio ever meet
person on my team had to be vetted an
Thrall had to go through a couple of people before we got it right
everyone had to be trained and had to train me right back on how to manage them and be a boss. I've
this year's building this team. When I
walk in and its running well, when
person is creating the speaker line up for our next live event, and some
health is taking. The prettiest pictures you ve ever seen, and the business team is booking new partnerships with some of the biggest brands on the planet. I feel proud.
Proud to the very bottom of my toes that I high school graduate from the sticks have put this together.
Beyond that my
wants to burst, because all of these people are working there butts off
For my dream, I had
Buffy country, mouse idea that we could create a space on the internet that list,
women from every walk of life that make
And feel encouraged that makes them feel like they have friends that
where's them help and advice, and does it with positivity at all times.
And you know what it's
When I started blogging. Only my mom and a few fiercely loyal ants read the website. Now,
My digital reaches somewhere in the millions and climbing every day.
My online tribe is awesome.
I admire them, and on most days I think
They admire me too, and I am proud
I have created a business manifestation of my faith and action huzzah. Ah then I go home
at home Sawyer
as fighting with Ford over who gets which Lego peace
action has a little attitude. He picked up from someone at school and if he rolled his eyes at me, one more time. Lord Jesus I'm going to rip off both his arms and why?
came over the head with them: the Bay
is teething and fuzzy, and tomorrow is pajama day at pre school, but I'm going to miss it because I have a business trip.
David ships in the night- and we haven't had a date night and weeks- and yesterday I snapped at him over pre packaged lunches and then sobbed all over my pajamas, because I felt like such a jerk, and
a mom is hard work.
I struggle with it all the time in a hundred different ways, but being at work
man I have that in the bag. I
so at being at work,
I am the babe Ruth of knocking out of the park in the lifestyle media sector.
So when, given the choice between crushing in the office or barely hanging on at home,
I got in the habit of working working,
and working some more.
Every time I succeeded in business. I count
as validation that I was making the right choice, but wait folks, there's more
You didn't think a major problem like this was caused by only one thing: did you get away? Nobody psychosis is one layer deep.
I am a by dahlia onion of issues. I've gotta go,
load of emotional baggage, let's unpack some
I and the baby a for children.
And by the time where parents got around to my childhood, their marriage was deeply and trouble even
oh, I was the youngest. I was a very self sufficient child and I thought
The combo of those two things
that I was largely ignored
unless I did something good
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Got an a on a test.
Scored a goal in the soccer game. If I,
a part in the school play.
I succeeded, I got praise
I felt liked and accepted, but the most
the audience stopped clapping
all went back to the way it was before what
taught me as a child and what I carried into adulthood. As I discovered amid a load of therapy,
is the belief that, in order to be loved, I felt like I need.
To produce something.
Fast forward to me in my thirties and you'll, see that it's nearly impossible for me to sit still
I am constantly moving and going and rushing through life this
Second, I achieve one goal and I mean the second its accomplished. I immediately think ok what next
struggle to celebrate or enjoy any victory, no matter how big, because
I'm always mindful of something bigger I could be doing. Instead at
work, I am constantly at it
I get home, I do dishes and organise cabinets and make a list of to do that will be impossible to accomplish and this lifetime or the next.
This need to prove my worth, coupled with the fact
Then I'm good at my career made me one heck of a work Alek
yet I had no idea that I was one or that my work was grievously affecting my health and happiness of my family. The van
the first time I had facial paralysis. I was now.
Eighteen years old,
on the tail end of the first long hard year with Dave,
and I knew the end was in sight,
not the end of the year.
The end of our relationship altogether.
He seemed more and more detached and the long distance relationship that we are trying so hard to make work. Just wouldn't I could feel it coming
just like the Collins and that one song with the Big drum solo
And I started to get anxious
I handled that anxiety, the, where handled, every other kind of my life
a double down at work. My already
full plate became for
I wasn't even conscious of what I was trying to do. Maybe,
I told myself said if I didn't stop to think about something bad happening, then
One morning, I woke up and noticed that my left eye was blinking. Half a second slower than my right.
I assumed I was tired from work and wondered if I needed glasses but
afternoon. My tongue started to tingle and then
I went to the doktor worried I might be having a stroke. That was
First time, I've ever heard of bells policy, a quick
will search informed me that it was a sometimes temporary paralysis that cause damage to the nerves that control the movement of facial muscles
Within days, I couldn't close my left eye.
Move. My mouth or feel
anything on the left side of my face.
I dont know why it's only one side of the face, but I can tell you it only adds to the overall charm
I had to wear an eyepatch which, by the way, is super sexy and basically every nineteen year old girls dream.
They couldn't move my lips. My speech was slurred and hard to understand,
I chewed I had a whole my mouth closed with my fingers for fear that food would fly out and kamikaze to the floor.
The nerve damage causes Neuralgia, which is also incredibly painful. Dear
that time I felt so sorry for myself. Even though
was fifteen years ago,
I remember exactly how I felt when I looked in the mirror and realise how disfigured my face actually was how it
I'd in vain,
put on eyeliner or mascara as
adding make up would somehow make the paralysis go away or how
Each time I got the make upon. I would inevitably cry it right back off. I spent those weeks
perpetually worried, weighed down by the doctors prognosis that this could last a few days or months on end. There was no way to be sure in retrospect,
I never thought of myself ass conceded
I never wore make up or style my hair until I was an adult.
But having both palsy made me hyper aware of the way I looked, I became
I only got out of bed to go to work and as soon as I got back home, I got back under the covers
I never wanted to leave my better or even answer the phone on the roof?
Your occasion than a friend talked me into leaving my apartment. I was mortified at the way people stared or pitied me. When I tried to speak in the
midst of it all. The best
what I have been trying to dodge found its mark Dave broke up with me.
Ok, yes, breaking up with a girl
and I feel the need to point out that sometimes we do stupid things that hurt our laws
point out that sometimes we do stupid things that hurt our loved ones,
you're, trying to figure ourselves out.
Since the moment we got back together, though, which happened when my face is still broken by the way he has
in an incredible partner, the point there
is that? I made myself severely ill, trying
keep something inevitable from happening when the poor
they finally subsided. A month later, I was beyond thankful relief
That the worst was behind me, I chopped
experience to a one time, bout of terrible luck.
A few years later Dave and I decided to take our first trip to Europe. This was back
when we were child free and could just room up. Plans like what went to Europe
with no babies or dogs are real responsibility, which
got ourselves a fly and old churches with our passwords buried under our clothes, for fear that gypsies we had heard about would rob S. God
When we made it to Florence, it was,
breathing, I dreamed ITALY would be
we loads of pasta, walked the
Will stand streets and made out like it was our part time job we say
whole afternoons, imagining our future and what we will name are unborne dream. Children
It was one of the most romantic experiences of my life.
By the time we got to Venice, a few days later
My tongue have started to go NAM.
I stood in an italian hotel, room and sobbed, because I knew the policy had come back out,
beautiful. Vacation was now being marred by the stress of trying to get medical help in another.
As an aside using my English to italian translation guide book, to explain to a venetian pharmacists that I needed, an eyepatch is still one of the most comical experiences of my life, also
the eyepatch plus
My paralysed base meant that
got to the front of every line in customs.
Further comedians David, I may jokes about the assets of such an illness. For example,
I did an amazing Sammy Davis, Jr Impersonation, also
the pirate jokes were endless, your. It was
and until we arrived in Paris allow
lifelong dream destination of mine.
That even jokes couldn't lift my spirits as well.
I threw the shown them. I realise the photo I had always dreamed of me
in front of the Eiffel Tower
would forever be a reminder of this illness has
Much as I hate to admit it, I'm not
were felt sorry for myself than in that moment. In that
old photograph with
can google by the way, because I am not afraid to share any pick on the internet. Apparently
standing alone in front of the tower bundle
for the weather
I'm wearing sunglasses to try and hide the eyepatch, and since
smile would have only works on half my face. I just
Nothing at all,
got back home doktor, put me on steroids and sent me to see in her all just to make sure the palsy wasn't a symptom of something greater after the die
just didn't find the brain tumor I was sure. Was there,
They gave me an interesting prognosis.
With times I've gotten palsy, I'd been under extreme stress,
like many women, I was
working so hard and not taking good care of myself. I r
that this could it be the case after all, I've gotten sick again, while on a romantic vacation. That's when
they pointed out that it was the first vacation we'd taken in three years,
Three years of sixty hour weeks, followed by one too weak break, does not a decompress girl make
It was also at the beginning of launching a business, and I
staying busy, desperate to prove myself
We were trying to get pregnant at the time and though I was only twenty four month after month after month, had passed without a baby
rather than managing that stress, I
just given myself more things to do.
Our bodies are incredible. They can
It will also tell you exactly what they need if you're willing to listen and if you're not
you try to do too many things without rest, they
will absolutely shut down to get what they need.
About three years ago. I started to develop symptoms of vertigo.
And about work and the room would sway around me. I felt
Z throughout the day. My eyes-
had trouble focusing, and I spent
Most of my time dealing nauseous
weeks. I assumed I must need more sleep, more water, unless Diet Coke.
Got so bad, I was afraid to drive with my kids in the car. I decided to see a doctor or so
so many doctors in turn
allergies in tease, nobody could quite figure it out.
I ate well, I was healthy around me.
Our thoughts, for goodness sake,
all agreed. I had vertigo, but couldn't definitively tell me. Why
Eventually, the anti suggested it was seasonal, Vertigo brought on by my allergies and
and no one else had a better idea. I went with it
take analogy pill every day. He told me, so I did
every night without fail. I took my pill
sometimes when the spinning not really bad. I took a second one which
me crazy drowsy, but at least it calm, the Vertigo. I did this for
over a year
and resign myself to the fact that life would be a little busier forever.
It wasn't a big deal. I told myself. It only meant that, instead of giving a hundred percent, I now would need to give a hundred and thirty percent to make up for not being able to work as fast anymore sounds crazy.
To write that, but
over cheating, mind it made absolute sense, then
about two years ago I heard about a homeopathic doctor who specialised in Vertigo
I never gone to a homeopathic doctor in my life, but at that
Why? If someone had said I could cure my constant nausea with voodoo and the sacrifice of a spring chicken. I would have
seriously considered it.
I went to meet with him. His power
He tell his shirt made of organic camp and his life
size statue of Danish and I tried
keep an open mind while he talked into the air beside him. Instead of to me
laid out, the whole story of when I got sick and how it affected me, and he asked
Hundred questions about my emotions, my childhood and
you are reasons why I felt a certain way. I kept thinking when the sea
about stress and what's the deal with that little
talking about stress and what's the deal
with that little collection of crystals before
I want him, I assumed homeopathic doctors, tell you to stop your sugar intake, or, God forbid. Sir
beating dairy because it messes with your shock, rise or whatever, but
for two hours of me talking. He abrupt.
Interrupted and announced to the room, no more, I know
what's wrong, then
He blew me away. He point.
Out that my Vertigo had come on. For the first time when I was under extreme stress at work,
and every time it got so bad that it couldn't lift my head off a pillow. It was because,
the stress, had gotten worse.
That time, I had a big turnover of staff at Sheikh Vertigo
that time I was so excited to write my first contracted book, but then
was positive, it with terrible and I'd, be fired and have to pay back the advance Vertigo
and every single instance my vertigo was a is the corresponds to an emotional problem. A is the cool response.
To an emotional problem.
I didn't even know our bodies did that. Ok,
I knew it in the same way that every other God fearing law, abiding woman who washed Oprah and heard about self care knows it
but I grew up in the country
got a shot gun for my thirteen birthday. I may have lived in a way for fourteen years, but my rub: some dirt on it tendencies run deep. His way
hit me like ice water?
And now that I knew he was right, I immediately wanted to know how to fix it and get back to normal
do nothing. He told me, I'm sorry what.
Go home and do nothing
sit around watch tv spend an entire day on the sofa
cover that your world doesn't implode without you going a hundred miles an hour, get up
next day and do it again.
Verily, I say unto you dear reader,
his words made me want to throw up its
it's crazy. It is kind of crazy, but the idea of doing nothing makes mice
Even when I'm at home, I am constantly doing something
If I'm not taking care of the kids, I'm organizing the house cleaning out my closet or giving myself d I why facial what
happen. If you stopped moving, he asked me.
I shook my head in blind panic, the
edge of a shark floating to the surface of the ocean dead from LA
Lack of movement came to my mind. All here
I don't know, but it will be bad
Talk about life, altering moments
talk about someone holding a mere up to your face and making you realize you're, not actually the person you think you are at all
spent my days thinking up ways to help women live a better life and the
full time I try.
We believe that was qualified to teach it, because I was,
actually living it. Meanwhile,
I wasn't doing the most fundamental thing a woman needs to do before she can take care of any one else. Take care of herself.
I needed a drastic life change. I force
self to stop working so many hours, I went
office from nine thirty, two four thirty and was shocked to discover that the world
continue to spend spin on its axis. I push me
self to rest too.
It and do nothing
It gave me mass of anxiety, so
A port myself, a glass of wine- and I kept right on sitting there.
I sort of volunteering at the local homeless, shelter I took a hip, hop dance glass turns out
terrible and hip hop dance glass, but
I love it so much. I laughed like a toddler through the entire our long process. I looked for joy. I looked for peace
I stopped drinking so much caffeine. I played with my kids.
I did a lot of therapy and then
dead. Some more I prayed.
I looked up every scripture in the Bible that talks about rest. I had
With my girlfriends, I went on deck,
so my husband
I taught myself to take it one day at a time to stop
obsessing over the next victory and to approve.
The simple parts of today
I learned to celebrate accomplishments not with
egg flashy parties, but with taco nights or
bottle of wine.
I acknowledge my own hard work.
And me achievements of my company, and I learned to rest in the knowledge that I will.
Still be ok, even if both of those things go away tomorrow,.
I studied the gospel,
finally, grass the divine knowledge that I am loved and worthy and enough
as I am
Turning to rest is an ongoing process.
Like any other lifelong behavior. I constantly fight the desire to slip back into the role I've played for so long. They say
first step is emitting. You have a problem.
Two years ago. I did just that.
I learned that I am a recovering work Alek, but through this process,
I also learned that I am a child of God and that trumps everything else, things that helped me number one I went to
therapy. This could be the first thing I list out for every single element I work through, but it's
specially real in this case, where
not for my therapist. I never would have understood the connection between my childhood in securities and my adult
Compliments were it not for
a therapist. I never would have realised that the drive for accomplishment can
I cannot recommend therapy enough and if I had beyond saves money, the first thing I do is pay for therapy. For every woman. I could find ask your friend
to recommend someone they like or ass. Your gynecologist to refer you adopt,
for your lady parts knows the right kind of councillors for a woman. Trust me number two
I hustled for joy work,
just as hard for fun moments, vacation moments and peer bans, laughing moments as you do for all the other things
I encourage you to take a walk collar friend. Have a glass of wine enjoy a bubble bath or take a long lunch.
All of that. Work will be there when you get back alive,
look I'm awake, recharge or batteries and give you the energy to battle that ever growing to do list number three.
I re ordered my list when
ask most women to name the things on their priority list
can throw them out there. No problem kid
its partner work, faith, etc. The order
may change, but the bullet points rarely do
no. What also rarely changes, no matter how many women I talked to them act.
Lee pudding themselves on their own priority list. You
who should be the very first of your priorities,
are you getting enough sleep enough water, the right nutrition. You can now
take care of others. Well, if you're not birthday,
in care of yourself also.
One of the best ways to ensure that you stop trying to run from your problems is to face them head on.
Thanks to our producer, Allison Cohen,
sound engineer, Jack Noble and are sound editor Andrew Weller.
Ladies and gentlemen. Did I mentioned I have a book coming out. Here's a thing: it's called get out of your own way, sceptics guide to growth and fulfilment and we're
The priest cell window of windows- I am super- excited about having written a book for both men and women about
Twenty lies that I once believed that were keeping me in my own way. I have written.
This from the perspective of someone that
Totally different from Rachel Hollis, even if the format is somewhat similar to grow wash your face, I wrote it from the
perspective of someone who's been skeptical of tools like this book or even
podcast or listening to you for ever and ever its through
that lends that I'm talking about the ways that I was getting in my own way and
vague in uncovering the truth. Behind those lies, not only
help me get out of my own way. It I'll help you get out of yours. There are two ways I want to say. Thank you for preparing this book.
I have created an e course penny course. Yes and a course of sixty minutes each course called finding your. Why it's a phantom
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If you go to get out of your own way, the book that calm right now and father
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